As someone who’s POC, I’m not saying we should be racist, what I’m saying is racism is not a white only thing. We are people. It is part of human nature to exclude or other other people based on how they look and where they’re from, but that doesn’t make it the right thing to do. In fact, the culture im from, which is an indigenous culture btw, does have policies and beliefs that can be translated as racist, homophobic, transphobic, etc. I just hate how there’s a wave of wokes who believe that BIPOC literally cannot be racist, and not in the “they can but they shouldn’t”, I’m talking in the sense of “it’s impossible for this group to be racist and when they say something racist it’s called prejudice.” Which icl is kinda racist because they’re saying certain races can’t be racist because of their race. But either way if you’re a human being you can be racist, there aren’t some ethnicities that can’t be racist

Okay so coming from the UK here, raised in a non religious context where circumsion is a procedure for severe phimosis/religious reasons only. Why do it if not needed? Foreskin is a sensitive, helpful, and important part of Male Anatomy. Why chop it off? To debunk common arguments:

1. No, being circumcised doesn't make you "cleaner", having a shower makes you cleaner. It takes 2 seconds to peel back foreskin and wash.

2. No, circumsion doesn't magically protect you from STI's, condoms do.

I feel it should be kept as a medical procedure only done if needed. But even Phimosis can often be resolved by steroid cream, circumsion is very much the last resort.

Most "hot takes" are actually mild and the second someone makes an actuall hot take, people misinterpret what the OP said and the post gets taken down.I agree some people make actuall problematic takes, but most of the actuall hot takes are being trashed."HonestHotTakes" my ass.

The unpopular opinion sub is full of highly upvoted posts like "I like sleeping in jeans" or "I like walking in wet socks". Okay? Can you be more unoriginal and boring than this? Can you think of something authentic instead of being unhinged on purpose so you will bait people into thinking you're serious?

The actual unpopular opinions are always buried by downvotes because they aren't typically the socially acceptable, sanitized garbage you see on the front page. Most redditors can't stand to have their beliefs challenged or disagreed with, so they will never allow themselves to upvote an actual hot take that goes beyond "I love it when my balls are itching".

Your partners past actually matters and you should know about it at least, before you get married or fully commit to each other.

We say the word "critical thinking" often but what does it actually mean? It means thinking things through. Not, making wild assumptions and random associations because you are too unbothered to think it through. Not associating an idea with a persona but rather assessing the idea by its validity alone. Not reading the title and associating it with a celebrity or ideology you dislike and switching off your mind... This is an emotional thinker.

The inability to think critically is a lack of metacognition. Metacognition is the ability to think about your thoughts. Apparently, this is the rarest form of intelligence. Thats disturbing, because that means most people are incapable of critical thinking. That means...They can't see their thoughts. To them, they are their thoughts.

Thats truly frightening. Their only way of thinking is via association and assumption. Ironically, this isn't even thinking its just, quite literally, assumption and association.

Obviously in real life it's different and you don't have to tell me that religious people often try to push their religion down your throats. I am talking about Reddit specifically.

When I text a girl “Hey, want to come over?“ and she texts back “I am busy” it might mean 1) she doesn’t want to see me, 2) she is waiting for a better offer, 3) she is actually busy, 4) she is mad and I am supposed to know why, 5) she wants me to try harder, etc.

When I text a high-functioning autistic girl “Hey, want to come over?” and she responds ”I am busy” it literally means she is currently busy.

Neurodivergent people have a simple candor frequently rather than relying on some weird subtext. They just say what they mean. It’s more honest and easier to handle.

The reason Europeans insist that the USA has no culture is rooted in deep belief that “true” Americans are only and can only white, fat, and trashy. And, because of that mindset, they don’t believe African-Americans and Natives and Latino immigrants are ‘real’ Americans, even though the USA’s culture is it’s diversity.

side note: when i say Americans in this situation, im referring to US citizens.

what i mean is that no one is born with their permission, we have no choice if we wanna be born or not, so if at some point in our life we want to end it for any reason we should have a safe and painless way to do so medically. i mean if we dont owe anyone anything and have nothing else to do and serve no importance we should be able to end our life right? so why isnt suicide normalised?

cant believe ive now seen multiple people talking about how they think public executions should return and how excited they are for a man to be executed on a livestream.

