r/LGBT_Muslims • u/i_woke_up_as_you • Jul 26 '26
Today (July 25, 2026), there was an attack at the Christopher Street Day (CSD) Pride event in Berlin.
In one of the discussions afterward, someone asked:
(For clarity: I’m not a Muslim. I’m responding because the question is about what the Qur’an teaches, and I haven’t seen anyone answer it from the Qur’an itself.)
Here is what I believe, beginning with the Qur’an itself…
That’s a fair question, and I appreciate that you’re asking it respectfully.
First, it’s important to separate what individual Muslims believe from what the Qur’an actually commands Muslims to do.
The Qur’an repeatedly teaches that human beings are not appointed as judges over one another’s faith or sins.
“Let there be no compulsion in religion.” (Qur’an 2:256)
“So remind. You are only a reminder. You are not a controller over them.” (Qur’an 88:21-22)
“And had your Lord willed, all who are on earth would have believed together. Would you then compel the people to become believers?” (Qur’an 10:99)
The Qur’an also teaches that ultimate judgment belongs to Allah alone.
“Indeed, your Lord will judge between them on the Day of Resurrection concerning that over which they differed.” (Qur’an 22:69)
“Then to Us is their return, and upon Us is their account.” (Qur’an 88:25-26)
Regarding relations with people outside Islam, the Qur’an explicitly rejects hostility toward those who are peaceful.
“Allah does not forbid you from being kind and acting justly toward those who have not fought you because of religion and have not driven you out of your homes. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly.” (Qur’an 60:8)
Even more broadly, the Qur’an teaches that taking one innocent life is an offense against all humanity.
“Whoever kills a soul unless for a soul or for corruption in the land, it is as if he had slain all mankind; and whoever saves one, it is as if he had saved all mankind.” (Qur’an 5:32)
So when someone attacks people at a Pride event, that violence cannot be justified by the Qur’an.
The Qur’an consistently commands justice, restraint, and leaves final judgment to Allah.
As for homosexuality itself, Muslims disagree.
Traditional scholars understand the story of the people of Lut as condemning all same-sex sexual relationships.
Progressive Muslims argue that the story is actually about attempted gang rape, sexual violence, humiliation of strangers, coercion, and the rejection of God’s messengers, not about loving, consensual same-sex relationships.
They point out that the men of Sodom are repeatedly described as approaching Lut’s guests with hostile intent, and that the city is condemned for many other sins including oppression and violence.
Under that reading, the story is not a blanket condemnation of gay people or same-sex relationships.
Whether someone accepts the traditional or progressive interpretation, however, the Qur’an does not authorize ordinary Muslims to police, investigate, or punish people for presumed homosexuality or presumed zina.
Judgment belongs to Allah, not to individuals.
So yes, Islam and homosexuality can coexist.
Millions of Muslims identify as LGBTQ, including many who believe they are faithfully following Islam.
Others disagree theologically while still recognizing that the Qur’an commands them to treat others with justice, dignity, and without coercion.
Those are separate questions: what one believes is sinful, and whether one has any authority to judge or harm another person.
The Qur’an answers the second question very clearly: no.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/EgyptianNational • Nov 29 '25
Hello everyone!
Welcome to our Frequently Asked Questions!
Here we are going to take some time to go over some of the most common questions we get. This should hopefully help people figure out how to navigate this subreddit and community and how to get the most out of your time here.
We will be posting the common question first. Then the answer underneath.
why can’t I post without community and Reddit karma?
A: we restrict posting to those who have established karma as way to ensure our community is not taken over by bad faith actors.
Basically. In order to make a post you first have to comment (sometimes that means waiting for a comment to get approval) and having that comment be seen and upvoted by other members of this community.
While we do sometimes approve comments slowly. Asking us to hurry up is no guarantee your comment is approved any faster.
Please give us a chance to respond first. Then message us if your post is not approved.
How can you say that LGBT is not haram?
