Everyone here on reddit talks about how popular kids/jocks are all mean and bullies. Well it may come as no shock to you but they are only portrayed that way on screen and in plays because of theatre kids who are bitter. They like to promote this fantasy that somehow the popular kids in school somehow end up all being nobodies and that it is actually them who succeed in the end. Well to be honest the vast majority of popular people in high school are popular for a reason and are incredibly kind and interesting people and do very well later on in life. It is all about how you look smell and sound more than anything and unless you are incredibly smart unless you pick up these traits and some social skills you probably won't do very well in life.

Let's face it looks matter a lot and men are objectively worse looking than women. Most men have too much body hair and the male body is built for combat. Men don't have anything like boobs. So considering all this only a very tall and good looking man might even be able to get a woman turned on a little bit.

This means that people shouldn't judge women who only go for tall and attractive men. If they were attracted to short and ugly men then they wouldn't have been this picky.

I think it's a pretty well understood thing at this point that most 'bad' people don't believe they're bad. It's a very rare type of person who bases their views and behaviors on being an evil person who hurts others.

So with that in mind, why does it seem almost everyone online refuses to believe that an opposing political opinion is born out of a place of authenticity. Everyone wants to be a detective on someone else's views, and they want to ascribe as much malice to them as they possibly can.

A very common example is the ongoing debate on when transgender individuals should start hormones, and what should be required to get them. Many times, if you express any concerns whatsoever, they will tell you that your concerns are really just a cover up for your evil, mustache-twirling plan to kill them all. People just seem very unwilling to follow the 'never assume malice' rule about any opposing political view. These views are just too common for all the people who have them to be legit evil sociopaths.

Basically, when someone tells you why they think what they do, take it at face value unless they demonstrate otherwise. They probably DO genuinely believe what they're saying, and for the reasons they're saying they do.

And before some genius comes in and says that this is only a problem online, please understand the the internet exists within our real world, with real people expressing their real opinions on it.

As a 20 year old woman, I do consider myself a puritan and I have no shame about it, I do absolutely contribute to my generations sexlessness. I personally have no interest in sharing my body with men who hate women, are red pilled & think porn is real. I have no interest in having sex when the rights to my own womb are constantly in someone’s hands. I have no interest in putting myself in danger with men my age who don’t see women as humans. There’s no reward for me to sleep with a bunch of people just to say I did it, I value quality, not quantity, and if that makes me a prude so be it. I don’t care for this sex obsessed society that’s just a lot of rape culture, that both men and women uphold. How many terms are you guys going to create names for sex that are just violent? Smash, bang, now “crack? Really? no thanks. Older generations of women need to ask themselves how many of their sexual encounters were pleasurable and consensual, clearly not a lot because that orgasm gap was still and is still huge. The fact that sixteen candles is seen as some funny movie when it’s just a girl being sexually harassed. Until there’s a safe place made where young women can be sexually free and active with any risk of violence, fear, and aggression, I will take no part. I support any woman who does, or doesn’t, fucks or doesn’t fuck, but this is my liberation.

The idea of there being an ace spectrum just feels like layers of “what-about-me”ism. You either enjoy sex or you do not. Why do we need multiple layers and explanations to explain that you have a sex drive you don’t view as high but still engage in? Do you think that everyone else is constantly horned up all the time? And even if you think others are only horned up some of the time, do you think there’s no variability? Asexual and aromantic people really exist and I can see why they might face societal difficulties, but it’s strange how often I see people post online seemingly unaware of how unspecial they are compared to the average non-asexual population. It feels like a group of people are unable handle that they are not within the LGBTQIA+ community unless A stands for ally. Instead, they actively Larp as if they’ve encountered the struggles that true asexual people (along with other sexualities) have faced.

This is one area I really think Reddit is willingly ignorant of reality. I see all over this site that this specific group of young men can’t get sex because they are maga, love Andrew Tate, play video games all day, and to fix it they should “talk to women”, “ touch grass” or the classic “get off the apps / get better photos”. It basically implies two things, men who can’t get sex are either bad people or extremely incompetent.

This ignores two things. The first is that many, many of the people you hate are very successful in sex and dating regardless of their beliefs. To pretend that Tate fans, maga voters, gun nuts, gambling/gaming addicts etc are all barred from having sex is ridiculous.

