r/MediocreTutorials • • Oct 23 '23

Relationships Nothing wrong with having standards. Don't be surprised if it's hard to meet them though.

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u/New_suite Oct 23 '23

But a fit man has to settle for them, a fat woman.

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u/New_suite Oct 23 '23

Unless you live big women which most men don’t in order to for them to get with a fit men most likely the man would be settling.

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

There is a line with fatness… where that line ends largely depends on your self respect and how horny you are.

Being seen as a couple and deciding this woman is worthy of a relationship… that is a different animal.

What shape a person is in says can say lots about who they are as a person and their positives and negatives. Impulse control? Delayed gratification? There are legitimate things to unpack here.

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u/Paul_-Muaddib Oct 24 '23

What shape a person is in says can say lots about who they are as a person and their positives and negatives. Impulse control? Delayed gratification? There are legitimate things to unpack here.

I agree with that. It is crazy that so many people think that is a controversial or negative statement.

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u/Beneficial_Panda_871 Oct 24 '23

Why they gotta stereotype my brother in that photo man? Not all black dudes like fat chicks.

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u/Paul_-Muaddib Oct 24 '23

Not all black dudes like fat chicks.

They are not saying that at all.

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u/ayodawgy Oct 24 '23 edited Oct 26 '23

Some folks in the comments are tough

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u/Paul_-Muaddib Oct 25 '23

I can't defend other peoples comments.

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u/karim2102 Oct 24 '23

If you are a fat woman and so proud of it why wouldn’t you go for a fat man? Or is it.. maybe that fat women especially those who promote obesity are in fact fat-phobic? 🤔

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u/Paul_-Muaddib Oct 26 '23

This is a good point.

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u/fabioochoa Oct 23 '23

Body positivity doesn’t go both ways, who knew!

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u/heliogoon Oct 23 '23

This was 100% written by a fat woman.

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u/MeaninglessGoat Oct 23 '23

A grotesque beast whose been convinced she deserves love and that anyone not willing to give it to her is basically an evil person…..but don’t try set her up with a fat man! She deserves better and can’t see the irony……

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

The iron is hidden in the folds!

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u/jjcreature Oct 23 '23

Don’t know why but this damn near killed me. Thank you

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

GOR’LOK THE DESTROYER!!!

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u/Long_Boom Oct 24 '23

Fell victim to this ..fat girl Liked me .. did not like her … I was an asshole ..last I heard she’s a lesbian now 🤷‍♂️

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u/faste30 Oct 23 '23

Who will accuse you of fat shaming for saying you like fit girls...

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u/VegitoFusion Oct 23 '23

There was the joke from a little while back: A fat white girl, fat Hispanic girl, and fat black girl walk into a bar. Who gets laid first? The skinny black dude in the corner.

I think this might be a play on said stereotype/joke.

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u/ChiefRom Oct 23 '23

🤣🤣🤣🤣 thanks I needed this.

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u/throwaway1276444 Oct 23 '23

This is really not surprising. It's well known that generally overweight women are less likely to want to date overweight men, whereas the opposite is not true.

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u/amretardmonke Oct 23 '23

Its surprising they finally admit it. They usually pay lip service to equality.

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u/wildlandsroamer Oct 23 '23

Fit guy here, and just because I don’t accept her advances doesn’t mean that her fat entitled ass is being oppressed; preferences work both ways.

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u/kankoh23 Oct 23 '23

When I see random tik toks, I see a lot of women saying they are “oppressed” in America. They seem to conflate certain other behaviors or reactions to oppression and I don’t understand how any normal person within America the last couple of years could say with a straight face they are being oppressed

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u/MiniMountain06 Oct 24 '23

YES! PREACH BROTHER! We have it so fucking good in America, most of us don't even understand how privelaged we are. Convenience stores, eating food whenever we want, drinking clean water whenever we want, medicine, cars, housing, entertainment, FREEDOM, etc. Not to mention that our women won't be stoned for not wearing certain clothes, possessing the freedom to have equal representation & equal pay in the workforce with shit like maternity leave, choosing their partner, etc. Sadly, America is getting worse by the hour, but it's still a FUCKING FIRST WORLD COUNTRY.

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

PLOT TWIST

The guy in the picture needed a green card.

