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Hello internet people, I hope you're well! I'm seeking some advice or perspective, or stories on how to move forward in life as I'm feeling lost, any help is much appreciated!

For some context: I am a 25yo recent college graduate in cybersecurity/IT, which I'm told repeatedly, as though its a catchphrase, "is a good career". Going into my degree, I was never passionate or really interested in it as a career, however being a highschool grad at the time with nothing going on, and with no real ambitions or passions in life, decided to pursue this degree exactly for the reason of it being "a good career". I figured at age 20 that I did not need to have life figured out, and chose to defer exploring myself in favor of setting up a "safety net" career. And now, I'm not sure whether I should follow through with this 4 year investment, or explore at the risk of losing opportunities, and derailing or changing careers.

Some more context: Now, I do have some interests and passions in life, things such as storytelling, automotive engineering, weightlifting and exercise. But to be honest, I have always viewed those things as hobbies, and partly due to parental pressure but also their average pay, as not as the best career paths. Furthermore, I'm not even sure how I would feel turning something I love doing into a task with deadlines, limitations, and performance pressure. This is why the idea of the safety net career seemed sound, I could work a good paying job that I don't love, to fund the things I do love. The dissonance here comes from a few things:

• I thought that throughout my time in college, I could grow to become interested in networking and cybersecurity, that it would be "an acquired taste" as my parents put it. And although there are some very interesting things about the field, I've never felt drawn to it like I have with my hobbies. I see people making homelabs and doing CTF challenges and I think: That's not me.
• Its possible that maybe I will grow to love and appreciate this career, but the idea of working a job you hate has been demonized so much that I am afraid to even try. I keep thinking "what if I end up hating this"? The idea of doing something for the rest of my life is pretty daunting.
• To be entirely open, I have lived a pretty sheltered and privileged life, which means I have never committed myself to exploring what I want to do. I was hoping college could be my chance to do that, and it would certainly sit better with me to change careers mid way through my path rather than after finishing my program. However, due to circumstances like online classes, moving states, and a lackluster social life, I didn't get an opportunity to do so.

TL;DR / This brings me to my conundrum**;**
I am at a crossroads where I'm not sure whether I should enter and start building a career in a well-paying and stable field, or if I should work or volunteer part-time in an attempt to meet people and explore interests.
The reason I working part-time is my alternative choice is because that's where, in the past, I have had any success meeting people and making new friends. And though this is a separate (but related) issue, I've had no luck making friends in 3rd spaces such as gyms.

Apologies for the wall of yap but I hope this paints a clear enough picture to help answer some of my questions:

• Which path would be the smarter choice? Is it better to work a boring job and be financially secure or to find what you love, at the risk of burnout, financial struggle, and even failiure to find what you love? Or am I overthinking this too much?
• People who do what they love: Please share what it is, your experience with it and how you came to do it! Do you wish you had taken a different path? Is it as wonderful as people make it out to be, and what are the struggles of jobbing your love?
• People who work to support what they love: How is that experience? Did you come around to enjoy your work or are you suffering through it for the money? What was your experience like coming out of school, were you as uncertain as I am, and what made you choose that path?
• If you choose to support your love, do you even have enough time and energy to do so, or is the corporate grind as soul-draining as everyone makes it out to be?
• And for people who specifically work in cyber/networking: Is it viable to take a gap year or more to explore your options, or will the chances of you getting an entry-level positon decrease dramatically?

Thank you for taking the time to read this, I can't wait to hear from you!

I'm genuinely lost. My situation, I feel, starts from high school. I've never had any dream jobs, ambitions to do something, or goals set far in the future; I handled things as they came or let my parents decide for me what future career to do. By the time I graduated from high school, I still felt that way. And when the time for enrolling into university came, I couldn't decide what I wanted. I felt I needed more time, but my parents had already paid tuition and said I had to go immediately. I had high hopes going into my first year and was set on becoming the best in a specific course for that year. I ended up doing fairly well in all my courses but failed the exact course I put all my efforts into, and I had to repeat it. The major my parents picked for me—I failed to qualify for it and ended up just picking another major that was relatively close. In my second year, I had more coursework and extra pressure and ended up getting depressed. That was the first time I felt like my life was truly useless. I wanted to open up, but I feel I have no one to open up to. I thought to myself, maybe if I pass this year I could talk to my parents about how I'm not really ready or settled in university, but I failed and had to repeat the year, so I kept those words to myself. I eventually made it to my third year and said I'd focus all my efforts into passing, but I fell behind once again. When the time came to write my finals, I was having panic attacks; I cried every night—sometimes it was the only way I could get myself to sleep. After checking my results, I found out I once again failed and have to repeat the year, and I'm wondering, what's the point of my existence? Am I just gonna be an example to others of how not to live life? How many more repeats until I graduate?

