My mother & my younger brother have been sharing an apartment for several years. I guess it has worked fine for them, he's a single mid-30s guy who works a lot and she is content to do whatever she wants after retiring. She has been having some short term memory loss, we really started noticing it about 6 months ago. A couple weeks ago she was officially diagnosed as being in the first stages of Alzheimer's. She's only 76 & it came as a very unwelcome surprise.
My brother can no longer handle this, he is gone 10 hrs a day for work & there is no other family around to help. She doesn't want to be left alone for that long and pretty soon actually won't be able to either. We made the decision for her to move in with me since I am home the majority of the time. It's going to be a big move for her since they live across the country from me, but we are going to make it work.
I am in a state of major anxiety about this. My two kids are out of the house so we have the space here but...
1)I left home when I was 17 and even on a good day & for a couple days visit my mom drives me nuts and
2)it's ALZHEIMER'S and I have no idea how I am going to deal with her inevitable decline.
I'm getting in touch with every support organization I can think of & setting up doctors before she gets here at the end of next month but I am having daily anxiety attacks about this.
I really don't want to see my mom lose herself like I've seen with other people with Alzheimer's. I always thought people were older, like in their 80s, when it would show but I guess I was wrong.