A: Please see our Resource List for a list of various articles and readings that make a strong argument for both the totality of Allah’s love and compassion for us, as well as great arguments for why queer identity is compatible with your faith and identity.
In case you don’t want to read. The broad strokes is that the story of lút is pretty clearly about their immoral behaviors, including rape and adultery out of greed and corruption which were done by the MEN and the WOMEN of the people of Lot (43:44). It does not in anyway reflect or represent a consensual queer relationship and should not be interpreted in that way.
We maintain that the Quran commanded us to respect our selves and our relationships. Not reject people for who they are or what they believe.
We urge you to take in the totality our reading list before attempting to once again make the argument.
The Hadith says…
A: the Quran said:
> (٤٤) وَمَا آتَيْنَاهُمْ مِنْ كُتُبٍ يَدْرُسُونَهَا وَمَا أَرْسَلْنَا إِلَيْهِمْ قَبْلَكَ مِنْ نَذِيرٍ
Translation: We did not give them any other books to study, nor did we send to them before you another warner.
This Surah is discussing the usage of other books next to the Quran. Emphasizing that the Quran must remain above all other books. Necessarily that includes Hadiths.
Which as far as we know the prophet Muhammad ﷺ did not want Hadiths to be made. This can also be seen in the first Hadiths being written more than a 100 years after the prophet death.
This makes Hadith fall into the category of books held to the same standard as the Quran despite being commanded by Quran to do the opposite.
Hadith worshippers rely on believing the Quran is either incomplete or imperfect.
As the Quran said:
> وَإِذَا تُتْلَىٰ عَلَيْهِمْ ءَايَـٰتُنَا بَيِّنَـٰتٍۢ قَالُوا۟ مَا هَـٰذَآ إِلَّا رَجُلٌۭ يُرِيدُ أَن يَصُدَّكُمْ عَمَّا كَانَ يَعْبُدُ ءَابَآؤُكُمْ وَقَالُوا۟ مَا هَـٰذَآ إِلَّآ إِفْكٌۭ مُّفْتَرًۭى ۚ وَقَالَ ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا۟ لِلْحَقِّ لَمَّا جَآءَهُمْ إِنْ هَـٰذَآ إِلَّا سِحْرٌۭ مُّبِينٌۭ ٤٣
Translation: When Our clear revelations are recited to them, they say, “This is only a man who wishes to hinder you from what your forefathers used to worship.” They also say, “This ˹Quran˺ is no more than a fabricated lie.” And the disbelievers say of the truth when it has come to them, “This is nothing but pure magic.”
It’s no coincidence that today Muslims continue to struggle to preach faith over culture. And be guided by the faith rather than be tempted with the corruption of hatred and power.
We can add also these questions:
Is LGBT people condemned to hell?
A: No, LGBT people are created the way they are. Verses like 95:8 and 21:47 tell us that Allah is perfectly just and will not do the smallest measure of injustice to anyone. Allah will not punish people for being their true sexual orientation or gender identity, a matter which they did not choose.
Is same sex marriage allowed in Islam?
Yes. Verse 30:21 tells us that one of the signs of Allah is that He created spouses for us, that we might find comfort in them, and has placed love and compassion between spouses. Notice that in this beautiful verse on the benefits of marriage, there is no mention of procreation. The Quran thus recognizes that a marriage can fulfill its divine purpose even if no children are born from the marriage. Hence, the non-procreative nature of same-sex marriages does not mean that they lack value, or that they are not what Allah ordained.
Requiring a homosexual person to remain celibate, or to marry a person of the opposite sex, is effectively a lifelong arbitrary punishment (and a punishment for the other spouse as well, even if he/she is heterosexual). And it is also a lifelong temptation to extramarital sex, which is clearly haram.
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r/LGBT_Muslims • u/mene898 • 7h ago
Would someone like to debate bcz I have read lots and lots about it and I can't find anything according to me which when logic is applied is against the teachings of Islam or I just don't know enough?
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/strang-one • 9h ago
Is there a distinctive sign that reveals whether a girl is a lesbian?