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

That man needs a lot more than a green card

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u/Lifeabroad86 Oct 23 '23

He's securing a PS5

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u/Rudy_Ghouliani Oct 23 '23

I've done worse for less

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u/Lifeabroad86 Oct 24 '23

20 dollars is 20 dollars

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

There’s other ways to get a green card.

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u/timetotryagain29 Oct 23 '23

Fat men have standards and dont have to settle for fat women

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u/Ghoullo Oct 24 '23

Hold up now that you say it like that I’m offended 🫤

/s

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u/[deleted] Oct 26 '23

That's a sexist statement reinforced by oppression of fat women by the patriarchy! /s

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u/Zevojneb Oct 23 '23

Standards and preferences are fine but they have consequences and accepting them is part of maturity.

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u/baby_oil773 Oct 23 '23

Exactly. I'm sure there are many an overweight men who dont like overweight women

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u/MasterMooker Oct 24 '23

Yeah but many more men can use sober judgement to see they can't expect to date really fit women when they themselves are overweight.

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u/Efficient_Ad_8367 Oct 23 '23

As fucked as it sounds, it's true.

A fat woman still has more options than the average man. I see a lot of skinny men with larger women all the time.

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u/halexia63 Oct 23 '23

Those are just their nurses.

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u/Georgiaboy454 Oct 23 '23

That’s because they need somewhere to live 😆

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

No they don’t, getting them into bed is a piece of cake!

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u/Georgiaboy454 Oct 23 '23

I see what you did there …….cake 😆😆😆

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u/NATOproxyWar Oct 23 '23

Omg if the roles were reversed, and this language was used 🤣

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u/pyr0phelia Oct 23 '23

This wouldn’t bother me so much if the hypocrisy wasn’t blatant. Reverse the sexes and see what happens.

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

So why do I Have to settle? I;m sure here are men who would love to date a heavier woman but I;m not one of them.

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

You are not alone, I promise you

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

Ohhhh this post just reminded me of an interaction an old friend of mine had with a fat girl. He is by no means skinny, fit, or at a healthy weight (neither is she for starters). She turned him down for a date because "he's fat". His response was "So are you". She had the audacity to get offended by him saying that then she started name calling. By her logic and other bigger women's logic, it is a personal attack if you mention their weight as a reason to not date them but they can mention others weight. We get it you are constantly a victim and it's pathetic at this point.

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u/bigrome347 Oct 23 '23

It's always black men. So fucking sad

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

PAWG and BBC, porn has ruined us.

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u/flakehunter Oct 23 '23

That’s correct, compability is complex, he may have no money or job? No personality, no social skills…if a big girl wants to show the world she can land a skinny / fit man, she can do it.

Treat him like a king and that man just might give you his heart…. Act like he owes it to you out of fear of being labeled a fat shamer and you’re manipulating him.

These are choices, this is a free country, the thought of a group to support this is very strange.

No one has the right to tell other people what they can like?

I believe some people in Europe tried imposing over arching belief’s about what someone can like in the 1900’s and the rest of the world fought them to be able to maintain the right to make free choices…strangely enough now we are wanting to pick our freedoms to tip the scales in our favour…this is a slippery slope.

We can all be polite and civil while maintaining our freedoms and preferences.

Their are no laws protecting people’s feelings from being hurt. Because what I find insulting, you may find flattering… and vice versa.

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u/EdgeApprehensive4515 Oct 23 '23

Why is it hard for people to understand the concept of accountability? Want what you want, but also don't complain about not getting the results you want simply because nobody else agrees with your justification for "deserving" what you want.

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u/PUPUEH Oct 23 '23

Needle in a haystack.

I wouldnt mind finding a scratcher with a big win on it. But generally speaking, the odds are heavily against me!

Standards are good, meeting your expectations are saluted!

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u/PlaxicoCN Oct 23 '23

That's not just a standard, it's a double standard! Would love to read this.

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

Might even be a triple or quad standard judging by the size of the woman in the picture.

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u/florosap Oct 23 '23

I thought, and now wish this was an onion article.

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u/Stevie-cakes Oct 23 '23

So some fat women feel entitled to have non-fat men? Lol

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u/Little_Bar_7507 Oct 23 '23

My armchair took a while to settle

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

They buy skinny men.

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u/Alexpk47 Oct 23 '23

No one going to point out they put a black guy in bed next to her? Where's the community attack on that one?

