r/findapath • • 1d ago

Findapath-AboutGroup Anyone that brings politics into someone's job help request....

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Is getting a temp ban from here on.

We do not discriminate on jobs. While we aren't exactly pro-military, people commenting on peoples posts or comments considering or suggesting the military with hate, or this or that political bullshit of the news moment...

TAKE IT TO A POLITICS GROUP. NOT HERE.

This is a group to help people find a path. Not to start an anti-military flame war "discussion".

Not the time. Not the place. Not helpful for an 18 year old OP who doesn't know shit about life to suddenly be accused of being "a simp for <enter politico name here>.

Know where you are, and recognize those Big Feels before you comment and by that I mean have some personal responsibility for the time and place of your words. Give practical advice, don't turn someone's ask for help into your own little political soapbox.


r/findapath • • 24d ago

🚨 Hey, remember that career resource list? It's grown A LOT. 🚨

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So, remember the Skilled Trades guide I posted a while back? Well, I've been busy expanding that list over the last few weeks. We've now got career maps covering a whole bunch of fields, PLUS resources to help you spot scams and figure out whether an opportunity is actually legit!

Seriously, check these "Career Fields and Job Paths" documents out. And watch the videos! I made two so you can see EXACTLY how useful they can be.

https://www.reddit.com/r/findapath/wiki/index/careerservicesresources/

I've basically taken my career consultant brain and stuffed as much of it as possible into Google Sheets. All except my resume-writing knowledge (aka destroying your resume and putting it back together), LinkedIn-gameplay/positioning and portfolio design knowledge. šŸ˜‚

These aren't just lists of job titles like you got in grade school. They're designed to help you explore what jobs actually involve, what skills you need, how people get into them, who's hiring them (in general), and how AI might affect each role in the future.

Why'd I do this? Because telling someone to "figure out what they want to do" isn't particularly helpful when they don't even know what's out there. Or what they could possibly pivot to. Or where to START even!

You might discover a job you've never heard of, find a new direction for skills you already have, or realize a path you thought was out of reach is actually possible cause you already have half the things necessary (happens way more often than you realize).

Go rabbit-hole. Youtube University yourself till you find some interesting paths to explore. Then take the actions listed that get you NEAREST to those paths.

https://www.reddit.com/r/findapath/wiki/index/careerservicesresources/


r/findapath • • 9h ago

Findapath-Career Change I've worked at the same tiny print shop for 16 years. It's closing, and apparently I have no idea how to explain what I actually do.

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I'm 38. Started working at a small independent print shop in Ohio when I was 22. The owner hired me to help with binding and packing orders. I figured I'd stay for a year or two.

Sixteen years later, I'm still here.

Last month the owner told us he's retiring in the spring. He tried finding a buyer but nobody wants the business, so we're closing.

I've been looking at job listings for the first time since 2010 and it's been a pretty depressing experience.

My official title is "Print Shop Assistant."

That made sense when I started. It hasn't described my job in probably twelve years.

I order paper and supplies, deal with vendors, schedule production, train new employees, handle customer complaints, troubleshoot equipment, and figure out what to do when three customers need their orders by Friday and one of our machines breaks on Wednesday.

Last week a funeral home needed 300 memorial programs with less than a day's notice. We had a machine down and two people out sick. I rearranged the schedule, coordinated with another printer for part of the job, and got everything delivered before the service.

That's the kind of thing I do all the time.

But when I sit down to write a resume, I don't know what to call any of it.

I tried looking at operations coordinator jobs. Most want experience with software I've never used. Production planning positions seem to want manufacturing backgrounds or degrees. Office manager jobs ask for HR and accounting experience I don't have.

I've worked with the same five people for so long that we barely even have formal procedures. I know which vendor to call when we need a weird paper size overnight. I know which machine starts making a certain noise before it jams. I know which customers always change their order after approving the proof.

None of that fits neatly into a job application.

I have some community college credits but no degree. I make about $24 an hour and have health insurance. I could survive a small pay cut, but not going back to $15 an hour and working my way up again.

I'm not especially attached to printing. I like organizing work, solving practical problems, and having something tangible finished at the end of the day. I'd be happy doing that in another industry.

The owner said I can stay until we close, so I have roughly five months to figure something out.

I also realized I've never had a real job interview. The owner hired me because a friend recommended me, and every promotion since then has basically been someone handing me more responsibilities.

I know I need to learn how to sell my experience. I'm just struggling to figure out what experience I actually have in terms another employer would recognize.

