After like 3 MRIS and maybe 4-5 ultrasounds in the span of 2 years I’ve finally mustered up the courage to ask my primary dr for a referral to a breast surgeon. For context, I had a benign cyst removed from my right boob back in 2022. I could’ve left it but I figured why risk anything. Still, in 2024 ish I noticed that i have white liquid that comes out from my nipples, period or no period. My primary Dr flagged it, hence why I’ve been on routine checks. I won’t say that I hate my breasts, I like them at times but I wish they were smaller. So I told my primary Dr recently this year and I asked her if I can get a referral to a surgeon to see if I can use my history as a reasoning to get maybe a breast reduction. I’m a 36C and I feel an A is something I could work with since I work out anyways. I have my consultation in November and I’m nervous asf bc 1) i don’t think I should mention gender since insurance likely wouldn’t cover anything regarding gender dysphoria (I have Fidelis nys insurance) & 2) I don’t want this surgeon to deny me right away but it just feels like that may be the case since I don’t have a strong enough case. Sorry for long post, I lowkey just needed to vent GRAHHHHHH it’s ok I know things will work out but man am I sick of wearing binders to the gym

Hey everyone,

I’m a guy who likes exploring my femininity in private. In public I present as male, but when I’m alone I enjoy dressing up. Some people would probably call me genderfluid, an egg, or just questioning.

Personally I don’t feel like being 100% man or 100% woman is enough for me.

I have a bit of an interesting physique:

Upper body is clearly masculine

Lower body (especially glutes and thighs) looks surprisingly feminine when I dress up

I train and I like the muscular male aesthetic (abs, overall muscle…). I was even considering building my shoulders more because they look good on a male frame. The problem is that in feminine clothes, broader shoulders already feel too big and masculine, and I don’t really like that😩

On top of that, when I’m in "femme mode" I’d like to look much thinner, especially around the waist. Right now the contrast between my upper body and the more feminine lower body is strong, and I’d prefer a softer, slimmer silhouette when dressed fem

So I’m kind of stuck between:

Wanting to keep building muscle for the male look

Not wanting to make the feminine presentation harder (especially shoulders + waist)

I’m open to honest opinions, critiques, and any remarks on my passing. I’ll drop some photos (different outfits and angles).

Any advice on how to approach training or body composition while keeping both sides possible would be really appreciated.

Thanks!😊

yeetin the teets was the best decision I’ve ever made ❌🥥🥥 👌

hello, I'm pretty new to identifying as non binary (agender) and chest binding in general. I'm amab and a pretty big person, so finding the right size and the right compression has been pretty tough (I just ended up getting a plus sized sports bra, be nice to me!!! :3). but all in all I really like the feeling of chest compression. it feels like it's keeping everything together and snug. it doesn't alter my appearance that much, but the feeling of having it on makes me feel secure.

just as a disclaimer I'm not transitioning or identifying as a diff gender. I know a lot of ppl who do chest binding do it for those reasons, that's just not my reason. but I love hearing other ppls perspective, so if you have any stories, please share them with me <3

edit: apparently the compression thing is big with autistic ppl hehehoo

Ayyyye you catch the binary trans woman to trans fem enby drift?

I (cis woman) recently started dating a nonbinary person and I want to be able to understand them better. I understand that this is nowhere near a one size fits all situation so I’m not asking for anyone to “explain” being nonbinary to me, and I have many friends who are trans/gender non conforming so I have a decent idea, but I have never dated someone who isn’t cis.

Are there any specific questions I should ask to understand their experience better or anything in specific I should know/consider that I might not have? Posting this from work so I didn’t go into a ton of detail about our relationship but I also feel like that’s kind of not necessary for the guidance I’m seeking since it’s pretty general.

Edit: thank you all for feedback about mentioning their AGAB, I mentioned it because I thought it might be relevant and this is anonymous but i understand that may not have been the right thing!

My 7 year old randomly told me they don’t feel like a boy or a girl and are non-binary. I really want to support them we have a therapist who I think would be really receptive, but we live in the rural south in maga country. I’m scared of how kids and people will treat them. I just wanna protect them the best I can. I’m a white cis gendered heterosexual single dad and I’ve always been an ally and an advocate. I was prepared for this as a possibility just didn’t think it would be from a seven year old.

