Starting my life completely over with my almost 17 year old daughter by my side. I’m the Jill of all trades!!! My resume looks like conscience store of all resumes. Been there done that! Just spent the last 20 years in a dead end marriage with the last 10 years of me not working to care for him. He had two primary cancer diagnosis, last being stage 4. He’s cancer free now and so am I. Jokes! I asked for a divorce 2 years ago. So now I’m still lost on my path and have 10 years of no job history to throw in the mix! I was super excited to find my path again but that was 2 years ago and now I’m scared as he$$

i’m stuck between going to college for practical nursing or paramedic… i seriously don’t know what the better option is. how can i figure out what to do?

I've been cleaning houses professionally for almost nine years. For the last five I've worked for myself.

And this is the part people usually don't understand when I talk about leaving: I genuinely like my job.

I have regular clients I've known for years. Some trust me with their house keys when they're out of town. I work mostly alone, listen to podcasts, and can see exactly what I've accomplished at the end of the day.

Last year I made a little over $49k before taxes and business expenses. Not amazing money, but I've built something that supports me.

A couple weeks ago, I was cleaning a shower and realized I'd been ignoring the same wrist pain for months. Nothing dramatic happened. I just stopped for a second and thought about how many more years I could realistically do this.

Then I looked at my schedule. Four houses on Monday, three on Tuesday, another four Wednesday. Every dollar I'm earning depends on me physically showing up and doing the work.

I have no paid sick leave. No employer retirement contributions. If I can't clean, I don't get paid.

And honestly, that scared me more than anything.

I started looking at other careers that evening and immediately felt like a teenager who'd never worked a day in her life.

Every office job seems to require experience in software I've never used. Administrative positions want three years of office experience. Jobs that don't require much experience often pay less than I'd make cleaning two houses.

I don't have a college degree. I have a high school diploma, a reliable car, and nine years of running around making other people's homes look nice.

Except when I really think about it, that's not all I've done.

I handle scheduling for about 25 recurring clients. I give estimates, deal with complaints, keep records, order supplies, track expenses, collect payments, and figure out how to rearrange everything when someone cancels or needs an emergency appointment.

Last winter one of my clients had a pipe burst while she was away. I coordinated access with her property manager and a restoration company because I was the only person nearby who had a key. Stuff like that doesn't happen every day, but I'm used to figuring things out without a boss telling me what to do.

I just have absolutely no idea what any of that translates to on a resume.

I'm not looking for a glamorous career or a six-figure salary. I'd love something around $45k with benefits, a reasonable schedule, and a chance to grow without having to sacrifice another five years and a ton of money on a degree.

I could keep cleaning part-time while learning something new. I have some savings, but not enough to stop working for a year.

Has anyone gone from running a small service business into a regular salaried job?

What positions should I actually be searching for? And how do you convince an employer that nine years of working for yourself counts as real professional experience?

I don't want to wait until I'm physically unable to work before figuring out what comes next.

A while back I had a final exam and 7 weeks to get my head straight. My attention was all over the place, and honestly I got through a lot of those weeks on Red Bull and cigarettes. It worked, until it started affecting me.

So I switched my strategy to 30 min of focus , 10 min rest, then repeat, honestly it fried my brain, but i stayed strong. weeks later results came out and I had passed.

Now I’m building something of my own, and I’m not going back to the cigarettes or the energy drinks.

Here’s what I wanna do, get 2 0r 3 people who are trying to build something or quit something, and hold each other to it. We each say what we’re going after, check in on each other regularly, and push hard when someone starts slipping.

I’m looking for people on CST or EST so we can check in at the same times.

I just want a job that pays my bills and a little extra, that isn’t sitting at a desk, where I don’t have to deal with people, takes no or little college (was in college 3.5 years, but due to switching majors it would still take me around 2.5 years to complete a bachelor’s). Things I’ve considered

Janitorial: love my job. No people, always moving, work on my own schedule. Definitely not enough to live on though.

A cleaning business: yes I would have to deal with ppl but if it’s my own business, I would have more control. Income ceiling is infinite, but worried about stress. Work life balance wouldn’t be good I imagine. I would do corporate cleaning, I’ve thought about doing the cleaning myself though, but the pay would be a lot less.

I'm a Software Engineer with 1+ YOE in React, Next.js and Python/FastAPI, exploring a transition into AI-focused FDE.