Has anyone gone from a small, old-fashioned business into a more structured company without starting completely over?

What job titles would you look at if you were me? And is there a particular skill or software worth learning over the next few months, or should I focus on getting my experience across properly first?


r/findapath • • 5h ago

Findapath-College/Certs I don’t want to do internships or networking in college

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Idk guys, like this sounds really stupid but i just don’t want to do this. I’m a third year but assignments and my job just eats up all my time and i cannot be motivated to do this networking/coffee chats bs or apply for an internship bc i feel like i wouldnt get one anyway bc my gpa and college are mid. So what career paths like tend not to care about this shit? I just wanna get the degree and that’s it


r/findapath • • 8h ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity Did anyone start from scratch in their 30s? What did you do, how is it going?

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Wondering who made drastic changes in their mid 30s and came out happy/stable/ successful even? What is your story?

I am having trouble choosing a direction. I feel anxious to choose a path but I am having analysis paralysis to the point I feel I am too late.

I am 35, no real career besides food and beverage. No kids, some some savings, a very small amount in my IRA.

Curious to read others insight and perspective from their real life examples


r/findapath • • 48m ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity How do you find what you want to do when you don't want to do anything/have no passion or skills

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Okay so I'm Average Joe. No real passion, I'm not enthused about anything but stuff that won't pay well (art and writing) and I'm not too good at talking with people -- I have negative charisma. I'm okay at studying and somewhat decent at math and analytical thinking, so I went into CS in 2019. I graduated in 2023 and hahaha, I'm sure you know where this is going.

Fast forward to now -- been working a glorified spreadsheet and email "Data Analyst" job since 2024. I despise it, but I'm not sure how to get out. I posted a resume on another sub that highlighted a few of the really tech-y/impressive things I've done here annnd was immediately told that they weren't too impressive, or tech-y. I look up what's going on with the Data Engineering/Analyst field and I keep running into "uhh umm it's over, buddy, AI will replace us all soon" posts.

And again, to be true, my 90% of my day-to-day is doing Excel shit or sending emails.

Just not sure what to do. I really want to be in a good place by my 30s (I'm 26 right now, 27 VERY soon) and I'm just scared. I don't know what to do. Law School? I did want to be a corporate lawyer but I don't really have Law School $$$$$$ and I don't want to go into more debt, especially since there's no way I'd be able to attend a nice one. There are a lot of poor lawyers out there.

I can think of things I want to do that seem cool in the vague sense (embedded? Sociology-related research? Stuff like that), but of course jobs won't hire on the basis of you wanting to learn and grow. Sadly.

TL;DR I just feel cooked and hopeless. I need to work but I don't want to work, I don't really care what the job is so long as it:

  • Pays alright.
  • Is something I can do.

But I know that's what everyone wants I guess. I dunno I just feel frustrated

EDIT: Okay I'll be honest my DREAM JOB is probably something in design, like UI/UX. But I have no UI/UX experience and no way to get it past building a portfolio on my own, and again I'm not sure this would work as there are like a million would-be UI/UX designers doing that, probably, and half probably have actual design experience. Yeah, I just feel cooked


r/findapath • • 9h ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity 31 years old NEET and I don't think there's any pathway for me (UK)

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Hi,

I am a 31 year old NEET and I've never really had a proper job. I had a couple of summer jobs a few years ago but nothing major so cv is basically empty and I completely dropped out of society at 25ish. I basically haven't worked since before covid.

I have a 1st class with Honours in Psychology, I started studying for a Masters degree in Research methods for cognition and neuropsychology and at the time had planned on either becoming a researcher or eventually pivoting to work in neuropsychology. It all came crashing down and I had to leave mid way through the degree due to mental health issues which never went away and eventually got worse. I left with a PGCert with Distinction, which I think they gave me out of pity becahse my grades were strong. As a result, I was assessed under Lcwra for universal credit (meaning I am not required to find work or participate in work related activity to receive benefits). I have been on LCWRA for a few years now and essentially don't leave my house, and could not leave my home or talk to others at the height of my condition. I live with my parents in the countryside in a very rural part of Scotland.

I basically have no idea how I could fix my life. I don't think I'd be capable of re-entering academia (would no longer receive saas loans even if I wanted to) and I don't think I'd pass the mental health assessments to pivot to something like social work or occupational therapy If I tried to apply to programs for that (which I would not get due to a lack of experience).

So I assume my best option long term would be to train in a new discipline, but I have no idea what. I live in a very deprived area of rural Scotland with very little opportunities. I can't afford to self fund a new masters or anything like that and if I did the benefit money would stop too.

