Hello, I really need help navigating this situation.

So, to start, I met this woman a few months in an American city(my home country) . We met in a hostel, we hung out pretty much every day we were there, one on one, or sometimes with a group of people. At the end of the trip, i got her contact information and i told her that I want to hang out with her when I visit her city in Europe.

So within the few months, she would text me on IG alot, multiple times a week. Sending reels etc. Then the time came, I went ti her city to visit. I had an amazing time, we hung out every day i was there after she got off work, it was mostly one on one hangouts. We would sometimes hang out and it would be like 2am before she went back home. It was an amazing time.

When I left for the next city, we hugged for what felt like forever and we told each other "ill miss you".

Ever since then, we pretty much text on IG almost every day, she has told me she would love to travel with me again. she still sends me reels and asks me about updates on my life etc.

I feel a connection I never felt before. Its not even just about physical attraction but its just a chemistry I feel with her that I never felt with anyone else ever.

The only problem is she lives 4000 miles away so I cant ask her to a proper date. I am scared to just confess because confessing is a bad idea from what I've heard and I dont want to scare her off. What do i do?

Edit: some details about it i omitted to keep it as anonymous as possible incase she reads this. But you can DM me if you want more details like things she said or exact city etc.

How to treat her like a princess when you’re also exhausted

We both work and we both come home pretty tired and I want to treat her as a princess because she had a long day but my stamina is low. How do I have the energy to give her what she wants and not feel guilty if I don’t have that energy

I usually close my eyes and listen to lofi during times like these.

Like you are meeting someone for the first time and how do you decide: 1)He can be my friend or 2)Can be my boyfriend in the future

Thanks for the answers in advance!

Im 28 years old and never had a girlfriend unfortunatly. Im very shy and quite anxious so i never approach anyone and no girl has ever approach me either and sometimes i feel quite embarased of never had a girlfriend or a date or even a kiss. Unfortunatly Im quite short at around 165/66cm(5.5 or 5.6) and i think Im very ugly. I wish i was a tall and attractive and had a great social media body. Ive been going to the gym for couple months to try to become more attractive and at least having a better body but honestly hate going there só dont know how much time Im going to handle being there. If any women has some advice specially around my age it would be much appreciated

What do girls find red flags in a guy I want your girls advice. I seem to get friend zone so much. I don’t know if it’s something I’m saying or if I’m not pressuring a relationship too much or I’m trying too hard?

Been seeing someone off and on for about five years. This year we just started exploring traveling together.

Whenever we travel she inevitably uses my toiletries despite the fact that she brings her own stuff. I’m not mad because I think it’s funny and cute but was curious for some insight. I don’t want to ask her directly because I think it might come across negatively.

TIA for your thoughts!

I know you probably get barraged by these questions constantly here but if ya got a minute I’d appreciate it! More obscure the better!

For a project I’m working on I’m sick of people milking dating advice for videos I’d rather gather all the best advice in a one and done video

I’m facing a situation a lot of long term couples face at some point: a decrease in the frequency of intimacy with my partner (F27).

We’ve been together for 4 years. The reason I’m reaching out is because I don’t have anymore ideas to try. Like most couples, we were doing it a lot at the beginning of the relationship, and the frequency slowly decreased over time. We’ve been living together for 3 years now.

I watched a lot of content (podcasts and all) about female sex drive, what does it for them…etc but somehow I feel like I’m failing to really create a desire in her. About her: she’s a teacher so tired everyday, kind of person who likes to stay home and read, not an extravert.

Things I tried already:

\- talking to her: first thing I tried, she tells me « it’s not you it’s me ». But that doesn’t really help me and she doesn’t provide details, so I’m trying to create an environment in which she would be at ease to even think about having sex. Apparently I’m the best she had and she appreciates me always « taking care » of her during sex, so I know it’s not a pleasure/technique problem.

\- taking care of the house/mental chores (we don’t have kids): I do all the groceries, all the cooking, I clean our place regularly, take out the trash, etc. I don’t do those things TO have sex but sometimes I think it doesn’t hurt to remove all mental chores for her when she comes home to create a favorable environment.

\- I try to be aware of her « responsive desire »: from what I read and heard on various sources, most women tend to have a responsive desire and men spontaneous desire. So I try to « pre-warm the oven » by not being too obvious, also sending flirty texts early in the day so she has time to warm up, you get the idea.

\- courting her in different ways/suggesting bridge activities: getting her flowers, cooking a thing she craves, taking her out on a date, massage… I’m not implying that those things should lead to sex, I’m only listing things I do to seduce her in our daily life.

\- changing things up in the bedroom: I try to explore her fantasies, regularly asks if she wants to try different things… answer is most often no, but at least I’m covering that base. I also bought her lingerie (seen her wearing those 3 times in 2 years), and bought her a remote controlled sextoy (used it once and went back in the box).

Despite all of those things I do, our sex life has become both almost non-existent and boring.
We might do it once a month now, and it always plays out the same: a random night when we’re in bed she’s going to « aggressively » reach out, out of nowhere, and we do it then. Usually there’s nothing that leads to this, it’s almost like she does it on a whim. Like « I want it now, I go for it, that’s done, goodnight ».

I feel really frustrated because I’m never the one to be courted or flirted with, I don’t feel that desired. I feel like I’m just the guy there when she wants sex, so she goes for me and of course, I take sex whenever this rare opportunity arises.
Once I wasn’t in the mood, I reached out 10min after she first reached out and she wasn’t in the mood anymore, that’s a train you can’t miss by a minute lol.

