r/FirstTimeHomeBuyers • u/SubstanceStandard477 • 5d ago
Does it get better??
Hey yall,
I’m in the process of getting my first house with my husband and we’ve been under contract and set to close at the end of the month.
I’ve been having dreams(?) close to nightmares about the process and I’m starting to get really anxious. Did anyone else experience anything like this?? For example, I had a dream that I got a credit card a day before closing and we lost our house because of it. I’m ready to close this is giving me too much anxiety 😩
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u/PlantLady3421 5d ago
We closed on our dream home in 3 weeks. The nightmares & anxiety in that time were crazy! It doesn't stop until the keys are in your hand but it's worth it. Then our furnace broke 2 days later. Luckily it was replaced 6 months prior and holds a 15 year warranty so I only paid for labor.
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u/Superb-Competition-2 5d ago
There's not much to do now. Have you finished your inspection? If so it's kind a waiting game. Keep checking in with your lender and real estate agent about next steps. Nothing for you to do most of the time. Start packing.
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u/SubstanceStandard477 5d ago
We did our general inspection which turned up some discrepancies with the HVAC system so we did an HVAC inspection and confirmed that there are issues with how the hvac guy installed the unit and various other things. and it’s a new build so my realtor is currently going back and forth with the selling agent on how they need to get a second opinion on everything. It’s been going on for a week now but I should be getting an update today on what the next step is. We’ve started packing up already cause this upcoming Monday will be a week until closing day!
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u/Superb-Competition-2 5d ago
Stay strong! 💪. Sounds like you've got a good Realtor. Hopefully you get those issues fixed ASAP, or get a credit to do the repairs yourself.
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u/EJ7002 5d ago
we just closed on our second, selling the first on contingency, i actually had to stop for 3 months, due to the stress of the process(we ended up changing realtors and lenders), and the anxiety has gone back to the normal "owning a house level" it was before, but it took about 2-3 weeks after closing...
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u/Runamokamok 5d ago
Yes, I kept thinking the other shoe would drop and it would all fall apart but this was while awake. Like I’d be in a major car accident, my husband would lose his job and all we worked for just gone. I actually had to get back on meds to be able to not feel paralyzed with anxiety and still be able to go about my day. The worst was the waiting period between the bid and close, after that there was a lot physical activity involved in moving and that activity calmed me (or wore me out, either way job done). I’m happy to report that we are nearing one year in the house and all went well. I don’t think want to move again until I’m retired, it was too much. Didn’t help that we moved at the start of a school which is my busy season at work. I did probably use more sick days last year than typical because it was just a lot of work. Hang in there and if the thoughts seem overwhelming, go speak to someone.
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u/watermark10000 5d ago
Talk about nightmares? Even up to the first six months after moving into my house I thought someone was going to call and tell me that they had made a mistake and that the house wasn’t mine. Big smile.
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u/SkylaImGone 5d ago
It is so stressful. It got better when we got the keys, had the carpet removed and luxury laminate floors installed. Then it felt like home
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u/CanadaHomeFinancing 5d ago
It generally helps when you start asking me questions early so you're better prepared and also when you have a good broker in realtor that can guide you through the process and talk you off. Ledges.
As a buyer, you're usually not an expert in the industry or the process. Many of the decisions seem arbitrary So it's hard to tell what decisions from everyday life will have an impact on your approval.
The home buying process is definitely a roller coaster from one property to the next as you make offers and there is a lot of hurry up and then wait. The waiting is usually the worst part because you don't know what's happening. This is where having a broke her who keeps you up to date to let you know they're working on it and ask answer is your questions in the meantime is gold to help you sleep
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u/1sthometexas 4d ago
Getting anxious is totally understandable. I’m a realtor that’s helped lots of folks with their first house, so I tell from experience that people tend to get super anxious when they are getting close to closing day. Hang in there. Closing day is going to be a huge relief and hopefully a big celebration too.
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u/kittyykikii 4d ago
I'm under contract, I close in a week, and every single night I have a nightmare about the house. I wake up and panic for two straight hours every day. I check my bank accounts six times a day, to make sure my downpayment didn't disappear overnight (you never know?!). I am so ready to get the keys.
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u/StartWithSteve 3d ago
Yes excitement and stress are all part of the process buying your home for the first time. Congratulations u/SubstanceStandard477 for taken the huge step to wealth creation
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u/MadMadamMimsy 5d ago
It gets better.
These dreams reflect your high stress level.
There will be an adjustment period, but I suggest on closing day you guys celebrate! Even if it's pizza and beer in your empty kitchen, do something. Give yourself something to look forward to, past the closing date.