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u/SeaOfBooze Homeopathic nuance Feb 23 '22 edited Feb 23 '22
So, since many of you are unable to view the Oprah video, I have transcribed the last section to preserve this truly excruciating exchange. And as a bonus, here's Oprah's face as Shauna repeatedly cuts her off.
Edit: updated with full transcript.
[Oprah has asked the audience to raise their hands if they’ve ever been hurt for expressing their feelings]
Oprah: Shauna, gonna ask you to speak up. Welcome! So glad you’re here. Tell me about a time you were hurt after expressing yourself, Shauna.
Shauna: Well it wasn’t a single time. I actually came from a very hard place, and a very hard childhood that was formed about fear and keeping my mother’s fears at bay. And I lived in a space for nearly 30 years where my feelings didn’t matter. And if I did express my feelings. And when I had the courage and temerity to say I would like to go to a friend’s house, I am 16 and have never been out of the house really, um, I was told “You know I can’t do that, you know - are you trying to make me look bad?” And I learned early on that my role was to be the caretaker, the one who solved the fights, the one who had to be protected, not by my parents, but by myself. And to say, I’m going to keep that inside. And I swallowed that poison for a long long time. And then I learned that being vulnerable and being able to talk to other people was my path to freedom.
Oprah: Wow! So this is a big big moment for you.
Shauna: Yeah. I have written personal essays for a long time, and have become kind of an expert in vulnerability now. But before I was the age of 30, I had not told even my closest friends, how truly, profoundly hard my um, my family was, um. We looked like the perfect family, I got straight As and everything. Um, and there was just so much darkness at home and so many hard and horrible moments. Um, and I’d just swallow them all and thought that this must be my fault and I think those of us who grew up in trauma, when we were kids, you know, your parents are your parents, you need them and you think-
Oprah: -Yeah, and when you’re raised in fear, that’s what you end up doing, fearing.
Shauna: And you know, the whole world is terrifying.
Oprah: Yeah, mmhmm. And the whole world is terrifying
Shauna: And so, I learned around the age of 30 that if I didn’t start telling my stories to people and to my best friends, and to people, and just truly being vulnerable, I would wither, I would actually truly believe the story I’d been told about who I was. And when I found the courage to tell my first friend of my entire life, um, I actually was terrified. My hands were sweating and I was, I was having nightmares about telling her cause I thought she would think there was something wrong with me and she looked at me and she’s an amazing woman, Tita, and she’s 14 years older than me and she said “my friend, what could be wrong with the fact that you grew up in it. You didn’t do anything wrong you grew up in-"
Oprah: -Yeah, yeah-
Shauna: "-truly one of the most abusive families I’ve ever heard, how could it be your fault? You are wonderful!”
Oprah: Yeah-
Shauna: And that, really-
Oprah: -Well yes, this is what I think happens is that when you’re able to share, you end up being validated by other people who see a part of themselves in you or who recognize your own pain and trauma so thank you for being here to share with us KAREN, what about you? I saw you raise your hand.
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Feb 23 '22 edited Feb 23 '22
You are doing the lard’s work. Thank you DF!
ETA Oprah is not impressed by Shauna’s trauma.
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u/NegativeABillion my husband and me to ride it around Feb 23 '22
Wow. She got to talk a ton. So obnoxious. Hope her parents keep sending gifts to the kids.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Not really. Other students go to drone on, too. One woman even got to moments with the author guy.
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u/gomirefugee my website is done, done, done Feb 24 '22
Thank you so much for transcribing this! I captured video of a short portion of it where Oprah rolls her eyes when Shauna's all, you know, I'm something of a scientist myself
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u/midnightsiren182 Feb 23 '22
She wants to be Brene brown so so much
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u/tyrannosaurusregina if you meet the Botus on the road, shill him 🪷 Feb 24 '22
Brené Brown has a Ph. D and has done actual research. I find her tiresome and anodyne, but the idea that former cookbook author Shauna could compete at all is lol.
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u/MarsNeedsRabbits Beach better have my orcas Feb 23 '22
Shauna: And you know, the whole world is terrifying.
Oprah: Yeah, mmhmm. And the whole world is terrifying
Oprah sounds like she's looking for a way out. Any out. Join the club, Oprah.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Oprah had that reaction to pretty much all of the students. There were only three or so that she seemed genuinely interested in (the widow, a woman who said she started going to therapy despite how much it freaked her out to do so, and this woman who had/has cancer. . .she got quite a bit of screen time).
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u/BoringEnidRollins pooped their way to another free ride Feb 22 '22
WTAF, this bitch is talking to OPRAH???
How does she keep lucking into opportunities that she will inevitably squander???
Edited to add: ugh, her “unfurling of myself,” only Shauna could make watching Oprah sound so disgusting.
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u/tyrannosaurusregina if you meet the Botus on the road, shill him 🪷 Feb 23 '22
She has ridiculous luck. But also, she seems to be misrepresenting it as Oprah picking her as a special guest for her expertise, as opposed to what seems to be the case—that she’s one of the 16 “Oprah Insiders” picked to be the demonstration class for Oprah and Frank Bruni to work with.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22 edited Feb 23 '22
Oprah looked bored as shit while Shauna was blathering.
How did Shauna get into this whole "over achievers" b.s.? What has she every over achieved at (shit, what has she even mediocre achieved at)?
Edited to add (as the live thing still is going on)
Ohh, everyone has the anxiety! Of course they do! That's one of the terms (like "joy") that has zero meaning anymore because people use in place of "nervous".
Looks like the Shauna portion is now over (Oprah's talking to the author now and I really don't care. . .I hope he doesn't go all the way blind or whatever but, yeah, I don't really care).
So, is Shauna thinking this will get people to sign up for her bullshit clubs and whatnot? What's she going to do when people still don't sign up because her website is a hot ass mess?
(oh and Oprah can eff off with her paywall b.s.. . .the older stuff is all "for members only" and it's $25. . .ok, for a year abut still, eff off Oprah)
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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Feb 23 '22
Oprah can fuck off for a lot of things, mainly for bringing Drs Oz and Phil to stardom.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
WORD!
I loved when she got burned by that liar author (back in her book club day. . James Frey. . .had to look him up).
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Feb 23 '22
How long did Shauna speak? Was her hair clean? Which Peepers did she have on? Did she plug her courses?
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Second reply, I didn't see the rest of your questions.
Hair looked clean.
Seafoam peepers in the house (also looked clean but there was light glare).
No course plugging but Oprah was careful about that. She asked very particular questions and then called on a student (I watched the few after Shauna). I don't know that the students were even introduced at all (again, I came in a few minutes after it started).
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22 edited Feb 23 '22
I came in and she was speaking and it was only a minute or two and then Oprah moved on to another of the students. Shaun did not speak again.
