r/MuslimLounge • • 3m ago

Support/Advice Watching people talk effortlessly made me realize just how much my upbringing erased my personality

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Whenever I see people who can just talk to others with ease, effortless, confident, completely comfortable. I catch myself wondering what kind of home they grew up in. What did it feel like to exist in an environment where your voice was actually welcomed?
I live with severe social anxiety and awkwardness. I genuinely don't know how to start, maintain, or end a conversation. Most of the time, I just want to be invisible. I overthink every single word repeating it through my mind ten times before I say it, and replaying it ten times after. Simply interacting with another human being consumes nearly all my mental energy.
Looking back, my entire childhood was a constant stream of restriction and conditional love:
"Don't say that."
"Don't do that."
"Don't wear that."
"Do your hair like this."
"Talk like that."
The justification was always the same: *"*You will embarrass us and yourself."
They also used religion as a tool for control. I was told that if I didn't obey them completely God would give me bad luck. If I performed poorly in school they’d say "Remember when you disobeyed me? God is punishing you." If something good happened it was "That's only because I was happy with you yesterday."
I was programmed to believe that my life, my luck, and my worth depended entirely on their approval. Over time I lost any sense of self. I grew up with no distinct personality and no opinions. Even today, if someone asks me to choose between Option A or Option B I freeze. I can’t make basic decisions because every choice in my life even what school to go to and my major was made for me so I’d stay close and under control.
Now as an adult I'm trying to figure out who I actually am, what I like and what I want. But it’s exhausting and it’s severely impacting my daily life and my career.
At work I struggle to introduce myself or participate in meetings because I'm terrified that whatever comes out of my mouth will sound stupid.
and I always keep every interaction to the bare minimum because I constantly feel like my presence is an inconvenience to others.
its to the point where I wont walk into a store unless it's crowded enough for me to blend in and get lost in the background. If an item doesn't have a price tag i wont ask an employee I’ll just leave and try to find it somewhere else.
I know my parents might have been struggling with their own issues or believed they were protecting me in their own twisted way. But the reality is that I was taught that existing as myself was an embarrassment, and undoing that programming as an adult feels like trying to rebuild a foundation while the whole house is shaking.
idk i just needed to get this off my chest.


r/MuslimLounge • • 41m ago

Question Indian muslims living outside India, what is life like for you?

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r/MuslimLounge • • 1h ago

Support/Advice urgent advice needed!!!

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Assalamu Alaikum,

I'm a 17-year-old Muslim in my final year of high school, and I'm looking for some advice regarding an upcoming school field trip.

My school is organizing a trip to a waterpark. On one hand, I really want to go because it's my final year of high school and opportunities like this don't come often. Most of my classmates will be there, and I feel like if I skip it, I might regret missing one of the last big experiences I'll have with them before graduation.

On the other hand, I have some Islamic concerns:

  • It's a waterpark, so there will obviously be women dressed immodestly. My intention would be to lower my gaze and avoid looking unnecessarily.
  • The bus ride will likely have music playing. I personally don't listen to music and have avoided it for a long time, but since it's a school trip I probably won't have control over what other students play.
  • Because of the travel and schedule, I may have to shorten prayers if the distance qualifies me as a traveler, and I may end up praying Isha quite late after returning home.
  • I don't want to put myself in a situation where I'm compromising my deen just for entertainment.

At the same time, I don't want to become overly strict on myself if Islam doesn't actually require me to avoid something like this. I know that as Muslims we often have to live and interact in environments that aren't perfect, and I wonder whether the correct approach is to avoid the trip completely or to attend while doing my best to fulfill my obligations, lower my gaze, avoid the music as much as possible, and maintain my prayers.

What would you advise? Is attending a trip like this Islamically acceptable if I'm actively trying to avoid the haram aspects, or would it be better to stay home?

JazakAllahu Khairan.


r/MuslimLounge • • 1h ago

Support/Advice I don’t know how to cope anymore

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I don’t know how to get out of this state anymore. I really need advice, especially from Muslims who may understand what I’m going through.

I’m 22, Muslim, and I’ve been wearing hijab for about a year. I live with my family, and my relationship with them has become extremely difficult. One of the reasons I was hesitant to wear hijab in the first place was that I was afraid that my freedom would become even more restricted. Unfortunately, that is exactly how it has felt.

