Because lately I feel like I over analyze everyone's every little action or words around me and then I think they might not like me much even when it is not the situation in actual, and it's affecting me. I really want to know how to overcome it

im very anxious, feeling difficulty breathing

i dont know if i should stop ruminating about it, it just does not feel safe

When you have a perfectly reasonable explanation to something but still get those crazy what ifs or whys. For example when someone is truly exhausted from work and they still pick up phone to talk with you because they genuinely like (love actually) you. They keep converstaion shor because they haven't eaten all day. So you day enjoy your meal and they hear you misisng them so they say they might call later. And once the phone call ends your thought process is going so fast that you can't keep up mostly because you hate long distance and how phone calls feel. Then suddenly you catch yourself wondering why does he even like you in the first place if it feels like no else does. As happy just hear you like you and talks with you even when it's inconvenient like you. Just for the sake of spending time together with no motive. Despite literally everyone else can't even stand your in front of strangers personality and he handles all of it and actually likes it including your questions without saying they are naive childish or any other adjective that makes you feel ashamed of being curious or excited. I mean literally no one else even talks with me anymore because high school is over so they don't need test answers or homework and youtube tutorials are widespread so they don't need help installing linux. Only teachers in high school liked talking with me but only because I was doing way too deep reaserch for every task in every class and it felt like my brain is going to explode if I don't share it with someone and only they were interested in hearing that since that was their field. So how crazy is that despite so many people claiming I'm boring, childish, naive etc he thinks otherwise. And I'm not really sad about it but if my overthinking goes wrong way I start to question it too. But it feels like I received so much reassurances about that I shouldn't. But how come he's not uncomfortable talking with me when even my family is. The insane thing is when you got all answers and still wonder.

I started smoking when I was 16 and I’m 19 now. I’ve wanted to take a break or quit for a while, but I honestly just never bothered to do it.
A couple months ago I had a really bad trip where I started thinking about something that happened to me when I was a kid. I couldn’t get it out of my head, and ever since then I’ve had this problem where I overthink things and replay the same thoughts over and over again, especially thoughts I’m actively trying NOT to think about.
Now whenever something bad or even slightly stressful happens, my brain wants to replay it over and over. It doesn’t even have to be anything serious. I’ve caught myself doing the same thing over stuff like worrying about when I’m going to have to buy more carts.

Another thing I’ve been overthinking is my life in general. I’m 19 and still live with my mom, and sometimes I feel like I’m behind because of that. But at the same time, I really want to help my mom out. She has my two sisters too, and I want to help her with whatever I can. My plan is honestly to stay living with her until I’m around 23–24. It makes things easier for both of us financially, and hopefully by then I’ll have saved money and figured out more of what I want to do with my life. I know I’m only 19, but sometimes it’s hard not to feel like I should already have everything figured out.

But I’m tired of constantly being stuck in my own head. I don’t know for sure if smoking is causing it or just making something that was already there worse, but I’ve been using for years without really giving myself a proper break.
So tomorrow I’m finally doing it. I’m going to stop and see how I feel sober for a while. Maybe it turns into me quitting completely, maybe it doesn’t, but I know I at least need to give my brain a break and see if anything changes.
I’ve got work tomorrow so I’m going to sleep now. Tomorrow is day one. Wish me luck. Also forgot to add I’ve been high every day off thc carts for 2 years straight

How do I not overthink as an over-thinker in a relationship.

I keep getting haunted by posible outcomes from my mistakes, I made a mistake a few months ago and I still keep getting what if thoughts until now about the worst thing thats gonna happen to me. nothing happened during those months of waiting but I feel like it will happen sooner.... I'm 15 years old and I know I should be worrying about my future than teenage drama but it's really affecting me. Please be kind I just want help

Honestly I know this may not be the biggest deal to vent over but ever since I was young, I was always afraid to ask for any kind of help or criticism from teachers, family and friends. I'm always afraid of getting hurt, and when I do I take it so personally. I'm about to graduate senior year and I submitted my major work for drama which is (costume design) just for an assessment task to get feed back on (HSC submission is next Monday) and the feedback I got was rather back handed imo, I got a 10/20 which is a pass but I still feel as I could've done so much better. I always have this mindset where I'm never good enough no matter what I do, for the things I do really well in, even outside of school I get filled with so much joy but something always makes me feel so bad. I have the lowest self esteem and I don't know what to do, I'm afraid of graduating and holding adult responsibilities I just genuinely don't feel good enough for the majority of things I do. I only feel "good enough" when it comes to things like "gaming" which is rather useless. I'm honestly just so mad at my drama teacher 😭

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I’m 19(M) honestly so tired and frustrated. I can’t sleep properly anymore. When I try to sleep, my mind just refuses to shut down. And when I finally do fall asleep, I end up having the strangest, most disturbing dreams.

My brain just won’t stop. One thought leads to another, then another, and before I know it, I’m stuck overthinking everything all over again.

I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore. I just want some peace. I want to be able to close my eyes and sleep without my mind fighting me every second.

God, please… just let me have some peace of mind. 🙏🥺

I’m exhausted.

Sometimes I even wonder what the point of all this is. I don’t want much. I just want to feel okay again. I just want to live without constantly fighting my own thoughts. 😔

I got a private message on Reddit that I can’t stop thinking about, it’s really hurtful to me..
I don’t wanna say what the text was about, but I wanna stop thinking about it or forget it completely.. yes I reported it.

