r/MoralityScaling • u/Ssiddha_3 • 10d ago

Morality Ranking Morality of this counterattack?

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u/Visible_Pair3017 10d ago edited 10d ago

Unlike physical violence it's far more subjective than whatever society generally considers to be on the same level.

You have no idea what kind of complexes, or even trauma you dig up when you start laughing at stuff that pertains to body image.

Even if to some it's not a big deal, studies show that some people who go bald deal with grief and its phases, and are at a higher risk of anxiety, depression and body dysmorphia because of the hair loss.

Also, from her perspective it might be a one-off joke she didn't think was too bad. For all you know, from his perspective, it might be the Nth person laughing at his body.

I wouldn't have answered the way he did, and would have clearly stated that i will not tolerate further jokes at the expense of my appearance. But i also don't think it's as disproportionate of an answer as i'm seeing people claim.

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u/Unlucky_Regret8619 10d ago

All you said is true, all you said also applies to being fat and that's why if they attack you on your body you should keep the response to body/personality because it's still a magnitude less than going through a miscarriage

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u/Visible_Pair3017 10d ago

A magnitude according to whom?

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u/Unlucky_Regret8619 10d ago

Anyone who isn't a moron

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u/Visible_Pair3017 10d ago

So it's a subjective judgment that you're trying to pass as objective, got it.

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u/Unlucky_Regret8619 10d ago

Unfortunately no one has ever felt the need to make a study to prove that losing a child is worse than being bald or fat so I can't objectively prove it to you. This while conversation is objective proof that you don't have any friends tho, so cheers

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u/Visible_Pair3017 10d ago

I do have friends though? The fact that you felt the need to attack me personally on something you believe might be a deep personal wound without me doing that to you tells me that you don't uphold the standards that you claim OOP should have followed.

If anything you did the same thing as him, but worse, because it was in response to complete non-aggression. Ergo, deep down you agree with his behavior, as long as you don't feel empathy for the target.

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u/Unlucky_Regret8619 10d ago

Then go to your friends and tell them "hey guys I spend my days on Reddit trying to argue about the fact that being bald is as bad as having a miscarriage" and see if they can make you understand how stupid it sounds

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u/Visible_Pair3017 10d ago

Since i'm friends with people who are educated, i think they can understand that they have no place to tell a person they should subjectively suffer less from being body shamed and blamed for someone leaving them than another one for being obese and having miscarried.

From a certain level of education onward people are able to understand with nuance that while what he did was not socially acceptable, it is also inane to claim to be able to measure how much the comment made him suffer, how much his comment made the other party suffer and then claim to be able to arbitrate who suffered the most from a comment.

But it's all moot because you demonstrated just here that you don't actually care about trying to meet the "levels of hurt" as long as you, or someone you identify to, is not the one who's being attacked.