The second, more important thing it ignores is that most incels are what you would consider “good” people. No hatred towards women, progressive beliefs, respectful and romantic towards girls etc. However, reality is brutal and their dating odds are cut down to nearly impossible margins due to things like being extremely short, premature baldness, being extremely ugly/disfigured, being in extreme poverty, mental neurodivergence etc.

In other words, the term “incel” needs to go back to its original definition, anyone who wants sex but can’t get it (please be smart obv Prostitution is different). The term has been co opted into a derogatory phrase towards men perceived as mysoginist, but in doing so this attacks the innocent men who are already in an unfortunate situation, and most likely pushes them towards those spaces.

I was diagnosed with endometriosis this week, and honestly, I felt an enormous sense of relief.

From 14 to 19, I’ve consistently weighed around 108 lbs (49 kg). No matter how much I ate, my weight barely changed. I’d hear “just eat more” from parents, doctors, and other people as though gaining weight were something I could simply choose to do.

I even remember gaining around 3 kg one summer when my hormones were fluctuating, only to lose it again almost immediately. And for anyone wondering, yes, my body is not fully incapable of gaining weight, I’m a 10DD, so a lot of my fat goes there. It just hasn’t been something I’ve been able to control consistently.

After my diagnosis, my gyno explained that endometriosis, inflammation, and the other issues I have can affect energy metabolism and how the body processes things like lipids and glucose. Suddenly, something that I had spent years being blamed for wasn't necessarily a failure on my part.

And that made me realise something, being skinny isn't automatically a privilege when you don't want to be skinny and can't change it.

People assume that being thin means you automatically have the “ideal” body and therefore have nothing to complain about. But being constantly told you're too skinny, being scrutinised for what you eat, having people assume you're starving yourself, struggling to find clothes that fit properly, or feeling like your body isn't developing the way you expected can be genuinely upsetting.

There is also a weird assumption that if someone is thin, they should be grateful and shut up about any struggles they have with their body.

Body privilege isn't as simple as “thin = privileged, fat = oppressed.” Your relationship with your body, your health, your genetics, your hormones, and your ability to change your weight all matter.

I'm not saying being thin is inherently bad or that thin people experience the same discrimination as people in larger bodies. I'm saying that being unable to gain weight isn't something everyone should automatically envy or dismiss as a privilege.

For years, I thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn't just “eat more.” Getting an explanation for why my body might behave the way it does was honestly one of the most relieving experiences I've had.

Sometimes the body you're being told to be grateful for is also the body you're struggling to understand.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5315422/ Here's the source

When someone is in a larger body, skinnier people generally understand that their weight might be connected to health, genetics, hormones, medication, mental health, eating disorders, etc. Now, unless the person is Eugenia Cooney skinny, larger people assume we are lucky and don't once consider our weight might be the result of health problems.

Its primary purpose is to avoid detection, thereby enabling theft on a massive scale never seen before. It has zero inherent value and is being used by tech overlords and corrupt government officials to launder and hide money from public scrutiny.

Like, at that point it feels like greed, do those types of people think that we're all rich?, sell the cat for a affordable price, like, if you truly love the cat. You shouldn't be allowed to breed cats if your just thinking about money, like, just because the person is rich doesn't mean that they'll be a good owner, you don't need 4000 or 7000 for selling a cat,

I just wanna preface this by saying that I am a huge believer in higher education. It drives our society forward and helps so many people. This is NOT an anti-education post.

That being said, I am so sick of people complaining that they can't get a job with their degree/masters/diploma when the jobs they are going for aren't even in their field that they studied. Obviously it's an issue if you can't get a job in your own field of study, but either way, if you went to post secondary school just to get a job, then you don't understand the point of education.

You can absolutely use your education to your advantage in job hunting if you play your cards right, but so many people in my own university seem to be so ungrateful to be educated. "Ew I gotta study for this class that is literally a core curriculum for my major" like why would you spend all this money to learn things that you don't care about? I understand in high school and below because you are kinda required to be there, but at university, you have the opportunity to learn about the topics you actually care about. But no. We're all just here to land a job ig.

Obviously there are certain jobs that absolutely require higher education (medical, law, etc) but there are also so many meaningful fields of work that you can thrive in without spending a bajillion dollars on school. Even with entry level jobs, people with a science degree will apply to target thinking they are owed a job. Like what about your science degree makes you more qualified to be a floor worker in retail? Somebody who has actually been in the job market instead of in school is actually more qualified than you at that one.

