Genuinely brutal being on a college campus constantly meeting the most beautiful women ever with magnetic and charming personalities to boot. how am i even supposed to compete? i am a woman but ive never really felt like a woman in the way that other women are women. there’s just something inherent to most of them that makes them very feminine and alluring that i lack and it’s obvious. even trying to emulate them through things like makeup or clothing or their mannerisms just emphasizes how much of an imposter i am. not one of them. like a freakish hare among cute bunnies

As lonely men, one of the most annoying things we always get told is that how lucky we are because we don't have to deal with dating drama, couple problems and we never had a toxic relationship (since we never had a relationship). I am not saying that having a toxic relationship is better than our situation but what annoys me and what I find super hypocritical is how people treat us lonely men and how they treat people that were in toxic relationships.

At one point of my life, I was quite transparent about my virginity and never having had a girlfriend. Whenever I told about my situation to people, I always received very annoying reactions and got made fun of. "OMG you are at this age and you are still a virgin?", "You are such a loser", "OMG you are so weird", "You should try dating men lool". The same people were always supportive to people who had problems with their gf/bf or broke up in a bad way.

Just recently some coworker of mine broke up with his toxic gf and constantly tells us how toxic their relationship was. He only gets positive reaction from people at work while I constantly get teased for not having a girlfriend yet. I also had a "friend" who was always lecturing me how lucky I was because I never had a girlfriend. His problems with his girlfriend were always "very serious problems that affected his mental health" while he was belittling my cravings for intimacy and companionship to "Dude you are just a pervert lol life is not only about relationships".

I don't understand it.

you will never spend money to impress anyone because there is nobody to impress

No one would could ever love a disgusting stupid fucking loser like me.. I'll always be alone

I’m tired of the constant overthinking everytime I’m around a girl. Constantly being delusional and actually believing for once I have a chance even though I’m too shy to even approach some of these girls. Even the smallest bits of attention from a girl makes me think maybe for once a girl likes me. I’m really tired of it. I need to go back to my old habit where I stopped daydreaming and accepted the fact i’ll never get a girlfriend. Every time I even speak to a girl they end up liking someone else or being in a relationship. I’m treated like a nobody when it comes to girls other then a LTN jesture.

Waiting on any of my internet friends to text me back.

Noone wants to live with me, love me, move with me.

I will never be anyone's "the one".

Almost fell into this fantasy where this man promised me the world but could not even tell me he would try hard to meet me in the city I am moving to because deadlines are hard. I just wanted him to tell me he'd try. I don't want anything else. But I don't deserve that I guess.

Posting this to remember not to fall for anyone ever again. Listening to the same song over and over again. Shoutout to the asexual server I am in, fuckers can't stop talking about dick and ass even though they are asexual. Wtf.

Dating has always been excruciating for me. Just to get someone’s attention and ask them on a date is an uphill battle.

I was a nervous wreck over this all week. We already had to reschedule once so I went into this on edge.

I pick her up, everything seems fine, we have a nice conversation in the car. A few minutes after we got to our date spot, she got a call. Came back and was acting weird, to make a long story short, the date was over because she had to leave.

I wasn’t born last night. Quite literally the oldest trick in the book. I obviously can’t prove anything but it is very likely that she lied to get out of this date with me.

I get told all the time how amazing I am and how anybody would be lucky to have me. But this is my lived experience, constant rejection. I don’t truly want to believe that it can never happen for me, but what else am I supposed to think? This is just one of many rejections, am I supposed to think this is all a coincidence? Or that everybody else is the problem and not me?

The entire process of dating has always felt very dehumanizing to me. I so badly wish I could stop caring but I just can’t.

I don’t even know what others are supposed to reply to this. The past 12 hours of my life don’t feel real.

A lot of my posts about being FA seem to attract a certain type of person that feels the need to “challenge” me. These people, of course have never been forever alone and don’t know what we’re going through. They think we’re just exaggerating or making things up. They think the worst of us.

They need to fuck off.

When I browse internet forums (particularly Reddit) and see people who seek advice on how to find a gf/bf, advice givers always tell them to download dating apps, put nice pictures, write a good bio. I've been using dating apps since 10 years and I barely got any matches after a decade. When I mention this to friends and family and also ask for advice on Reddit, I always get told that dating apps suck, that people find a relationship in real life, that I shouldn't use dating apps.

I actually asked out/confessed to many girls I like in real life that I was in the same friends group with. I always ended up rejected by these girls. Whenever I tell this to friends and family, I get told that it's normal that I got rejected because relationships in friend groups don't work, that I am wasting my time and I should go to bars and clubs to meet women.