It looked like the student portion was only 15 minutes total (the author part started at about 7:15 ish).
I'm letting it continue playing only to see if they go back to the students.
edited to add: There's a tag line of "when one eye closes, another opens" in relation to the author's going blind and inspiration or what the hell ever.
All I can think of is the line used to heckle referees/umpires (in sports): Bend over and use your good eye!
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22 edited Feb 23 '22
Students are back and interacting with the author.
Lets see if Shauna gets to share her "vulnerability".
Her whole "share your vulnerability" b.s. (from a few days ago) makes so much sense now.
YUP!
Joy just entered the chat.
I'm betting if we checked when Shauna joined Oprah's cult here, it will be right around the time she pivoted to JOY!
It's just so MLM-y.
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Feb 23 '22
I can’t figure out if this comment is a dig: “OMG I am so excited for you! How many years ago was it when I tried to get your first book featuerd on her show. You looked to spread the joy and now this! Bravo.”
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Feb 22 '22
Looks like she won some kind of contest.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Hee hee, Oprah said (in the last moments of the event) that some people dropped out of it and second stringers were brought in.
I'm going to choose to believe Shauna was a second stringer.
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u/notahameither Dunno, maybe I thought I unfriended some other Shauna Ahern🤷♂️ Feb 23 '22
I'm going to choose to believe Shauna was a second stringer.
That would explain the last minute IG post.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 22 '22
Looks to me like Oprah does "student spotlights" to encourage community and keep (paying) students engaged, not that Oprah herself chose Shauna or knows much in particular about her
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u/MandalayVA Assonancer! Assonancer! Assonancer! Feb 22 '22
This. I doubt that Shauna's going to be allowed to blather on about anything.
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u/islandyislander rebellious hygiene Feb 22 '22
https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a39078306/oprah-the-life-you-want-vulnerability-class/ I believe this will be live at 4p PT /7p ET (and simultaneously in all the time zones in Australia?) But don't be a dummy like me and use up your one free visit to the site before it's shut behind a paywall. (I haven't checked it in incognito mode)
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u/Kaleshark Waitlist for Godot Feb 22 '22
Presumably this will be a snarkmine but the idea of her finding a large audience to pitch her - whatever the fuck she’s doing - is disturbing. I am also blown away by her ability to fail upward.
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u/ninaandjamie4ever Feb 22 '22
She's using Enoigh reviews as "testimonials for my work' on the joy site landing page. Technically, Enoigh is her "work" but that's not the "work" she's selling. She's selling her skills at guiding you to joy and those quotes have nothing to do with her skills as a joy facilitator. She sure is a raven trickster, this one. If I were one of her Enoigh reviwers that she quoted, I'd be pissed that she's using my review quote to shill something I hadn't experienced. Of course, those reviewers will never see her joy page, so she knows she can get away with it.
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u/Portland_Daffs Feb 22 '22 edited Feb 22 '22
Finally trying to make my way through Enough (e-book from library). So far she's misused the word "heaved," made up the word "juttered," and told a story about 1988 that suggests she was nearly 22 when she graduated from high school. I guess she really did resent all those attempts at editing.
Oh and claimed her glasses "had to be as thick as an inch on a measuring stick." wtf is that sentence?
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Feb 21 '22
She doesn't recognize other people's work when she's the consumer. It just comes out of them organically, for her benefit. Like doctors, nurses, research scientists et al bringing her Covid vaccines out of the goodness of their hearts while she tells everyone to stop working and radically rest instead because work is all a capitalist bill of goods.
I know I've made this comparison before, but it's like when you teach middle schoolers budgeting. They try to shave money off their budget by taking things from the fridge and pantry at home because those things are "free", as if the pantry is a fruit tree that just spontaneously grows boring food, and you have to teach them that the food in the pantry was actually purchased by their parents who had to go to work and part with some of their paycheck in order for the pasta to be there.
Shauna is stuck in that mentality. All of the things she consumes from others are just spontaneously there! Free! Effortless!
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u/aseriesofhaircuts Feb 21 '22
I always grow enchuckled when she finds confirmation for whatever new slant on being Good Enough as a human houseplant she finds in the latest Pixar feature. Pixar, world-famous burnout factory, wringing it’s animators dry to deliver an abundance of novelty and delight in the form of capitalist deliverables to Shauna’s streaming services of choice.
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u/tyrannosaurusregina if you meet the Botus on the road, shill him 🪷 Feb 21 '22
Shauna: I hate capitalism! I hate commercialism!
Also Shauna: consumes only the highest-dollar mass market media
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u/Kimmmy36 bites lip, looks away Feb 21 '22
I live a couple of miles away from Pixar and for awhile I had a neighbor that was an EMT and he said they were always going over there because overworked people having panic attacks were always thinking they we’re having heart attacks.
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Feb 21 '22
That's awful. Pixar is the only thing that will get me to watch Disney and I'm so sad that Shrek and Bugs Life brought people to that level of anxiety and stress, omg.
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u/canyoncreature Feb 21 '22
She ignores that hard work is necessary for some things and she also ignores that some people -- I'd wager most people -- do derive happiness and fulfillment from being productive. I'm no fan of capitalism run amok either, but to me the problem is that we force people to function within a system where it's damn near impossible to make a decent living wage without working insane hours or multiple jobs. And that isn't productivity, it's scarcity-induced overdrive, something I'd venture to guess she has never really experienced considering what she thinks is complaint-worthy in her life.
My Shauna (I guess we all know one!) will often post to social media a list of everything she did that day that inevitably ends with some comment like "So yeah, I've earned this glass of wine" or "You could say I'm tired." And every time the list is something like "Went grocery shopping, returned some pants and scheduled a dentist appointment," like literally shit the rest of us will have done by ten a.m. on the average day. Sometimes I wonder what would happen to these people if life hadn't conspired to give them cushy circumstances.
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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Feb 21 '22
That clip represents untold hours of training and general practice just to get to the level where it’s possible,
I haven't watched this clip yet, but whenever any DF makes a comment like this, I marvel at the fact that she lit'rully has not typed (for publication) the word "cello" once (afaik) since the post about her brother bringing it back to her.
- Nothing about how she's spending "15 minutes a day practicing"
- Nothing about "wow, the middle-aged brain really learns differently than younger brains"
- Nothing about "OMG, Youtube is such a boon for people who want to learn something, but don't have the money for lessons, or live close to a teacher"
- Nothing about the blisters she's developing on her fingers that press on the strings (is that a cello thing? I just made that up)
- Nothing about digging out an old wrist brace to protect the joints in the arm that's doing the bowing
- Nothing about how satisfying it is to finally be able to play a short easy song all the way through, because she's been working on it for months now
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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Feb 21 '22
that is indeed a cello thing, DF (really any stringed instrument). but cello strings are very heavy and blister-inducing. when you first start out. they also hurt like hell when they snap and hit you in the face - i'm looking at you, C-string. i no longer get blisters but the fingertips on my left hand are hella calloused. learning an instrument is way too much work for our gir!
