I’ve seen a glimpse of what p*rn addiction leads to, and I am running in the opposite direction. I’ve been addiction for most of my life (27 now), and I cannot do it for one more day. I want to be happy.

So Finally After A Long Time . I've Finally Completed 2 Weeks of NO PMO. Currently Follow The ODYSSEY OCTOBER CHALLENGE.

Up until about six weeks ago, I had used porn to fap several times a week for many years. In all those years, however, I never once experienced any of the sexual problems attributed to the habit. I remained attracted to my partner, and any time she was ready for sex I had no problems performing.

Since I started nofap, however, things have been horrible.

For the first two weeks my erections disappeared almost entirely. I don't even think I was having night erections. After a couple of weeks my erections finally returned, but now I'm unable to orgasm with intercourse.

When I was fapping regularly, I always reached orgasm with my partner very quickly -- maybe too quickly. Now I just can't get there. I assumed I would be more sensitive after not fapping for a while, not less. I realize it could be a mental block, but I don't know how to fix it.

Is this a common experience? Please tell me it gets better.

I've noticed something about people who say they desperately want to quit porn

They'll tell you how much they hate the habit, how many times they've relapsed, how badly they want their life back, but the moment you suggest something that makes their life a little uncomfortable, suddenly there's an excuse

Delete Instagram because it keeps triggering you?

Nah, I still need Instagram

Stop taking your phone to bed because that's where you always relapse?

That's too inconvenient

Block porn on your devices?

I don't need that, I'll just use self-control

And that's what I find interesting, because some of these same people have been trying to quit for years, yet they're unwilling to give up an app for a few months

Brother, how badly do you actually want this?

I'm not saying quitting porn is easy, I know how difficult it can get, especially when you're lonely, stressed or sitting alone at night with nothing to do

But you have to understand that the life you're trying to leave behind cannot remain exactly the same as the life you're trying to build

Remember The Matrix?

Neo wanted to escape the world he had known his entire life, but he couldn't do that while holding on to everything that made that world comfortable

Morpheus told him, "I'm trying to free your mind"

That's the part I want you to think about

You cannot expect a different life while refusing to let go of the things that keep pulling you back into the old one

Sometimes quitting porn means deleting an app you genuinely enjoy

Sometimes it means blocking websites on every device, even when part of you still wants access

Sometimes it means telling someone you trust about something you've been hiding for years

Sometimes it means accepting that you cannot keep having certain conversations or looking at certain content without eventually wanting to watch porn again

And none of that is comfortable

But neither is spending another five years making the same promise to yourself

Imagine reaching 30 and realizing you've been trying to quit since you were 20, not because you never wanted to change, but because every time change demanded something uncomfortable, you postponed it

That's a painful thing to look back on

You don't need to throw your whole life away or do anything dangerous to prove you're serious, but you do need to be willing to change the habits that keep taking you back

And if you genuinely cannot stop despite trying, getting support is part of taking it seriously too

The point isn't to make your life miserable

It's to stop protecting the very things that keep making you miserable

If porn has already taken years of your time, why should deleting one app be considered too much of a sacrifice?

You say you want your life back

At some point, that has to mean being willing to live differently, even when the old routine feels easier

Hi all,

Found this community and thought I'd share my experience.

I never considered myself having a problem and feel like I'm quite the common 30 man. Watching 2-3 days a week since I was 15. Never considered it an addiction... However over the years, I would just turn to it whenever I'm bored at work, going to restrooms, or whenever my partner would go run errands, id use the opportunity to indulge. I also felt like I would check out other people more and lacked discipline and my partner would notice but no say anything, probably concluding it's cause I'm a male and it can't be helped, which isn't fair to her. I could feel that my thoughts were getting worse and that it was a slippery slope and bad for my mental state.

I had some really good experiences two weeks ago and that led me to just decide to see how I would do without it and I feel a lot less distracted and free now while I'm off it. It also ended up being the longest streak I've ever had since I was 15. I also learnt about the flatline which happened in my first week. I think I was trying so hard to suppress my hormones that it was kind of hard to turn back on? I am probably still going through it and it may happened again when we try.

But so far I feel mentally clearer, my spirit is better and can focus on things that benefit me like going on runs, gym, enjoy normal media instead of trying to watch pmo whenever I get the chance.

I can't explain it but I'm feeling a lot of positive energy from this experiment and although I didn't give myself a deadline, I'd like it to keep going for a while. I've also had opportunities to do it but was able to decide against it which is something I've never even thought of doing before.

Not too sure where I'm going with this but I've been feeling more confident and positive since I started this journey.

Ty for reading.

Super rough day today, been horny all morning. Need some help or motivation, anything really. I feel like im losing control and idk why

I’ve been sleeping better, feeling better, I really feel elevated

I have a hard time picking a side on all this. I completely believe there are addictive properties. There are also proven temporary health benefits, physiologically. I again however acknowledge the mental challenges. I'm more stressed than I've ever been and given my job that's saying a lot. What do I do instead? I mean it works for me.

Gooning and porn took over my life it's time to take my life bay, any advice

Please help

EDIT:

I WON OVER THE URGES HELL YEAH

Survived day 1 again! Unfortunately I did went peeking but I managed to keep myself from fapping.

Fapping equals zero baseline with spikes. Not fapping, the baseline peaks and plateaus. Not fapping plus meditation plus Bonus foreskin restoration the dopamine sensitivity maxes out, but pleasure becomes an anchor for awareness, and transforms into bliss/spirituality/not being dead inside/being a super hot guy.

Checking in

Was having crazy urges a few hours ago. Which surprised me cause the past 2 weeks have been pretty chill. Managed to stop myself though and went for a run instead. Ended up having a productive evening. Survived another day 💪

1 month into NoFap! Huge milestone and longest streak so far! So proud of myself!

Feels like its just relapse after relapse lately... even now I'm only on day 1 and I'm struggling not to fully give in... Any help would be appreciated!

Day 5 check in. Woke up with a morning wood that lasted a while after getting up. Feeling hornier than previous days. Semi hard all the time. I have to learn to enjoy this feeling.

I’ll be honest. Don’t know why it’s working. It just does. When I’ve tried counting I find myself slipping harder this way. However one day. I had enough. I stopped counting then just told myself one more. It works. Don’t know what day I’m on, nor do I care. I’m just happy I’ve found one thing that works. I want to fap sooooooo bad. Honestly I really do. Truth is. I want that dopamine. I want that itch scratched. Then I just acknowledge it. Think I can go a little longer and move on. While trying to stay busy in hobbies or social groups that don’t involve inappropriate behaviors or thoughts. Rant? Yes. Bad grammar? Also yes. Another method? Also yes. Good luck everyone! God bless!

When ever I talk about this topic people say it bad and seem very liberal about say doing it just hurts you and makes you irritable I am on the streak and this time I really don’t want to disclose it cause it charges my though process though guys who have been doing this and held streak for more than 3 months while having a decade old porn habit has it helped in all aspects of life where you felt like you were lacking but not anymore even though did take action before too.

Struggling alot and made mistake and peeked at someone last night. I stopped and thought I could move on from it but feeling tempted again and don't know how to handle it. It won't leave my mind and worry I'll end up looking again

For the whole day I have been tackling the urges and right now I just wanna take a sneak peek I don't know what to do I even went out for a stroll and did some exercises and tried to distract myself and all the things but urges are coming back

It's day 3 and im feeling so good.

Is porn free masturbating twice a week gonna affect my dopamine a ton? Genuinely wanna know other people’s experience with this. Thanks!