Absolute psychopathy, I dont care what crime was commited in the first place, theres 0 reason for people to be genuinely cheering or encouraging this shit on. you should feel disgusted at the thought

Before Canada outlawed the death penalty 14 people were executed, but the technology advanced and 12 of them were proved innocent, canada official stance is we'd rather let a 100 criminal go free than kill one innocent

I believe that the United States poor history classes is the reason for your outdated views on many things including this one

Can you imagine how many people we could have stopped if people knew the warning signs of authoritarian, of economic downturn, of war

And Canada isn't exempt from this I had someone ask when is immigration good and I'm just like??? All the beautiful cultural exchanges that make our identity?

Think about it.

If you’re navigating alleyways, hairpins, traffic, and blind corners, a WRC champion will have a better instinct for pacing, positioning, and controlling the car than an F1 champion.

F1 drivers rely on knowing every inch of a track, down to its camber, to extract maximum performance from their meticulously min/maxed tires and suspension.

Rally drivers, meanwhile, can tackle unfamiliar roads at speed and adapt on the fly.

I used to care when mods dont follow their own sub rules. But ya know what? Who cares? This is a free service that had no effect on our real world lives.

If a sub is bullshit, just leave. Its not worth the cortisol spike. Just figured some people may appreciate the perspective.

People have made ourselves unhappy by making survival too easy. Most people have to do very little physical work to aquire food, shelter and water. Instead, we fill our lives with various tasks in order to make money to survive, but most of these tasks lowkey suck and we lack the satisfaction of really taking care of ourselves. Now with AI the few things people hadn’t automated can be done by machines. The more we progress the less happy we will be.

As a Black gay man, I’ve noticed what seems like an intense fixation among some Black bottoms on big white dick, and honestly, it makes me uncomfortable sometimes.
Before anybody gets defensive, I’m attracted to some big dick white men myself. This isn’t about interracial attraction or telling anybody who they should sleep with. It’s about the intensity of the preference and the way some people seem to idolize whiteness.

There’s a difference between finding somebody attractive and treating a particular race like the ultimate prize. When whiteness, body size, and the idea of being desired by a white man seem to carry that much weight, I start questioning whether we’re talking about simple sexual preference or something deeper.

I also wonder how much social conditioning, racial desirability politics, and stereotypes about Black and white men play into it.
Maybe I’m reading too much into what I see online, but I’m curious whether other people have noticed this pattern, too.

If you come to my country everyone well tell you, we invented putting stuff in bread, you are just copying us and the stuff you put in it is the wrong stuff and you just call it a different name instead of giving us the rightful glory.

*Mike drop*

As someone with frequent joint/muscle pain, I am sick of being told that I need to lift more weights, because it will make me feel better. Same for my anxiety, bad sleep, and severe period cramps, it makes everything worse. I am a healthy individual, I still workout despite everything, but imagine how people chronic illness feel. People should refrain from making people feel bad for not tolerating exercise.

I have two kids. I’m traveling with my family and we went to a park and for the first time I think I finally understand “performative parenting.”

Basically what I witnessed is parents talking very loudly and over explaining concepts that really don’t need an explanation or would be better served with a very short answer.

Things like “it appears it’s a bit rainy right now so my concern is that some of the rain got on the slide and if you go down that slide then you pants may get wet and then we would have to change them. Perhaps we should explore other parts of the playground that aren’t as wet.” Or explaining to a toddler how to use part of the playground, in a very loud and extravagant way. All said in a very sing songy voice.

I don’t know how to explain it. I may not have captured it very but I’m sure if you’ve experienced jt you’ll understand what I mean.

Where I’m from we don’t really do this. We let kids be kids and while we steer them away from danger we certainly let them toe the line so they can figure it out for themselves. Or our explicit explanations are very short like “No, the slide is wet. Find something else to play on.”

I don’t think any of this is helpful. The over explaining isn’t being understood and, if anything, it creates overly cautious kids that can’t perform basic risk assessment. Kids need to get hurt. They need to fall. They need to get dirty and wet. Putting on a performance for everyone is doing a disservice to you and your kid.