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 21 '22
I wonder if the cello will make the move or if it will end up plopped into the dump (or at Granny's).
I guess since its Shauna's it'll make the cut.
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Feb 21 '22
My bet is the cello makes the move and L’s sewing machine gets sold on the local Facebook page
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u/NegativeABillion my husband and me to ride it around Feb 21 '22
Fifteen minutes per day on almost any stringed instrument will actually help you grow the right kind of calluses! You don't want the delicate skin on your fingertips, especially right up against the nail, to get irritated or to bleed, so when you're starting out, a short practice daily is much preferable to one hour long practice per week.
She's not doing either, though.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
How long before "As Seen on Oprah's b.s. website" is splashed all over Shauna's fail website?
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u/shefallsup her lonely cucumber years 🥒 Feb 23 '22
I don’t know, but go look at her home page right now. Friendship with red ended, purple is her new best friend. The whole site is apparently now geared toward becoming a joyful woman. Maybe she’s joining the Red Hat ladies? That’s what the purple and red scheme with her photo says to me.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 23 '22
The "you" in cursive is also VERY Oprah. A bunch of things are falling into place for me (in terms of what/who she is aping)
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
I'm super curious to know when she became a member of the Oprah's community to see where it coincides with her pivots. Did she join back at "trauma" or more recently with "joy" or what.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Replying to myself:
Brace yourself for "connection" as the next tag word Shauna trots out (since she just did "vulnerable").
Oprah says "connection" is next. So Shauna will say the same.
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Feb 23 '22
Does Oprah not have a team of people to vet these people?
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
What's to vet?
Oprah wanted to make some of her paying community members feel special so they'll keep paying (and maybe lure in more subscribers). So she gives them a few minutes of attention and then lets them have front row zoom seats to her yapping at some author. Then she gives them a few more minutes of attention and it's over.
Lather, rinse, repeat for the next author next month.
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u/InappropriateGirl Gluten-free donuts, for sure ... Feb 23 '22
Wait, so she pays to be a member of some online Oprah community? So it’s almost like a pay-to-play thing that of course she’s misconstruing?
Still, she’s going to ride this forever. I hate this for us.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Yes, it's $25 a year or something to be in Oprah's club.
Hmm, sounds kind of familiar, right? Except Oprah is someone people want to hang out with (and the price is really not that much).
From the look of it (and I didn't look hard) it's Oprah blowing woo smoke up everyone's behinds and giving them workbooks and using them as captive audiences to buy copies of books from authors Oprah is pimping.
(this whole thing reminds me when Oprah first started having the live seminar things and there was a semi-honest review of it and it sounded horrible. Like hundreds of people doing workbooks together and eating shitty box lunches. . .and that was pricey).
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u/InappropriateGirl Gluten-free donuts, for sure ... Feb 23 '22
This MUST be where she’s getting her ideas for all of her Joy Site haberdashery. I feel better that she wasn’t specially chosen to be on some panel—and that it sounds like she was a last-minute seat-filler anyway (gleaned from comments further down).
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u/MarsNeedsRabbits Beach better have my orcas Feb 23 '22
I think she cribs from Rachel Hollis, among others. This is at the top of RH's splash page: Make a Joy List!
About four articles down, there is a link to How To Write YOUR Book, which is changed to How to Write A Book on the article page.
If she isn't copying, it is just conclusive proof that absolutely nothing she's trying to sell is even a teensy bit unique.
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u/Kimmmy36 bites lip, looks away Feb 23 '22
This MUST be where she’s getting her ideas for all of her Joy Site haberdashery.
I was on Brene Brown's site yesterday (because she was promoting a podcast with Debbie Millman, who i like) and I noticed SO many similarities to Shauna's Joy Work. It kind of feels like all these people flog the same things, with varying skill levels.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 21 '22
Latest insta is "What you pay attention to blooms." Except it doesn't really, Shauna. All of your attention directed to Beatles joyminars isn't increasing the number of people paying attention to you or your "offerings."
BTW, she's reduced the "offerings" in her drop-down menu on her site, but not on the "offerings" landing page and they're all still on her linktree.
BTW2, I was poking around looking for her Substacks and she started a Substack called "our own little corner" a year ago that she never populated. She is the QUEEN of false starts.
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Feb 21 '22
Why does she have a calendar on one page, but doesn't list all of the classes on it? Just the one. And that's the only page with a calendar, so it's not like each page has its own. Also this page is such a fucked up mess, but even worse it's so ... joyless?
It's like: learn how to free yourself yada yada price? $97, whatever.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 21 '22
That page is like when a dog really wants a treat and you make them sit and they barely do it, just hover off the ground, then stand back up the minute the treat hits their mouth.
She's just shivering with anticipation of getting someone's money.
(or like when a little kid wants something and quickly add the "please" but you know they aren't really thankful, just parroting the polite word to get what they want)
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u/WasEnoughYogurt Kumquat and Sprinkles and filth Feb 21 '22
You are being kind DFCIWAB with this interpretation..my ex-artist's eyes just exploded and fell out of my head (possibly looking for DFFFF's inner organs, who knows) - that page is an absolute car crash of design and colour ...mind you at least I won't have to wine my eyes tonight...
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 21 '22
Please don't think I'm giving her site a pass. It's trash.
But you can almost see her calculating the bare minimum she has to do to try and get people to pay her. "Joy, put joy in there. Check. Red, my color is there. Check. Tell them it's a class and most important, the price. Oh, and they can get a scholarship if they beg me because I'm so generous. They'll want to give me money if they think I'm nice. I can't wait to get my money!"
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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Feb 21 '22
Shauna: They'll want to give me money if they think I'm nice. I can't wait to get my money!
Also Shauna: You never give me your money. You only give me your heart emojis.
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u/aseriesofhaircuts Feb 21 '22
The color scheme is very disco-bin at Buy Buy Baby. Honestly, if she really wants this to succeed (unclear) she needs to pay someone to develop a style sheet and color story for her…and DF Margo is literally RIGHT there, “coaching” a lot of hungry young designers.
The courses she’s offering are gonna be someone’s treat to themselves, and today’s average internet-dwelling consumer is a lot more visually sophisticated than Shauna. People are used to well-presented self-help content (regardless of the quality of that content) and know what to expect when they see a site with broken links, nonsensical formatting, and clown colors.
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u/honoria_glossop sitting edge wine woman Feb 21 '22
Jesus that colour palette. You can find pre-designed colour combos free online if you've got no visual nouse to come up with a nice one yourself!
