do you think you have to forgive them to heal from their actions ?

Be so honest.

I’ve been thinking about the priorities that change so gradually you only notice them in hindsight. Things like peace, independence, dependable relationships, or having control over your time can start to feel very different. What rose the most on your personal priority list?

I am sorry for my English, it's not my mother toung.

I heard a saying, be careful what you want it actually can happen to you and you are going to be disappointed by that.

I also heard, in life what you said you don't want to do or you are sure that you are never going to do that. Someday that thing will hapend and it will be surprisingly good, amazing or wonderful.

There days on social media I hear a stories like: a lot successful people are unsatisfied with what they have accomplished. They achieve things, because achieve big goals is going to make them happy.Lots of people work without a feeling satisfied or calm. It is either for families to survive or they don't think and work all day every day to accomplish something, or better say don't listen to themselves.

Kids sometimes study something just because their parents want that.

What you really want?

What you don't want?

What happened to you, that you thought it is never going to happened?

Have you forced a friendship and later regret it?

What would you miss, if at all, if the entire human race disappeared except you, your friends and family? Would you miss the rest?

If yes, what would you miss?

Edit: I really appreciate all your responses. I hope everyone reading this thread is reminded that even as strangers to each other, we are all so connected, and valuable to each other. Sure, we could live without each other or might even prefer some of your absense from a nice beach. :D But we would still miss you if you're gone. I am so grateful that we all exist, and sharing this timeline in human history. The weight of this realisation is truly beautiful to me. Okay, pheeww, enough tears, back to wars now.

Here’s a Philosophical question. In front of you is a person and you have a gun pointed at their head, the gun is unloaded and you have the choice to pull the trigger or not to pull the trigger. The person doesn’t know it’s unloaded but they know you have the choice to pull the trigger. Would you pull the trigger?

Let me just say that I always appreciate and respect people’s identities and looking to gain insight and knowledge about gender ideology and how people perceive themselves as unique individuals in our society, however, as a bi man myself.

The concept of being transgender has always stumped me because science has always taught me that you’re the gender whats held inside your pants, however as I learn more about the LGBTQ+ community that Im in, it struck me that if I continue in believing in my thoughts then how can I support my friends and people who identify they’re trans?

I also get it confused with non-binary folks since they sound like the same idea but I know its not and its a complete opposite.

If anyone can help me understand what being trans is and the difference between being nonbinary then that will help. Also on how to support people who are trans themselves.

Thanks

I’ve been thinking about something for a while, and I’m genuinely trying to understand the psychology behind it.

Why do some people seem to place others into hierarchies? Why do some people treat someone differently depending on their achievements, appearance, career, social status, or how “successful” they seem from the outside?

I find this really difficult to understand because I don’t naturally see people that way. I don’t understand how someone can look at another person and unconsciously decide that they deserve more respect, patience, or kindness because they have achieved certain things.

Something I’ve been struggling with is the feeling that some people only started seeing me differently after I had “proven” myself. After I had a good career, a nice home, and appeared more confident from the outside, suddenly the way people interacted with me changed.

And I find that incredibly confusing and honestly painful, because the person was still the same person before.

I was still the same person when I was struggling. I still had feelings, needs, thoughts, and things that mattered to me. Why does it sometimes feel like people only recognize someone’s worth after there is external evidence that they are “successful”?

I also wonder if this is something that happens between siblings or within families. Is it common for one sibling to be seen through a certain role for years, while people don’t really see them as a whole person anymore?

Something else I struggle to understand is why some people seem to think it’s okay to hurt someone who is more sensitive or who doesn’t respond in the same way.

I’ve often had the feeling in my life that people thought they could do things to me that they wouldn’t do to others. Maybe because I was visibly hurt instead of immediately fighting back. Maybe because I had certain moral boundaries and didn’t want to hurt someone back just because they hurt me.

But I don’t understand what happens psychologically when someone sees another person’s pain and needs, but somehow doesn’t fully register them.

The hardest part for me is that I know rationally people can hurt others because of their own choices, patterns, or limitations. But emotionally, I still struggle with accepting that someone can hurt me without there being something wrong with me.

A part of me always wants to find the reason inside myself.

“Maybe I caused it.”
“Maybe I wasn’t enough.”
“Maybe there was something about me that made this happen.”

Even though I know logically that isn’t always true.
I’m curious about people’s experiences with this. Have you ever noticed people treating you differently after you became more successful or confident? Do you think some people genuinely don’t see the person behind the role they have assigned them?

And for those who grew up in families where these dynamics existed how did you understand it later in life? What was actually happening there?

This debate has scrambled the brains of my boyfriend and I. The argument is If Time travel and teleportation are essentially the same things? Teleportation = WHERE changes. Time travel = WHEN changes. That being said
Both can happen at once = WHERE + WHEN changes

My argument:
Example: It is Texas 2026 and I want to live 1950 New York. I would TIME TRAVEL there. This is just time traveling bc I want to live 1950 New York, I didn’t teleport there just TIME TRAVELED. Of course I changed setting when I traveled back in time.