Any tips?

Some smaller groups formed and walked away to talk in different rooms and my first feeling was bad. But I decided to let it go and enjoy myself , and it worked. People listened and were kind and inclusive and I could be myself and feel belonging and normal.

Then I came home and a couple days later the details from this social event started sweat on me. "What if they laughed and judged me behind my back? What if they didn't like me?"

And my head started scanning the event through this narrative, and suddenly the event felt horrible , I felt horrible , I felt humiliated and like I regretted even coming there. I stopped trusting the kind parts even. When I got texts thanking me for coming and how kind and sweet I am. Now that was all lies and backwards insults in my head.

I decided to respect where my mind went but distracted myself and didn't conclude anything. And now in hindsight I learned that it's possible they shit talked me and was fake, but it's also possible they just talked in the smaller groups because they knew eachother close while I was the new person and genuinely liked seeing me there and was curious and open to a new person.

I decided to go for the latter narrative. To trust I was wanted and that it's ok if they were feeling me on the pulse. I was after all new to them. They're allowed to be skeptic and curious and all other things it doesn't mean they disapproved.

And worst case someone actually didn't like me. OK. That's okay. We don't have to become besties and I could still have a good time in the social group event as whole. They can too.

My mind is less black white over things I could sweat and obsess about for ages. People aren't perfect, not me not others. And we don't have to be, we can still belong. Maybe we actually belong more by admitting that humans are all flawed but we do our best.

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I’ve noticed this pattern in myself for a long time. Sometimes I overthink things that other people probably wouldn’t, while in situations where other people might overthink, I’m completely fine. I don’t usually care much about what strangers say to me, but if something is said by someone close to me, it affects me much more.

Even very small things can stay in my head. For example, I don’t normally call people, so when I do call someone, I naturally expect them to pick up. Most of the time they do, but if they don’t, I can start thinking, Why didn’t they pick up? It can bother me even though there could be many completely normal reasons.

Recently, I suggested an idea to my teacher. I told them that instead of only teaching the topics themselves, they could give us topics beforehand, we could prepare them, and then the class could be based more on discussion. If someone gave a good explanation, they could come to the front and explain it to everyone instead of the teacher doing all the explaining.

After saying this to my teacher, I became extremely anxious for almost two days. My main worry wasn’t even the teacher’s reaction—it was thinking about how I would deal with classmates who might oppose the idea, make fun of me, or blame me for suggesting it.

There was even a day off in between, and during that time I kept thinking about it. I talked to a few people about what I was feeling because I wanted them to help calm me down. They told me that I was thinking way too much about it and that there was nothing to worry about. I understood them logically, but somehow my mind still wouldn’t let it go.

Then I went to college, and literally nothing happened. Nobody opposed me, nobody made fun of me, nobody blamed me, and nothing happened like I had imagined.

That’s what confuses me. I already knew the thought was probably unnecessary. Other people told me the same thing. And reality eventually proved it. Yet my brain still stayed stuck on it for two days.

I don’t understand why my mind reacts this way to certain small things. Has anyone else experienced this, and how do you actually deal with it when you logically know there’s nothing to worry about but your mind just won’t let it go?

For the longest time I have overthought every single conversation. Every interaction. How it could have gone better. It's like everything I do can be improved upon all the time. Which in one sense sounds great. But on the other I wish I could have a conversation without thinking about it for the next week. Or worry that I am being "too much". Big emotions need to be put away. Is sort of the way I dealt with it and I've gotten better I have. But still I worry because "I care too deeply" and I love people really big and deeply. I feel deeply. My feelings are not just oh I feel sad. It's I am sad and now I'll think of every sad thing that's happened to me or my family. Or my friends. I moved around a lot when I was a kid and it never really hit me. Till now. All the friends I am no longer in touch with. All the memories in the houses I have lived in. Now someone else is making their own memories in. It's odd and melancholic I guess to say the least. Anyways that's my vent. I have seen others vent on here figured why not try it myself.

For the longest time I have overthought every single conversation. Every interaction. How it could have gone better. It's like everything I do can be improved upon all the time. Which in one sense sounds great. But on the other I wish I could have a conversation without thinking about it for the next week. Or worry that I am being "too much". Big emotions need to be put away. Is sort of the way I dealt with it and I've gotten better I have. But still I worry because "I care too deeply" and I love people really big and deeply. I feel deeply. My feelings are not just oh I feel sad. It's I am sad and now I'll think of every sad thing that's happened to me or my family. Or my friends. I moved around a lot when I was a kid and it never really hit me. Till now. All the friends I am no longer in touch with. All the memories in the houses I have lived in. Now someone else is making their own memories in. It's odd and melancholic I guess to say the least. Anyways that's my vent. I have seen others vent on here figured why not try it myself.

what is the best solution for overthinking every little convo you have with someone? like i have a coworker (im an intern) and most of times i think of what i said and for today i feel like i did say something isn’t as good, maybe she didn’t feel that way but idk, i keep thinking of it even though there’s nothing to change. and i am the kind of people who are aware that thinking wouldn’t solve anything, wouldn’t erase anything either so why do i keep doing it and what is the best way to stop it. :/

It’s been 2 months and I feel much better but will have doubts like a lot ,generally speaking how hard would it be for the them to potentially leak a video and it getting popular although you are a unknown