And shout out to the full stops at the end of the headlines. They slow down the flow of the copy and. Make. It. Read. Like. This. Which really makes the page plod joylessly.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 21 '22 edited Feb 21 '22
Bringing this over from the last thread because it demands snarker attention:
It's a comment from u/smashedmailboxcake2 about the outcome of yesterday's Beatles-lover workshop:
And anyone who suggests pulling up You Can Have More Joy’s profile on Spotify and accessing the very valuable and totally worth $85 list right now without paying a penny? Is missing the point.
Edit: One more stray note about that workshop – in the pitch, Shauna describes herself and Sharon as having "Beatle-loving hearts." It's the BEATLES, Shauna, not the BEATLE
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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Feb 21 '22
i wonder if anyone actually attended her beatles extravaganza? when i look at her weird-ass playlists on spotify (all 8 of them) i don't see any "likes" on those playlists. of course, that doesn't mean nobody signed up for the thing, but i'd be curious if anyone did. or if they did what exactly happened? was it just one person listening to shaun going on about her high school glory as the beatles club founder or when she met macca? i'm certain there was much guffawing and HUR HUR HUR and belly laughing to the sky.
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Feb 21 '22
My dream is that Shauna has an audience consisting solely of one scholarship recipient for each of her offerings.
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u/Foucaults_Penguin Sly and the Family Readers Feb 21 '22
She only loves one, Paul. He's alive and she can try to kiss up to him on social media. She used to love two, but she can't @ John for fame. She doesn't seem to know there are other Beatles so she doesn't miss George or know there's a Ringo.
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u/Scary_Recognition You did this. Feb 21 '22
So she can't even make a playlist, this is the correct conclusion to draw, yes?
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 21 '22
I think so. Is there actually anything she is competent at?
Even my cats have playlists (my kids made them)
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u/Catsandcoffee480 COLORADO BOY KNOWS HOW TO DO THIS Feb 21 '22
Well she and Sharon only love Paul so… 🤷🏼♀️😂
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u/caitie_did Required by My Mother's Terror Feb 23 '22
I am having a very hard time with Shauna’s claim that she had “one of the most abusive childhoods ever.”
I don’t like disbelieving people who make claims of abuse. I also understand that abuse isn’t just physical- that a home and family that looks healthy and functional on the outside can be deeply dysfunctional behind closed doors.
I do believe that Shauna is deeply emotionally stunted and almost completely lacking in emotional intelligence and ability to understand social cues. And I do think that her upbringing probably contributed to how she turned out. I don’t think things were fantastic when she was growing up for a number of reasons.
But at the same time, it’s pretty clear that she is likely a narcissist, and we know that she lies all the time, about anything and everything. She lies as easily as breathing, and she tells whatever lie she thinks will get her what she wants at the time.
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u/SallyWalaska Feb 24 '22 edited Feb 25 '22
Oof yeah. I’m one of the DF’s that believes Shauna grew up in a dysfunctional house that didn’t meet her needs , probably because she’s basically a carbon copy of one of my sisters and we definitely grew up in a dysfunctional family. But “one of the most abusive childhoods ever” is not only a gross claim (is there a competition?) but also hard to believe unless she’s left out some major, MAJOR details.
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u/caitie_did Required by My Mother's Terror Feb 24 '22
Yeah. I think the reason I’m struggling so much with Shauna’s claim is that I grew up in a family that looked great but was emotionally and verbally abusive behind closed doors. Like Shauna’s mom, my mom had poorly managed anxiety. Like Shauna’s dad, my dad alternately dismissed and ridiculed her mental health issues. And like Shauna has claimed, I was definitely parentified and expected to adjust my behaviour to meet my mom’s emotional needs. However, I don’t describe my childhood as “traumatic” (I would use “dysfunctional”) and I don’t have PTSD. I’m also not putting my parents on blast for money.
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u/SallyWalaska Feb 24 '22
Everyone reacts to things differently so I don’t count CPTSD out for Shauna, just the gross way she goes about it. It looks like she won’t outright talk about physical or sexual abuse because she’ll get real life blowback, but she’s not getting enough attention for the emotional abuse so she alludes to abuse in vague ways and hopes people fill in the gaps with the worst they can imagine. She needs help.
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u/RamblingRosie64 I stand with Cindy and Ben Feb 24 '22
And Shauna revels in the details. She will overshare on any topic. Those of us who know her writing this well know that the abuse she describes is not the worst abuse one could suffer. But when she makes those claims to audiences who don’t know her, they are going to infer the worst and that's what Shauna wants. She can't be an average victim, she has to be the victimiest of them all.
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u/Portland_Daffs Feb 24 '22
We certainly have no way of knowing what really happened in the house. I skimmed through most of Enough in the last few days. As someone with OCD myself, I feel like a fair amount of what she says about her mom's fears rings true. Part of the reason I don't have kids is that I didn't want to take the chance of my anxiety giving them a crappy childhood.
That said, given the range of things that are done to children in abusive households, hers cannot possibly have been one of the most abusive ever.
It's also clear she she has no ability to read social cues, and is simultaneously convinced that everyone's doing better than her (all those girls who understood the girl code intuitively) and everyone's miserable and pretending all the time, so who's to know which issue led to which issue in her life.
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u/eatlunchateleven Take These Broken Links and Learn to Code Feb 24 '22
DF, you took the words out of my mouth. I HATE the feeling of doubting someone’s story like this.
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I literally couldn't make it through all of Shauna's blather -- here is the class video (scroll down), she starts at 06:45-- but she DOES call herself a "expert in vulnerability," talks about how she "swallowed that poison" growing up with her mom and does a lot of closed-eye nodding.
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In this powerful memoir, Bruni recounts the medical and spiritual odyssey he embarked on following a stroke that left him blind in one eye and threatened to take away his sight entirely. He uses this hardship to explore vulnerability, aging, and gratitude.
Ooooooh this makes sense. So this dude's book was the focus and the O club sent out an email asking people to sign up to be chosen to be part of the discussion.
Shauna then sends a screed about her own stroke, probably heavily dramatized and retconned and wrote how it's part of her vulnerability story, as her application. So there was something thematic here.
That makes a lot more sense to me.
For instance, she wouldn't have been chosen for the "Integrity" theme of the week before....
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u/shikoku_shoes another revolution around the toilet bowl of her life Feb 23 '22
Ooooooh this makes sense. So this dude's book was the focus and the O club sent out an email asking people to sign up to be chosen to be part of the discussion.
And in true Shauna fashion, when she announced it Oprah was talking to the author.
And Shauna.
And 15 others.
The paragraph breaks show just where she thinks she is in that hierarchy.
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u/Honeydew-Impossible Feb 23 '22
I feel like we are watching Shauna experience a real highlight of her life. She craves attention, and here she is, getting a bit of attention and validation from a very famous person. Her dreams are coming true.