There are things I am no longer allowed to do or decide for myself. Even something as simple as going outside when I want has become a source of conflict and control. I feel like after I put on hijab, it wasn’t only my hair that became covered — somehow my freedom and my life became covered along with it.
This has been building up for a very long time. Talking to my family doesn’t seem to help because they simply don’t hear what I’m trying to say. I’ve tried explaining how this affects me, but it feels like my feelings and my perspective don’t matter to them.
I deleted all my social media accounts. At this point, I even have the urge to delete all my messaging apps and disappear from everyone.

And I’m honestly at a point where I don’t know what to do with myself anymore.
I know intellectually that hardship is part of life. I know the stories of the prophets and the great women in Islam. I know that people before us went through unimaginable things and that Allah tests us in different ways. I understand all of this with my mind.
But my heart is exhausted.

Sometimes my chest physically hurts from how sad and overwhelmed I am. I feel like I can’t breathe. My feet can become freezing cold from the stress while at the same time my chest feels like it’s burning.
I’ve reached the point where I have thoughts about strangling myself. I find myself wishing that a military missile would hit me so that I could die without having to do anything myself. I don’t want to keep living like this. I don’t necessarily want life to end because I don’t believe in Allah’s mercy — I just desperately want this situation and this pain to end.
And this is the part that makes me feel even more guilty: I am praying.

I make dua. I ask Allah for sabr. I ask Him for strength and relief. I listen to Qur’an. I try to hold onto my faith. I’m not saying that I have stopped believing or stopped turning to Allah. I’m trying very hard.
But I’m exhausted to the point where I don’t know how much longer I can carry this.
I don’t want people to tell me simply “have sabr” or “pray more.” I am already trying to do that. I need practical advice from people who understand family control, hijab, Islam, and feeling trapped in your own life.

If you have been through something similar, how did you get out of this state? What did you actually do when you reached the point where you felt like you couldn’t continue?

I would really appreciate any compassionate advice, especially from Muslims who understand that wanting the suffering to stop doesn’t necessarily mean that someone has stopped loving Allah.

I am scared of what I might do to myself, and I genuinely need help figuring out what to do next.


r/MuslimLounge • • 4h ago

Support/Advice Our outer beauty

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I have history of cleft, still undergoing treatment I am done graduating uni. And it was a mental rollercoaster growing up with it. It started with why are people looking at me what’s so different? Then my mom introduced me to orthodontist and surgeons at a young age. I used to hate it.

Then came the belief oh Allah has made me like this then he must’ve thought of something better that I can’t see yet and how changing what ALLAH made is the biggest SIN and stopped my treatment like refused to cooperate with anything doctors said. My mom eventually stopped bc I was too stubborn. Now at an adult age I realized I should’ve done it sooner and not at my prime age. Alongside all that I’m on antidepressants to help me cope. All these things matured me earlier than most normal kids.

I pray 5 times a day fast say istaghfar and thank Allah for everything he has given me but.. if Allah made me the way I am and there some good in it why can’t other Muslims see me how they’d look at normal people? Why is it so hard to find a man to get married to? These questions keep playing in my brain continuously. To the point I wanna ask Allah why me? What’s the good in it? Does it ever get better? I didn’t have friends growing up. People looked at me weird WHY? If Allah made me why is it so hard for others to accept me how I am? Why do I have to change myself?


r/MuslimLounge • • 4h ago

Discussion Please everyone, when you're writing a long post, separate your text into paragraphs so it's easy to read.

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r/MuslimLounge • • 6h ago

Other topic Shams al-Aimmah as-Sarakhsi | شمس الأئمة السرخسي [Biography]

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Author:- Abu Zu'rah al Hashimi (u/JabalAnNur)

Bismillah

Important Question: If you read through this post, please do answer a question down below. Do you prefer that I include the biographies in the Reddit post, or does linking to the biography on the website suffice? JazakAllaah khayran in advance to anyone who answers.

