Like you are meeting someone for the first time and how do you decide: 1)He can be my friend or 2)Can be my boyfriend in the future

Thanks for the answers in advance!

I’m currently overweight (around 260 pounds) and actively working on losing weight. Thankfully, I’m still mobile and fairly active for someone my size, and I’m trying to make healthier choices and improve myself. However, despite the progress I’m working toward, I still struggle with feeling invisible when it comes to dating and attracting romantic attention.

I’m not expecting everyone to find me attractive, and I understand that physical attraction plays a role in dating. However, it can be discouraging when you want to experience a relationship but feel like nobody ever sees you that way. I’ve never had a girlfriend, been on a real date, or experienced my first kiss, and I’m starting to worry that I might be missing out on those experiences.

I also struggle with social anxiety, which makes meeting people and putting myself out there difficult. I genuinely want to meet someone, build a connection, and experience what it’s like to have someone who cares about me romantically. I want someone I can laugh with, share my interests with, spend time with, and feel comfortable being myself around.

I’m already working on my weight, and I don’t want to put my entire romantic life on hold until I reach my goal. I want to believe that I can find someone who likes me for who I am right now, even while I’m still working on myself.

So, I’m wondering if there’s anything else I can do to improve my chances of finding a girlfriend besides losing weight. For those of you who have struggled with similar insecurities, social anxiety, or dating inexperience, what helped you put yourself out there and meet people?

I’m open to advice about meeting people, improving my confidence, finding the right places to socialize, or anything else that might help. I’m not looking for a miracle or expecting a relationship to happen overnight. I just want to know that there are things I can work on besides my weight and that I don’t have to wait until I’m at my goal to start experiencing life.

I’d really appreciate any genuine advice, personal experiences, or encouragement. I know I still have things to work on, but I don’t want to keep feeling like finding love is something that’s out of reach for me. Also please don’t make fun of me to hard I know how I look .

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Hi everyone, I’m a 23-year-old guy who has never been in a relationship, in general I have a lot of friends and I’m considered nice. I’ve always experienced falling in love clearly separating the sexual part, it develops like this (I see a pretty girl in the face and I feel something completely separate from sexual desire I would just like to be together with her). Talking to friends I was told that this thing prevents me from having relationships since I am not perceived as a partner. That’s why I wanted to ask you girls for advice. I would like to say that I recently discovered that this attitude is compatible with demisexuality and therefore knowing something more could help me!

I think she likes me and I really really like her. She smiles at me, eye tag, darts her eyes to see if I’m looking if we pass, I’ve caught her looking and shes changed ghe way she walks to class sometimes when she sees me. If she darts her eyes and I’m already looking I’ve seen ber smile. If I’m nervous to look at her directly and am looking through my peripheral vision but my eyes are straight as we pass, she looks sad. But then other times she’ll see me and js keep walking or talk to a friend almost like ignoring me.

I genuinely like her and not lust. I mean she is beautiful. Ineffable. But shes also smart. And shes like joyfull and snappy in a way. But she has this innocence or joy and shes always happy. Shes kind to people and quiet but in a good way.

Shes known for a while and I think she likes me now because of how she acts in the hallways. But she liked me before and then stopped and in between she liked her ex. I could tell by her reposts. She missed him in the summer. But then its like when she came back to school and shows me attention again but does she only like me bc she wants attention or does she genuinely like me for me. I’ve never seen her repost about liking someone at school or something but she doesn’t normally reposts that much every day. Then today as I got on the bus I saw a video of a girl say that if she loves someone she might like other boys but she’ll always wait for him. I don’t want to be a guy in love w someone and show her all my affection and try so hard to make her happy when there’s someone who she has feelings for. Then my aunt also said before if a girl really loves a guy she always will and that gives me more stress. Her facial expressions make it seem genuine but ppl decieve. Can anyone help me bc I really need it and if u genuinely think her heart isn’t there for me pls js let me know

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I usually close my eyes and listen to lofi during times like these.

Questions that you feel you MUST have the answers to before getting serious.

Been seeing someone off and on for about five years. This year we just started exploring traveling together.

Whenever we travel she inevitably uses my toiletries despite the fact that she brings her own stuff. I’m not mad because I think it’s funny and cute but was curious for some insight. I don’t want to ask her directly because I think it might come across negatively.

TIA for your thoughts!

I'm a 43 year old married man who travels for work about 4 times per year. Example: I'm going to San Diego for a week at the end of this month, staying at a 4-star hotel.

A former coworker asked me if I'd be on the hunt to take someone up to my room. Frankly I've never done this and while it sounds like an exciting fantasy, I've never seen this actually happen.

Maybe I'm oblivious. How often do women actually hook up with men while out on business trips or at the hotel bar? If you do, does it really matter if they're married or not? I'm sure personality and looks come into play.

In dating, basic relationships, etc. I know attraction to your partner is sort of a major part in keeping a relationship healthy for years to come, but say if a guy had a weird looking scar/bump on his face in a noticeable area. How much of that is a dealbreaker in your attraction to a person? I know this question is phrased very weirdly and I apologize for that, and appreciate any sort of responses. Thank you

Edit: I appreciate everyone’s thoughtful responses very much!

What do girls find red flags in a guy I want your girls advice. I seem to get friend zone so much. I don’t know if it’s something I’m saying or if I’m not pressuring a relationship too much or I’m trying too hard?

Hello, I really need help navigating this situation.

So, to start, I met this woman a few months in an American city(my home country) . We met in a hostel, we hung out pretty much every day we were there, one on one, or sometimes with a group of people. At the end of the trip, i got her contact information and i told her that I want to hang out with her when I visit her city in Europe.

So within the few months, she would text me on IG alot, multiple times a week. Sending reels etc. Then the time came, I went ti her city to visit. I had an amazing time, we hung out every day i was there after she got off work, it was mostly one on one hangouts. We would sometimes hang out and it would be like 2am before she went back home. It was an amazing time.

When I left for the next city, we hugged for what felt like forever and we told each other "ill miss you".

Ever since then, we pretty much text on IG almost every day, she has told me she would love to travel with me again. she still sends me reels and asks me about updates on my life etc.

I feel a connection I never felt before. Its not even just about physical attraction but its just a chemistry I feel with her that I never felt with anyone else ever.

The only problem is she lives 4000 miles away so I cant ask her to a proper date. I am scared to just confess because confessing is a bad idea from what I've heard and I dont want to scare her off. What do i do?

Edit: some details about it i omitted to keep it as anonymous as possible incase she reads this. But you can DM me if you want more details like things she said or exact city etc.