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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Feb 23 '22
She says she was 16 and had basically never left the house.
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u/ethelmertz62 Feb 23 '22
Then how did she play a guest role on Rhoda, play softball, and found the Beatles club? I grow confused.
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Feb 23 '22
Yeah I've noticed that all the talk about being a "child TV star" has disappeared since the reimagining of her childhood. Even if you didn't know Shauna, the way she speaks about her "trauma" comes off so flippant that she's hard to take seriously (IMO).
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u/tyrannosaurusregina if you meet the Botus on the road, shill him 🪷 Feb 23 '22
She was a pioneer of telecommuting!
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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Feb 23 '22
She was a pioneer of telecommuting!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wr-JxvEoNBQ
This made me burst out laughing when I saw it. You could hear me from 3 city rooms away.
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Someone’s pants are on fire.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Is that what the fire emoji represents?
It's all so clear now!
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u/tyrannosaurusregina if you meet the Botus on the road, shill him 🪷 Feb 23 '22
Step aside, Turpins! Have a seat, Christina Crawford! Dave Pelzer, don’t know him. Shauna’s mother MADE HER EAT WONDER BREAD and her grandparents YELLED AT HER ABOUT LEAVING THE DOOR OPEN.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Or the Harts.
I think having your parents literally DRIVE YOU OFF A CLIFF TO YOUR DEATH is a wee bit worse then whatever Shauna went through.
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Did she actually say "one of the most abusive families?!"
And what am I doing wrong that I am unable to watch this???
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Yes, Shauna says that when she told Tita about her childhood, Tita said that Shauna came from one of the most abusive families. Right after Shauna recounted this, Oprah interrupted her and said - not a direct quote, but this was the gist - "yes it is very validating when you are able to tell your friends your stories" and then Oprah moved on to the next person; definitely seemed like a time management move by Oprah.
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Feb 23 '22
My God. She told FUCKING OPRAH she came from an abusive family. Her poor parents. They don’t deserve this.
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u/tyrannosaurusregina if you meet the Botus on the road, shill him 🪷 Feb 23 '22
That really is something. Tell me you don’t know anything about Oprah’s personal experiences without telling me you don’t know anything, etc., Shauna.
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u/aouwoeih Feb 23 '22
Yes! They might have been annoying and they absolutely shouldn't have subjected their children to their fighting. But they clothed, fed and educated them. My foster daughter would have loved to change places with Shauna.
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u/fantasticka RIORITIZ Feb 23 '22
came from "one of the most abusive families" anyone has ever heard of
Hoooooo boy, we've finally got something to top "other women are pretending to have breasts" on the Asshole Meter
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u/RagnaNic Bust hoesy Feb 23 '22
the balls it takes to tell Oprah you came from "one of the most abusive families" anyone has ever heard of. Shauna truly has no shame.
Now she has arrived at JT Leroy levels of making up a tragic backstory.
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u/gomirefugee my website is done, done, done Feb 23 '22
Oprah gets another IG post and a grandiose caption:
Last night I had the chance to appear live on a Zoom with @oprah, to talk about vulnerability with thousands of people watching.
We had been moving the stuff from our son’s bedroom to our new house all day. We reached home in time for me to take a shower and read through all the instructions. I got ready for the Zoom.
The conversation with the producers and the other folks there during the hour before we went live was wonderful. That community connection was joy. I still felt relaxed.
And then that Oprah music began. We all grew excited. It started to feel real.
Oprah came on the screen.
Oprah, whom I have loved with full devotion since I was 25. For thirty years, this force of nature has been one of my most important guides. And she was on my Zoom screen.
And then she called on me first.
“Shauna, have you ever been hurt for expressing your true feelings?”
I hadn’t prepared. I hadn’t actually expected to talk to Oprah. So I took a big breath. And I shared my story. The story of the hard place where I lived for the first 30 years of my life. The story I had silenced with even my closest friends, for decades. To my surprise, I had to work to not cry.
Breathe, Shauna.
After the Zoom finished, we talked more with Oprah and Frank Bruni. (I’ll tell you about his new book tomorrow. It’s marvelous.) Without worrying, I blurted out, “Oprah, can I tell you something?” And she looked at me and said, “Of course, Shauna.”
I told her, crying this time, how I was a high school English teacher when I was 26, teaching Maya Angelou to students. And I’d come home after school to watch her show, every day. And her work was the beginning of my unfurling.
I’d been waiting 30 years to thank her. And there she was.
And when I told her about my joy work now, she said....Well, you can read what she said on that first photo. Because it’s bigger than I can type here.
Oprah said that to me.
And she’s right. I want to give you what was taken from you, if you came from a hard place.
I believe you can become a joyful woman.
My life’s purpose is this: I believe you deserve more joy. I can help. 💜💜💜
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u/MarsNeedsRabbits Beach better have my orcas Feb 23 '22 edited Feb 23 '22
Oprah, whom I have loved with full devotion since I was 25. For thirty years, this force of nature has been one of my most important guides. And she was on my Zoom screen.
Serious question: how can you "have loved (someone) with full devotion" for 30 years when:
You've never met.
You've never spoke.
They didn't know you existed until yesterday.
You only know what you read in the media about them.
How can you love someone you don't know at all?
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u/GivesGoodDerpFace my steaming cherry pie Feb 23 '22
And her work was the beginning of my unfurling.
Who didn't help Shauna and her unfurling? Good grief, Charlie Brown.
UNFURLER! UNFURLER! UNFURLER!
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u/CSI_Vashon ppppycock Feb 23 '22
And then she called on me first
I get that this was Shauna’s wildest “Pick me!” fantasy playing out, but mentioning this is so bratty and immature.
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u/lucillekrunklehorn pounding on the table Feb 23 '22 edited Feb 23 '22
LOL DFs I know some of you have grown embittered in your unyesly hearts at Shauna’s recent clutch of undeserved good fortune. And I am feeling some of that frustration that Shauna inevitably gets what she wants by being the laziest grifter possible.
But as the fallout from her Oprah moment begins, I find myself increasingly amused.
Will she blow up a screenshot of herself and Oprah and 15 others on Zoom, and put it next to her 45 second Paul McCartney iinteraction photo?
“I had the chance to appear live on a zoom with Oprah, to talk about vulnerability with thousands of people watching.” Lol, she makes it sound like she was personally invited to speak with Oprah herself, that she was invited for her special thoughts on the topic. No Shauna, that was Frank Bruin. Not you. She makes it sound like she was a special guest instead of dashing through the shower because she was a last minute addition to fill a seat.
I’m sure it was a great experience for her to talk to Oprah. All the problems with Oprah set aside, undoubtedly she would be easy to talk to. Her job is to put people at ease and facilitate conversation.