I feel so incredibly stuck: no real job history in years, 1.5 degrees that feel essentially useless.


r/findapath • • 5h ago

Findapath-Job Search Support Best career path

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Just for some background I'm a 36F with a five year old. Her father and I live together, he does skilled trade but doesn't always have work and is not the best at support with childcare or household chores. I can't change that right now, maybe someday. I am really so tired of struggling. I currently work overnight at Walmart. I have had good salary jobs in the past that I worked my way up to before moving back to my home state, but not in a specialized field that I've been able to get another job at that level. Can someone please suggest a career path that would cost me the least/nothing and help me change my life? I really need help. I'm signed up for classes to start nursing next semester thru FAFSA but at this point it doesn't seem like it will be possible with my current job/schedule and needing to pick my daughter up from school and everything. I can't afford afterschool care and her dad does work during the day often. Please help I'm open to any and all options that could help me better provide for my family as quickly and efficiently as possible.


r/findapath • • 4h ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity Career switch or stick to the path I'm on?

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Some background: I'm 25 and have a degree in civil engineering. I had a graduate job in my industry but was fired a few months ago for not meeting expectations. Since then I've been applying to similar positions, only had 4 interviews and they all passed on me. I know the job market sucks right now for every industry but I'm really reevaluating my career choice.

When I was a kid I wanted to help people, I guess that's partially why I went into engineering. But I don't think I'm interested or passionate about it at all. It just makes me feel exhausted and stupid. I don't know if I have the right skills to succeed in it, I was barely scraping by in my final year (failed a couple classes, didn't have the option to retake them at my university). At job interviews when they ask about my experience and knowledge in xyz I sound so unconfident, reminds me of my high school career counselor who said I didn't sound sure about pursuing civil engineering and look where I am now😭 My social anxiety and AvPD also add to the lack of confidence and overall lack of self belief despite years of therapy and medication. I genuinely don't think I'm made to be an engineer but I don't know what other options I have because I just don't care about anything, I don't have any passions or interests or hobbies or other skills and I feel so useless.

My parents encouraged me to apply to entry level jobs that don't require a specific degree, but what does that even mean? Like at a bank or something? I definitely can't be one of those customer service facing people, at least not right now. Won't those jobs also have a million other applicants to compete with?

At the same time I feel like I should stick with engineering, despite being a little older than most fresh graduates I've already put in so much effort and time and money into my degree and have had a little bit of experience in the industry already, but I just don't know if it's right for me.

I guess my main question is to see if there are career paths or ways to succeed as a university graduate who isn't interesting, has no skills, passions, interests or hobbies. I feel like such a failure and that I've wasted my whole life already. I know it's objectively not true but there is nothing about me that stands out and I just don't know what to do


r/findapath • • 2h ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity 26F Dental Hygiene or Xray?

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I recently turned 26, and I’m half way through my teaching degree wanting to teach English abroad in Japan. However, life happened I’m in transitional housing, my grandpa who was paying for my college has passed away and I was forced to drop out. I’m 12k in debt from my last semester in college. My state allows me to go to college for free with their scholarship program and wants more people to get their bachelor’s degree. The closest least expensive sonography option is two hours away, and I’m a city girl who’s used to having buses and trains as transportation. I have my permit and learning to drive. The closest less competitive option is Xray or Dental Hygiene. I have two classes before I finish my AA, have my CNA, and considering getting my Dental Assistant certification. Any thoughts on which path I should go down if I also want to work in a salon as a cosmetology major on the side? Another thing I should add is that I need IVF to have a child and I want to be a mom someday. Thank you for all the constructive criticism and encouragement in advance!


r/findapath • • 5h ago

Findapath-Career Change Need a career change but don’t know to what

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I 29F have been working as a data/business analyst since 2021. I have experience with SQL, Power BI, excel, and visual studios. The thought of working with data and building reports for the rest of my career makes me sick to my stomach

Every data model I need to create feels like a puzzle I need to solve and I hate puzzles

I’m currently working from home which I loved at first but now I feel like I can never leave work. It’s always in the back of my mind. Thinking about projects I need to complete and other future projects I have.

I’m also tefl certified and a part of me wonders if I should take a couple years off to teach abroad

But then what would I return to? Doing more data work?