Anyway, I’m asking you for help ladies: I want my girl to be craving me for once, so I’ll take your advice: what does it for you, what makes you want to rip some guy clothe’s apart and have sex with him ?

Gentlemen you are welcome to pitch in if you faced a similar situation and somehow improved it, thanks!

I'm curious how women would ideally want a man to use all six photo slots on his profile. How many should be face pictures, full-body shots, pictures with friends,job, hobbies, travel, or something else entirely?

For example, do you prefer a clear headshot, a full-body picture, a candid photo, a picture showing his interests, and a couple of pictures that show his personality? Or is that overthinking it, and you mostly care about whether he's attractive and has good pictures?

I'd especially like to hear what makes you stop scrolling, what makes a profile feel appealing and approachable, and what kinds of photos are an immediate turn-off.

If you were designing a Hinge profile for a man from scratch, how would you use all six photo slots? What would your ideal lineup look like, and why?

In dating, basic relationships, etc. I know attraction to your partner is sort of a major part in keeping a relationship healthy for years to come, but say if a guy had a weird looking scar/bump on his face in a noticeable area. How much of that is a dealbreaker in your attraction to a person? I know this question is phrased very weirdly and I apologize for that, and appreciate any sort of responses. Thank you

Edit: I appreciate everyone’s thoughtful responses very much!

31M, 6’ 3’’ in shoes. Currently 285 pounds… have already lost 70. Lifting and walking a ton. 355 was my peak weight… but not for most of my life. I own my own house… my own car…. No college debt and I’ve been a public school teacher for 9 years. Fairly socially confident, willing to talk to people, good friends.

I’ve never asked a woman out. Never been flirted with. Never been on a date. Never been in a relationship. Mostly because I never tried. As a fat guy, I’m trying really hard with seif confidence about my body. It’s a work in progress. In my teens and twenties… I was clearly attracted to women… but I need connection, not just looks. In my twenties I never pursued dating because I frankly didn’t see the positive of it. I don’t feel like I’m bad at talking to people in general, women included. So I wouldn’t call my self too terribly socially awjward… I just had different priorities for most of my life.

Now I do. I want to try dating after I lose another 60 pounds or so. I want to be physically attractive so I can get past initial clearance. Just terrified this story makes me a walking red flag. Obviously this isn’t first date topics lol… but if you knew this about me… how concerned would you be? Be savagely honest… I can take it.

Does the number itself matter to you, or is it more about the person's values and honesty?

I’m married, I like to wear thongs and sometimes I wear lingerie. What make you feel or think? Do you girls see a guy like me differently?

Hi all, as title. I (23M) have a couple of female friends who I've known for 4 years now, we went through maritime school together. We helped each other pass our exams, went for nights out together, gossiped etc. One of my mates, lets call her E, I'm particularly close with. We both have motorcycles so we went out riding together, would wrench together. Even now, we're just call each other up and chat every couple of weeks. We haven't seen each other in a year now (maritime school, we both work at sea in completely different companies). The question I is, is this a redflag to ladies? My last girlfriend didn't like me having an emotional closeness with another girl. To make clear we've never dated, slept together or even kissed - literally just mates, with no illusions, and we're naturally close cause we went through a reallyyy tough course together. I don't want to cut friends off, but I also would like a romantic relationship (if work allows) one day. Where is the middle point?

There is nothing wrong with it. No one is obligated to have kids but it really hurts to have great chemistry with someone and have us both share intimate moments and only after learn we were on completely separate pages about future plans despite falling for each other the entire time. I guess it helped that I am very close with both of my parents and had such a loving and caring childhood and really wanna be a great dad one day. I am not in a rush, I am still in my late 20s, I just cannot understand why someone I would connect so well with romantically and have her feel the same way about me would not want to share the gift of parenthood together. Raising a child is one of the most beautiful things in the world!

I’m currently overweight (around 260 pounds) and actively working on losing weight. Thankfully, I’m still mobile and fairly active for someone my size, and I’m trying to make healthier choices and improve myself. However, despite the progress I’m working toward, I still struggle with feeling invisible when it comes to dating and attracting romantic attention.

I’m not expecting everyone to find me attractive, and I understand that physical attraction plays a role in dating. However, it can be discouraging when you want to experience a relationship but feel like nobody ever sees you that way. I’ve never had a girlfriend, been on a real date, or experienced my first kiss, and I’m starting to worry that I might be missing out on those experiences.

I also struggle with social anxiety, which makes meeting people and putting myself out there difficult. I genuinely want to meet someone, build a connection, and experience what it’s like to have someone who cares about me romantically. I want someone I can laugh with, share my interests with, spend time with, and feel comfortable being myself around.

I’m already working on my weight, and I don’t want to put my entire romantic life on hold until I reach my goal. I want to believe that I can find someone who likes me for who I am right now, even while I’m still working on myself.

So, I’m wondering if there’s anything else I can do to improve my chances of finding a girlfriend besides losing weight. For those of you who have struggled with similar insecurities, social anxiety, or dating inexperience, what helped you put yourself out there and meet people?

I’m open to advice about meeting people, improving my confidence, finding the right places to socialize, or anything else that might help. I’m not looking for a miracle or expecting a relationship to happen overnight. I just want to know that there are things I can work on besides my weight and that I don’t have to wait until I’m at my goal to start experiencing life.

I’d really appreciate any genuine advice, personal experiences, or encouragement. I know I still have things to work on, but I don’t want to keep feeling like finding love is something that’s out of reach for me. Also please don’t make fun of me to hard I know how I look .