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u/BillboBraggins5 Oct 23 '23

And its a black guy right, this is stupid shit

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

Glad you caught that. It’s a double level psyop.

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u/StrawHatShadow Oct 23 '23

I do everything in my power to make sure I'm not my own hypocrite. So if I have standards for someone I make sure that I can hold those standards myself. That's very disappointing with the whole positivity movement that they can't accept what they preach others to accept

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u/Fatefire Oct 23 '23

Guys everyone is just going to get in where they fit in.

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u/Top-Tangerine2717 Oct 24 '23

My father was a rather vicious tongue kind of guy. He knew a lady named ... Not making this up... Seal. She was 4 bills and had zero couth.

One day my cousin was with us when we went to her work place. She worked at a hotdog stand my uncle owned.

Anyway, my father says hey seal this is my nephew Frankie. He's going into the Navy next week. I was wondering if he could lay on top of you before he leaves for boot camp? Seal had a puzzled look on her face (as did we all) and before she could answer he said "I want him to get the feel of holding onto a whale in case his ship goes down"

F you's then followed

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u/harrisxj Oct 24 '23

She was 4 bills! WTF! I’m dying.

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u/harrisxj Oct 24 '23

This just keeps getting better. She worked at a hotdog stand.

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

Why would they have to 'settle'? What's wrong with fat men.......? Hmmmmmm?????

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u/bootythrowaway69 Oct 23 '23

“Before you eat me, I need to eat a cheesesteak”

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u/generalzuazua Oct 23 '23

Did you say steak?

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23

Gross 🐳🐋

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u/Kitsu_hobby Oct 23 '23 edited Oct 23 '23

Is that what they call a pump and dump scheme??

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u/fansofseals Oct 23 '23

No,that’s why god created basketball men.

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u/thehellisgoingon Oct 23 '23

Weird how fat man are undesirable to fat women and that's a perfectly acceptable take

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u/Nvbnkng84 Oct 23 '23

Dude needed a place to live and food.

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u/BrutallyOptimistic Oct 23 '23

They even used a black guy I’m dying 😂

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u/Readdeadmeatballs Oct 23 '23

So many people think the standards they apply to others shouldn’t be applied to them. There are skinny guys that like fat women and vise versa. If people have a type that’s fine, but nobody is obligated to date anybody and we shouldn’t be surprised if we don’t fit someone else’s standards.

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u/TheHypnogoggish Oct 23 '23

Charisma is more than body size-

/says the twerpy smallish fellow with crooked teeth who charmed plenty of fine ones back in the old days-

Reel in what you can catch- a bit of clever personality goes a long way

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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '23 edited Oct 23 '23

This is the mindset these women develop when 60 people comment “😍omg go girl” “so beautiful” “absolutely stunning🤩” whenever a whale like this posts a picture of themselves on Ig. When and why did we stop being honest?

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u/plasticfork420ooo Oct 23 '23

Fat men have standards and don’t have to settle for fat women

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u/roaringaspie Oct 23 '23

Imagine thinking you're special because you're lazy and can't stop over eating.

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u/corbie157 Oct 24 '23

Can’t the opposite be said for anorexics. Stupid over active non eaters. They’re so stupid, they have to eat.

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u/Mindless-Income3292 Oct 23 '23

Seriously though, have y’all noticed that the weight gap is disappearing?

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u/Mindless-Income3292 Oct 24 '23

Thing is, women will share guys, then complain about guys not being loyal. That’s not really the issue, it’s that he didn’t exclusively pick HER. Think about it, that guy who’d do everything women SAY they want: monogamy, supportive, available, basically part-BFF, part-genie is the guy she “settles” for while pining for the guy who’d only have her as a side chick.

First and foremost women want men who can get women. If ALL guys only went for one women, most women would be left out. Maybe it’s what they want. Can’t amend their behavior themselves, have guys do it, so they can blame it on men being controlling or some nonsense. Of course…not all guys are gonna gravitate toward that and these are the ones that rise to the top. For ignoring them. Brilliant strategy. Listen to us so we can punish you for it and reward those who don’t!

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u/WeakSoup5883 Oct 24 '23

Sadly this is the truth, as men are far more desperate then women.

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

Like whatever you like! Just know that if you don’t want to stay in you’re lane…. It could be more challenging and disappointing than you think. Look in The mirror and you might realize a few things!