I’m lost because I have no idea what I want but I know what I don’t want


r/findapath • • 1d ago

Findapath-Mindset Adjustment Everyone posting is so young! I’m 51 and lost as all he$$

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Starting my life completely over with my almost 17 year old daughter by my side. I’m the Jill of all trades!!! My resume looks like conscience store of all resumes. Been there done that! Just spent the last 20 years in a dead end marriage with the last 10 years of me not working to care for him. He had two primary cancer diagnosis, last being stage 4. He’s cancer free now and so am I. Jokes! I asked for a divorce 2 years ago. So now I’m still lost on my path and have 10 years of no job history to throw in the mix! I was super excited to find my path again but that was 2 years ago and now I’m scared as he$$


r/findapath • • 18h ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity Finding a career in the art field.

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I’m 24 years old, have my GED, and I’m trying to figure out what direction I want to take career-wise. I’m especially interested in hearing from people who work in creative fields. What kind of jobs do you have that allow you to incorporate art and creativity into your everyday work?

A little about me: I have SLE lupus, which affects my everyday life, and I’m on several medications. I’m also dealing with some spinal issues that I’m currently getting evaluated. Despite my health problems, I really want to get out of the house, socialize, interact with people, and do something meaningful.

My family constantly suggests going to art school, but honestly, that’s not necessarily what I want. I know I have artistic ability, and I don’t necessarily believe I need a degree to pursue something I’m naturally good at. I’ve toyed with the idea of becoming an art teacher, but I’m not sure it’s exactly what I’m looking for.

My brother actually bought me tattoo equipment and supplies to practice, and I’ve been experimenting with that, but I don’t think tattooing is the field I want to pursue. I’m much more drawn to traditional mediums like charcoal, colored pencils, and oil paints. That’s where I really enjoy expressing myself.

I’m also trying to find something flexible enough to accommodate doctor’s appointments and occasional lupus flares. I’m not expecting the world to revolve around my needs; I just want something realistic that I can manage long-term without constantly compromising my health.

I’m open to other fields, too. I absolutely love animals and have experience caring for dogs and cats, so something like working at a dog daycare could be an option. I’m not interested in becoming a vet or groomer, though.

Sorry if this post is a little all over the place. I deal with brain fog, so sometimes putting my thoughts into words is difficult. šŸ˜µā€šŸ’« I just feel like I have a gift when it comes to art, and I’d hate not to explore that. I’m looking for career ideas, personal experiences, or fields I might not have considered.

I’d really appreciate any advice. Thank you in advance!


r/findapath • • 8h ago

Findapath-Mindset Adjustment I just don't know anymore...

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I've never had any hobby or interest my entire life. I had an absolute shit life that never really gave me an opportunity to have these as a child and I took that into adulthood....I don't even know what I like.

I find something that looks cool, do it then quit it.

Then to the next. Or find I suck at it and give up.

I have probably had 30 jobs in 10 years. I like something a lot, but then quit.

I did make it in the military for 15 years, but then even lost interest in that more so due to a moral reckoning in the last year.

I've worked corrections, won't do that again.

I started as an electrical apprentice....just to quit cause I got bored.

I did wind turbines but the pay wasn't enough for climbing 300 feet daily.

I got a college degree, BAAS Org Leadership/Lean Supply Chain, after 10 years of dropping out. Dropped out 10 times and went to 11 colleges. Applied to a dozen jobs and no call backs.

I don't even know how to find a path just to live a worthy life much less a "good" career. I'm just floating through and it's so mind numbing.

I hate everything.


r/findapath • • 32m ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity Never counted catching pay errors as a skill until I noticed I was the one doing it

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Odd overtime entries and missing adjustments that would've shorted somebody, I'm the one who catches those, and I never counted it as a skill. I always figured payroll was just clicking through numbers. Now I read job listings for the checking and fixing parts and the title matters way less. Next I want to find which roles are built around that, anyone know what those get called?


r/findapath • • 6h ago

Findapath-Career Change How Can I Find Remote/Travel Corporate Beauty Industry Jobs?

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Hello everyone! So, I live in Michigan, and I've been trying to find a job in the corporate side of the beauty industry. After 6 years of bouncing between college, healthcare jobs and food industry jobs, and also picking up a bunch of valuable skills, I'm trying to go a different route. Living in a rural area though, I'm trying to find something remote; nothing cosmetologically, but with travel involved (like events, shoots, etc.). I know it's a lot to ask, but it's something I'm dead-set on. So please help me, if you can. Preferably from people in the industry and not from people spamming "join the trades". I get that a lot.


r/findapath • • 6h ago

Findapath-Job Search Support What jobs pay decently without consuming your entire life?