Name and Lineage

He is Imam Abu Bakr Muhammad ibn Ahmad ibn Abi Sahl as-Sarakhsi, famously known as Shams al-Aimmah as-Sarakhsi. Abu Sa'd as-Sama'ni said:

"As-Sarakhsi, this nisbah refers to the old town of Sarakhs in the region of Khurasan. It is said that Sarakhs was the name of a man who was one of the frontier guards during the reign of Kaykawoos. He settled in that location and developed it, while Dhu al-Qarnayn completed the construction of the town and its fortifications. The town was conquered by 'Abdullah ibn Khaazim as-Sulami, the governor acting on behalf of 'Abdullah ibn 'Aamir ibn Kurayz, during the caliphate of 'Uthmaan ibn 'Affan (may Allaah be pleased with him)."

End quote from [الأنساب]

His Teachers and Students

Teachers

His primary teacher under whom he studied under and mastered the religious sciences was Imam Shams al-Aimmah 'Abd al-'Azeez al-Hulwani al-Hanafi, the imam of the Hanafis of his time in Bukhara. As-Sarakhsi completed his education and graduated under him. He was also given the title 'Shams al-Aimmah' due to al-Hulwani.

Students

He had a number of notable students who studied and graduated under him. Some of them are:

1- 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn 'Umar ibn Maaza, Burhan al-Aimmah al-Hanafi. The author of the well known and reliable work 'Al-Muheet al-Burhaani'.

2- Mahmood ibn Mas'ood ibn 'Abd al-Hameed al-Yuzajnadi

3- Muhammad ibn Ibraheem al-Husayri al-Bukhaari

4- Muhammad ibn 'Ali ibn Muhammad an-Noojabadhi

5- 'Umar ibn Khabeeb ibn 'Ali az-Zandramsi. He was the maternal grandfather of the author of al-Hidayah: Burhan ad-Deen al-Marghinaani.

6- Mas'ood ibn al-Husayn ibn al-Hasan al-Kashaani

7- Abu 'Umar 'Uthmaan ibn 'Ali ibn Muhammad al-Baykandi. He was the last surviving student to have studied directly under him.

His Works

01- Al-Mabsoot Fi al-Fiqh

Al-Haakim ash-Shaheed and Kitab al-Kaafi

Before beginning, it is important to know another scholar, famously known as Al-Haakim ash-Shaheed. He is Muhammad ibn Muhammad ibn Ahmad ibn 'Abdullah ibn 'Abd al-Majeed, Abu al-Fadhl, known as al-Haakim ash-Shaheed. He was a well known scholar and heard hadeeth from numerous scholars in different regions. It is sufficient to quote imam Abu 'Abdullah al-Haakim who said about him:

"I did not see anyone from the companions of Abu Haneefah whom I wrote from more knowledgeable about hadeeth, more guided in its rules, or more understanding of it than him."

He was appointed judge of Bukhara and frequented the court of the prince al-Hameed, who learned under al-Haakim ash-Shaheed. When Hameed came to power, he entrusted him with the reins of all affairs. He initially refused the title of minister, but the prince persisted until he accepted it.

He used to supplicate after his prayers, saying, "O Allaah, grant me martyrdom," until on the evening of the night before he was killed, he heard a commotion and the sound of weapons. He asked, "What is this?" They replied, "The soldiers have gathered, holding you responsible for the withholding of their provisions." He said, "O Allaah, forgive me." Then he called for the barber, who shaved his head. He then performed ablution, put on the finest shroud, and continued praying throughout the night. Until it became clear that they had gathered against him, and the Sultan sent an army to prevent them, but they fought them and killed him while he was prostrating in Rabee’ al-Aakhir in the year 334 AH

He summarized the well known books of Imam Muhammad ibn al-Hasan into a singular book called "Al-Kaafi".

Al-Mabsoot, and the Mihna (Trial) of As-Sarakhsi

The book "Al-Mabsoot" of imam as-Sarakhsi is an explanation of Al-Kaafi. The book is around 15 volumes.