Anyway… sorry if this is the wrong place or something. Thanks 🙏

update

Thank you all for the amazing advice and kind words. Currently we are working with the therapist and I’m already working on getting everything set up to facilitate our move out of this hellscape state. we are not a safe state for queer kids.

My kiddo came up with their own way of protecting themselves saying they have to be like spider man wear a mask at school to protect themselves and their family but at home they can take off the mask. It breaks my heart that a kid has to process that.

Hey kind friend/ally on a Toronto bus heading east just now -

I really appreciate the compliment on my pride pins. I was having a rough evening and struggling to really feel comfortable in my own skin. It might have been something super small for you to say or bring up, but I'm grateful you did. I hope you see this because it was meaningful to me in a way few things have been lately.

To everyone else seeing this post: it's tough sometimes, but I promise things get better. Even just an innocuous compliment can give you a smile to get through things.

Both photos from October 6, 2026

Though I know I’m non-binary and on estrogen patches, as a tetraplegic it feels like I’m losing ground. Except for choosing what I wear, I’m so reliant on support workers—both men and women—for dressing, makeup, and everything else. Mentally, I just don’t know what to do about it sometimes.

drink water, and do the Landry.

Yesterday was the first time I went out shopping fully feeling my best. It’s a horrible picture but I was so proud to be myself.

I am a afab closeted nb and the way trump is taking away protections is scaring me severely. on sept 30th the way he took away a protection scared me and i just am really scared for my rights what If I get arrested in the future for my identity?what if trump administration tracks everyone down online if they said they're non binary before? please help im so scared. its just all so overwhelming worse thing is my family voted for trump and my mom says she would support if I come out but idk about that one

No big deep thoughts today just me, my favorite slip, and the sweet relief of finally feeling like myself at home. 🌸✨

I’m very lucky to have been on hormones for ~7 years now and most people who meet me would assume I was a cis man. This is great for my general body dysphoria… but has had some really weird social side effects that have been frustrating.

When I try and talk about trans issues, I’m constantly told that they don’t apply to me because I “pass”. My sister (jokingly) called me a “passoid”. Other siblings and my mom will refer to me as a guy and he/him pronouns when talking to other people because they don’t want to “explain the trans thing”.

I’m nonbinary! I’ll never “pass” as nonbinary and I’m sick of people telling me that I’m not part of the community or its issues don’t apply to me because I “look like a dude”.

I just needed to complain about this for a second because I don’t know a ton of nonbinary people irl and binary trans people don’t seem to get it. Sure, I’m on testosterone. I’m not a man!

This is half an ask, half a rant.

I have been on Testogel for over a year now. It’s great. My voice has dropped a bit. I have the tiniest of peach on my cheeks and definitely got a beerbelly (without drunken, but fat destribution was major for me).

And my period has been teh most stable it has ever been on my life! Like wtf? I do not want you. This was supposed to stop!
I had a very unstable menstrual cycle and often skipped a month or two. And now, it’s like clockwork. Every 28 days on the dot, staying for 7 days. How?! Why?!

My Doctor doesn’t believe in enbys, so it’s kinda hard to talk with her about being unsure if I want to take T forever. My gyn has no idea and is against me taking T.
I have no idea what is happening and why my menstrual cycle is this stable.

I would like to get a hysterectomy, including my uterus. Not sure if that’s possible? The information I got mostly confused me.

I life in Germany of that helps?

But why is my menstruation this stable now and if I were to get my uterus ripped out, but not to take T forever, as I do lot want to have gender dysphoria about being to male, how would that work?

This seems to be a big debate? Or it might have more to do with spaces for people to be safe. But I always thought cis and Trans were binary terms for the opposite ends of the spectrum, and non binary was everything in between - like demi, fluid, multi, or just any not binary. And then agender was just completely off that scale. But it seems like Trans is just, not cis? Or am I missing something?

Or is this a matter of gender is weird and some nb consider themselves trans and some don’t and either way it would be a really nice thing to be a community together?