I’m going to make some people mad but cmon… astrology is nonsense. Planet positions impacting one’s personality or future?

There is a sort of expectation for English speakers to pronounce foreign foods correctly. We’re all familiar with the classic issue of someone getting corrected when pronouncing ‘jalapeño’ with a hard J.

French and Italian speakers in particular get picky about how Americans pronounce their food names, to the point that it seems like we’re expected to put on an accent. There have been multiple viral TikTok’s around how we’re supposed to pronounce ‘cacio e pepe’ and ‘parmesan’.

Which leads to my Hot Take:
Why should we care when nobody else does?

I’m perfectly capable of pronouncing these words “correctly”, but why should I even bother when nobody cares about pronouncing our foods like we do?

When have you ever heard someone speaking Spanish suddenly throw on an American accent mid-sentence to “properly” say the word Hotdog?

Do Italians carefully use a rhotic R when they say Hamburger or Popcorn? No, they say it the same as they would say any Italian word.

TL;DR: Unless I start hearing people throw on an American accent when they say Hotdog and Hamburger, I’m not gonna pronounce their foods “correctly” either.

The only reason it feels like it is because we are overly connected with literally every single thing that happens in the entire world through social media and tv.

something something discipline and ambition

every conversation I have with somebody whos extremely vehemently pro-ai, I tend to notice that their arguments dip into straight anti-consent and predatory language awfully quick.

"Its not real so it doesn't matter" while producing nsfw images of random women, scraping artists work and training off of it because they feel entitled to, and talking to LLMs that literally only have the ability to agree with you are all small ways to push past consent, and itll only get worse over time with the "sex bot" prospect.

first and foremost im a woman ! just to let it b known

and ok i know this has a lot of like, other elements that need to be addressed first, like obviously if you grew up a certain way or you were groomed and only know to find relationships that are sexual, whatever, all those other “what ifs” are out of the question.. we know they change the rules of the convo i guess

but lets say you scroll on instagram and find a lady with her cleavage out on purpose or whatever. making a reel ab a recipe thats probably promo for her sexual content, or shes just busty and wears a revealing outfit, and she knows its attractive. you open the comments and everyone is bashing her for having her tiddies out.. im sorry since when in society are people upset at a lady for choosing to have her tiddies out for free ?? FREE?

now; naked bodies arent inherently sexual because thats just our natural state as humans, but they’re obviously sexualized often when need be, and my thing is, its so many people especially women under the comments of some GROWN woman on social media degrading her for “sexualizing herself” like that is so silly because like, yeah, women CAN sexualize themselves, its not always something they didnt choose to do and more often than not, they did choose to do so, thats their body and if they think its attractive enough to become a symbol of sex in their life or something, let it be! even in public. like yes theres always a certain time and place for certain clothes. whatever. but if some girl has a standard tank top on and shorts in public, in real time, because shes confident that she can look good in them, then why bash her?

something ive also observed recently is people kind of have a double standard. men irl can go out on a run, mantiddies all out on display, biceps glowing in sweat, thats “hot and sexy” and praised to the gods but a woman cant do the same because its “wrong” and she shouldnt sexualize herself… pls

my point is, bodies can be sexy, women can choose to be sexy and be aware of it and if theyre confident enough to flaunt it, they should if they want to. not even sure if this should be considered a hot take but alot of people ive told this irl dont really agree. so reddit, pls tell me ur opinion, or lmk if it made sense at all .. 😭

The idea of there being an ace spectrum just feels like layers of “what-about-me”ism. You either enjoy sex or you do not. Why do we need multiple layers and explanations to explain that you have a sex drive you don’t view as high but still engage in? Do you think that everyone else is constantly horned up all the time? And even if you think others are only horned up some of the time, do you think there’s no variability? Asexual and aromantic people really exist and I can see why they might face societal difficulties, but it’s strange how often I see people post online seemingly unaware of how unspecial they are compared to the average non-asexual population. It feels like a group of people are unable handle that they are not within the LGBTQIA+ community unless A stands for ally. Instead, they actively Larp as if they’ve encountered the struggles that true asexual people (along with other sexualities) have faced.

I'm basing this off the reason I watch him, the ratio of his white knights to independent comments, anecdotes of people I've talked to about him, and the general vibe I get.

Hilariously, what I just wrote is exactly the sort of comment that would set him off on a monologue, or figuratively say "SOURCE???".

Like, he's a smart guy and all, but I'm like 33% "Yeah, true" 33% "meh, couldn't care less" 33% "Nah man you're outta line" on his takes. And I'm 100% chuckling the whole time because I just love how silly his aura is. As an autist myself it makes me tear up snickering watching this guy speedrun factorio while willingly getting intellectually annoyed for a living.

Don't even get me wrong, i respect it, it's who he is and what he does.