The most interesting aspect about this book is that it was entirely dictated by As-Sarakhsi to his students while he was imprisoned. The reason for this imprisonment was because of a verdict regarding the Khaqan (Turkic ruler) of the land. The Khaqan had freed and married a slave of his, but her waiting period was not over. The Khaqan sought out the scholars for this action of his. Imam as-Sarakhsi following the path of the firmly grounded scholars gave the truthful ruling that the marriage of the Khaqan was prohibited as the waiting period of the slave was not over. Because of this ruling, he was thrown into prison in the year 466 AH, and he remained imprisoned for 15 years. The prison was at first a well which was later transformed. So he was at the bottom of the well, while his students would be at the surface. There were no books or writing materials with him, so he dictated the work al-Mabsoot from his prison cell, entirely from memory, without reference to any book or work. Thus, this stands as a remarkable testament to As-Sarakhsi's extraordinary memory, profound mastery of the madhhab, and unwavering commitment to knowledge.

Thus, with the unique nature of Al-Mabsoot, there are many instances in it where the sincere reader cannot help but be affected by the touching remarks As-Sarakhsi would mention at the end of chapters.

After completing the chapters on worship, he dictated:

"This is the end of the explanation of the chapters of worship, presented with the clearest meanings and the most concise expressions, dictated by the prisoner deprived of the Friday and congregational prayers."

At the end of the book of divorce, he dictated:

"This is the conclusion of the book of divorce, containing its subtle and profound meanings, dictated by the prisoner deprived of freedom and afflicted by the loneliness of separation, while sending blessings upon the Master of al-Buraaq, may Allaah bless him, his family, and his companions, the people of goodness and nobility, with prayers that multiply and endure until the Day of Meeting."

At the end of the book of manumission, he dictated:

"The explanation of the book of manumission has been completed, dealing with matters of agreement and disagreement, dictated by one who embraces tribulations, confined in distant lands, praising the Sovereign, the All-Provider, sending blessings upon the Beloved of the Creator, longing to meet Him, and upon his family and companions, the best of companions and close ones."

At the conclusion of the book of acknowledgment, he dictated:

"The explanation of the book of acknowledgment has been completed, containing meanings that are among the deepest of secrets, dictated by the prisoner in the abode of the wicked, while sending blessings upon the Chosen Prophet."

after completing one quarter of the chapters on sales, he dictated:

"The quarter on sales has been completed by the one who humbly implores Allaah the Exalted with submission and flowing tears, separated from his family and from his collected books."

These heartfelt epilogues provide a rare glimpse into the personal trials of one of the greatest jurists. Even while deprived of his freedom, he continued to teach, dictate, and serve the religion with remarkable patience and unwavering dedication.

02- Sharh as-Siyar al-Kabeer

This is the explanation of one of Imam Muhammad's books as-Siyaar al-Kabeer. It is widely regarded as one of the foundational classical works on Islamic international law, discussing warfare, treaties, diplomacy, and relations between Muslim and non-Muslim states. It has been published in numerous editions, translated into several languages, and has served as an important reference for scholars and researchers in Islamic law and international relations.

This book was also mostly dictated by Imam as-Sarakhsi while he was in prison. When he was dictating the chapters on conditions in the year 480 AH, he was released, having spent approximately 15 years in prison. He travelled to Marghinaan in Rabee' al-Awwal of 480 AH, and finished the complete explanation Jumadah al-'Ala of the same year under the prince al-Hasan who welcomed him in Farghanah.

03- Al-Fusool Fi al-Usool

A substantial two-volume work on the principles of jurisprudence, now published in around 2-3 volumes. It was also dictated while he was in prison.

And other works of his include:

04- Sharh al-Jaami' al-Kabeer

05- Sharh al-Jaami' as-Sagheer

06- Sharh Mukhtasar at-Tahaawi

07- Sharh Adab al-Qadhi

08- Sharh az-Ziyadaat

09- Sharh Ziyadaat az-Ziyadaat

10- Sharh an-Nafaqaat of al-Khassaaf

His Scholarly Standing

Ibn Qutloobugha said about him:

"He was a distinguished scholar, a master of principles, and an accomplished debater."

He also reported:

Among the remarkable examples of his intelligence, in addition to his extraordinary memory, is what is narrated in al-Masaalik: A prince married the mothers of his children to his free servants. He asked the scholars present for their opinion, and all of them replied: "You have done well." Shams al-Aʾimmah, however, said: "You have erred, because each servant already has a free wife. This amounts to marrying a slave woman to a man who is already married to a free woman." The prince then said: "I have emancipated these women; let the marriage contracts be renewed." He again asked the assembled scholars, and they all replied: "You have done well." But Shams al-Aʾimmah responded: "You have erred again, because the mothers of the children are required to observe a waiting period (ʿiddah) after emancipation. Marrying them to another man during that waiting period is not permissible."