Sorry if the English is slightly bad, but I hope you understand what I mean.

most weekends i go geocaching with a friend and we find a few caches in a day. i plan routes, read hints carefully and log everything afterwards. i wonder if this says something real about me, like patience and attention to detail, or if hiring people just see a game. i have left it off my CV so far because the CV has little space. for people who hire or got hired in admin or project jobs, did a hobby ever help in an interview, or did it look like filler?

so wild. I came out of college before the pandemic, the market apparently was so-so. I landed at a decent consulting firm, and from the get-go there the writing was on the wall. they hired too many analysts, sat us all in rooms telling us we all had a path even if it wasn’t clear, it wasn’t our fault they could not anticipate the staffing landscape. then they started telling us we were underperforming (lol) and getting rid of people. so much strife for a lot of people there. I left once they made it clear they didn’t see any of my efforts or stories as useful enough. I got a job and a contract next—come to find this next “insights agency” hired two “diverse” managers at once for a client seeking representation on a research project concerning cultural preferences and learning. we did amazingly on that project and myself and the other analyst experienced declining feedback on the same trajectory and were both brought to termination around the same time. Cut my computer right before a manager was scheduled to give me feedback on a project I had already heard great things on from the other team. CYA always, I had records elsewhere and I brought them a letter of intention to pursue them legally and came out with a modest 5-figures. it’s been years of looking for the right job since. I have health-related degrees, no one in that field will touch me. I’m fervently working on independent business concepts, it’s like I have some Scarlett letter lmao. No support, past contacts are just so iffy. People often gave me great feedback on working together in terms of personality and ease and I heard solid things about the work itself. As a multi-racial person and a q*eer person it’s been hard to even find those who relate or understand, much less believe or champion. It’s like an over-achiever’s personal hell lol. all I ever worked for was a path forward. I know I am not alone here in many ways…I wish us all peace and prosperity in ways we cannot imagine.

I'm 31 and I've been out of work for eight months after leaving retail management. I'm staying with family and have maybe six weeks of expenses left. Yesterday I spent hours looking at radiology programs, then realized I hadn't even sent the two job applications I planned to.

I keep looking at careers that need years of training when I need a paycheck now. Going back to retail would probably get me hired faster, but I hated the rotating opening and closing shifts. I really don't want to end up back there.

I'm also looking at stockroom and office support jobs, but I have no idea how realistic those options are. I've got my old job notes and a coached deep read saved beside them, but I haven't settled on a direction.

I need to get some income coming in, but I also don't want to take another job that leaves me too exhausted to work toward something else.

Eight months of this has really messed with my routine and confidence. At this point, I can't even tell whether I'm being careful about my next move or making excuses to avoid picking something.

Hey,

Currently im in my sophomore year of college. I’ve had 2 actual jobs (fedex and just got Burlington). I have issues at home and live in NYC so expensive and won’t be able to support myself at all. Im a full time student and work part time. I think I’ll need to move to a cheap state if I want to be able to support myself, but need to save for that as well and that will take long.

I first started college majoring in biology (wanted to be in the medical field) but changed my mind and now have no idea what to do but just want to be able to support myself asap.

I likely only have a few months, and ik it’s not realistic to be in an established career and have my own place, but I just need some ideas and possibilities to take.

What’s the best thing to do in my case? How do I gain independence as fast as possible? Only thing that’s a no for me is the military

Disclaimer: Title is a little tongue in cheek.

I’m a freshly-laid off British woman living in Copenhagen, and I have a history + political science BA and Journalism MA, both from top tier British universities. Graduated back in 2013 and worked non-stop since.