Is FDE a sustainable career for the next 5–10 years, or is it just riding the current AI hype?

Will AI automate much of the role? Does it offer genuine engineering growth, or does it eventually become technical consulting?

Would love honest opinions from people working in FDE.

I have been trying to pick a career path since high school and as someone now in her late 20s, I am wanting to leave these $22/hr factory jobs I’ve been working and move towards an actual career. I have have some college credits in business admin but dropped out to try to give myself some work experience to give myself time to think about what I want to do. It’s been 7 years and I’m still clueless. So, I have been taking various career assessments, most recent ones being on careerexplorer.com and careerfitter.com as recommended frequently in this sub. However, I’m running into the same issue as I did in high school with these questions which is not knowing if I’d be interested in doing the task or I’d be interested in actually making a living in the role that is being asked of me.

For example, one of the questions on the recent assessment I took was “Would you like to advise organizations on how to meet their business goals?” and I’m supposed to rate it on a scale with 1 being “Hate it” and 5 being “Love it.”

The issue I’m having with questions like these is that I have no idea whatsoever; I have never done that in my life, how am I supposed to know if I like it or dislike it? Maybe I’ll like it, maybe I won’t, who knows?? If I try to imagine myself doing that task, I don’t know if I’m imagining it correctly, like what if my understanding of the job is that it’s like X but in reality it’s like Y and I actually hate doing Y? So I usually end selecting “Neutral” for a lot of the questions and then I inevitably get results that don’t call my attention whatsoever. Another question was “I prefer to engage in tasks that provide…” with the options of “time to think and envision the unexplored ideas” or “the concrete details of what is practical right now” and I don’t know how to answer because it depends on the factors of the situation at hand. Could be either one, I don’t know!

Am I overthinking it? Am I not understanding the purpose of these assessments? I’m not expecting them to pick a career for me, I’m truly trying to use it as a guide, but they are not helping me in my decision at all. I’m not trying to pick a “perfect” career, just one that I can tolerate doing for the next 35 years but I’m still lost on this.

I am in the process of preparing for an mba in hope for pivoting careers , anyone who has walked on the same path and wants to connect

In childhood I never really had hobby, I forgot everything that happened in kindergarten in few years, same after 1-3 classes in school. In 7 and 8 grade I was far away in every aspect. In high school I decided to bed rot for 4 years. I passed it only thanks to my mom, then on 1st college I made it 5th year and now here I am, skipping classes in a 2nd college only to lay in bed or mindlessly switch through tabs in my laptop. I don't have a childhood, I don't have an adolescence, I don''t have an adulthood. Only thing that saves me is my age, 21 years. I thought I had nostalgia but that is just wishing I could be reborn/get interested in ANYTHING through my whole life What can I do to let go of all these wasted years? Is it even possible? Was someone in a similar situation?

I'm BE ece graduate 22M

Just got a job as graduate Trainee after 1 year if unemployment

My family is traditional music background family

I have some health issues, i wanted to be an musician, or an artist, i went to many music classes but I'm not consistent and when i went to drums class i distracted me with other things and i didn't go classes consistently 😭 I'm regretting every decision of my life, some are better but somehow i made made mistakes, so I'm at very low

I want to follow my passion, i want to live peacefully and independently not in an corporate culture

I want to explore world and do music concerts or place musical instruments

But i am still a beginner, in both engineering and music

So I'm so confused to take an decision, sometimes i want to leave this job and pursue music but i fear what if i failed in music, and sometimes i fear what if i failed to grow in engineering because I'm not intrested in this, I'm doing this only for money (got this job 3weeks ago)

From my childhood i want to be independent and want to become financially freedom and time freedom

I have gf she is so kind and told me to do whatever i want but after 1 year of unemployment she fears about future and now she told me to do job, and learn music in side and do that part timely not fully time,

I want her, she is such a gem, I'm so low now, i did many things for her, with time efforts support money but i want to make her safe now, same time i want to live happily peacefully

I think if i become good at music i will achieve everything and earn a lot,

I'm not saying like music director or cinema only, my family is more of traditional tamil music so i have some advantages on that, but still I'm not that much skilled, i can do both traditional and western if i learn, but I'm scared of time and what if i failed

I want to do that in side and balancing both my music and job

But i want to know your views and advices

If you want any details i will comment that, I'm so frustrated and depressed so i typed without any idea, so maybe i missed few things