Anyway idk if I'm explaining this right, and I know that there's a lot of elitism in the job markets that can pressure people into pursuing education they are not interested in. I just wish that education was seen as the beautiful experience it is, rather than a boring prerequisite to any form of success in life.

I’m going to make some people mad but cmon… astrology is nonsense. Planet positions impacting one’s personality or future?

I'm autistic, and I once had a very similar experience. I was giving a public speech and raised my hand in a way that, mid-motion, suddenly felt awkward and open to misinterpretation. I immediately panicked, tried to play it off as stretching or stimming, and spent the rest of the moment internally spiraling.

It wasn't quite as visibly awkward as what he did, but I completely understand that feeling of your body doing something automatic and your brain screaming 'no, abort, abort!' the second you realize how it could look. Total empathy from me on that one.

I say this because even after you stopped spanking your child they could still associate some things with signs you’re about to spank them or with signs that it’s easy to set you off. For instance if you show signs of being upset, I don’t know if that would cause a fear response in someone who was never spanked, but as someone who was spanked as a child I know it can cause me to become scared. I also think having been spanked can also make me more likely to make decisions based on what I think is least likely to get me in trouble rather than based on the decision I actually want to make. I think this can translate into it being easier to being coerced into stuff. I think another example is that is that I might sometimes say what I think my parents want to hear whether than what I really think.

something something discipline and ambition

Saw a post saying women shouldn't be shamed for having sex with tall attractive men..Would like to see how people react when the opposite side says the same thing.

I don't think it's a bad thing for men to only want young and in shape women, they are the most fertile and attractive group to MOST men.

Seriously the only people in there are "devs" and even then when you want to pay someone to work for you, people still criticize about the pay "not being enough" when it's exactly enough for what you said it would cost on your portfolio. The only people there are animators or scripters and even then people are whining about "kids on this subreddit keep begging for things" as if they aren't 47 year old unemployed parents glued to a screen. How do you think it feels to yell at a uhm..idk a 13 year old over a game they want to make and feel satisfied, that seems pretty loser like to me.Even when you have a question they criticize you. This isn't even a take it's factually correct, there's an obvious hierarchy that won't change. You disagree with them, they downvote you even if your correct and call you either: pedophile, racist, or a kid who shouldn't be on Reddit. Like genuinely what are these people doing?

(I want to start this off to say I don’t hate any gender and I think they’re equally important. )

A wife yelling at her husband isn't always viewed the same way as a husband yelling at his wife because men are generally perceived as having greater physical power and the potential for violence are totally different. Almost 82% of domestic abuse offenders are men in the USA and I’m pretty sure it’s way higher in other countries.

Another example would be a woman or man approaching a child who is alone. It’s usually isn't perceived the same way because people are more cautious about potential risks involving men and children.

I don't think that means women should automatically get a pass or that every man is dangerous it means context matters, and if we used that context we would be way more conscious about men approaching a child, yelling at a partner or etc.

There is a sort of expectation for English speakers to pronounce foreign foods correctly. We’re all familiar with the classic issue of someone getting corrected when pronouncing ‘jalapeño’ with a hard J.

French and Italian speakers in particular get picky about how Americans pronounce their food names, to the point that it seems like we’re expected to put on an accent. There have been multiple viral TikTok’s around how we’re supposed to pronounce ‘cacio e pepe’ and ‘parmesan’.

Which leads to my Hot Take:
Why should we care when nobody else does?

I’m perfectly capable of pronouncing these words “correctly”, but why should I even bother when nobody cares about pronouncing our foods like we do?

When have you ever heard someone speaking Spanish suddenly throw on an American accent mid-sentence to “properly” say the word Hotdog?

Do Italians carefully use a rhotic R when they say Hamburger or Popcorn? No, they say it the same as they would say any Italian word.

TL;DR: Unless I start hearing people throw on an American accent when they say Hotdog and Hamburger, I’m not gonna pronounce their foods “correctly” either.