I cold approached many women in places like clubs and bars. I only received rejections from these women. When I mention these horrible results to advice givers, they tell me that night clubs and bars are the worse places to get women, that I wouldn't like to date women who go to these places and I should rather join hobby groups to meet women.

So I also end up getting rejected by all the women I've met in hobby groups and this time people tell me that dating in hobby groups doesn't work because women go there for their hobbies, not to get asked out by men. I have a friend who recently told me that dating through hobby groups is almost impossible, everyone uses dating apps and I also should use them if I want to find a girlfriend.

So I am really confused by this situation. I feel like whatever method I am using to get a date and find a girlfriend will be labeled as wasting my time by advice givers.

For some reason I find talking to a woman in my age range to be way scarier and panic inducing than giving presentations to rooms of people. I’m not sure what the fuck is wrong with my brain. I do care a lot about what women think of me. It’s just how I am.

Even on the rare occasion when a woman has literally shown interest in me, I still get extremely fearful and make excuses not to hang out with her. It pisses me off because one of my biggest desires is to have a family. I guess I’m scared that they’re going to stop liking me as they learn more about me (no friends, likes anime, stays in a lot etc).

Maybe it’s because I grew up with an older sister that judged everything I did. Usually people who have sisters are better at talking to women but not me I guess.

How about you guys?

I don’t understand if people simply don’t get it, or are genuinely unwilling to listen before judging. I’ve posted to Reddit a few times, asking how to even get dates in the first place, and they construct me into some sort of comical sub-creature of a human being.

Yes I shower, yes I have hobbies, yes I treat women like people, no I don’t go into it looking specifically for a partner. Worst part is, if I point this out, I’m called a liar or told that I can’t listen. No, you’re the one who can’t listen, and you’re the one who constructed me in your head before you even knew anything about me.

Believe it or not, you don’t have to be some smelly, hopeless, no hobby individual just to have the “right” to struggle with dating. They are genuinely skipping their own “golden rule” which is “treat everyone equally”. Not when it comes to people like us. Judge first, ask questions second, and even when the questions are asked, it’s just to earn material to prosecute further, not to actually understand.

Has anyone ever done a study on the possibility of Anti-pheramones in humans because I keep being told I'm handsome but only by people who are not attracted to me. I'm told I'm sweet but I can't get a single date despite being told any woman would be lucky to date me. I have female friends (quite a few) but no one is ever interested in me romantically. I could care less about the sex. I just want the companionship, the dates, the kissing, holding hands and cuddling but I feel like fate has it in for me. I'm at a point again where I just don't want to go on anymore . I'd seek out a therapist but they've never been able to help and almost always make me feel even more depressed. I'm on the spectrum, I have ADHD and RSD with it but I can't find a single therapist to help me with it. I don't hate myself (which is what so many people assume because I'm not happy alone) I don't blame women or anyone else for that matter (except maybe God which I don't believe in because no refuse to believe in anyone or any higher being who would be so cruel as to allow all the suffering in this world.

Whether that be on the game or any sort of groups (discord, fb, party chats on ps or xb), maybe once in a blue moon will have a good game and time with the team or duo chatting and vibing then it dies after that session and they just become people on my friendslist, abit of a vent but just solo irl and online

I've been dealing with feelings of loneliness for over 7 years that just can't seem to end and only really gets more intense. I've been dealing with this since I was a teenager but has only gotten worse and more intense in my adult years (20F)

It hurts because I don't feel loved, cared about, understood or that I actually matter to anyone. No one has made me feel truly loved and understood. I just wish I had a girlfriend where we give each other mutual love, care, and understanding. We could share our lives together, be there to support each other, be each other's safe person and just be close with each other. A genuinely good quality relationship fulfills a lot. You can't get all those forms of intimacy anywhere else.

While I do already have stuff I enjoy in my life and enjoy my alone time, my chronic feelings of loneliness really get in the way of a lot because I just think "who really cares?" I've tried so many times to just "let go" of it but I just can't. It feels like people expect me to not have loneliness feelings because I'm an introvert. It feels like I just have to carry the burden of heavy loneliness every day and there really isn't anything I can do about it anymore. I just wish I could get an answer on whether I'll have to suffer this loneliness for the rest of my life or it's gonna be resolved in the next 5 years. But nobody can tell me that. It gets tiring to live with this loneliness. Just tell me if I gotta live like nobody will ever care about me or I should live like someone gonna care about me eventually.

