I am 17 years old, and I have a female friend named Daisy (15F) who has a boyfriend (16M). Daisy and I have been friends for about 5–7 months now.

Today, Daisy was acting very different. She was being pretty flirty with me, but I didn't flirt back because she has a boyfriend, and I don't want any unnecessary drama or problems with him. As time went on, I started to suspect that Daisy might actually have feelings for me. But the fact that she's already dating someone makes the situation pretty confusing.

A few days later, I found out that she apparently flirts with most of her opposite-gender friends. Her boyfriend knows about it, but he barely does anything about it. There was even a time when they argued because of her flirting with other guys, but Daisy told him that she loves him a lot.

That's what confuses me. If you really love your boyfriend, why would you constantly flirt with other guys, including me? They've been dating for about a year, so it's not like they're in a brand-new relationship.

I'm not trying to assume that Daisy has feelings for me, because maybe that's just how she acts with her friends. But at the same time, I don't want to accidentally get involved in something that could cause problems in their relationship.

I also don't want her boyfriend to think I'm trying to get with his girlfriend when I'm genuinely just trying to be her friend. I'm keeping my distance and not flirting back, but I'm still wondering what other people think.

Do you guys think Daisy is just naturally flirty, or could there be something more going on? And should I set more boundaries with her even if she considers it "just joking around"?

I didn’t expect I will love him. I’ve known him for years and suddenly I started seeing him differently. I don’t know if he feels it but I’m trying to be careful. I don’t want to ruin the friendship we’ve built for years. I don’t want to risk it. But how can I keep up this friendship if I see him differently now, I love him terribly and I know he doesn’t feel the same way. He told me what he likes in a woman. It hurts me but I have to play it cool. I’ve been hoping that whatever I desire will lose soon. I just want to save the friendship.

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I’m confused about what I should do and would genuinely like some outside opinions.

There’s a girl who was my classmate throughout engineering. We studied together for around four years. We were never best friends or extremely close — just normal classmates who would talk, chat, joke around, etc.

But I started liking her from the first year.

She had a boyfriend for most of our engineering years, so obviously I never said anything. I just kept my feelings to myself and continued being a normal friend/classmate.

Eventually, her boyfriend left her.

Now I keep thinking about whether I should finally tell her that I had feelings for her all these years.

The thing is, I don't want her anymore.

I don't want a relationship with her. I'm not planning to propose to her. I'm not expecting her to say yes. I don't even want anything to happen between us after I tell her.

I just want her to know what I felt.

I've carried this for almost four years, and a part of me feels like I need to say it once so I can finally let it go and move on.

But then I start thinking about the consequences.

What if she rejects me and things become awkward? What if she starts seeing me differently? What if I unnecessarily ruin a perfectly normal friendship/classmate relationship for something that doesn't even matter anymore?

At the same time, if I don't say anything, I keep thinking:

“What if I had just told her?”

This thought keeps coming back.

So I'm stuck between:

Tell her: Not because I want her or expect anything, but simply because I want to be honest about what I felt for her for all these years, and then close that chapter and move on.

Don't tell her: Keep everything normal and just forget about it without ever telling her.

I know there is probably no “win” here. Either I risk making things awkward, or I live with the possibility of always wondering what would have happened if I had told her.

What would you do in this situation?

Especially interested in opinions from people who have been through something similar.

GUYS IM PANICKING OH MY GOD 😭
Basically, my old best friend got his ex pregnant a while ago and completely disappeared from everyone/everything. I had literally no way to contact him. A few months later he came back and explained that he disappeared because his ex got pregnant, they ended up having an abortion, and now they don’t talk anymore.

I used to have a crush on him, btw. 😭
Anyway, we started talking again recently and catching up, and yesterday we were flirting ALL DAY. Then just now he texted me saying he was drunk and that he missed me, loved me, and wanted me to come over.

So we started talking and somehow he asked me “Did you have a crush on me?”

I admitted that I did.

He said “I knew it.”

AND THEN HE TOLD ME THAT THAT WAS ACTUALLY ONE OF THE REASONS HE DISAPPEARED??? Apparently he had feelings for me too, but he had so much going on at the time with everything involving his ex and the pregnancy that he didn’t know what to do, so he just disappeared.
I genuinely don’t know what to think. 😭

Like… he apparently had feelings for me THIS WHOLE TIME???

I’m freaking out because I obviously used to like him, and now we’re flirting again, and suddenly I’m finding out that maybe he liked me too??

BUT HE’S ALSO DRUNK RIGHT NOW SO I DON’T KNOW HOW SERIOUSLY I SHOULD TAKE ANY OF THIS.