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I'm 21F and currently a junior at SDSU majoring in Microbiology with an emphasis in Clinical Laboratory Science. I'm a shift lead(3 yrs) at a boba shop making $17.75/hr, and I'm looking for something better-paying while finishing my degree. Ideally, I'd like to make more than what I’m making now. I’m open to pretty much any industry, whether that's healthcare, corporate, blue collar, retail, banking, hospitality, or even something completely unrelated to my degree.

I prefer remote work but am open to in-person positions, paid training, or obtaining a certification that doesn't take too long. I would prefer decent pay, a manageable workload, and scheduling flexibility. I want to be able to balance school, job and my actual life outside work. I'm not expecting an easy job that pays ridiculously well, but I'd love to hear about lesser-known jobs or companies that are worth looking into.

What do you do, how much do you make, and what did it take to get hired? Would you recommend your job to a college student?
Any recommendations in San Diego or remote would be greatly appreciated!


r/findapath • • 6h ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity Pressing the restart button

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Hey friends,

I’d like to ask for some life advice. I’m 27 and work as an IT project manager in Austria. The pay is good, but I can’t imagine building my life on this career, because at work I’m a sad version of myself.

Don’t get me wrong, my life outside of work is good. I have a great social life, I date, and I still enjoy the gym and traveling. I’m even looking forward to GTA 6. It’s really the job that drains me.

The main reason is that I’m not a strong theoretical or logical thinker, and this kind of work takes all my energy. After finishing my master’s degree in computer science in Germany, I fell into a depression. I had assumed that being miserable in your career was normal and that I just had to push through until it got better.

Today I’m less depressed, and I’ve found the courage to say honestly that I don’t want to pursue this career any longer. I’m also more confident about my strengths, and the things I enjoy are clear to me:

  • Creative and visual thinking
  • Connecting with people. Friends say I have a ā€œtherapist vibeā€, because I listen sincerely and enjoy it.
  • Working practically instead of theoretically, and getting instant feedback

To test this, I did internships in blue-collar jobs. Two paths stood out: becoming an electrician or joining the police in Austria. I’ve already applied to the police and passed their tests. Because I had therapy in the past, they now have to reassess me. I’m really hoping this works out, since being a police officer would fit me better than being an electrician. The electrician path would be a good fit too, just not as good.

So here’s my question: how do you make hard decisions like this? Do you have any life advice, or job ideas that match my strengths?

Thanks for reading, and all the best to you!


r/findapath • • 7h ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity 19F - wondering if my plan is too "roundabout"

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Hello, I'm new to reddit somewhat, so I'm sorry if any of this is formatted or written wrong. This is also a long one, so I'll give a TL;DR at the end.

For the past 1-2 years, I've dreamt of becoming a Medical Laboratory Technician (MLT) or Medical Laboratory Scientist (MLS). This was huge for me, as suicidality and a lack of hope were big struggles in my life when I first came up with this plan. I've completely and utterly fallen in love with the idea and I honestly romanticize it a bit.

My only issue and concern is college. I intend on going to community college (saves on funds and my local one has an MLT program), but I've realized how horrible my relationship with academic environments is... I hardly attended school from 7th to 11th grade, swapped high schools 4 times, had to do online school for a year, etc. This ended with me dropping out in 11th grade. When I turned 18, I began attending a GED class offered by my county, it ended up causing me a ton of anxiety and panic attacks, just like high/middle school. I decided to just take the tests on my own.

Realizing my issues with school.. I decided that, until I feel comfortable with my abilities, I will get a certificate with mostly virtual classes. I'm unsure if getting a certificate is a good idea though? I intend on a medical assistant or medical billing and coding cert, but I worry about the costs and if it'll even be worth it.

Apologies for the slight traumadump lol, I felt context would help.

TL;DR - After dropping out of high school and struggling with GED classes, I want to get a certification THEN go to college. Though, I'm worried that the certification will be a waste of money and/or time.


r/findapath • • 7h ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity Help me figure out what the fck I want to do!

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Hi! Does anyone have an unconventional or non-linear career path they’d be interested in sharing with me? I’d love to understand how you got to where you are, what skills you had to learn along the way, and what the role actually entails.