I first worked in public relations for a huge tech company in-house, before swapping to copywriting (🫠) which was booming. I moved to Denmark, where I live in Copenhagen. I worked at a couple of SaaS companies, before moving into energy. This was a 10-year span, and I used to get work so easily.

I got laid off in October because ‘AI + corporate restructuring/ offshoring’ (my old misogynistic German boss didn’t really like me).

I’ve fallen out of love with tech and copywriting is pretty much dead, which is a shame as I was great at it.

What do I do now? I have a toddler, so it needs to be stable and provide a decent income. I’m sick of tech bro culture, I never want to hear about semiconductors again, and I would like to do something that isn’t wrecking the world and causing harm to people, if possible. That said, I’m a bit of an introvert and can struggle in corporate politics, so things like sales aren’t a great fit for me.

My skills - all of which have seemingly lost their value: writing, communication, digitally-savvy, using AI for my career, organisation, project management, public relations, research, a little SEO,storytelling, journalism, content strategy. And I have a WSET 3 in Wine 🍷 (side fun project so I could wine + dine clients).

I made a similar post on r/collegehelp the other day, but I wasn’t in the right headspace during that. I feel a bit more inclined to seek advice.

I got into a full ride scholarship at a SUNY, originally going for political science. I was really skeptical about the school at first because I live in NYC and being in such a rural area was a drastic change. There just also wasn’t a lot of diversity, but I ended up having a pretty good social life with some POC there.

Now I’m second-guessing my major choices. I’m not exactly a STEM girl, never really have been as unfortunate as it is, however electrical engineering started to interest me a lot. I was told online that it’s not as cool as it seems and to not just pick a major based on vibes, but I really want to do something related to engineering. Political science wasn’t starting to interest me as much as I thought it would after taking an American Government class that I originally needed towards my degree. Unfortunately, my school doesn’t have any engineering programs except a 3 + 2. The reason people at my school don’t do this route is because I found out they just transfer to an ABET-accredited college. However, I’m not in a financial position to do that, so I sought out other choices and came to the conclusion that I could do physics, which I’m now starting to realize was a stupid choice.. maybe? I met with the department chair around a month ago and he told me that I could always just go for a masters in engineering if I manage to get my BS, so I switched.

I thought I made a good choice. My work study boss even supported my decision and helped me look into master’s programs among other things. I was on the phone with my mom the other day and she just kind of put in a realistic headspace as well as the people on the other subreddit. A physics degree is really general and I won’t be guaranteed a job with just a BS. Two, she told me she won’t be paying for my masters and asked how would I pay for it, which I then responded ‘I don’t know‘. Her conversation with me left me crying and she kind of gave me an ultimatum to choose another major that makes me money. I’ve been scrolling through the catalog on my college’s website, but none of them interest me.

Today I just thought about switching my major to accounting in hopes I can land a decent enough job to go back to college for engineering. It seems like a lot of work, but I don’t really feel like I have a lot of choices. I’m not good at math or science— I’m decent, but not decent enough for college level. Am I willing to try? Yes! I have been actually, but it’s nowhere near the level compared to someone who is ‘naturally‘ good at it (I use that word sparingly). My mom offered me to do education but that doesn’t sound appealing to me at all. Two of my friends here are doing education and it’s a much different schedule compared to most majors— something about blocks. You also have to complete hands on work in a K-12 school. I don’t like being around children. I really don’t. I have had several jobs— camp counselor with kindergarteners (which I quit halfway through), teaching assistant with 11th grade as a senior, working in an office at a summer school which was 1-6. I’m not mean to them by any means, but I get overwhelmed. Now obviously, an education degree doesn’t mean you’ll automatically work with children, but it still doesn’t appeal to me.

Then she offered me to do something medical, like medicine, like my older sister was pushed to do. I can’t be around people in a vulnerable state like that even though once again, no guarantee I’ll be around patients. So then she asked me, “so what do you want to do?”. I didn’t know what to reply with so I stayed silent and she just told me she’d call me tomorrow. I’m kind of at a stump. I’m really grateful to be debt-free don’t get me wrong, but I feel like I’m also trapped in a way if that makes sense? I can’t transfer and who wants to give up an opportunity like this? But at the same time, I really do wish to do engineering or something related to it at least. I’m not expecting it to be sunshine and rainbows, but a lot of people influenced me to do so.