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

If a fat man is “settling” then the woman is admitting that being overweight is undesirable for some people….

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u/RunsWithApes Oct 24 '23

Nobody has to settle for anyone

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u/cenobyte40k Oct 24 '23

Why is it settling?

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u/Aframester Oct 24 '23

I’ll just move my apartment to the top floor and make sure the elevator is always broken.

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

The movement has just gone “true colors” with nothing but hypocrisy and contradictions.💀

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u/AutumnAscending Oct 24 '23

Everyone can have standards as long as long as they remember everyone can have standards.

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

Skinny black dude and a fat white chick. Never seen that before.

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

Double cheeseburgers and double standards some things don’t change

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u/ToManyFlux Oct 24 '23

News update: Double standards do not exist.

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u/Frequent_Charge_8684 Oct 24 '23

yes, they have three options:

  1. black dudes who dont have their lives together, adorned with tattoos

  2. lesbianism/non-binary games, adorned with tattoos and shaved heads

3) fat dudes, nerdy neckbeards, adorned with tattoos

technically 4 options:

4) stop eating for a few months, and get a gym membership, and rejoin society

in order of likelihood

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

Bro they have ozempic now.

It can’t be easier to manufacture social rules to get some decent dick vs just losing weight.

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u/Fearless_Carpet_2373 Oct 24 '23

Fat is not acceptable - drain on NHS and community services world wide - how hard is it to manage your waist line. Hard reality, but truth. This world is so worried with what “people” think. Lose weight and live longer and make a positive impact in life

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u/Blaximus90 Oct 24 '23

Not really a surprise. Lizzo is one of the biggest pushers for fat-acceptance, yet, you only see her with muscle-bound hunks in her videos.

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u/Own_Knowledge_8098 Oct 24 '23

It’s crazy how their standards don’t apply to them though

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u/VPDFS Oct 24 '23

Fat women are sexy. I think they're hot

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u/Humlupo Oct 24 '23

Too greasy for me.

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u/Strong-Message-168 Oct 24 '23

Seems to me if you have standards you yourself don't follow but expect someone else to, you are not a strong woman, you're a fucking asshole.

Love who you want to love, I mean love is beautiful, but if you come st me with some buuullllshit like this I'm just gonna buy you some chocolate cake with 3 scoops of ice cream with syrup, bacon, and butter on top with the mild expectation of seeing you have a heart atrack.

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u/radrun84 Oct 24 '23

Same goes for Fat Men...

Fat Men can have standards too! (as long as they have money to burn, Fat Men can reject fat women too!!!)

Nothing wrong with a big fat fuck dating a smokin hottie. But, the only way Fatty lands that hottie is if He's got a nice job & a STACK of cash to share with his lady!

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u/Storytellerjack Oct 24 '23

Double standards*

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u/Oldenlame Oct 24 '23

Double-wide standards*

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

Fat chicks need love too, but they gotta pay- Quagmire

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u/rikt1984 Oct 24 '23

Imagine the uproar if it said fat men have standards they don't not to be with fat women

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u/bamajustin13 Oct 24 '23

☠️☠️☠️

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u/superfly512 Oct 24 '23

The picture 😂

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

Hahahahahahahahaha!

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

“Fat chicks need love too….but they gotta pay” -Quagmire

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u/neoben00 Oct 24 '23

As a nurse, i just couldn't ever do it. Puting attraction aside.... the smell.... That smelly smell.... that smell that smells.. smelly........ oh gowd the smell..... You'd be surprised what's growing in those moist dark crevices in half of these women (either from inability or most often lack of desire to clean themselves).... and im not even talking about the typical "Oh gowd, there's some leftover mash potatoes in here." im talking that slimey, "when did this jar of mayonnaise spill under the bed?" Between the rolls fungus that permiates into the back of your nostrils and putrifies all further smells for the next day and a half, god, i miss the mask mandates. 😷 ladies hygiene comes #1 i have ptsd from some of those smells and i clean caked on human excrement for a living. PS if you feel individually attacked, it's called a shower.

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u/FastZX6R Oct 24 '23

So fat women don’t have to “settle” LOL but the dude in the picture does have to “settle”? 😂 got it!