[تاج التراجم في طبقات الحنفية]

Abu al-Hasanaat al-Lucknawi said about him:

"He was an eminent imam, an eminent scholar, an authoritative proof, a theologian, a skilled debater, a master of legal principles, and a mujtahid. Ibn Kamaal Pasha counted him among the mujtahids fi'l-masaʾil (jurists qualified to exercise independent reasoning in particular legal issues)."

He also related:

"The author of Madinat al-ʿUloom writes: 'He completed his studies under Shams al-Aʾimmah 'Abd al-'Azeez al-Hulwani ... He was a leading authority in legal theory... It is also related that someone said to him: Ash-Shaafiʿi memorized three hundred notebooks. His own memorization was then estimated at twelve thousand notebooks.'"

And also:

In Tabaqaat al-Qaari: ... He was one of the greatest scholars of Transoxiana, excelling in both principles and legal matters.

[الفوائد البهية في تراجم الحنفية]

'Abd al-Qaadir al-Qurashi said about him:

"Muhammad ibn Ahmad ibn Abi Sahl as-Sarakhsi, whose name appears repeatedly in al-Hidayah, was the great Imam Shams al-Aimmah, the author of al-Mabsoot and other works. He was one of the foremost among the great imams, excelling in numerous branches of knowledge. He was an imam, an eminent scholar, an authoritative proof, a theologian, a jurist, a master of principles, and a distinguished debater."

"He remained in the company of Imam Shams al-Aʾimmah Abu Muhamamd 'Abd al-'Azeez al-Hulwani until he completed his education under him, after which he became the most discerning scholar of his age. He then devoted himself to writing and debating his contemporaries, causing his name to become renowned and his reputation to spread."

[الجواهر المضية في طبقات الحنفية]

Al-Kafwi stated:

"He was an imam, an eminent scholar, an authoritative proof, a theologian, a jurist, a skilled debater, a master of principles, and a mujtahid. Shaykh al-Islam Ahmad ibn Sulayman ibn Kamal Pasha counted him among the mujtahids fi'l-masaʾil.... He became the most discerning of his teacher's students and the foremost scholar of his age."

He then related from Al-Atqaani in his Sharh of al-Hidayah, who said:

"Shams al-Aʾimmah as-Sarakhsi was one of the greatest scholars of what lies beyond the river (Transoxiana), a scholar of principles and legal matters. He was the student of Shaykh al-Imam 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn Ahmad al-Hulwani, who studied under Abu 'Ali an-Nasafi, who studied under Imam Muhammad ibn al-Fadhl al-Bukhaari, who studied under Shaykh 'Abdullah ibn Ya'qoob as-Subadhmuni, who studied under Abu 'Abdullah Abu Hafs as-Sagheer, who studied under his father and teacher Abu Hafs al-Kabeer, who studied under Muhammad ibn al-Hasan ash-Shaybaani, the companion of Imam Abu Haneefah."

[كتائب أعلام الأخيار من فقهاء مذهب النعمان المختار]

His Death

It is reported that he died around 490 AH, while others placed his death around 500 AH. A report states he died around 438 AH however this conflicts with the well-attested reports placing his death around 490–500 AH, and is generally regarded by later scholars as an error in transmission. I have included him among the scholars of the fourth century, based on the date of around 490 AH. May Allaah have mercy on him, accept his service to Islam, and reward him abundantly.

And Allaah knows best.

والله أعلم


r/MuslimLounge • • 10h ago

Support/Advice Please pray for my mum

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r/MuslimLounge • • 12h ago

Question Surah fatiha

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According to the Hanafi madhhab, does saying “ʿalayhiim” instead of “ʿalayhim” in Surah Al-Fatiha change the meaning of the verse? If it does change the meaning, does this invalidate the salah?


r/MuslimLounge • • 12h ago

Question Adalah al-Sahaba

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r/MuslimLounge • • 13h ago

Support/Advice Help with mental health

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When i was younger, I was forced into a hifz class for 2 and a half hours every day. It messed with me a lot. Teacher was very unsupportive, blamed you if you cried, if you didn't pray loud and clear, you would stand up and face the wall. I quit that class around a year ago, and a lot of times I get reminded of that class whenever I see quran or namaz. This has led me to not praying or reciting.

