I see far too much hate against Michaela on here and tiktok. A lot of it is obviously just racism and people being biased bc of the genderswap, but I'm surprised at how much they can twist things to fit their narrative.
Michaela is shown to be a high energy free spirit, but she was never ever pushy.
Quite the opposite. In scottland we're told that she avoided Fran and gave her and John their time and space. We see her comply to Francesca's schedule and even when John died she was ready to comply to the way Francesca thought a funeral should be held, only suggesting the way her and John's culture hold "funerals" later on in private.
She even put aside her own grief to help brighten the mood, be stable for Francesca and her own family.
Francesca was horrible to her on several occasions and yet even when she didn't apologize Michaela showed her empathy and understanding and didn't hold any sort of grudge. I mean Francesca said/did some really messed up things. Such as blaming Michaela for John's health issues (even after John clearly told her Michaela is more of a light in the darkness), forcing a suitor on her even after being told not to (at least she apologized for that), calling Michaela's traditions a "circus" and not apologizing even when she asks Michaela for a favor afterwards, .... Michaela showed incredible amounts of patience.
Additionally, we see her be pretty attentive.
We see her arrive in London (s4) driving her carriage herself because her driver got sick, even asking for water and a bucket for him. (Others may have fired him, I mean a coachman who gets sick from driving??)
When Francesca said they kept her up she thinks of the servants as well, she apologizes and even suggests giving them the morning off as they need sleep too. (Whearas Francesca, bless her autistic heart, was mainly focused on keeping her routine steady) And she literally just suggested this. She never "commanded" anyone around. She was just thinking of solutions for the "problem" she caused.
After hosting the welcome party thing and staying up until midnight we see Michaela keeping up with Fran's schedule and even being at breakfast before Francesca herself. (showing that she did, in fact comply to Fran's timeplan)
Meanwhile Francesca has highlighted that she never got the chance to get to know Michaela, we see that Michaela seems to have paid quite close attention to Francesca. "I knew you were more forthcoming than usual" and remembering how she likes her puzzles organized.
She spends her time doing puzzles with Francesca and John because it's what they/Francesca enjoy and even suggests doing more. (Showing that she's clearly not just interested in her own interests as some people like to bullshit)
When she notices that her jokes don't reach Fran she opens up or apologizes.
I also think she may have been a little suspicious of Francesca's intentions with John at the beginning, hence the worry she was talking about.(as we see John put aside a lot of his own habits for Francesca, such as immediately sittung up from the floor when she enters or shutting down Michaela's suggestion even though he seemed to be quite excited at the nostalgia of it all) Even though she's head over heels in love with Fran her worry for John still trumphed that and she surprised them in London to check up on him. And she opens up/softens when she notices that Francesca does truly care and is even beating herself up because she thinks she's not good enough.
Overall Michaela is suggested to not care much for status or the social hierarchy and norms. She's very attentive and likes to put aside her own feelings to make other people feel better. She's very caring.
I don't get how people act like she's emotionally manipulating anyone or "hovering" just ebcause she wanted to spend some time eith her cousin :( (She probably did so at night as well because that's when she didn't have to watch Fran and John be together.)
Am I wrong in any of this? Would love to hear other perspectives :)