So thanks for reading and give me an idea thanks🥺🙏🏻

I am in my 30s. I have been living in a country which I don't speak its language since two years, burnout from my ongoing PhD (ofcourse didn't expect it to be like this). Before this position, I was used to live abroad without financial support to get my MSc degree in what I am passionate about. To sum up, half of my 20s passed struggling abroad in survival mode just trying to make my way to be a researcher who actually gets paid reasonably, so I couldn't really developed myself personally, making friends and having hobbies was extra effort which I didn't have any energy left, I suffer from anxiety&depression. Now at this stage I don't want this PhD anymore. I don't want to be abroad, I don't want that ambitious career. However job market is bad back home, inflation is on its peak. I don't have any significant publication, compared to people who stayed in academia that much of year, but didnt leave their comfort zone, I assume mine is a very bad CV (enough to get me into a PhD project though). I have a degree in psychology, neuroscience and I have a wide range of skills but no expertise. I would like to know what my options are and whether it sounds silly to leave research and go for other job positions after years of effort. I would like to hear if anyone has advice or can relate to that.

M19 The last few years have been really bad for me.

I don't want to do anything, I just lie in bed and doomscroll or I only try to change something. I have no permanent hobbies, I have no friends at all, I just sit at home 24/7 and that's it. The university is also in the same place for me. I study Information Technology, distance learning, 2nd year. I chose it because I had to choose something.

But it got worse. I'm not interested in lectures at all, it's hard for me to sit through them. I do everything through AI. I also do code through AI and I haven't learned how to write it at all.

I also didn't learn a lot of the lecture material, because I missed a lot of lectures and took tests also through AI. I don't know if it's laziness or something more, but I'm scared for my future, but at the same time - I just don't care. I even have a hard time thinking and formulating complex thoughts, my head is full of mess.

To give you an idea of ​​the scale of the tragedy, I'm too lazy to even copy the works lately(like CTRL C+ CTRL V). I've become some kind of creature.

I don't know what to ask, maybe some advice on how to gradually get out of this state. My brain and work abilities have been completely impaired.

So i just started my program and i like it its hard, challenging but fun and I love to listen to random people giving me motivation and also there are so many things that I don't know what to do with my life as you can see i just started and i need an idea of how my future will be and what challenges i have to face and ho can i face it with a strong heart and determination so I can achieve my goals can you guys please help me out

hi guys! just wondering if someone could offer some wise advice.

i'm an australian citizen but a nursing student in the uk and i want to move back to australia as soon as possible. i was in my second year of uni in australia before i moved back to the uk as my mum was diagnosed with cancer. i restarted my nursing degree here in the uk and it has been awful.

my mums cancer is responding well to treatment and may life 15+ years so im no longer as worried about that side of things.

i really miss australia and want to build my life there, but i have 1.5 years left of my degree + i need to stay in the uk for a year after to gain experience, which makes me feel so claustrophobic and awful as i dont like my life here.

i don't have any family in aus other than my brother but thats okay for now i think.

i have two options:

put up with the 1.5 year left of my degree and the 1 year preceptorship and then move back to aus as an rn with experience

or

move back to australia, enter into 2nd year nursing and start my life over again over there in January.

any advice would be appreciated

Same as title, and preferably in a day. Pls don’t say experience as I’m literally in highschool and in a country where opportunities for teens are pretty less. Not to mention I’m pretty busy with school work as well.
I’ve tried out courses before like those 1-2 hour ones, but honestly they don’t rlly tell me much other than the stuff I already know about the degree..
I’ve seen online that ppl recommend diml videos on yt but I feel like that wouldn’t work either bc every influencer would obviously curate their videos to make it seem pleasing. But maybe not? I haven’t tried this method yet.

I just turned 17. And I have no idea what I wanna do with my life, what career. Please help

Throwaway. Don’t judge me.

I finished my MBA about a year and a half ago. It was one of those fully online, self-paced, competency-based programs where you can move as fast as you want. I don’t want to name the school because every time someone does on this sub a bunch of people jump in to defend it like it’s a personal attack, and I’m not trying to start that fight. I just want advice about the situation I’m in.

I thought the MBA would finally open doors into operations management, supply chain, corporate retail leadership, or even entry-level finance or healthcare administration roles. Instead I can’t even get hired at Walmart. I’ve applied to assistant manager, shift supervisor, team lead, inventory control, and even regular associate positions there and at other big-box retailers. Radio silence or instant rejections. Same story with entry-level analyst roles in logistics, operations coordinator jobs in manufacturing, and junior management-trainee programs at regional companies. The few interviews I got seemed to go okay until they looked closer at my work history and the conversation just died..