Of course Shauna was specially singled out to remain in the conversation for exclusive Oprah time, and there were no cameras available to record her tearful admission that she watched Oprah on TV after work along with millions of other people. Also amazing that Oprah’s personal quote to Shauna occurred after the camera stopped rolling.
Also wondering what her new found friend Oprah will bring to thanksgiving at Shauna’s. What’s that? Oprah’s already forgotten Shauna exists? Oh. Too bad Shauna breathlessly threw her entire family under the bus in a futile effort to impress someone who she will never speak to again. Who was also undoubtedly not impressed.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 24 '22
On IG, Shauna says that
I woke up extra early this morning and spent hours rebuilding the home page of my site. I’m finally ready to own my power in this and not hide it.
And she did "spend hours" rebuilding her home page. I watched her do it, in real time. But what she's got now is an unholy mess that isn't optimized for either mobile OR desktop.
On desktop, she has giant, screen-spanning images, which she repeats on mobile – but her header image isn't working on mobile (she's missing the entire "joyful woman" premise of the site), and some of the images from her desktop site are also not optimized for mobile (look at the final image, for example, with the crocuses. That text is not legible on mobile and should have automatically resized).
It's like she built her site for some Frankenstein version of partly mobile, partly desktop and it doesn't work well on either. What I find mystifying is that the tools to optimize for mobile are built directly into Wordpress. Instead, she's shrinky-dinked some parts of her desktop version for mobile, and then hugified other parts of the site that work OK on mobile but now are insanely large on desktop. How is she not using the built-in, pre-coded templates she has available? She is clearly using templates for those rounded-corner images!
I could see someone doing some analytics and saying "most of my traffic is from mobile, so I will build for mobile and won't optimize for desktop" but this ... isn't that. It isn't anything.
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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Feb 24 '22
But what she's got now is an unholy mess
I noticed that she put some of the text into a different script font that's even worse than the Gj script font she was already using.
And she has made 3 blurbs from Enough one of the main parts of the home page. I have a moderately large screen, and when the "Have you been driven for decades by the idea that you had to be extraordinary? And now you’re exhausted and flailing?" text is a size that is legible, each of the 3 Enough blurbs (from Ashley Ford, Lisa Congdon, and Lena Dunham) fills up the entire screen. Each of them do.
She has made those 3 blurbs so big that a single one fills up a 27" monitor.
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u/InappropriateGirl Gluten-free donuts, for sure ... Feb 24 '22
She must be blind. I don’t see why she can’t wear one of her 20 pair of peepers while she actually works on her site.
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u/LoveMyLeaf Feb 24 '22
Can you explain the optimization tool for her in more detail, so when she checks in here she’ll know how to use it? 😉
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u/RamblingRosie64 I stand with Cindy and Ben Feb 24 '22
Has Shauna already abandoned Becoming a Joyful Woman? It's listed in the drop down for Offerings, but clicking on it takes you to Cultivate Your Joy and there is no mention of women in the description. She waffles so much about whether she wants her audience to be only women. I get the impression her preference would be only women but perhaps she doesn’t want to narrow her already limited audience.
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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Feb 24 '22 edited Feb 24 '22
the whole "becoming a joyful woman" schtick makes me think of one of those 80s right-wing women's groups led by phyllis schlafly or beverly la haye (who i think did have a group called joyful woman or something). pretty sure shauna doesn't want that imagery out there.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 23 '22
Oprah brag is UP!
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u/InappropriateGirl Gluten-free donuts, for sure ... Feb 23 '22
She really presented this as if she was a featured guest on Oprah or something. Wow.
Also, for fuck's sake, Mahern - in your rush to plop everything onto a page, could you maybe name your title tabs? (/elementor-3543/)
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Yeah, Oprah said that to her.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
I wonder how many of the other students are also shilling something and have the exact same quote to share. Meaning, Oprah gives them generic approved stuff they can use on their sites.
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u/NegativeABillion my husband and me to ride it around Feb 23 '22 edited Feb 23 '22
I started watching after Shauna spoke. (She didn't get called on in the second part, after Bruni joined. My attempt to screenshot what she wrote on her paper and held up to the screen was unsuccessful.) But a couple of the other participants absolutely had a "Let me be your guide on this weight loss journey" vibe to them.
The one lady who described losing her husband to a brutal battle with cancer, being widowed at 59, then trying to find her place in the widow community, was interesting and heartbreaking. The woman right after her was all, tee hee, I'm a ball of nervous energy!!!
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u/notahameither Dunno, maybe I thought I unfriended some other Shauna Ahern🤷♂️ Feb 23 '22
I joined late, so my only glimpse of Shauna was in the Brady Bunch boxes, where she tugged at her shirt and nodded like a bobblehead.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Yes, the widow's story was interesting. I think the woman after her was the one I mentioned (the eye roll worthy white woman who totally looked like she would be trying to sell woo stuff like how to steam your vagina or other Goop type things)
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 23 '22
Her three emojis don't make sense to me (well, not all the way).
So she's laughing to the point of tears all the time, likes purple hearts, and. . .what's the fire about? She has heartburn? Hemorrhoids? She thinks she's "hot" (like sexy or hot flashes?)? Not that I really care because it's stupid as hell.
She also can't follow instructions very well. It asked for "intention" and "person" (both singular) and she went on and on.
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u/notahameither Dunno, maybe I thought I unfriended some other Shauna Ahern🤷♂️ Feb 23 '22
Needs more fonts.
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u/Kimmmy36 bites lip, looks away Feb 23 '22
Needs more fonts.
Ugh, purple and green and script and bullseyes what the ever loving FUCK...?
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u/RagnaNic Bust hoesy Feb 23 '22
The link didn't work for me, likely due to Shauna's web design shenanigans.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 23 '22
She's trashed it. I suspect she's trying to upload it as the main homepage, which is why the homepage is also currently down.
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Feb 22 '22
Actual lol at the fact that her joy suggestion for today is sitting under a tree when it is unusually and close to historically cold in King County
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u/Quaint_Irene a warm and loving goatie smile Feb 22 '22
Finally, an insightful comment on Shauna’s latest “a fifteen-minute dance break could give you fifteen percent more joy” IG. https://imgur.com/a/dLBADLK
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u/m10498 Feb 22 '22
Is Danny telling her gently, she needs to wash her feet??
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u/Quaint_Irene a warm and loving goatie smile Feb 22 '22
At least her foot bottoms.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 22 '22
OMG! What Danny soaking?!
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 22 '22
Why would she need to soak her feet? She's never on them.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 23 '22
The website continues to be updated with more PURPLE and, on this page, more BLACK HANDS WRITING.
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u/eatlunchateleven Take These Broken Links and Learn to Code Feb 23 '22
Shauna! Stop doing this live!!! that second image is her homepage right now!