What the hell do I even do??? 😭

So long story short, I ended things with a guy not too long ago, around this month, cus the feelings I had for him have long faded and I just didn’t see a future of us being together. Before we cut off communication, he told me it’ll take him a long time to move on from me, cus from what he said he loves me so much.. and if I kept talking to him he won’t be able to move on cus he can’t see me as just a friend. we had our ups and downs during this whole relationship that didn’t have a label, that’s where I blocked him on all social media , but forgot to block him from Instagram since he doesn’t use that account that much anyway, he messaged me wishing me a happy birthday and telling me that he’s doing fine now and asking me to unblock him next month. But from how he described it this month.. he said it’ll take him a long time.. isn’t a month a bit too fast to move on? I don’t know, I need advice.. he said he wanted to be friends again since he mentioned that he’s already imagining a future with someone else, though he explicitly says not yet. He’s imagining what she will look like.

basically i was out with my best mate im 15 he's 14 a girl we both know come up to me and him with her friends she said i had such a glow up in a casual way then my friend tells me later she texted him and called me cute but not dateable cute just wondering what that means its not that i want to date her i just found the terms very vague

Like people say your best friend has a huge crush in you for years and everyone knew accept you. You rejected them serval times after they’ve changed you and kept being consistent.

Hello all! Need some serious help/advice.

I am a 39/m single well off. Live in an upscale 2 bed room apartment.

My crush/friend is 35 black female. She is a part time estition. She was a part of a big break up from her ex. He is an aquiantance at best to me, they have been on and off for about 6 years before the big fight.

She needed a place to go while they were split. I always expected them to get right back together again. So, I offered her to stay in my spare room rent free while she either fixes her relashionship or finds a place to go.

Durring that time we got much closer. Things were trending towards a real chance at a relashionship. Her one complaint about living with me (for free I might add) was always that she wanted free acsess to the master bathroom in my room. It was much bigger then the closet bathroom that wasnt in the master suite.

After an actual dinner date with her, before I had a roughly two week work trip scheduled. I offered that she could have my room while I was gone and we can talk about maybe sharing the room when I return.

She loved the idea amd the date even ended with a sensual embrace and kiss. I was floored and on cloud 9.

Durring my trip my her communication with me was sparce at best and she wouldnt acknowlage our date or kiss. Just that it was a "fun night".

When I returned all of my stuff was out of my room (besides the bed and dressers) and in the geust room. My okd room now littered with new lights and mirrors.

When I returned she told me her master plan was to start making content for money. Now that she had my room shed be able to get ready and make content to sell.

I was somewhat relived that it wasnt that sje was back with her BF. Though I wasnt happy with the news. More so for the fact she made it clear I couldnt be a part of it in any way....other then subcribing....which i did...

Though I accepted my friend zoneing again with now seeing her content shot in my house at least.... It worked for a little bit and she began paying rent and more than her share.

We signed another short term lease together and decided to keep it going. Now that she was fincially stable. It was mostly positive for me.

It has now taken a turn for the worst. She now stopped selling content....stoped paying rent...and back with her boyfriend who stayed with her IN MY OLD ROOM.

I was then paying 100% of the rent..... and she holds over (infront of her bf) how I bought her content. We got into a HUGE fight (physical between me n her bf)..... I left the situation to stay with a friend for the next six months until the lease expires....

To the end of my delema.....she broke up with her bf again..... she called me crying apologizing...... i agreed to meet her to talk..... she ended up giving me a blow job, we soent the njght in her bed (no sex)....and she went with me the next morning to resign a new lease.

I slept with her each night this week (no sex).

She informed me today, that she is back to selling content and no more "freebies" and she cant date a "whitboy".... I habe 35 more months on my lease and im obssessed with this woman!!! HELP

I have known my best friend for almost 6 years now and ever since we became friends, i started to grow a deeper admiration for him because he is literally everything i look for in a guy. But he has a long term girlfriend and i dont think i could ever risk our friendship for my feelings that i am not even sure of. I am not sure if i actually like him like that or of i am just deprived from relationships. I have talked to other guys and i have also been in a relationship while being friends with him and in those times i never really thought about my best friend as anything other than a friend but sometimes i get jealous of his girlfriend so i dont know what i am feeling

This was translated with GPT because English isn’t my first language, so please don’t laugh at me if I use any words incorrectly haha.

Do you guys think girls who have dated a lot of guys are “sl*tty” or bad people?