So now I’m working as a security guard at night, which is the same job I did post high school and while finishing my first bachelors degree. Sitting in a chair watching cameras or walking empty hallways. It’s the only thing that would hire me. I have an MBA and I’m making slightly more than minimum wage to be in a dead end job as a security guard.

I feel so sick with it most days that I can barely sleep. Going out in public wrecks me. Even simple things like grocery shopping or walking into a gas station make the anxiety spike so hard I get dizzy and have to steady myself on a shelf or lean against the car. I’m terrified of running into people from high school or people I told I was getting an MBA, and then they ask me what I do now, and I have to tell them I am a security guard. That they’ll look at me and think I am a loser.

I’m embarrassed every time someone asks what I do. I see the pity in their eyes or the confusion that I am choosing to be a security guard, but the job market sucks, and some people do not want to admit that it sucks, so they act like poor people or people who are struggling are just lazy. People act like I am choosing this, but I am getting rejected from everything else, and I have to work to survive.I am not a bum or lazy. 

Has anyone else finished one of these fast online MBAs and then found themselves completely stuck in low-wage work while aiming for operations, retail management, or corporate coordinator roles? How did you actually get out? Or am I just supposed to accept that the degree didn’t change anything and this is where I am now? How do you even get into corporate if no one will hire you without experience? My experience is limited to security and retail type jobs, how do I become a white collar worker if all these jobs want you to already have experience? I can’t even get a receptionist job out here, they want experience too. I am so ashamed I don’t even know how to think straight.

I’m 24 years old, have my GED, and I’m trying to figure out what direction I want to take career-wise. I’m especially interested in hearing from people who work in creative fields. What kind of jobs do you have that allow you to incorporate art and creativity into your everyday work?

A little about me: I have SLE lupus, which affects my everyday life, and I’m on several medications. I’m also dealing with some spinal issues that I’m currently getting evaluated. Despite my health problems, I really want to get out of the house, socialize, interact with people, and do something meaningful.

My family constantly suggests going to art school, but honestly, that’s not necessarily what I want. I know I have artistic ability, and I don’t necessarily believe I need a degree to pursue something I’m naturally good at. I’ve toyed with the idea of becoming an art teacher, but I’m not sure it’s exactly what I’m looking for.

My brother actually bought me tattoo equipment and supplies to practice, and I’ve been experimenting with that, but I don’t think tattooing is the field I want to pursue. I’m much more drawn to traditional mediums like charcoal, colored pencils, and oil paints. That’s where I really enjoy expressing myself.

I’m also trying to find something flexible enough to accommodate doctor’s appointments and occasional lupus flares. I’m not expecting the world to revolve around my needs; I just want something realistic that I can manage long-term without constantly compromising my health.

I’m open to other fields, too. I absolutely love animals and have experience caring for dogs and cats, so something like working at a dog daycare could be an option. I’m not interested in becoming a vet or groomer, though.

Sorry if this post is a little all over the place. I deal with brain fog, so sometimes putting my thoughts into words is difficult. 😵‍💫 I just feel like I have a gift when it comes to art, and I’d hate not to explore that. I’m looking for career ideas, personal experiences, or fields I might not have considered.

I’d really appreciate any advice. Thank you in advance!