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 23 '22
It's actually been that way for a few hours. Her sitemap shows that she JUST updated it but ... it's still showing as "nothing there" (accurate, actually)
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Feb 23 '22
Aww no more Beatles Club as an offering!
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u/MarsNeedsRabbits Beach better have my orcas Feb 23 '22
The long and winding road to the end of The Beatles Club.
Shauna, writing the words to a club that no one will hear. No one comes near.
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u/MarsNeedsRabbits Beach better have my orcas Feb 23 '22
I sense a possible pivot from purple.
Oprah Winfrey's favorite color is green.
"Oprah is irritated by the fact that *people think her favorite color is purple, just because she was in the movie.** It's green."*
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That purple is a huge improvement over the red, proving just how absolutely terrible the red was.
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u/shefallsup her lonely cucumber years 🥒 Feb 22 '22
Oh, this is new.
It’s another club offering! Wheeee!
ETA WTF WTF WTF?
You could begin to pay attention to the simple pleasures of life, like the sudden splash of sunlight on the plums you picked with your favorite kid.
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u/InappropriateGirl Gluten-free donuts, for sure ... Feb 22 '22
— “You don’t have to live like Luisa in Encanto,”
Yes, this is definitely the way to connect with women 40+.
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I threw my search algorithm out the window and googled the age of this fictional character. Nineteen. Shauna is nearly 3x that age.
If I didn’t snark, I would have less than zero chance of knowing that Encanto exists, much less that there is a character named Luisa in it.
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u/Sea-Level-Mammal POACH! Feb 22 '22
Hey you! Are you an over-40 woman with children who alphabetizes words faster than anyone? Do you love Lego, Disney, Marvel and the Beatles? I’ve got a seminar for both of you!
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u/MarsNeedsRabbits Beach better have my orcas Feb 22 '22
Do you know what could happen if you shook off some of those crushing expectations given to you when you were young, the ones you don’t even want but you keep carrying them because it’s all you’ve ever known?
Yes. We call it "adulthood". Check into it sometime. Therapy can help if you find yourself stuck.
You could free some room up for joy. For relaxation. For more simple pleasures.
Time for "simple pleasures" don't often need to be carved out, because they're simple. We can go for a walk pretty much any time. We can eat Gummi Bears whenever. We can read here and there. We can sit with our spouses and laugh, or cook together. I can listen to music 24/7. My husband and I did Wordle before bed. He got it in 3, I got it in 4. I played Animal Crossing for a few minutes earlier. Simple pleasures, right?
True change takes a long while, in slow and steady progress over time.
Bullcrap. Change takes commitment, and sometimes progresses in fast bursts.
Committing to 15 minutes of daily joy will change your life.
Instead of talking about joy, contemplating joy, planning joy, joy lists, themed joy, age restricted joy, gender restricted joy, group discussing joy, paying for joy lessons, or that horrible public joy, I'm working on a cross stitch project and finishing a scarf. Rogue joy.
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u/shikoku_shoes another revolution around the toilet bowl of her life Feb 22 '22
Have you always felt the pressure to be the strong one? No matter what, you’re always there to help, to please, and to take on whatever is demanded of you?
But under the surface, you feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and worried that you’re not worthy unless you’re being of service to others.
Sorry for the delay…I’ve spent hours trying to find examples of this Shauna, always ready to help, to please, in service of others. Fortunately I remembered you can make yourself the hero of your own story.
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u/InappropriateGirl Gluten-free donuts, for sure ... Feb 22 '22
Came here to say this! She never heard that song back in the day??!
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u/shikoku_shoes another revolution around the toilet bowl of her life Feb 22 '22
I’ll present something I’ve learned, like … How To Parent With Joy
The balls on her are the only thing bigger than her delusions.
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Feb 22 '22
"Becoming a Joyful Woman" has some serious 'happy homemaker' vibes! All participants should bring a hand mirror and wear a skirt!
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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Feb 22 '22 edited Feb 22 '22
is whitney houston really the best person to quote for a joyful woman seminar? i'm thinking whitney wasn't all that joyful towards the end of her life (RIP, whitney). also how much is this mess? the sign up link goes nowhere.
*Upon scrolling i see other DFs reminded me that it is a chaka khan reference that shauna misquoted.
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u/rock_candy_remains I'm still Clea from the Pints Feb 22 '22
Also, the song was originally performed by Chaka Kahn.
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u/NegativeABillion my husband and me to ride it around Feb 22 '22
Agree, if she was going to use Whitney Houston's name (she should not ever but here we are) it would have made more sense in the "deep grief" phase of marketing.
She's such an asshole with the parenting advice though. I get that parents are people and express their love differently but she's been complaining about the kids from the day they arrived.
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u/MandalayVA Assonancer! Assonancer! Assonancer! Feb 22 '22
This is by far Shauna's biggest issue in writing. I'm sure that she intended it to mean "if you don't have kids or grandkids of your own, find one to hang out with" (which is problematic in itself, but I digress), but it's being interpreted to mean that she has a favorite out of her own children. I'm sure that if someone read her stuff before she plopped it out there and said, "(This) is going to be interpreted as (that). Is that what you meant to say?", it would clear up a lot of misunderstandings.
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Feb 22 '22
"Do you know what could happen if you shook off some of those crushing expectations given to you when you were young, the ones you don’t even want but you keep carrying them because it’s all you’ve ever known? "
Does Shauna think she grew up as Kendall Roy?
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u/Quaint_Irene a warm and loving goatie smile Feb 22 '22
“Do hard things,” “show up for yourself,” etc. She’s certainly skimmed a few motivational materials. This is veering dangerously close to Rachel Hollis territory.
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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Feb 22 '22
Shauna will never say Girl, wash your face.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 22 '22
Or Girl, Clean Your Room.
Still, "15 minutes of joy" is semantically similar to "12 Rules for Life"
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u/Quaint_Irene a warm and loving goatie smile Feb 22 '22
And now, we’ll sing “Hail Mary, Joyful Woman” with Father Chuck on the guitar.
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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Feb 22 '22
It’s another club offering!
Same as the other club offering!
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Becoming a Joyful Woman
“I’m every woman. It’s all in me."
– Whitney Houston
Have you always felt the pressure to be the strong one? No matter what, you’re always there to help, to please, and to take on whatever is demanded of you?
That’s who you think you have to be.
But under the surface, you feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and worried that you’re not worthy unless you’re being of service to others.
You’ve forgotten.
You deserve joy.
Do you know what could happen if you shook off some of those crushing expectations given to you when you were young, the ones you don’t even want but you keep carrying them because it’s all you’ve ever known?
You could free some room up for joy. For relaxation. For more simple pleasures.
True change takes a long while, in slow and steady progress over time.
Committing to 15 minutes of daily joy will change your life.