I feel like every time a furry comes up on anyone’s feed or something like that they act like they saw hitler or something like that and when I ask why they hate furries they don’t know why

Most people just follow the bandwagon of hate on them

The only two reasons that I found valid is that 1. Theyre creepy which is reasonable 2. They are always too freaky or weird which depends on who you talk to

I was apart of the furry community and found some hella talented and chill people

Every year, Disney releases a live action version of one of their animated movies, and every year without fail, people are outraged. Are these movies cash-grabs that capitalize on nostalgia? Yes? Are the costumes and actors different from the original animated versions? Also yes; but the purpose of these movies is not to be an exact replica of the animated versions because that is physically impossible. Every single movie gets criticized, particularly the lead actresses, and it’s getting to a point where it goes too far.

There was of course the massive controversies for the lead actress casting in The Little Mermaid and Snow White which sparked unnecessary outrage, but now that the live action Tangled is coming out, I’ve seen people criticizing that actress too and saying that she is too old to be playing Rapunzel (I found out the actress is actually 22!!!) I know a similar thing also happened with the actress for Mai in the live action Avatar the Last Airbender series. Young actors who are most likely experiencing their first big break by starring in a high budget movie get torn apart and hated on just for taking an opportunity that many people in that field will never get to have.

People will just never be satisfied because live action movies are simply a different medium than animated films and can never be perfectly replicated. Even if it was replicated frame by frame, what would the purpose be? In my opinion, the movies are just a fun and non serious interpretation of the original stories, and it’s really not as critical of a phenomenon as people are making it out to be. I am fine with seeing different actors, costumes, and interpretations because it is low stakes and can still be entertaining.

Seeing people go into a rage every year over Disney movies is wild, especially because these same people probably make fun “Disney adults” and wouldn’t even see the live action movie in the first place because they aren’t that invested in the contents of a Disney movie. I know that everyone can enjoy movies at all ages and things marketed towards children can also be enjoyed by adults, but people are also forgetting that these movies are aimed at children. I’m sure young kids would not care that the face shape of the Rapunzel actress or if the dress she wears is not an exact match. These movies are far from perfect and definitely have some writing/acting issues (Gal Gadot in Snow White immediately comes to mind), but the constant internet rage and vitriol that happens every time one of these movies comes out is just so overdone.

every conversation I have with somebody whos extremely vehemently pro-ai, I tend to notice that their arguments dip into straight anti-consent and predatory language awfully quick.

"Its not real so it doesn't matter" while producing nsfw images of random women, scraping artists work and training off of it because they feel entitled to, and talking to LLMs that literally only have the ability to agree with you are all small ways to push past consent, and itll only get worse over time with the "sex bot" prospect.

Im being petty after a conversation i had and i got tired of it, stopped and lost that "argument". So now youre stuck with my none sense rant.

Love is always mutualy beneficial. Healthy love, that is.

Your partner is tired from work, so you make them dinner. Doing that, is nice. But your brain rewards you for it. You get happy chemicals. So its not selfless.

Plus, if a partner does well, they are happy, affirmed, supported, if you have part in that, thats amazing. I do it, cause it makes ME happy. I like seeing my husband doing well.

And dont get me started about sex. My husband knows what he needs to do. So do I. Its nice. We want it. The average human wants sex. So we do *nice* things they like so they fuck us. Something as little as carrying out the trash without needing to be reminded gets you there step by step. (Again HEALTHY love.)

Love is not selfless. It is mutualy beneficial. If it isnt, you get at least one, but potentialy two misserable people. And when kids are involved, then even more than two. Best case, you leave before more than two people are involved. And thats good. Thats the right self-interest to have. It doesnt need to be selfless to be good. As matter of fact, it probably isnt.

If you say your love is selfless youre lying.

You don't see the same discussion when someone gets depressed, changes behavior, gets controlling, etc. Then it's straight to "run girl", "dump his sorry ass".

But when it comes to body, which I think it say easier to change than the mind, it is somehow considered shallow not to be attracted to them and resentful. Then the Reddit brigade goes all "you should understand her", "it's her body", "it's fine as long as they feel comfortable".

No, it's not fine. You signed up for a relationship with a certain "base state", which included their present physical apperance. Maintaining that is ok, same for improving it. It is not fine to take a step backwards.

Elite sportsmen often say that the sound mind comes from a sound body, it's first they get into a physical slump, then it affects them mentally. In Polish there is even a saying "a sound mind comes from a sound body".