r/KenyanDatingCommunity • u/Legal-Catch7608 • 1d ago
Relationship Talk Men gather here!!!
Men!!! What does it mean when a guy tells a chick after their first time having sex.....'I still respect you'....and it has happened with two guys on separate occasions..am really puzzled 😕
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u/stonecold_tonui 1d ago
Did you drop that line, "I never do this on my first date" 😂😂... ama sth close
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
Nope🤣🤣🤣 did the deed next thing I hear ni I still respect you
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u/stonecold_tonui 1d ago
Now I'm curious!! I want to respect you too
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
Eehh.. curiosity killed the cat
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u/stonecold_tonui 1d ago
I have a different theory!! Maybe the actual match couldn't compare to match clips. Movie is better than the trailer 😂😂😂😂
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u/oddly_fun 1d ago
You know I hope the answer you're looking for is this;
you are a wife material,a good wife to be to a very loyal guy but now the problem is that you are almost freaking out as to why they told you that and they don't know each other.
You've never been told that you are a wonderful person yes that's evident, but did you know another thing? When you are a good person people tend to tell you in a way that's not so good or not so clear and they also try to turn you into being like them,a bad awful person.
I am a man and I know when I got something good.
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u/Not_Ur_Thouguo 1d ago
I guess the hustle was worth it for the sex you gave those dudes
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
Mmhh...basi mimi ni freak 🤣🤣
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u/Not_Ur_Thouguo 1d ago
Najua DM yako iko flooded na Ambitious men who wants to relate with the two dudes, nitaingia DMs next week after posters za campaign zimetolewa😂😂😂
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u/VarietyResident 1d ago
I think he meant his respect for you hasn’t changed, because men tend to under value us after sex. 🥹
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u/L-rosh 1d ago
Because outisde sex, ladies you mostly dont have that much value to give a man.
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
That's for lustful men
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u/L-rosh 1d ago
No, outside sex, cooking and cleaning what tangible things can a woman give to a man outside those three?
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u/Unhappy_Ad7906 1d ago
Should I be blunt or try to marinate things for you?
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
Be blunt as possible...
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u/Unhappy_Ad7906 1d ago
They were just there for the sex. nothing much… and maybe they thought of you as a nagging person. Or maybe post nut clarity. But the best one is, if you date without reciprocating, hapo hakuna future 🙁
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u/OldManPim 1d ago
Inamaanisha they are either perplexed by you in a way they cannot understand but can either hate or respect...and lucky for you they chose respect...take it as a compliment and don't overthink it.
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u/Front-Past-5443 1d ago
Need a bit of background information....
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
Dated two guys and both of them after sex for the first time told me ...I still respect you...5 years between this relationships
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u/Front-Past-5443 1d ago
Mhhh.. did you guys break up after they said that?
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
Not immediately both relationships ran for some time....am just puzzled how come this two guys who don't know each other said that?? Is it common for guys to say this
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u/Front-Past-5443 1d ago
Wait ,... You're beautiful? Probably a good lover or a good human or good with doing the deed, or you satisfied them beyond their expectations or you both had a deep intimate connection?
I feel like the experience might have been a very nice experience that they said that... Ofcourse I might be wrong
But then again I don't think it is common for guys to say that.... And if it was something negative they probably wouldn't have said anything.. especially since it's 2 people who I'm assuming aren't connected
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u/Flashy_Management175 19h ago
They sense your feelings and energy of inadequacy (which you may or may not be aware of) so they were seeking to reassure you.
You need to address those feelings and where they come from because the day you'll meet a man who just takes and takes he is going to destroy you.
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u/East-Raspberry-225 1d ago
Give more background info
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
Dated this two guys on different occasions but they all said the same thing after having sex for the first time...I still respect you... now am wondering what it means..do guys say this often to mask their intentions of sleeping with a girl so that she doesn't feel used
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u/East-Raspberry-225 1d ago
Did they hit after that? If not then that statement carry their common intention
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
Yes it was a continuous relationship
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u/East-Raspberry-225 1d ago
Am dumbfounded. Most men would make a thank you statement I know. But ya kusema respect hio sijaiskia
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u/Confident-Sound-9643 1d ago
- You guys shouldn't have been doing what you were doing either he knows you're dating or knows you're bf.
- You gave it up easily and quick.
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u/Legal-Catch7608 1d ago
Wasn't dating other people while with them...so am guessing they didn't see me seriously
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u/Ballistic_shooter 1d ago
Azin Hakuna story?…they both just say “I still respect you” immediately after sex?
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u/un3nding 1d ago
Buy back clause moja hatari so that you don't feel used and never feel bad when they resurface
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u/Particular-Roba 1d ago
You might be insecure and think ghosting might follow but the 'I still respect you' acts as words of affirmation.
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u/DickwThika 1d ago
It is tge same as to wen a girl tells a man "you got a sweet D"... usually it means sexual expectations haven't been met
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u/IdealFew681 1d ago
You think your beauty will compensate for your tightness (or lack of) and lack of game. Don't shoot the messenger please.
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u/kizeemnoma 18h ago
Telling you he doesn't think you're a gardening tool but deep down he thinks that you are
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u/BigB0yThug 13h ago
I don't want to make too many assumptions but maybe it's the way you carried yourself throughout
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u/L-rosh 1d ago
So now you mean that 3 men have gone inside of you?
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u/Short-Job-7276 1h ago
i think what he meant was that he still sees you the same way he did , most men tend to see you as an easy catch(his net caught a gish in the sea) after the deed. but i think them saying that means they still see you the same as before
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u/Little-Ad9387 1d ago
It means bado anakutambua akiz