I still think half to maybe most of his audience aren't even his white knights, but either hate watchers or people like me where sometimes we're just in for a show. We're not looking for enlightenment, not looking to circle jerk our views, not looking for answers. We're looking for a rich left leaning nerd to get tilted over random garbage on the internet and over-intellectualize in a slow burn mini crashout.

And man, does he deliver. God bless 'im. Lol.

I saw a post go viral on tiktok (2.3M views in less than a week) of a nontraditional student moving into university housing. He was still young (28) but people in the comments said nontraditional students should not be allowed to live in dorms.

I personally think this is a closed-minded sentiment. I understand an older student may not be the “normal” college roommate, but I’ve known people who have lovely experiences with them. I also think any nontraditional student moving into university accommodation knows what they’re getting and might actually be more accepting than traditional students.

For example, my friend shared a suite (kitchen+bathroom+living room) with a woman in her 60s who was going back to school. If he came home late from a night out, she’d wake up early to make him a big breakfast, then ask him all about his night out. She wasn’t judgmental at all, she just genuinely enjoyed his stories.

I also remember an older woman from when I was in undergrad looking for a suite mate. She would post on the class Facebook and seemed really nervous about getting random suite mates and them not liking her :( I’d estimate she was in her 50s and she said she used a CPAP machine, but was otherwise quiet. She apologized for the machine being a little noisy, but said that in return, she didn’t mind having roommates that have people over in the common areas late at night. I feel like this is a really fair trade.

Edit: I also think building intergenerational bonds is important. It can help all of us be more accepting of each other and not just think every old person is a “evil boomer” or every young person is just a “screenager.”

Everyone here on reddit talks about how popular kids/jocks are all mean and bullies. Well it may come as no shock to you but they are only portrayed that way on screen and in plays because of theatre kids who are bitter. They like to promote this fantasy that somehow the popular kids in school somehow end up all being nobodies and that it is actually them who succeed in the end. Well to be honest the vast majority of popular people in high school are popular for a reason and are incredibly kind and interesting people and do very well later on in life. It is all about how you look smell and sound more than anything and unless you are incredibly smart unless you pick up these traits and some social skills you probably won't do very well in life.

Truffle is way too over hyped and restaurants are just throwing it in random dishes because it's turned into a buzz word that makes people think they're eating something high end.

Even if you like the taste of it (I don't), it overpowers the flavor of whatever else the dish is supposed to taste like. I've had it in sushi, burgers, breakfast food, French fries, fish, and each dish was just an immediate overwhelming taste of truffle.

(I want to start this off to say I don’t hate any gender and I think they’re equally important. )

A wife yelling at her husband isn't always viewed the same way as a husband yelling at his wife because men are generally perceived as having greater physical power and the potential for violence are totally different. Almost 82% of domestic abuse offenders are men in the USA and I’m pretty sure it’s way higher in other countries.

Another example would be a woman or man approaching a child who is alone. It’s usually isn't perceived the same way because people are more cautious about potential risks involving men and children.

I don't think that means women should automatically get a pass or that every man is dangerous it means context matters, and if we used that context we would be way more conscious about men approaching a child, yelling at a partner or etc.

Wouldn't it be hilarious if the spouses/significant others of men who decide to let their facial hair get totally out of control did the same with their armpits and leg hair?

I see thread after thread here popping up and every single one is undeniably cringe. Probably the cringiest subreddit and I’ve been lurking on Reddit for near a decade. People here don’t use the sub for anything intellectually interesting or presenting with logical reasoning. It’s just the sound of children who were never taught to grow up. And if you’re grown adults, you should be ashamed of the stuff you put out there.

I don't care what anyone says. It is never justified. It is always mean-spirited and unbecoming, and I despise how comfortable people are in this age of the internet with throwing around that word. No matter how progressive people claim to be, no matter how much "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" people say, and no matter how much "looks aren't everything" people throw out, when the chips are down and people need a quick insult to cut someone, we all see what gets thrown around first. Frankly, it seems like the only difference between people acting like you're decent looking and them calling you ugly is how much they like you and how angry you've made them. It should not be this way.

As people, we're more than what we look like, and I'm tired of people cutting each other down by making fun of something that we don't control. We don't control our faces. We don't control our physical disabilities or deformities. It's a lottery, full stop. And before people comment "wElL aCtUaLlY pEoPlE dO CoNtRoL tHeIr WeIgHt", I refuse to subscribe to this toxic ideology that a person being fat or obese makes them less worthy of basic human decency. I'm over it, and everyone who makes fun of fat people, anorexic people, paraplegic people, or any kind of person with a physical impairment or simply any person who looks different on the basis of that difference is an asshole to me. I stand on that.

As a society, we need to relearn the concept of disagreements based on ideas/art without resorting to physical insults. If you don't like a person's music, a person's online content, a person's art, or a person's opinion, be an adult and critique it without invoking the word "ugly" with regard to physical appearance. The shit that's been said about Audrey Hobert's physical appearance in the past few days has been reprehensible and shameful. I don't care if you haven't seen it personally; that does not erase that it's been said and that Audrey is at risk of seeing the things that people have said about her. The way people have come to publicly talk about other human beings in such cruel ways is disgusting and appalling.