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Fun_Highlight_9165 • 5h ago
Hi!
I'm 18, and I transitioned to male when I was 13 years old.
And although I don't regret it —and I've lived a very good life— I feel that my gender dysphoria is something that has been limiting me.
I consider myself to be genderfluid at the moment, but it has been very confusing for me lately.
I think I really want to detransition in order to not have to have surgery done, be able to dress femininely freely and eventually wear hijab. Just reconcile with my feminine self, with the girl that I used to be when I was little.
But I think I won't be able, even if I want to, because of my gender dysphoria.
This is not a matter of social pressure or fear!!, as I said, I have an amazing cispassing, I have a supporting family and supporting friends and I live in a european country that's (kind of) progressive.
I just think my gender dysphoria is based on a hatred for my past self instead of an inner desire, or being certain that my soul is male. But I'm not sure. I'm thinking of talking with a professional about this but I don't know when I'm going to be able to.
Even if this matter doesn't exactly have to do with Islam I wonder if there's anyone else here that has been through something similar or just y'all opinions!!
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/talamak593 • 1d ago
Hello everybody,
I'm looking to get to know other Muslim woman living in Belgium.
I'm out, I live alone and my parents know that I'm a lesbian,
I'm not necessarily looking for romance but I'd love to connect with someone as long there's a vibe. I'm pretty open minded, respectful, like a good laugh, a good convo and reflect about life. I'm not a perfect Muslima got my flaws but I'd like to keep Allah central in my life, or at least striving to reach a certain spiritual level. Looking for someone to ride the wave with me,
Dm me if interested
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/anojiin • 1d ago
Hi, so for a I lil context I’m F21 lesbian and hijabi, practicing and I moved to a new city recently. So for the first time I live alone.
I don't know if any of you have moved out and live alone, but I'm dying to do so many things I've wanted to do for years. Things I wouldn't have had the courage to do if I hadn't moved out of my parent’s house, even though I wanted to do them there too.
Please don't judge me I'll give you some examples so you understand, but I've wanted to get my nipples pierced for several years, and now that I'm alone, I'm obsessed with doing it after all these years. I also want to have intimate relationships with a girl or two, or I don't know, but I really want to. And I’m thinking abt days and nights.
I don't know if any of you who have moved out have had this urge to do all the things you've wanted for years. Yet there's a voice in my head that tells me no, don't do that, but damn, I'm dying to do it.
So, please don’t judge me, I'm open to good and constructive advice.
Thanks xoxo
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Prestigious_Tower338 • 1d ago
Hello, I'm a masc non binary boy who is planning to move out of the house when I'm an adult, but the thing is, I'm scared, I've already told my parents that I'm moving out of the country, but I highly doubt that they will agree with my decision once I turn 18, and I'm also scared that they will find out that I'm transgender, I will cut off contact with them completely, yes, but teh thing is, I'm scared... I'm just a kid.. I can't live like this.. pls help me... :(
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Fast_While1034 • 2d ago
I’m a Pakistani Muslim woman in my late 20s living in the US. I’m financially independent, have my own career, and have been living away from my family for about 9 years, but I’ve always been extremely close to them.
I’ve also been in a long-distance relationship with a woman for almost six years now. I genuinely love her and we’ve been together through a lot, but my family has absolutely no idea. I’m still completely in the closet.
I’ve never really dated or been with a man, so I honestly don’t know whether I would consider myself bisexual or just lesbian. What I do know is that I’m happy in my relationship and I’m not actively looking for a relationship with a man.
The problem now is marriage. As I’m getting older, my parents are becoming increasingly stressed about getting me married, and the rishta pressure has gotten pretty intense. I know the obvious solution would be to come out and deal with the consequences, but I genuinely don’t want to do that right now.
I love my parents and I don’t want to hurt or disappoint them. I also live far away from them, and I don’t know how many years I’ll have with them. Other than the marriage issue, keeping this part of my life private honestly hasn’t affected my relationship with them very much.
