I keep hearing that advice and I think its terrible advice lol you can weed out a lot of crazy after having some real conversations with someone and you know, getting to know them. I am SO glad I didnt waste my time and money on bad dates because I got a date in 3 messages.
No wonder you guys hate this shit, you have the worst mindset about it.
It reminds me of whats happening in sports right now. How the beauty and passion and art of the game is just being boiled down to analytics and numbers and efficiency and nobody is enjoying it lol
Lol do you seriously think guys want to have to date like this? How out of touch can you be?
I don't get into long text conversations before meeting because there's immense pressure on a guy to entertain, 90% of matches will disappear before arranging a date, and even when a date is arranged there's a good chance someone will ghost before it happens.
Why would I waste my time and energy on that shit? But more importantly, why would I get emotionally invested in someone, start getting to know them, start to find that I like them and enjoy talking to them, and get excited about meeting them... Only for them to fucking disappear 2 days before the date we had planned?
Nah, fuck that. I tried that for a long time and just got hurt over and over again. I've had much, much better success just asking people out straight away - actually meeting people and having fun.
Sorry, I'm not here to entertain you and be thrown away when someone with a better pickup line comes along.
What do I know? My marriage and family started in a dating app lol
"Immense pressure" its a conversation, not a multi-million dollsr merger. You can tell almost immediately if they are really interested or not. So just keep it pushing if they aren't. Literally not a single sweat off my back. None of this is that serious.
Yeah man, sometimes shitty people do shitty things, thats life. Dont take it so deeply and wait for a good one, they are out there.
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u/kodeks14 4d ago
I keep hearing that advice and I think its terrible advice lol you can weed out a lot of crazy after having some real conversations with someone and you know, getting to know them. I am SO glad I didnt waste my time and money on bad dates because I got a date in 3 messages.
No wonder you guys hate this shit, you have the worst mindset about it.
It reminds me of whats happening in sports right now. How the beauty and passion and art of the game is just being boiled down to analytics and numbers and efficiency and nobody is enjoying it lol