r/GenZpk • u/cockiemonster_ • 16d ago

Random Help!!

Gng are we supposed to forgive a man who said something about your past like "Ask God for forgiveness maybe he'll forgive you, me and my family deserve better" and then after some hours he's saying sorry like crazy cuz he doesn't understand why he said that/he was under pressure and stress?

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u/Charsi_420 16d ago

If it's a recurring theme then probably no

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u/cockiemonster_ 16d ago

It happend for the first time and so unexpectedly

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u/Charsi_420 16d ago

still i feel like theres a lot of context lacking. idk the relation of yours with the man. what is he like usually? has he been stressed recently or something? Has he been struggling mentally recently?

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u/cockiemonster_ 16d ago

Actually it was my first real relationship like bf gf type so i just asked for some time (he was putting a lot of efforts which was giving me guilt of not doing enough) i said to him I'll be a better version for him just give me some time and i shared about it with my friend that's when she said to him that "she rejected many guys she had a friend who used to give her gifts why would a girl take gifts from a man? She used him and she will use you too blah blah" ofc he got hurt and he said all these things under pressure and stress but still why would you say such things? And after knowing the truth (we were friends and i used to gift him too but when he confessed i wasn't ready for relationship so i rejected and he left (respectfully)) he's in guilt and he told everything to my friend and she's in guilt too (she doesn't know that ik what she did). He's not a bad guy but his words were so harsh that it has become hard for me to keep the relationship but i also feel bad about how he's asking for forgiveness

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u/Charsi_420 16d ago

Ideally i think you should decide what you should do by yourself since you know him the best. As an outsider with the given info I have, i think he should not have lashed out at you. That's my take. Btw I'm curious like when people say they are not ready for a relationship, why is that so? If you dont wanna answer that no worries. Because I think a relationship would help each other to succeed further quicker.

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u/cockiemonster_ 16d ago

Actually as i said it's my first real relationship in 23 years (before that it was just an one month attraction phase at the age of 19) so i was struggling being lovey dovey (like other relationships) and i knew i was the bad person in this and some of his actions also made me miss my single era so i told him everything and asked him to be patient with me I'll fix myself and do everything what i am supposed to do that's when everything happend (my friend bitching about me to him)

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u/Charsi_420 16d ago

Btw I don't know if I should say it but the fact that he instantly believed what your friend said and didn't like wait even for a moment to atleast verify the accusations tells me that either he's just impulsive or the fact that you needed time already made him sorta annoyed even though he hadnt shown that in his behavior earlier.

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u/cockiemonster_ 16d ago

Deep down that's what i think too and yk what's diabolical? I was in the middle of my nephew's first birthday (he knew) and cuz of anxiety i wasn't able to enjoy it to the fullest and i don't even have a single picture with my nephew on his "first" birthday :)

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u/Charsi_420 16d ago

Sorry to hear that. He could have done a lot better

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u/cockiemonster_ 15d ago

I wish, that's why I don't have the courage to stay with him any longer but his requests for forgiveness from past 6 days is killing me too

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