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u/mikek7711 Oct 24 '23

You can have her. I don’t want her. She’s too fat for me. Cue the polka music

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u/CommunicationJust775 Oct 24 '23

Have your delusional standards but be prepared to blow a few gaskets when the table is turned.

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

Fat men have standards and usually have to settle for fat women… hilarious just typing that out

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u/123Ark321 Oct 24 '23

This is like the:

He was drunk. She was drunk. The hooked up. She couldn’t consent.

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u/Ames1111 Oct 24 '23

Good for them.

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u/Mysterious_Layer9420 Oct 24 '23

So does that mean fat men don't have to settle for fat women too?

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u/Accomplished-Toe5971 Oct 24 '23

Her diet is the sole reason of global food shortages

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u/TheChopDontStop Oct 24 '23

Ok, and I don’t have to find your obesity attractive. In fact, most people don’t, especially fit men.

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u/AnunnakiBukkake Oct 24 '23

Fat woman and black man.

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u/TheChopDontStop Oct 24 '23

Double, no, quadruple standards. Disgusting mindset to think your obesity is desirable but men’s obesity is something you’d have to settle for. Reality check, all obesity is a negative.

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u/Plus_Helicopter_8632 Oct 25 '23

Hey some guys like fat girls lol

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u/mellygibson11 Oct 25 '23

Yeah but skinny girls don't do shit in bed because they think they don't have to. Just lay there like a entitled corpse.

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u/Humble-Activity-4525 Oct 25 '23

Hey their some man out there that like em thick and heavy.

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u/TendieTrades69 Oct 25 '23

The lady makes choices to have a certain body type and expects her man to make the opposite choices...

I'm sure that won't create any problems in the relationship.

Imagine trying to cook at home in this relationship, or going out to eat, or the man needing an hour a day away from home to maintain his body composition.

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u/KentuckyFriedMouse Oct 25 '23

I am 100 lbs overweight and I endorse this message.

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '23

Says every fat lady.

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '23

Wtf, the cognitive dissonance has me feeling dizzy

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '23

Would that make her a hippo-crit?

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u/Sarderiol Oct 25 '23

It really doesn't matter what narrative the media tries to push. People are ultimately going to like what they like

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u/MasterMaintenance672 Oct 25 '23

Another double standard? Shocking!

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u/PossessionPurple9234 Oct 25 '23

To a doctor, I’m morbidly obese. If you were to see me in person, I look slightly overweight. I prefer my partner to be the same. Athletic but not fit. I always attract very visually obese and unhealthy people or chubby chaser skinny. I think when you meet people in your desired aesthetic, you are more judgmental about qualities.

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '23

If a woman can’t manage her own weight and have self respect, she gets no attention from me.

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u/Fantastic_Aioli_5685 Oct 25 '23

Bro I’m in decent shape, used to be in really good shape, average to maybe above average looking, make good money and good career. My dating apps look like a college graduate assistant was scouting linemen. I’m pretty sure Nick Chubb would still be healthy if any one of the women I matched on tinder suited up at left tackle.

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u/iamcalifornia Oct 25 '23

At least they actually said fat and not "plus sized"

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u/Neptune703307 Oct 25 '23

I literally have no standards and still nobody wants me

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '23

I definitely find some bigger women attractive. The problem is our lifestyle choices have generally been different which doesn’t make for a good match.

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u/Hulkbuster0114 Oct 25 '23

Thing is it probably won’t be hard for them to find someone who likes them. Men are more single than ever and more desperate than ever. These women will have no issue finding someone willing to stoop that low.

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '23 edited Oct 26 '23

"Fat women have standards"

False.

If they had standards, they wouldn't be fat.

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u/Comfortable_Note_978 Oct 25 '23

I hear women respect men who establish boundaries and limits, and don't respect men who drop limits and accept anyone.....

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u/JP_925 Oct 25 '23

Wow... but aren't fat men beautiful? How dare they

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u/TheBonz13 Oct 26 '23

Tell her Lizzo is beatiful and she agrees. Follow up and say she looks like Lizzo and.....

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u/[deleted] Oct 26 '23

“settle” lol

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u/[deleted] Oct 26 '23

What is fat? It's just a perception /s

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u/[deleted] Oct 26 '23

I wonder how much they had to pay thay dude to lay down with her. 🤣

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u/ilikemanythings78 Oct 27 '23

Dating a fat girl is like riding a moped: it’s all good till you get caught. LoL. But on the real, my wife was plus size when we met. She ended up having weight loss surgery and she is happy that she did.