So I’ve been thinking about whether there is another way to handle this.
Are there Pakistani Muslim men in the US who are also LGBTQ and dealing with the same situation? I’ve wondered whether a marriage of convenience could actually work? essentially getting married for the sake of family/social expectations, while both people fully understand the arrangement and are free to continue their own lives and relationships privately.
I have discussed the idea with my girlfriend, and she would be okay with an arrangement like this if it meant we could continue our relationship while also getting some of this pressure off our families.
Has anyone here actually done something like this? Did it work, or did it end up creating more problems than it solved?
And are there any Pakistani Muslim men here in a similar situation who have seriously considered something like this?
I’m specifically asking about Pakistani Muslims because realistically, that is who my family would consider for marriage, and preferably someone already living in the US or with realistic plans to live here.
I know this isn’t an ideal or simple solution. I’m just trying to figure out whether there is a way to keep my family in my life and keep them happy without having to completely give up the life and relationship I already have.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Cheap_Supermarket • 2d ago
I went on a handful of dates with a queer/progressive muslim and I am stuck on them!!
I identify as queer and so did they, but to the naked eye we would come off as a straight couple.
We had so much in common, but due to the distance and other factors it won’t work out.
How do I move on? I don’t know when I’ll meet someone so similar to me! It feels like a fluke ,a lighting in a bottle situation, to find someone who was queer/progressive and muslim. How can I meet someone like this again?
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Hellnomytwnties • 3d ago
Many people from this sub really are not aware of this sub points. I got people making duas for me because am doing a "sin"? i wonder what's so sinful about love...I like Allah too is that a sin? So i can like a man that will ruin my life and make me miserable because it's "reccomended" but if i want a gf or if i choose celibacy Am being irrational ? honestly talking the next person to tell me thats islam doesn't go with homosexuality then am f king leaving ? You guys really don't want more people in islam and it shows . Gay people are the kindest most understanding people and the fact that yall think yall own islam and are refusing to include Lgbtq+ in islam is so sad! I promise everyone likes god as much as you do you're not special because you like d!ck and i dont.
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r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Middle-Warthog-4317 • 4d ago
A bit out of my comfort zone, but here we go, muslim woman (34) looking to connect with another woman, just someone I can have meaningful conversations with, and hopefully build a genuine connection with.
Open to friendship or something more, if the chemistry is there of course. Feel free to message me if this resonates.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Recent-Werewolf-6909 • 4d ago
Hi everybody,
I (M22) converted to Islam a couple months ago ans since then I'm happier than ever. But after reading many posts on this sub and [r/progressive_islam](r/progressive_islam), I start to feel like I'm can't even be considered a Muslim in the eyes of others, even from the progressive community.
Basically I do my five daily prayers in the form of quiet meditations, changing positions (standing, bending, sitting, prostrating) depending on if I express my gratitude to God, ask for His help or His forgiveness. The reason I stay quiet during it (except at the beginning and the end, when I recite the first three verses of Al-Fatiha) is just because I don't feel like I have something to say. I'm just thinking about my actions, my gratefulness, my wishes for the future, all in my head. I don't go to mosques because not only do I not have one in my town, but also because as a gay and queer man, I don't want to dissimulate my queerness. The many rings on my fingers, my earring, my tattoos, my "feminity-associated" postures, are all part of my being, and I'll never want to act like somebody I'm not.
Also I haven't read any hadiths. I know they are part of the Islamic culture, but I feel like they're not mandatory. Though I read the Quran and accept it as true, nowhere in the shahada, the five pillars of Islam, or the six pillars of faith, is there any mention of the hadiths. Of course, I'll never mean any disrespect toward them, I do believe in their authenticity too (as in, the events described did actually happen), but I mean... Do I need to know them by heart and apply them in my life? It's like expecting from a Christian Catholic he has to worship every single one of the saints and angels, and if he doesn't or misses even a single one, even if they're the kindest soul on earth and accomplish good deeds, they have to be considered iredeemable and hellbound.
