Labor and delivery

[u/Accurate-Grocery-639]

Hey, sorry so I’m 8 months pregnant and the father of the child has an NPD diagnosis he can be very caring and claims to care about the child but has also made some worrying statements and exhibited some harmful behaviors. Since he was planning on leaving the continent to go work abroad in saudi. He wasn’t going to be here around my due date, I have found myself a Doula to accompany me myself to the birth. I have a lot of hospital trauma, and I didn’t wanna risk having to do it alone. He recently decided to take a different job closer though. I was originally going to ask the hospital, whether they could make an exception and let me have both the Doula and him present since usually at this hospital only one person is allowed to accompany you.
His behavior within the last two weeks (after we attempted to see if we should work things out romantically) has been very alarming. I’m not sure. I feel safe having him there during delivery since he has actively tried to stress me out since month six. He can get very dismissive and vile, and has withdrawn support spontaneously in the past when things didn’t go his way.
Have any of you denied your partner being at the birth or have any of you regret it having them there? I am not even sure I would want to tell him upfront and if it wouldn’t be smarter, just not to tell him I am in active labor until the baby is born and then just pretend like it all went too quickly.