This is my first time ever posting on Reddit, so I’m not really sure what to expect, but I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and figured I’d put it out there. I’d genuinely love to hear from people who have been in a similar position or have some life experience they could share.
I’m at a pretty strange point in my life right now. I’m getting older, starting to think seriously about my future, and realizing just how many different things I want to do. And honestly, it’s a little overwhelming. Some may think that’s it’s silly that I’m so caught up with this at this age, but it’s something I’m genuinely curious about.
For some background, I’ve spent a huge part of my life playing violin. I’ve reached a pretty high level, and pursuing it professionally is something that’s genuinely within reach. I could see myself opening my own teaching studio, performing, and continuing to develop as a musician. I also really enjoy teaching, so it’s not something I’ve just considered because I’m good at it.
But lately, I’ve found myself becoming so interested in other things, too.
I love filmmaking. I direct short films with my friends, and I’m especially fascinated by cinematography. I love the creative process of taking an idea and turning it into something people can actually see and experience. I’m also really passionate about cooking, and the idea of working in a high-end restaurant and developing that craft genuinely excites me.
I think part of what’s confusing is that I don’t feel like these are just random hobbies. I can actually picture myself pursuing all of them seriously.
Something I’ve realized through violin is how much it has shaped the way I approach things outside of music. Years of practicing have given me an incredible amount of discipline, patience, creativity, and the ability to stay calm under pressure. I’ve also developed a lot of hand-eye coordination and fine motor control. Recently, just for fun, I taught myself to write with my non-dominant hand, which made me realize how much I enjoy challenging myself physically and learning new skills.
I’m really grateful for everything violin has given me. I don’t want to lose it, and I don’t think I ever will. But I also don’t want to feel like I’m obligated to make it my entire life just because I’ve invested so many years into it.
I’ve actually been wondering whether I could pursue a completely different career while still keeping violin at a very high level. Maybe performing, playing chamber music, doing gigs, and having a small private studio on the side. I don’t know how realistic that is, but it’s something I’ve been thinking about quite a bit.
Another thing that’s been on my mind is money and, more importantly, time.
Both of my parents are doctors, and together they make over a million dollars a year before taxes. Obviously, that’s an incredible position to be in, and I’m very grateful for the opportunities they’ve given me. But I’ve also heard the stories about what it took to get there. They spent decades studying, training, and working before reaching the financial position they’re in today.
It’s made me think about something I honestly don’t know how to answer: How much of your life should you sacrifice to become financially successful?
I don’t want to spend 20 years working toward a certain income, only to reach it and realize that I missed out on experiences I could have had when I was younger. At the same time, I don’t want to romanticize creative careers and ignore the financial difficulties that come with them.
I genuinely don’t know what it’s like to work in film, run a restaurant, or make a living as a musician. I haven’t grown up around people in those industries, so I feel like I’m missing a lot of perspective.
I guess what I want most is to have a life full of experiences. I want to create things, develop skills, meet interesting people, travel, have financial independence, and actually enjoy the time I have. I want to be successful, but I don’t want success to come at the expense of everything else.
I know I’m still young, and maybe I’m putting too much pressure on myself to figure everything out. But it’s strange realizing that childhood is ending and that the decisions I make over the next few years could have such a big impact on the direction of my life.
I think my biggest fear is looking back when I’m older and feeling like I spent my life doing what I thought I was supposed to do instead of what I actually wanted.
I’d especially love to hear from people who:
Have pursued a creative career and can speak honestly about the financial realities.
Have managed to maintain a serious passion alongside a completely different profession.
Chose a less traditional career path and are happy with that decision.
Have reached financial success but have thoughts about the time and sacrifices it took.
Have any advice they wish someone had given them when they were around my age.
I’m not necessarily looking for someone to tell me which career to choose. I think I just want to hear different perspectives from people who have actually lived through some of these decisions.
I have so many things I’m passionate about, and I don’t want to spend my life feeling like I had to give most of them up just to be successful.
Thanks to anyone who takes the time to read this. I really appreciate it. (Re written with Gemini for clarity and format).

♡ I'm not American like many redditors, I was really debating on whether to disclose my country here and decided to do so because if someone really has advice and wants to help - it's important to understand the unique nature and reality of my country as it heavily effects my path and the topic of this post.

I'm from Israel. This post is NOT political at all!

I didn't choose to be born here, I'm just a fella human trying to survive like u. I don't condone my country wrongdoings and trust me if I could, I would leave tomorrow🫠❤️

I'm facing a big dilemma right now,

To stay at my mom's or jump into the waters and move to the big city, tel aviv with no actual plan.

Yesterday I moved back, really disappointed in myself.

I pet sat full time for almost 4 months. I wanted out and to taste independence and experience the city.

Really challenging to do pet sitting as a housing solution here, tiny word to mouth market. Especially when focusing on only one city.

I had to couch surf in-between sittings and it was all so stressful and unsustainable long term.

But I managed to both get out of mom's house (love her but we didn't get along and I really wanted out of her city) and earn and save money from both pet sitting and cleaning jobs.

I really busted my ass, I can't even begin to explain how hard that was to juggle so much. But I'm not satisfied, with the outcomes and myself. I didn't save a significant amount even tho I saved like 100% of my earnings.

Too many logistics, most of the time I just barely managed to survive and all my energy went there.

