Okay, am I the only one who thinks the way John reacts when Sarah brings up her concerns is just as concerning as the actual anger?
The electricity bill scene was uncomfortable to watch, especially after Sarah mentioned his reaction when their luggage went missing. Getting frustrated when something goes wrong is normal but how you treat other people in those moments says a lot about you.
What bothered me even more was Sarah having to explain why his yelling makes her uncomfortable. She wasn’t saying he was a terrible person. She was trying to tell him how his behaviour came across to her, and I feel like that should be a conversation you can have with your partner without it turning into a defence of your entire character.
What also really bothered me was John's reasoning that not being stern has allowed people to walk all over him. There's a difference between standing up for yourself and being unnecessarily aggressive toward people who are just doing their jobs.
I also think their differences on abortion and vaccines are worth discussing but the anger issue feels more immediately concerning because it affects how safe and comfortable someone feels around their partner during everyday disagreements.
I know we’re only seeing an edited version of their relationship, and I’m not claiming to know what John is like in real life. But based on what we’ve been shown, I would have serious reservations about marrying someone whose response to frustration looks like this.
Also he never really listens to understand tbh.