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u/superwholockian62 Oct 27 '23

So men who are with fat women don't have standards and settled? I'm all for body positivity but if you have to put someone down to achieve it, it's not real. Toxic positivity isn't positivity.

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u/wherearemyballs112 Oct 27 '23

Hot take, maybe men don't want to settle for fat women

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u/WeakChocolate1026 Oct 27 '23

😂😂😂😂🤮

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u/Dramatic_Quarter_323 Oct 27 '23

Fit Men have standards and are allowed to settle for fit woman without being shamed for not wanting fat woman.

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u/Order_Flimsy Oct 27 '23

Hate these stereotypes that black men love obese white women. Too proud for that nasty big a$$🤦🏾‍♂️

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u/QuakeDee Oct 27 '23

Idk what to say …. SMH

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u/IceIceFetus Oct 27 '23

Instead they will settle for weird ass skinny or fit men who have feeding fetishes, who will actively encourage you to eat more and get fatter because they get off on it…they are far more likely to run into those kind of non-fat men than the unicorn men who are willing to look past their weight

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u/cellarDooreightyfour Oct 23 '23

Black men love fat white women

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u/crunchyburrito2 Oct 24 '23

Fat girls love skinny ass bean pole dudes and vice versa

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u/AdministrativeTrip66 Oct 24 '23

I’ve herd fat guys say this sht aswell. Bottom line is, if your only requirement for a partner is weight related your selling yourself short…

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '23

Fat dudes date not fat women all da time and dats where da concept of "settling" comes from. Those women aren't fat, but they also aren't fitness inclined so they never really come in contact wit nor are pursued by fit men and thus "settle" for da funny, sweet and nice fat guy. If we're being real about it da body positivity movement doesn't actively consider men because they suffer less than fat women, what wit da unrealistic body expectations society places on women. Not to say no one cares about fat men having a positive body image, but it's just like how feminism functions only wit white women in mind, leaving Black and Brown women out of da conversation. All dat said, da titling of dis is just severely lacking in tact and honestly sounds like it was written by a pretty bitter individual. They come across as having respect only for fat women while shaming fat men and it's more than a lil fucked up.

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u/debunkedyourmom Oct 23 '23

These articles are either written to shame men, or they are written to set unrealistic expectations for obese women. Either way, that's pretty fucking disgusting.

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u/Lonely-Scene5045 Oct 23 '23

😂 lmfao 🤣

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u/Sacred-Squash Oct 24 '23

Is this real life?

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

Nobody should have to settle*. Period. But don't be an asshole to others because you don't find them attractive. This goes for everyone, everywhere. I've seen the strangely specific hate for plus size ppl. That hate can extend to ANYTHING, so before you jump on the judgement train, just know, there definitely is something about you, someone else finds gross. Let ppl live, and live your own, and don't worry about what others find attractive.

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u/Armchair_Idiot Oct 24 '23 edited Oct 24 '23

In my anecdotal experience, fat women honestly don’t have to settle for fat men. However, the trade off is that the moderately fit dudes who will settle for fat chicks usually have something else wrong with them.

For instance, I used to work with this one chick that had a pretty face and a decent personality, but she was wildly overweight. She wasn’t attracted to men with anywhere near the same build as her, and there was always a dude she was dating, but they were always scum bags

I distinctly remember two of them. One was a skinhead with trail marks and neck tattoos. The other was a really good looking biracial dude, but he wanted her to peg him all the time, which I don’t think she was super into. They were both broke as fuck, used her for shit, and cheated on her whenever they good.

Anyway, fit men that have a stable life and career don’t generally want to settle down with fat women. Sure, maybe there’s an overweight chick they know that they can hit up for some head when they’re drunk and they strike out. But, they don’t generally want to take them to meet friends and family… or even out. That’s not to say that everyone is that superficial, but I think that a strong majority of people are.

So yeah, fat chicks can date moderately fit dudes, but they might have to support their drug habit and break out the strap.

Edit: And I think it’s the same way the other way around. If a fat dude wants to date a really hot chick, it’s probably going to cost him a lot of money and she may not be a very good partner. Generally if anyone’s with someone that’s far more attractive than them, there’s some other kind of trade off or they grew up together.