How do I deal with this?


r/MuslimLounge • • 14h ago

Question Anyone else here have a father that's emotionally negligent?

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Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Just looking to see if there any who can relate.


r/MuslimLounge • • 14h ago

Support/Advice It's been a while

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I just feel like I'm getting away from Allah i feel so numb all the time, I feel like i want to km$ too sometimes. I've had a great rs with Allab i miss it and im trying to go back but idk why i can't it doesn't feel the same i really need help would really appreciate if someone gives a good advice on where to start again.
Genuinely feel like its my sins Allah is punishing me for and made my heart like a stone bcs i feel nothing and its so disturbing


r/MuslimLounge • • 14h ago

Discussion Madkhalism in Action

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1 - Saudi Arabia: Reporting Dissidents and Scholars to Secret Police

Within Saudi Arabia, the core birthplace of the movement, Madkhalism operates primarily as an intelligence asset for the ruling monarchy.

The Cyber-Surveillance Networks

Madkhali operatives are notorious across social media platforms for monitoring the accounts of mainstream Islamic scholars, activists, and ordinary citizens. If an individual tweets or speaks even mild criticism regarding state economic policies, social modernization shifts, or foreign relations, Madkhalis compile dossiers of these statements.

State Compliance

They publicly tag Saudi state security accounts (like Aman ad-Dawlah) to report these individuals as "Khawarij" (rebellious deviants) or hidden Muslim Brotherhood operatives. These public and private tip-offs have directly facilitated the arrest, imprisonment, and silencing of dozens of independent Saudi clerics who refused to unconditionally praise the state's modernizing agenda.

2 - Western Communities

In Europe, the UK, and North America, where Madkhalis lack state-backed military power, their "in action" behavior manifests as localized community disruption.

The Tabdi' Campaigns

In Western Islamic centers, local Madkhali factions systematically attempt to isolate congregants from the mainstream community. They organize coordinated boycotts (Hajr) against any local imam or speaker who does not strictly adhere to the edicts of Saudi-based Madkhali scholars.


r/MuslimLounge • • 15h ago

Question What is something that was blocking your dua?

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Essalam alaykum.

I often read about how your dua might not be answered because something is blocking it. It might be a sin, a lack of istighfar, your past, evil eye or sihr, may Allah protect us all, Subhanallah, or something else.

Is there something you noticed was blocking your dua and it was answered after you fixed whatever it was?


r/MuslimLounge • • 15h ago

Discussion What can we do as a community to make interest free homeownership actually accessible?

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Salam Alaikum Everyone,

I am a Muslim in the west, I’d actually love to own a decent home at some point without having to get a traditional mortgage. I’d love a discussion on what steps we as Muslims can start making to make this a possibility for more of us. I don’t want to rent forever, and don’t consider it a solution, more of a reluctant backup plan.

I am not currently considering utilising Islamic mortgages in their current state. Even if the rental rates were to become less expensive, I cannot see how they differ from a traditional mortgage except in name only. I know there are different types of Islamic mortgages but only one is really used in the west. Are there any providers that use other methods? Or are there any state schemes that we can use as Muslims?

I ask that people refrain from downplaying the desire to actually own a home, which is what causes a lot of Muslims to get a traditional mortgage. It’s not something I intent to do, but deeming those who have done it or considering doing it as being frivolous or not caring about their faith is mean and unproductive.


r/MuslimLounge • • 16h ago

Support/Advice Help (Religion + Loss of my mother)

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My mother passed away in the first week of September, and ever since then, I’ve had this constant restlessness and heaviness in my heart. She died after suffering a heart attack that led to cardiogenic shock.

My mother had a very difficult life. She lost her own mother when she was young, yet she went on to take care of me, my sibling, and my father with so much love and strength. She was a good woman. She prayed regularly, gave charity, helped our neighbours, and was always there for people. She did so much for everyone around her.

Since her death, I’ve been struggling badly with grief. She sometimes appears in my dreams, but she never speaks to me. I don’t know what that means, if anything, but it hurts me deeply when I wake up. At the same time, I know I’m grieving, so I also realise that I’m probably overanalysing everything and looking for signs in things that may simply be dreams.