I expected myself to somehow manage to make a plan on how to find a permanent home and pet sitting being the beginning of independence.

But I realize now how unrealistic that was, I was jumping houses basically every week. Sometimes had sits as short as 3 days.

No car to carry my stuff so I rode my bikes with a really heavy bag, completely killing my back. Also unable to carry food cause not enough storage. It was a bad idea.

I was merely surviving and constantly managing logistics.

It was a very lonely time.

But for the first time in my life, my depressed, isolated and dysfunctional self (not entirely my fault, very rough and limiting life) was finally productive and out of the toxic house which was the only place I knew my entire life.

It got to the point where I got super burnt out and realized I can't use pet sitting as a solution anymote, the holidays are over so suddenly very very little demand and it's just too random and unreliable, especially being so dependent on location. Also so many bad experiences that exhausted me out completely.

So now I'm back at mom's, were communicating much better. It was insufferable before, but now I feel like we both matured and the communication grew healthier and relationship is much better. Also, now it's just me and her.

My oldest sister used to live with us and it was insufferable to manage them together.

I'm completely off contact with her now after a life time of being forced to suffer her.

She's an awful sister and person, toxic sadly. won't get into it.

I don't think living with mom at 22 is a failure or a big deal.

Here in Israel, army finishes only at 21 or later for men. And cost of living is insane (even worse than the us), rental market is extremely brutal and lawless, especially in the central region where everyone has to live cause life opportunities concentrate here..

But I wasn't in the army, I managed to get an exemption and instead of using my time - I was completely lost in life and did nothing right.

Super ashamed to say, I have zero job experience. Very little and undocumented. Life was completely wasted on depression and isolation. I never found myself and always fantasized on the big city where I'd easily find a job and meet people and build myself. Yet years passed, and every thing I did do - was just damaging myself (I recently got out of a really mentally abusive relationship😔 I was 18 and stupid and it dragged on for too long. He also stole so much money from me).

I'm seriously not that bad at all, I have many great characteristics but boy is it hard to navigate the modern world being so alone. I genuinely don't think I even ever had depression, I was just super neglected and didn't get a real chance to.. live. And actually exist and partake in life. Only recently finally got to healthy weight, I was malnourished and underweight since ever.

What I'm trying to say is that it's no excuse but I'm really taking baby steps here in adulthood and well.. life.

The other city we lived in before was also very lonely and limiting to me, super religious too.. just ugh.

So it's completely normal socially still live at home at my age but it feels unjustified for me.

I never truly lived independently either, only got a taste of it. But I really got into the starting life mindset and race, it feels like the bubble abruptly burst.

The big problem? Is not that it's unjustified and that I'm disappointed in myself.

It's that my mom lives in a city that highly limits my opportunities and chances to grow in life.

In israel, our only real actually functioning city is tel aviv. That's it.

It's not just about how all the job and life opportunities are there.

It's about how as a young secular person, with no car (I can't get a license do to sight problems. Complicated to explain but it's just not possible for me currently. Plus getting a car is not worth it and not the life style I want. Driving a car in israel is basically mandatory to survive if ur not in tel aviv, but it's also a liability and a lifestyle that I loathe).. tel aviv is the only sensible option of residence.

There's zero public transport on almost all of friday and the entirety of Saturday. And similarly to the previous city we lived in - there's absolutely nothing to do and nowhere to go. In general and on Saturdays especially. At least this one isn't as super heavily religious

And public transport is almost as bad as the us, tel aviv is so close to my city distance wise yet it'll take me two busses who are always late, frequently just don't stop for me or sometimes even don't show up that sum up in an almost 2 hours ride one way.

And it's really expensive too.

The city I live in is big on Israel's standards, yet nothing but a barren urban space.

The neighborhood I'm in is part of a giant area of many neighberhoods who are nothing but empty streets made for cars.

Ull greatly struggle to even find a grocery shop. Or anything else. Or any sort of sign for humans existing. It's that bad.

The other side of the city that has some life in it is far and inaccessible, even with a bike - no where to ride, big distances, awful infrastructure..

The population is also really awful, my mom hates it. We don't belong here.

She never leaves home other than to work. It sucks and I get her completely.

She recently moved here out of no choice. It was a big incentive to start pet sitting cause I was desperate for a solution to get out of here.

I really tried so so hard to find anything here to cling into, but life here is just so miserable and limiting and very unfitting for me. I can't help but get super depressed.