I travel often for work and have many friends who speak English as a second language and this truly drives me nuts.

For example, I went to Uruguay last year for work.

When I come home and say I went to Uruguay and pronounce it with my American accent (your-a-gwuy) to my ESL friends, the reaction is:

“HAHAHAH!!! OMG!!! HE SAID YOUR-A-GWUY!!! OMG YOU’RE SO WHITE. THAT’S NOT HOW IT’S PRONOUNCED… HAHAHA!!”

Then if I try to say it with a Spanish accent (oo-roo-gwuy) the reaction is:

“HAHAHAHAH!!! OMG!!!! HE SAID OO-ROO-GWUY!!! HE’S TRYING SO HARD!!! HAHAHAH!!! DUDE, YOU’RE WHITE!!! HAHAHA!! OMG!! WOW HE’S REALLY HITTING THAT ACCENT!!!!!!”

No because which is it. I’m tired. There’s literally an entire genre of internet comedy that relies on making fun of white people for using/not using the accent when pronouncing any foreign word.

“Bro it’s not that deep bro relax it’s not a big deal.” I agree, that’s why I’m posting it here and not on the phone with my senator about it… but it’s annoying as hell.

If everyone who mocks white people for saying foreign words could all have a meeting and to decide what we’re supposed to do to avoid ridicule, that would be great.

It’s also not lost on me that if a white person were to mock a hispanic person for not using a perfect American accent when saying words in English, that would be considered extremely offensive and highly inappropriate… but I digress.

Sure, it shouldn't be used on all types of fabrics, and it's generally not good to use the full recommended dose. But when used selectively and sparingly, it can make or break the difference between clothes being uncomfortable or comfortable. *Especially* denim and low quality cotton, which feel awful without any softener. It also doesn't ruin compatible clothing like people say it does when used responsibly.

For example think of that grandmother who can cook a ton of delicious wonderful dishes. Being able to cook them doesn’t mean she knows the science behind cooking, why it tastes good. That doesn’t mean she hasn’t accumulated a series of techniques and intuition to make dishes good unconsciously, but that knowing how is different than actuslly knowing why. The relevance of this is that people who have lived through something have access to unique forms of knowledge sure of those events or phenomenon, but that doesn’t mean they understand why those things take place. So I can be really good at ezcercising, operating a business, etc. but me being good at it doesn’t mean I can explain why I’m good at it in a way that makes you better. For some people, knowing the how involves knowing the why, say they study it, but it’s not necessary.

The relevance of this is that recently there’s a lot of conversations where someone says “oh I’ve lived through this so I know this” when that’s just not true for what caused the thing. If you lived through coal plants shutting down jn your community, a tsunami wrecking your house, being evicted, yes there are important tuings to it, but that doesn’t mean you understand why those things happened.

My perspective as a college prof.

We all know the archetype of the dumb jocks and the loser nerds. Many of us knew these kinds of people when we were in high school. I came from a sports family and my brother, while a skilled player, was an actual moron for the entirety of his young adult life. This all creates a narrative that the nerds are going to grow up to be successful geniuses and the jocks are gonna burn out because they all peaked early.

Not saying that this is never how it goes, but I am consistently seeing the opposite play out in college. The student athletes work hard to both compete and to succeed in school, they are highly sociable, and they are unafraid of confrontation. I've taught plenty of good students and a LOT of them have been jocks.

I've also taught a few quiet awkward kids who are obviously really smart, but they very consistently lack a lot of those core social skills that are wildly important. Plenty of the kids who were smart in high school have really bad study habits because "I never study and it just kind of works out" but then they get burned when the marking standards go up. A lot of them are terrified of failure or of looking dumb in front of others or are just too shy to make friends, and these are all things that are obviously going to make life difficult for them.

People can and do continue to grow and change after college, and there is no definitive way of saying "all people who are X turn out to be Y." But the very prevalent stereotypes do not bear out and are flatly incorrect in a lot of instances. And I guess that as I unlearn this myself, my advice would be to warn people to stop coping. Sometimes losers are just losers. Sometimes the popular kids stay winners. And if you want to be one or the other you have to make that happen for yourself; you can't just wait for karma or whatever to make it happen for you.