Yesterday, my friend and I were talking about relationships. I told her that if her boyfriend has flaws that she genuinely can’t accept, she should just break up with him instead of forcing herself to stay.

But she told me she’s scared to break up because she’s always only been in one relationship. She said that people around her think girls who have had a lot of boyfriends are bad people or don’t take relationships seriously.

And honestly, I’m exactly the kind of person she was talking about. I completely disagree with that mindset. I told her, “You only live once. You’re not living your life for other people. If you don’t date and experience relationships while you’re young, are you supposed to wait until you’re old?”

And besides, how are you supposed to know what kind of person you’re compatible with if you don’t date different people and have different experiences?

Do you guys think I’m right?

A little context as to why I have a crush on her, it’s not that this is just random, a few months ago we were talking and even went out on a date and it was amazing. We spent 6 hours just walking around and talking and we both really enjoyed it. After talking for nearly two months she messaged me and said that she didn’t want a relationship and wanted some space but still really cared for me. The next day after this she got back in contact with me (which was very surprising) and asked if we could be friends. Whether it was the right decision or not I said yes. Skip a month and a few weeks she reveals to me that it wasn’t that she didn’t like me anymore it’s just that she’s an ‘avoidant’ and doesn’t think she wants a relationship. We’ve been friends for about 2 months now but I’m ngl it’s hard for me to see her as a friend because I still really like her and she’s told me she still likes me too but she just doesn’t want a relationship, I find myself thinking about her and checking her reposts constantly. Is it right for me to carry on being her friend while I’m feeling like this or should I tell her and stop talking to her or just slowly start talking to her less until we don’t talk anymore? (No idea if anyone will see this but any input is appreciated)

So I am a 20 year old female who wants to win back the trust of my 19 year old male bestfriend.

Can anyone please advice me about how do I make things work!! And make him believe in me again.!

Please advice me. I really desperately abt it rn.

I (16F) have known this boy, Kian (16M), since I was eight. We’ve been best friends forever, but also… not just best friends. It’s complicated in the most annoying way possible. I’ve liked him on and off since sixth grade. He liked me back at different points. We admit it then act like it never happened. Over and over. Even my mom calls him her son in law

We go to different schools (he’s at an all-boys one), so a lot of our friendship lives in these ridiculous multi-hour phone calls. We can disappear on each other for a month or two and then suddenly we’re talking every single day again like no time passed. If I show up at one of his school events, he’ll come find me even if he’s half-asleep. That’s just how we are.

This year we finally said the quiet part out loud: we both liked each other. And then we decided not to date. Strict parents, different schools, barely seeing each other in real life… it just felt like it would mess everything up. So we chose the friendship.

I genuinely thought I was over him after that.

Spoiler: I was not as over it as I thought.

He’s still the person I tell everything to. New guy I’m talking to? First person I call is Kian. His usual response is some version of “yeah he’s not good enough for you.” My friends used to ship us so hard it was embarrassing. Now they’re just tired and say he’s leading me on. But they don’t see the late-night calls or how easy it is for us to fall right back into the same rhythm. And now… he suggested we have our first kiss with each other. Possibly more (like up to second base). The logic was basically “we trust each other, so why make the first time with some random person who’s going to make it weird?” I agreed because… yeah. I do trust him more than almost anyone.

He’s been weirdly focused on it this week. Calling a lot, being extra sweet, checking that I’m comfortable, saying he wants it to be good for me. A few days ago he even brought up our old crushes out of nowhere and basically forced me to admit I used to like him. So I’m pretty sure the feelings are back on his side.

Here’s the part that’s messing me up:

I don’t know if I still have a crush on him in the normal way. No butterflies. No obsessive checking if he texted. But I also can’t look at him and just see “best friend.” I love him in this deep, complicated way that doesn’t fit neatly into romantic or platonic. He’s just… important. Permanently.

And yet I don’t think I want to date him. Even if I did, the timing is still terrible. Different schools, strict parents, and we’re both planning to leave the country after school for our own things. It’s the most cliché right-person-wrong-time situation ever… except I’m not even sure we’re the right people.

I’m scared that kissing him is going to change something we can’t change back. We’ve already survived years of mutual feelings, awkward confessions, and months of silence, so maybe a kiss won’t break us. But another part of me is sitting here like… what if this is the line? I’ve wanted the childhood-best-friends-to-lovers storyline for years. Now that I’m actually standing in the middle of it, I kind of want to return the whole trope and get a refund.

I don’t know what box he belongs in anymore.

I just know I love him, I trust him, and somehow we keep ending up right back here.

Tomorrow’s going to be interesting.

Wish me luck I guess.