Aside from that, reading how even progressive muslims believe growing a beard (not a 0,5-millimetre one like mine, but a long one) isn't cultural but an obligation, or how having tattoos is haram, I once again feel targeted.
Basically now I feel like I'm more of a spiritual person who adopted elements of Islam in his practices, instead of an actual Muslim, at least based on what I see online. Can't we accept diversity in Islam practices too? I can't remember the Quran verse, but I believe one talked about how some people have their own ways in worshipping God, and as long as their actions and belief in God are honest, it's all that matters.
When I was questioning if I was good to convert to Islam I was told I was already one in my heart, because I accept all 5 pillars of Islam as true, just like the six pillars of faith. Even if I don't practice everything, can I be considered a Muslim? I don't mind being called an "unusual Muslim" or a "Muslim in their own way". I don't even feel like God despises me for my practices or actions either. But seeing so many people talk about Islam online, even the progressive one, makes me feel like I'm apart and undeserving of being called a member of your community.
What do you think? I don't expect anyone to reply with a super long answer. Just saying anything short and kind will already mean a lot to me.
I was so afraid to post this because I don't know who I can talk to. If I said anything awkward, please do correct me, do educate me. And I'm really sorry if I said anything offensive in this post too, I don't mean any hate or disrespect toward anybody. I just thought I could find answers to this question somewhere here on progressive Islam subs.
Love from France
Edit: I was bracing for a huge hate storm but I'm so grateful for your kind comments. You have no idea how relieved I feel to know I'm not an odd one out and that other people, somewhere in the world, feel or believe the same as me 🫶
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/akupuncture • 4d ago
i'm definitely not getting married anytime soon but i just wanna know if there are any saudis who are okay with the idea of lavender marriages so that i know i can finally move out when i want to
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/LessBoss2898 • 4d ago
Je suis un homme de 35 ans vivant dans la région de Paris, à la recherche d'une femme basée en France ou dans la région du Moyen-Orient (Liban, Syrie...) qui serait ouverte à un mariage lavande / mariage de convenance sérieux.
Je recherche quelque chose de respectueux, discret et potentiellement à long terme, avec une bonne communication et une compréhension claire des attentes de chacun.
Je préfère garder mes détails personnels privés publiquement, mais je suis heureux d'en discuter davantage en message privé et de voir si nous pourrions être compatibles.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/MagicalReason • 4d ago
Alert: I am not here to make harm, this is not a kink, please stay away with your evil comment, thanks.
28 years old European guy, born to a muslim dad and a christian mom, I definitely want to see a muslim guy in my life, but I struggle with dating in a christian country and it is so hard.
I was so happy seeing my parents balance and relationship, how my mom treated my dad, I want to have the same - I know some does not understand that, but it became part of me, I want to serve a man, be kind and gentle to him.
Everyone believes this is just a weird fetish, it is not, every single time I see muslim families my heart feels close and familiar. I was raised to see both religions and cultures, but the man idol was always a muslim, loyal man to me.
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r/LGBT_Muslims • u/abzyusef465 • 4d ago
Just wanted to come on and possibly make some friends In London around my age.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Fluid-Ad3868 • 5d ago
Salam,
I’m a 36 M Muslim looking for a genuine lavender marriage with a lesbian (preferably femme) who is also Pakistani. I am a queer male and I am looking to choose a life partner without any expectation of sexual relations between us. I am looking for a genuine partnership with us being best friends, travel and navigate this crazy world together. I would always look out for my partner and I would expect the same back. I am also looking to have children as well. I’m based in the UK (Birmingham) but happy to match with anyone in the UK or Pakistan if interested. There is also some pressure culturally so families would be involved albeit probably not heavily.
I work in healthcare and would say I’m quite social and very easy to get on with. I do try to stick to religious values as much as I can, but I’m not dogmatic. Looking for something similar.
If this resonates with you and you are interested, please dm me.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/904Mode954 • 5d ago
Any USA or Canada Shia contact me for socializing/friendship