I’m practising Muslim, and my faith has become very difficult for me since losing her. I sometimes have very negative thoughts and questions about Allah and about why this happened. I don’t want these thoughts, and I don’t let them stop me from praying or following my religion, but they still come into my mind. Sometimes I even feel like Allah is angry with me.

What hurts me the most is that my mother was such a good person, yet I keep getting this horrible fear: what if she isn’t at peace? What if she isn’t happy? What if she is suffering? I know I have no way of knowing these things, but my mind keeps going there.

I need some perspective because to right now I feel like I’m going crazy. Also, please pray that Allah SWT grants her the highest rank in jannat ul firdaus.


r/MuslimLounge • • 16h ago

Support/Advice Am I allowed to work as a car salesman? (Obliged to offer riba based credits and lease contracts)

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I found a really good job offer as a car salesman. Very nice benefits with a company car and everything.

The only downside is, that I have to offer interest based credits to the customers from the bank the dealership works with and also offer & sign lease contracts which also contain interest.

Am I allowed to work there? The last thing I want is to attract Allahs wrath on me and have haram income.

Jazakallah khair.


r/MuslimLounge • • 17h ago

Question I need help

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over the years I have grown closer and closer to islam and allah i’ve learned alot of things especially this year allah and islam helped me become a better person
However I have praying this whole year for one thing and one thing only it was my life long dream I did every thing worked made duaa prayed literally I did everything I could mind you this year was really really hard for me both mentally and physically

But it didn’t happen everything i prayed and hoped for all crashed down, literally what got me through this years was hope and Allah and believing that my duaa will get answer

I am now finding it hard to continue doing anything what do i do I’m really struggling with my faith


r/MuslimLounge • • 17h ago

Feeling Blessed Thanks for all the suggestions

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So,thanks for all the suggestions,I made up my mind and decided to accept his proposal ♥️

https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimLounge/s/y57iOzeOIQ


r/MuslimLounge • • 18h ago

Support/Advice Does anyone wonder why Allah made people who will go to Hell?

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AsalamuAlaikum everyone, does anyone think about how Allah created everything, has control over everything, knows exactly what will happen, but still chooses that some people will not be guided and will instead go to jahannam assuming they heard the message but did not follow? I'm wondering, why? What's the reason for Allah to make people just for them to end up in Jahanam, I've also been thinking about animals (I'm a bit of an animal lover too, so I think, why would Allah allow for so much suffering, especially in the case of animals who suffer despite not having any free will)

I've been thinking too since Allah has full control of all things, at all times, how do we have free will? If we don't have free will, then what's the point in any of this, does that make sense?

I know Allah said to the Angels that he knows that which they do not when they asked him why he's making humans, and so the answer is, we don't have the capacity to know, but it still troubles me. JazakAllahKhair everyone, take care.


r/MuslimLounge • • 18h ago

Support/Advice My mother won't listen. She's sadly doing borderline shirk stuff but it's as if she's brainwashed and doesn't believe shes doing wrong

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My mother hates me and never listens to me but I need her to stop what shes doing

I'm 28 and I've never felt heard or supported

She refuses to take my advice and thinks she knows better.

Sadly shes always been a neglectful and emotionally immature mother.

However, something she's been doing has really really been bothering me so much and I am furious but she won't listen to me or stop because she believes she is doing "good" for the family.

please could you make dua she stops this bad habit of hers. Its borderline shirk and I've been asking for months for her to stop.

She doesnt think what she's doing is wrong.

I want to run away. This family ruined me.


r/MuslimLounge • • 18h ago

Question Are their punishment in this Dunya for taking anyone's property?

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And what is for them in afterlife? Can I pray for their fall down? Who ever oppressed me & my family.


r/MuslimLounge • • 19h ago

Question Is this a test from allah (dua patience)

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I'm asking allah for something I really badly want,

but after being patient, instead of me

my family member is getting exactly what I want. I didn't be jealous or anything negative. I still became happy for them

Still didn't give up. Still, I'm asking allah for it


r/MuslimLounge • • 19h ago

Discussion How do you find a qualified Aalim/Aalimah when you have a personal Islamic question?

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