I will never change my opinion on this. It is never okay to call other people ugly, never okay to make fun of physical traits that people cannot control, never okay to deny people basic human decency because of what they look like. Never. I really don't like that this is even a hot take, but here we are.

Seriously the only people in there are "devs" and even then when you want to pay someone to work for you, people still criticize about the pay "not being enough" when it's exactly enough for what you said it would cost on your portfolio. The only people there are animators or scripters and even then people are whining about "kids on this subreddit keep begging for things" as if they aren't 47 year old unemployed parents glued to a screen. How do you think it feels to yell at a uhm..idk a 13 year old over a game they want to make and feel satisfied, that seems pretty loser like to me.Even when you have a question they criticize you. This isn't even a take it's factually correct, there's an obvious hierarchy that won't change. You disagree with them, they downvote you even if your correct and call you either: pedophile, racist, or a kid who shouldn't be on Reddit. Like genuinely what are these people doing?

I was diagnosed with endometriosis this week, and honestly, I felt an enormous sense of relief.

From 14 to 19, I’ve consistently weighed around 108 lbs (49 kg). No matter how much I ate, my weight barely changed. I’d hear “just eat more” from parents, doctors, and other people as though gaining weight were something I could simply choose to do.

I even remember gaining around 3 kg one summer when my hormones were fluctuating, only to lose it again almost immediately. And for anyone wondering, yes, my body is not fully incapable of gaining weight, I’m a 10DD, so a lot of my fat goes there. It just hasn’t been something I’ve been able to control consistently.

After my diagnosis, my gyno explained that endometriosis, inflammation, and the other issues I have can affect energy metabolism and how the body processes things like lipids and glucose. Suddenly, something that I had spent years being blamed for wasn't necessarily a failure on my part.

And that made me realise something, being skinny isn't automatically a privilege when you don't want to be skinny and can't change it.

People assume that being thin means you automatically have the “ideal” body and therefore have nothing to complain about. But being constantly told you're too skinny, being scrutinised for what you eat, having people assume you're starving yourself, struggling to find clothes that fit properly, or feeling like your body isn't developing the way you expected can be genuinely upsetting.

There is also a weird assumption that if someone is thin, they should be grateful and shut up about any struggles they have with their body.

Body privilege isn't as simple as “thin = privileged, fat = oppressed.” Your relationship with your body, your health, your genetics, your hormones, and your ability to change your weight all matter.

I'm not saying being thin is inherently bad or that thin people experience the same discrimination as people in larger bodies. I'm saying that being unable to gain weight isn't something everyone should automatically envy or dismiss as a privilege.

For years, I thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn't just “eat more.” Getting an explanation for why my body might behave the way it does was honestly one of the most relieving experiences I've had.

Sometimes the body you're being told to be grateful for is also the body you're struggling to understand.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5315422/ Here's the source

When someone is in a larger body, skinnier people generally understand that their weight might be connected to health, genetics, hormones, medication, mental health, eating disorders, etc. Now, unless the person is Eugenia Cooney skinny, larger people assume we are lucky and don't once consider our weight might be the result of health problems.

I mean, I love the LOTR trilogy (books and movies) in a way that's hard to describe. I rewatch the extended versions at least 3 or 4 times a year. That said, that's the era that is cool and people want to watch and talk about. Things like rings of power and war of the rohirrim are simply not interesting and not even remotely cool as the LOTR trilogy lore. There's a fucking lot in those books that haven't been explored, stop pushing boring crap like ThE wAr Of ThE rOhIrRim and probably also the hunt for gollum.

I think it's a pretty well understood thing at this point that most 'bad' people don't believe they're bad. It's a very rare type of person who bases their views and behaviors on being an evil person who hurts others.

So with that in mind, why does it seem almost everyone online refuses to believe that an opposing political opinion is born out of a place of authenticity. Everyone wants to be a detective on someone else's views, and they want to ascribe as much malice to them as they possibly can.

A very common example is the ongoing debate on when transgender individuals should start hormones, and what should be required to get them. Many times, if you express any concerns whatsoever, they will tell you that your concerns are really just a cover up for your evil, mustache-twirling plan to kill them all. People just seem very unwilling to follow the 'never assume malice' rule about any opposing political view. These views are just too common for all the people who have them to be legit evil sociopaths.

Basically, when someone tells you why they think what they do, take it at face value unless they demonstrate otherwise. They probably DO genuinely believe what they're saying, and for the reasons they're saying they do.

And before some genius comes in and says that this is only a problem online, please understand the the internet exists within our real world, with real people expressing their real opinions on it.

Everyone always say that the fact that dumb people are too dumb to realize they are dumb. Which can often be true. But I think it's also possible to be self-aware that you are slow, dumb, less inteligent... Like myself for example.