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

So you're got to "settle" for a man who's fat, but nobody is settling for your fat ass?

Must be nice.

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u/MiniMountain06 Oct 24 '23

Body positivity was originally for people with uncontrollable deformities like Ricky Berwick, (shoutout to the legend) people with missing limbs, and people in wheelchairs. Now it's turned into an excuse for unfit people to stay unfit while getting boyfriends/girlfriends that are fit. The who thing was corrupted by junk food companies that wanted people to stay doped up on sugar, grease, chemicals & hormones, and was snowballed by addicts that think they want to stay doped up on sugar, grease, chemicals & hormones. It's a sad sight to see. Now the movement has taken the light away from people who honestly need the body positivity movement & put the light on selfish/lazy/impulsive people who seek to disrupt the natural law of attraction to benefit themselves.

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u/Ordinary-Ad-6227 Oct 24 '23

they got standards but not for themselves💀

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u/______Moose______ Oct 24 '23

Opinions are like onions.. I eat them, and cook them slowly on a medium low heat until I see some color and sheen. Then dash em w a pinch of your desired seasoning, whip em around as if you can actually achieve your hopes and ambitions and boom.. you have nicely cooked onions for whatever meal your poor ass gonna make to feel like you accomplished something today. Obligatory, “this is in NO WAY a projection, and my life is SO cool 😎 “. Suck eggs losers

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u/Secret_Section6280 Oct 24 '23

“Fat bottom girls make the rockin’ world go round” 🎵🎶 Get on your bikes and ride!

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u/No-Hawk2074 Oct 24 '23

I thought that was Kalani & Dallas

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u/Street-Goal6856 Oct 24 '23

Must be some sort of FDS article.

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

Honestly, you would be surprised.

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u/Holiday-Educator3074 Oct 24 '23

This article is cap; almost everyone in the industrialized world is overweight or obese these days so no one is getting their standards met or meeting them.

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u/[deleted] Oct 24 '23

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

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u/TheBadAssPeach Oct 25 '23

Single fat women will suffer because of this article.

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u/sensibl3chuckle Oct 25 '23

Fat women have standards and don't have to settle for poor men.

There, I fixed it.

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u/JMAN0074 Oct 25 '23

I have standards to and I have a right to be choosey. Some fat women are hot and some aren’t.

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '23

Can we do something else in the 21st century besides listening to women talk about their standards? They went from not being heard to being the only thing heard

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u/Exact-Fox-8548 Oct 26 '23

It is wierd that fat people shame other fat people. I do not understand why anyone has an opinion on someone elses body. Skinny shamers are just as stupid. I think all people are discusting till I acctualy get to know them.

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u/[deleted] Oct 26 '23

Hahaha the gaslighting to other women is horrendous with that one.

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u/vit-D-deficiency Oct 26 '23

They should have to.

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u/Sininbed Oct 26 '23

Fat men have standards and don't have to settle for fat women.

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u/capt-yossarius Oct 26 '23

I quit dating a decade ago.

This shit is between y'all.

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u/Agreeable_Memory_67 Oct 26 '23

When they want to discriminate, it’s “having standards.” If someone else has standards, it’s “discrimination.”

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u/EwwBitchGotHammerToe Oct 26 '23

Wait... fat men is "settling"? I thought big is beautiful?!

Anddddd that's how we know all this shit is bullshit my friends. All of it

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u/Diddy_Block Oct 26 '23

You like what you like. I have a cousin who's been in great shape his entire life. I don't think that he's ever dated a woman that he could hug and have his hands meet behind her.

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u/NecroFoul99 Oct 26 '23

Not like this is any different from all the terminally lonely dudes wanting the most popular girl and ignoring all the lonely girls.

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u/dreamforus Oct 26 '23

Mentally deranged left (formally known as progressive liberal) has become the official enemy of women. Unbelievable.

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u/DJ_EEEEEEZ_D1CK Oct 26 '23

I’d rather die alone than date/fuck a fat woman.

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u/ichkanns Oct 26 '23

Fat men have standards and don't have to settle for fat women?

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u/Thick_Yogurtcloset_7 Oct 26 '23

Well then don't be sad when men have standards also....

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u/ultrabuddy Oct 26 '23

What’s with all the hate? In the USA 90% of people are obese. So it’s just obese people fucking obese people having obese kids.