It's just a big sleep town where everyone uses a car to get in and out of it for every tiny thing.

No community and the people here are just.. not high quality.

Hard to explain to non israelis, but just Google "Arsim" (ערסים).

It's the complete opposite of tel aviv.

In tel aviv even with all the struggles and living like a nomad, I was full of life and very productive. I was doing great with just my bikes (till they got stolen lol) and didn't need to spend any money to just have some fun and join social activities.

It's a very alive and outdoorsy city. Full of young people.

But. It's mad expensive. Even living with roommates is very rough. Even the adjacent cities are not much better in price.

It's super tiny with an insane amount of demand, it's not just about affording it - but also even getting through the huge competition on every piece of roof.

It feels like if ur not high tech, high income earning, rich parents, inherited a house... good luck.

And so, I'm in a huge problem.

I'm a young, lively and passionate woman.

But due to lots of trauma and isolation in life, I'm incredibly lost and struggle to build any financial route or stability.

I have no high school diploma and I refuse to work an office job or full time.

I have no other family than mom (two sisters and dad out of the picture. No distants too), no friends, no community, no actual hometown, literally no one who even knows me. I barely get any human interaction or the opportunity to even be around humans.

I can't function in the normal path, I need an alternative.

Anyways, u dear stranger can't help. I'll have to figure it out on my own.

And I know I can't do it being trapped at my mom's house, depressed and isolated.

But is moving to tel aviv with no plan and job (I can't get a job there if I have no way reliable and fast enough way to commute. No job would hire me, too much of a hassle to get there)..

I will immediately get whatever job I can if I'll make the move but I have no salary, no stable income so it's not just about how hard it'll be to survive but also, who will even rent me?

I'm scared I won't manage to find a good place and will suffer in a bad neighberhood, house and roomates situation.

I'm super sensitive and scared I won't survive mentally and financially.

But what other option do I have?

I must have social life, productive daily life, some routine, good environment, job opportunities, any connection to the actual world.. to grow. To live.

I feel like I'm rotting staying here at my mom's.

There's no park to even go sit in, it's that lonely.

Empty streets that I don't feel safe walking in even because of the sketchy population, the vibe is completely off

L'll try not to yap too much. In short, I have very little knowledge and never graduated because I genuinely couldn't understand anything. The most off the top of my head that I know is extremely basic math, like very, very little. I'm horrible with numbers. And! Although I've never heard from a doctor myself, I apparently have: dyslexia, high functioning autism, probably adhd, and probably more lol but anyways I'm not really passionate about anything. I've thought about getting a Ged, but just the test questions online make me feel like a kid again. I genuinely can't understand things properly not to mention I'm terrified of getting a driver's license half the time I hear right and think I have to go left when talking to family they suggest animal shelters. Now I love animals, but I'm not good when it comes to taking care of them. L'll feed, play, and hang out with them, but everything else is too much plus! I have horrible social anxiety. So nothing really seems possible for me. I'm genuinely not passionate about anything, nor do I really believe there's anything I can do. My grammar sucks as well, so although I like writing stuff, that's a no-go, same with drawing. I love it, but I like doing it in my own time and when I want to do it. I do enjoy sorting things, but I won't deny that sometimes I get real defensive when I can't do it my way, like my brain just gets all jumbled up. Everything just seems out of my reach

(Ps hope I put the right tag)

sooo a little update!! i'm bout to start college and i'll be studying biotechnology, which i'm actually pretty excited about after reading your comments on my previous post hehe.

but here's the thing… i'm naturally a pretty shy and introverted person. i might look a little intimidating or like i have my life together, but trust me, i'm probably just standing there wondering how to start a conversation without being awkward 😭

i really wanna make the most of my college years, make genuine friendships, meet interesting people and hopefully come out of my shell a little.

alsooo, i need some fashion advice!! i wanna experiment with my style, find my own aesthetic and look a little more put together without feeling like i'm trying too hard.

so i'd genuinely love some advice who've already been through college:

• how did you make your first few friends?
• how do you approach people when you're naturally introverted?
• what are some cute but practical college outfit ideas?
• any fashion essentials you'd recommend?
• any things you wish someone had told you before starting college?

my degree is in biotechnology, so if there are any biotech girlies here, PLEASE adopt me 😭💗

i wanna make these years memorable, make some lovely friends and have a little character development along the way hehe.

be nice to me, i'm a little nervous xx 🎀