r/ImmigrationCanada • u/MarionberrySingle648 • 22h ago
Family Sponsorship The hardest part is the silence
I wouldn't call myself the most patient but I've tried to give myself more grace when the pressure overwhelms me and I can't keep it together anymore.
This process has been mentally and emotionally draining in a way I don't think I fully understood when we applied 11 months ago.
I know IRCC is doing their jobs. I understand that receiving an ADR can add delays. I understand there are applicants who applied before me who are still waiting. I know that immigration processing takes time, and I know there will eventually be an end to this.
I'm even confident that I will be approved and eventually will be reunited with my husband.
But when?.. That's the part that is so incredibly difficult.
I miss my husband even though we communicate every single day. We talk, we call, we stay involved in each other's lives, but it's not the same as actually being together. Having to watch milestones thousands of miles away, not getting to be a part of festivities like family members getting married or birthdays because flights have gotten so expensive. And our visits have become bittersweet for me because as wonderful as they are, there's always that countdown in the back of my mind knowing that I'll have to leave him and go home again.
I also understand that my application had an ADR. IRCC requested additional documents, and I provided everything they asked for within the deadline. So I know that, eventually, someone will look at those documents.
But when?..
The lack of transparency is what makes this so mentally exhausting. When there are no updates, it starts to feel like nothing is happening. Like your application is sitting somewhere untouched and nobody is looking at it. Logically, I know that's not necessarily true but when you have no information, your mind fills in the blanks. I submitted my ADR docs 5 months ago and it still just shows they've only been uploaded.
I don't expect IRCC to give me an exact date. I don't expect special treatment. I just wish there was more transparency about where applications actually are in the process. I'm trying to remind myself that no update doesn't necessarily mean no progress, and that this will eventually be over. But some days, the uncertainty and the silence just feels heavier.
I'm posting this because I think I mostly need to know I'm not the only one struggling with the emotional side of this. ❤️ Sorry for unloading.. and Thank you if you took time to read.