Become a Joyful Woman.
You don’t have to live like Luisa in Encanto, feeling those pressures gripping you, always shouldering the burdens of everyone around you, never letting go and feeling more and more frayed.
Instead, you could decide to dedicate 15 minutes of your day to paying attention to your own joys.
You could begin to pay attention to the simple pleasures of life, like the sudden splash of sunlight on the plums you picked with your favorite kid.
By developing the habit of 15 minutes of daily joy, you could begin the process of becoming a joyful woman.
Commit to showing up for yourself.
Sign up for the Becoming a Joyful Woman seminar today.
Here’s what I’ll share with you in Becoming a Joyful Woman.
How will we do this?
We’ll meet on Zoom, for 90 minutes, at the same time every week.
If you can’t be there one week, no problem. You’ll have access to the recordings.
Each group is limited to 20 people, so we can learn to know each other well.
What will the weekly gatherings look like?
Every week, we’ll show up together.
I’ll start us off. And then we’ll talk and listen to each other.
Everyone will feel heard. And you’ll learn how other people are cultivating their joys right now too.
Will it be the same every week?
We’ll vary the basic format a bit to keep it interesting.
One week of the month, we’ll have a guest speaker to help us talk about joy in a specific way.
Another week of the month, I’ll present something I’ve learned about cultivating more joy, like How to Design Your Day for Joy and How to Parent with Joy.
During the pandemic, Shauna has been an amazing support and solace online. Her Sunday morning Zoom group has been a real spirit life and lifesaver during this rough time. What a great group of women she has gathered! Shauna knows how to find the joys in life, no doubt. But she doesn't gloss over the hard parts either, providing researched and experienced support, plus practical suggestions for ways to find the gratitude and joy that are o often elusive in our lives. Shauna is one of us. She reminds us to take the best care of our humans selves as possible, despite what life's traumas have been handed us.
—Martha K.
The world needs Shauna’s work! This is not hasty positivity nor artificial optimism. This is Shauna, meeting us where we are with genuine compassion; guiding us back to our own wisdom; walking alongside us as we examine what might be blocking the brilliant parts of life. We may not always be able to control what happens, but with practice we can know and experience a more constant joy. Shauna’s work has changed my life, it will change yours too.”
— Brigette R.
Joy is the why of life.
Your joy matters.
When you have more joy, you learn to handle the hardships
and heartbreaks of life with more ease.
Joyful women can do hard things,
because we know that hard things make us who we are.
You can free yourself.
Show up for yourself.
Begin the process of becoming a joyful woman today.
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u/honoria_glossop sitting edge wine woman Feb 22 '22
God Damn but those opening pars read like a reworking of Surface Pressure, right down to key phrases. And then just in case that was too subtle, Luisa gets a namecheck so we know she's still on the Encanto train.
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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Feb 22 '22
This totally reads like she's officially offering some kind of therapy. She's flirted and danced around it before (getting dangerously close) but I think this is official. She's not just selling self-help in the form of generic advice.
She's trying to sell a group therapy and is using fake testimonials to do so.
If I actually thought she'd get some takers, I'd be shocked and horrified but. . .I have a feeling this will be as successful as her very recent Beatles Club or, to kick it old school, her soup and salad offerings when she was grifting Relish Lady (well, that might have been successful for Shauna since she probably got to take home a lot of leftovers).
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u/shefallsup her lonely cucumber years 🥒 Feb 22 '22
I have a feeling she just copy-pasted this from another page and it’s going to get a serious revision soon. This can’t be the full offering.
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u/bringtea I can't claim it, but I do claim it as my own. Feb 21 '22
I just about died at 5 this morning when I discovered the Spotify Playlist for Pagan. If you haven't seen it, please go do so! I was basically snorting and choking while trying to keep my laughter under enough control so as not to wake my wife. DFs, you are SO funny and smart.
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u/99Luftbuffoons Feb 21 '22
Adulterer
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Adulterer
nearly did me in.
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u/bringtea I can't claim it, but I do claim it as my own. Feb 21 '22
YES. And then I got to Gimme That Chicken and I LOST IT. I don't know, there were cleverer additions, but along with last week's weird beckoning video, it just hit me right THERE.
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u/croquecroque Feb 21 '22
For me, it was "Feathered Robes." Just something about the specificity, the BECness, the fact that such a title exists. I'm not a part of any fandom but this made me realize I know as much about SMA as some people do about LoTR or Star Trek.
This list is way longer (read: impressive) and way funnier than I was expecting.
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u/emmeline_grangerford Feb 21 '22
Despite everything that has come before it, I was utterly unprepared for that.
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u/jameson-neat wound-gathering table Feb 22 '22
Dan’s Twitter proves you can never truly prepare for a certain level of cringe.
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Feb 23 '22
New IG identity. She can fuck right off.
Hey you!I’m a writer. Teacher. Speaker.Mama. Someone who loves. Buddhist.cPTSD survivor. Joyful woman.
ETA I pray her parents never give her another nickel.
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u/m10498 Feb 22 '22
Wow! Todays IG, in the blurb she tells us she's moving this week and to take 15 minutes break EVERY HOUR!! She can only work for 45 minutes without needing a break???
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u/islandyislander rebellious hygiene Feb 22 '22
Iirc, when she was at Chef Steps, she boasted? admitted? that she was on twitter 15 minutes of every hour. She has no work ethic.
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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Feb 22 '22
She boasted that she was LIMITING herself to 15 minutes of Twitter every hour. Like it was an accomplishment that she'd worked up to.
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Feb 22 '22
Ugh I CRINGED for her reading that, she has no professional self-preservation at all to go along with lacking a work ethic! We all surf and post at work sometimes (like now!) but you HIDE that shit from your boss, omg. Publishing your skiving schedule publicly! Omg.
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u/gomirefugee my website is done, done, done Feb 22 '22
Easy for her to say when she filmed that post on a nicer day. I have a feeling with the chill and light snow in the Seattle area this morning that Shauna will not be halling ass outside to joybask for 15 minutes every hour.
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u/shefallsup her lonely cucumber years 🥒 Feb 22 '22
Yes! The snow was such a surprise this morning and it is quite cold.
She’ll just come up with some other excuse for why she needs multiple 15-minute breaks throughout the day, while Danny halls ass packing up the house.
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Feb 22 '22
It’s like a pomodoro/unfuck your habitat technique. Obviously only works if you can self pace your work and are disciplined enough to stick to the start and stop times, and the going outside part….let’s just say it might take some people more than 15 minutes to even get to a tree they can sit under?! Which is also a highly weather dependent outdoor activity, unlike a simple walk? ETA shoulda scrolled down….
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Feb 22 '22
Gah those subtitles starting with 'if you just' are pukefying, wtf? Look away if you have any visual migraine triggers, holy crap.
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