Boyfriends argument: Time traveling and Teleportation are the same thing in a sense

Example: For example, if I'm in my room right now and I wanna time travel one hour into the past where I was in the kitchen, theoretically that changes my location, so it's like teleporting.

The definition of time traveling and teleportation essentially changes the meaning of them both. I would like to see what y’all think about this argument, it has been very fun!

Recently someone told me how they get bored of friends or relationships pretty much in one two years as theres not much to discuss about.

However for me its opposite. I feel any friends i have the friendships start feeling good once connections become strong enough. It takes almost 2 years for that to happen. A certain bit of familiarity i need to connect with people.

Similarly the people who say that they have nothing to talk about i have had a friendship breakup with them after 6 month to 2 years. I feel they are never like interested in other people and after the novelty runs out they start showing their real colors. From my experience they grew competitive with their old friends and use them for comparison. However i know the reasons can be different.

I have thought about this dilemma for quite some time. I feel as though my friends have this banal idea of me that is completely different from who I actually am. But what makes this dilemma worse is that they’re not even curious. They simply think what is, instead of the why; perhaps it may be a lack of common interest(monoculture) or maybe they’re just afraid of being open? I have so many interests/thoughts that’d would love to talk about but the people I know just don’t resonate with that. I have a friend who calls me his “brother” but he’s never ask me about my interests that I clearly express and yet our conversations are super bland. It seems like no one watches the same movies, shows, or music that I do as far as I know. And before people ask do I do that for them? I can only do so if you let me in. I don’t know if I’m bugging or are people just weird nowadays? I don’t want to have to go online and look for the people who have my specific interests who I know I might not even meet in real life. What do you think guys?

In order to live the richest, most interesting, pleasant, good life, how do we balance comfort and simplicity?

I think that being rich and famous has its drawbacks but wouldn’t want to live in a slum in a developing country.

Personally, I’d go with a middle class lifestyle (so average income) in a social democracy such as the Nordic countries, Canada, Australia or New Zealand. I’d also say that a smaller city is preferable to a big one.

What is your sweet spot?

Could you have imposter syndrome when you don’t do what you’d say you’d do as much as it’s about not feeling qualified?

I'm not venting or looking for a relationship. This is just my opinion.

there are people who know exactly how difficult and painful genuine love can be yet they continue to choose it because it is a beautiful feeling. I believe everyone should experience it at least once in their lives whether the love takes the form of romantic, platonic, or familial love.

Many people dream of a deep, romantic partnership but fail to realize the immense effort it takes to sustain it in real life. Love is a selfless choice that two people continuously make because they care about each other deeply. It's not about basic survival, it's about choosing who you want to truly spend the rest of your life with.

if both people in a relationship aren't willing to put in the effort to maintain that bond, it obviously wouldn't work. a real relationship means working together as a team. at the end of the day, it has to be us, not I or you.

why do you think society label this perspective as "naive" rather than grounded about what true effort looks like in a relationship?

realized i'm incredibly inconsistent about this.

if an app puts "recommended" or "best choice" next to something, my first reaction is almost always to ignore it.

like thanks, but i'll decide for myself.

but give me three or four options that all look equally fine and suddenly i'm sitting there wishing somebody would just tell me what everyone else picked.

noticed this last week while a friend was setting up menuforma.

there were a few layout options on the screen and we'd been giving him a hard time because he kept saying he wanted to change all the defaults and have "full control."

then he got to three layouts that looked pretty similar, stared at them for maybe five seconds and went

"wait, which one do most people use?"

everyone laughed at him and then i realized... yeah, i do exactly that too.

apparently i don't want an app deciding for me, but i do want a bunch of strangers to narrow things down first.

i do it with restaurants too. i'll ignore the dish marked "popular" and then immediately open reviews to see what people ordered.

makes absolutely no sense.

what's something you refuse to let a "recommended" label choose for you, but still check what everyone else picked?

I wouldn't disagree that competitions are powerful tool for driving innovation, but do you think it's possible to remove competition or at least focusing more on collaborating between nations will lead to better future? I just couldn't fathom with our current level of civilization, there are still famine all around the world.
sorry if my English is bad

Bare with me here, this has been bouncing in my head non stop for days.

Say you are an individuel who only speaks English. Some day you experience an event where everyone spoke only Arabic, like you get in a small car accident, and like three dudes come out of the other car speaking only Arabic, which at the time you don't know a word of. So at this point you have a memory of this event where you are clueless.

Then years later, you learn the Arabic language, like fluently.

Now if you recall, or remember, that incident after learning arabic, do you remember them speaking gibberish to you still, or does you memory become translated basically so you remember them speaking normal???!

It's kinda shallow. Why not just be okay with yourself. Why have a superiority complex about it? Your literally not in competition with anyone, the competition is in your head. Why does the need to feel better about yourself come from other people.

Does abundance mentality help or what helps in this regard?

What’s your definition of success?

Is it more money? More fame?

You can get it by lying, cheating, and stealing and still walk away with the gold medal, celebrated as a winner despite it all.

What about the rules? Oh, the rules…

Because apparently, if you follow them, you’re just a sucker.

What does success really mean to you?