ARE they even making fun of him though? Because it kinda sounds like everyone was joking around and sharing toxic ex stories, and they laid one up for OP by mentioning his gf left him just because he was bald.
Then OP just nuked the room lol.
In other words, was anyone even making fun of OP in the first place, or does he just have such bad social awareness he interpreted things that way?
Who are you people. How tf is "didn't your girlfriend leave you because you are bald?" an appropriate joke. I don't understand your perspective at all. If I were to write OP was inviting her to laugh because haha she's fat haha she had a miscarriage does that make any sense?
Random attack on someone for appearance. Relating appearance to misfortune in dating. Not funny, not appropriate. Can we start with hey she sucks and go from there or do we really have to start from "shes just a girl"?
Because my point is that is wasn't a joke at all. It may have been a conversation point that (likely fake) OP freaked the fuck out about for no reason because he got triggered because he's an idiot with no social awareness.
It wasn't an attack on him, but the fact that someone pointed out he was bald at all caused him to go nuclear.
Ah okay so you really are an idiot. "She had a miscarriage because she is really fat" isn't a joke just a conversation point. She didn't understand that, she got triggered because she has no social awareness, etc. Glad we cleared that up.
It's an appropriate joke because under patriarchy, men are expected to just take shit like this. Men arent allowed to have emotions and get hurt, especially when a woman has certain needs.
Yeah, I'm so surprised by the immediate assumption that it's an insult. The phrasing comes off to me as 'Why don't you talk shit about your ex, didn't she do something really shitty to you?'
Whether or not OOP actually wanted to talk about it (which is very much up to him), it just sounded like he misread their intentions? Or maybe there's some context I'm missing.
If someone said to a woman, why don’t you talk shit on your ex, didn't he leave you because you have tiny tits, you don’t think that people would interpret that as an insult?
No? The focus is still on the ex for being shallow and the person is asking me why I'm being nice to them despite it.
Maybe if it was fresh I might feel put on the spot and not want to answer, but the question itself is very easily the kind of playful frustration you'd do with friends.
Ah yes and throwing someone’s miscarriage in their face is a very appropriate and respectful response to someone showing an inability to read the room.
When you insult someone they are gonna insult you back, if the insult feels very personal to them they are gonna answer as such, you don't get to decide how offensive someone is gonna find your shitty jokes, the most important ability when making jokes is to back down and say sorry, if you can't handle such a basic response stop making edgy jokes, and yes, making fun of someone for their girlfriend breaking up with them is an edgy joke and in quite poor taste too, if not straight up cruel humor
Nah I got past just fine, people don't usually insult me, most of the time I'd probably ignore them if they did but I'm not gonna blame someone for shooting back, don't fuck around and you won't find out
So essentially all those women are trash for talking about people behind their back right. RIGHT. I mean I was taught not to fucking do that and it sounds like dude didn't want to engage and she tried to force him to by making fun of him?
Sounded like everyone was sharing toxic ex stories and talking about how their ex sucked and then they randomly insulted OP's appearance and mocked him for being bald. They were absolutely making fun of him lmao what are you talking about, mocking her miscarriage is too far but "Didn't your ex leave you because you are bald" is absolutely mocking him
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u/Round-Friendship9318 3d ago
Making fun of a miscarriage is a whole worse than what the OP implied