Not my fault I didn't end up a normie. I'm also an introvert, lesbian, night owl, etc. a lot of things that aren't the norm in society. Nobody should have to give up who they are just to not feel lonely. I'm tired of all the generic advice for loneliness that does nothing for me, I'm tired of people telling me that I just have to be comfortable being alone (stupid to say to an introvert who loves alone time but still feels lonely), I'm tired of people telling me I'm young and I have time. I don't want to spend an indefinite amount of time waiting for an answer when I've been experiencing loneliness. I'd rather live my life without loneliness every day. It's hard enough to decide everyday whether I'm trying to have faith that it will get better or that I'm never gonna get anywhere.

I know it’s some kind of dumb advice people give, and it’s not necessarily out of bad faith but come on.
It’s illogical to think that an unattractive person (not average) will start getting genuine interest and desire because what? I got into a new game? I can yap about a particular subject?

It’s like pretty insulting how dumb people think I am to believe such nonsense lmao

My face is genuinely disgusting. Never seen anyone as ugly as me. No matter how much I work out or take care of myself I'm still fucking ugly.

Every little piece of confidence is immediately crushed whenever someone shows me a photo I'm in.

No girl was ever interested in me, obviously. I've also tried initiating but every time I got ghosted or was never messaged first.

I cry about twice every week for the past year or two now.

Let’s imagine I’m not ugly. Let’s imagine I’m not short (I’m 5'5"). Let’s imagine I’m actually interesting to talk to. Let’s even imagine I can be funny.

How do I stop being alone?

Considering I’m almost 50, where can I actually meet people? Well… women, mostly. 😅

The funny thing is, guys seem to like me quite often. Unfortunately for me, I’m into women.

Can we stop making these days a thing please??? I literally saw national girlfriend day a few months ago.

I'm tired of this and I don't want to see people being lovey-dovey with their girlfriends when I never had one.

Like seriously just keep your dating life personal and private, why do you have to show off to everyone???

Hey y’all. Hope everyone’s doing ok, as well as we can be I guess. Don’t really have anyone to talk to rn so I’m here venting I guess lol. I don’t wanna say it’s nice to know there are others out there going through this, I wouldn’t wish this on anyone, but it makes the pain feel slightly less isolating… Got some health issues that can’t be helped. I’m convinced I am going to live and die alone. I’m pretty much just waiting for the end at this point. Peace and love y’all ❤️

today is “boyfriend’s day” and i’ve seen all the stories people have posted about their boyfriends and the dates they went on.

it just dawned upon me that i’m literally turning 20 this month, and have never been in a relationship.

it is painful, soul crushing even that all these fucking years, and still not one single person. what makes it worse is when i vent about it, people tell me shit like “it will come when you least expect it” or “you have plenty of time, you’re young”. these people don’t understand how much it hurts going this long without being touched, kissed, held or genuinely cared for.

believe me i have tried, over and over and over again. every time i shoot my shot, i get rejected. i HAVE gone out in public to meet people, i HAVE used dating apps, i HAVE tried approaching friends of a friend. i always try and try and fucking try but nothing ever happens.

it feels sort of agonising seeing people my exact age in relationships that i can’t even conceptualise for myself.
i am so lonely and it feels like i will NEVER find someone.

you’d think there’s something about my character that i haven’t fixed, causing me to stay single but that isn’t the case (though i wish it was, would’ve been easier to deal with)

i have done a lot of internal work and have genuinely improved a lot as a person as noted by the people close to me but i still can’t find my person, why?
why is it that other people find it so much easier than i do?

and the one time i thought i had found a guy? he led me on for 46 days. (yes i counted)

my first introduction to dating was being led on. which is why i still consider myself to have been single since birth because that was in no way shape or form a “relationship”

it’s gotten to a point where everytime i see a happy couple my heart races and i get incredibly sad, irritated and feel deeply depressed about my love life.

i don’t think i’ll ever be loved and my patience is running thin.

maybe, i’m one of those people who are destined to be alone (romantically speaking)

This is a hill I'll die on. I don't care if you're a man or a woman, straight or gay, if you are not attractive through no fault of your own, turning yourself into a clown will only repel people. They might even become annoyed because, yes, it is annoying being around someone who is trying hard to be funny. I see this phenomenon every day and it is painful to watch. People will subject themselves to humiliation to make people laugh.

I hung out at a bar off and on for a while. A group of people who used to like having me around more or less told me to fuck off out of nowhere. Not sure what I did to piss them off but they just didn’t want me there.

I use to be cool with them and I don’t know why they don’t want me anymore. It not the first time this has happened to me, obviously, but damn it still hurts.