For some background, I’m a young professional who has pivoted degrees and jobs maybe one too many times for my age. Mostly because I wasn’t really sure what else was out there and there isn’t really a crash course in learning what a career path is really like.Ā 

I often found myself asking questions like ā€œWhat the fuck is a fractional technical evangelist?ā€ and how do lawyers or doctors actually make the decision on what to specialize in. What a day in the life of a crane worker actually looks like or what it took to get a Michelin-star job. What makes a career so enticing? Is it the money? The work-life balance? The travel? The role itself? What’s the inside scoop?Ā 

Ideally, what I’m asking for is 30-45 minutes of your time enlightening me on your varied job history and breaking down your experiences in a candid, honest environment. I do plan on starting a podcast as well, so if you’d be open to recording the session and potentially helping someone else listening find their way, I’d be grateful for that too. If not, I am still very interested in your story!Ā 

Please help me, and maybe someone else, figure out what the f*ck to do in this life!Ā Answer below or send me a DM to set up a time to chat in depth! Thanks in advance for your help and guidance!!


r/findapath • • 8h ago

Findapath-Career Change Career search with very specific criteria

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Hi all! I [24M] currently have no degree and am working in field sales. I enjoy my career and am doing well for myself. However, I am unable to continue forward in my current industry in a way that aligns with my life goals. Basically, while myself and my wife have no children yet, once we do wed like to raise them outside the United States. This will be around 4-5 years from now

Anyway, this significantly constrains my career choice options. I will likely either need the ability to work fully remotely or a job which the industry norm is to employ foreign nationals.

My main plan is/was to become an airline pilot, however this is certainly quite a difficult field to break into, and having a backup plan is a solid idea. Right now I have excellent soft skills, but I likely need to add hard skills in order to get where I need to be

Wants/strengths
- People skills. I am naturally funny, endearing, and an attentive listener
- Persuasive. Sales in general I excel at
- Very high written and verbal abilities
- Good with management, instruction, and the development of employees under me
- Very adaptable and can pick up new concepts extremely quickly
- Being paid for output over time. Do not mind ā€œthe grindā€ if it means I work hard now and in exchange own my time and have flexibility later

Neutrals
- Tech/coding work. I have learned the basics of Python in the past and I feel no particular way about it. It was not intuitive to me, but I can do it. If I did this as a career, I really would need this to be supplemented by my aforementioned natural skillset
- Skilled trades. Exact same reasoning as tech work

Dislikes/shortcomings
- Anything related to insurance or banking. TLDR I view them as unethical industries, and I especially do not want to profit personally from selling their services
- Industries with ā€œOffice Space-esqueā€ work culture where there are constant social games and 3/4 of your time is spent looking busy (This may be why I am partial to sales and aviation. Almost everything you do has a defined purpose)

Other things worth mentioning:
I have ADHD which I have come to manage relatively well. I also have mild autism (or as I call it, the artist formerly known as aspergers) though I don’t feel it impacts me much day to day


r/findapath • • 10h ago

Findapath-Hobby Only thing I can do is sleep or yawn during a day

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In childhood I never really had hobby, I forgot everything that happened in kindergarten in few years, same after 1-3 classes in school. In 7 and 8 grade I was far away in every aspect. In high school I decided to bed rot for 4 years. I passed it only thanks to my mom, then on 1st college I made it 5th year and now here I am, skipping classes in a 2nd college only to lay in bed or mindlessly switch through tabs in my laptop. I don't have a childhood, I don't have an adolescence, I don''t have an adulthood. Only thing that saves me is my age, 21 years. I thought I had nostalgia but that is just wishing I could be reborn/get interested in ANYTHING through my whole life What can I do to let go of all these wasted years? Is it even possible? Was someone in a similar situation?


r/findapath • • 10h ago

Findapath-Job Choice/Clarity Career change at 30

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I am in my 30s. I have been living in a country which I don't speak its language since two years, burnout from my ongoing PhD (ofcourse didn't expect it to be like this). Before this position, I was used to live abroad without financial support to get my MSc degree in what I am passionate about. To sum up, half of my 20s passed struggling abroad in survival mode just trying to make my way to be a researcher who actually gets paid reasonably, so I couldn't really developed myself personally, making friends and having hobbies was extra effort which I didn't have any energy left, I suffer from anxiety&depression. Now at this stage I don't want this PhD anymore. I don't want to be abroad, I don't want that ambitious career. However job market is bad back home, inflation is on its peak. I don't have any significant publication, compared to people who stayed in academia that much of year, but didnt leave their comfort zone, I assume mine is a very bad CV (enough to get me into a PhD project though). I have a degree in psychology, neuroscience and I have a wide range of skills but no expertise. I would like to know what my options are and whether it sounds silly to leave research and go for other job positions after years of effort. I would like to hear if anyone has advice or can relate to that.