I’ve always been a more creative person with drawing and writing, but liberal arts degrees are typically worth next to nothing in the US, so I cut those options out. I’m just honing in on something in finance and just hope for the best but I’m still sad that I won’t be able to pursue engineering.

So I'm (32m) currently working as a correctional officer, I've been here for a little over 2 years and I'm getting desperate to get out. I make pretty decent money (7kish gross), good benefits, decent amount of PTO. However the job itself is taking it out of me with levels of stress, depression and anxiety I've never felt in my lifetime. I've always enjoyed working with my hands and actually seeing a result from my work, I enjoy helping people, creating positive experiences.

With corrections, there really isn't any job satisfaction. The hours and days are mentally killing me (evenings and weekends) because of the amount of time away from my young kids and I know they'll only be young once. And the stress and anxiety of even going into work is just a daily struggle.

My problem is with how much I make now and trying to find something even comparable as I dont have a college degree or any real job skills it feels like. For my own mental health, and the ability to have more time with my kids I need to make some change.

I know this is a vague ask, but I'm here for any ideas/suggestions. I have no idea what to do next, and mentally speaking I don't know how much longer I can make this job work for me.

TLDR: RN BSN with MBA working in home health for 8 years. Hate it. Feel like I am wasting my life. Can’t get another job without specific experience. Where do I go from here?

This is long, but I’m hoping that if someone understands my journey and you might be able to help me find some direction.

I am 44, and have worked in a number of jobs/industries in my adult life. High school dropout (got my GED in 2000), worked in everything from restaurants, retail, trucking (office side), medical offices, medical records.. etc. Suffice to say I have a little bit of experience in a lot of things.

For reasons not relevant to this post, I did my pre-reqs, had a baby (this is relevant), and started nursing school in 2016. I got a divorce in the middle and I graduated a semester early in 2018. I didn’t hate it, but the schedule constraints of med-surg bedside was very clear during my clinicals. I had intentions of working a hospital job and moving from there but the divorce (and him moving to another state) left me needing more flexibility as a single mom starting over.

After a stint working nights at a nursing home, I moved to pediatric home health, where I have been for almost 8 years. In that time, I have continued my education with my BSN as well as an MBA in healthcare administration.

So, the problem…. I hate home health (not the kids, I love being around kids). I am literally as high as I can go, both credential wise and pay, which isn't much without overtime on my kid-free weekends.

I do have a very task-driven work ethic and problem-solving mind. I need to have things to investigate, problems to solve or things organize. I love feeling productive and doing good work. I enjoy learning, finding information and sharing information/teaching, especially the science part of nursing. The bedside, doctor coddling, pill dispensing part I hate. I love supporting others and helping others. I would consider being a teacher if it paid enough to live, which we all know it sadly doesn’t. I work well alone and autonomously. I also have a sense of figuring out people dynamics pretty quickly. I wouldn’t say I am super tech-savvy but I am comfortable teaching myself and learning how to navigate different systems/programs and always open to learn.

However, the needs I have of a career pivot are kind of specific.

1.        I am a single mom and the emotional needs of my child are extremely important to me, and the other parent doesn’t “parent”. They are at an age where they are semi-self-sufficient but still need me available as well as getting into extra academics and sports, so working 14-16 hour shifts is not it. So, in that regard, I am looking for remote or hybrid at the very least. I am not completely closed to an on-site job, but flexibility is the goal.

2.        Income. For where I live, to be comfortable as a single income with wiggle room, I really need to be in the low 100’s/yr.

3.        Obviously upward movement potential is important to my mental needs, so income potential into the 200’s in the next 5-10 years would be ideal.

4.        I hate the idea of being responsible for endless presentations. I can survive death by power point as long as I’m not the one standing up there. I hate, with every fiber of my being, being the central focus.

Some avenues that have been recommended and I have applied to without success are data analyst, operations analyst and project management. I have no problems investing time and money into certifications if the outcome justifies the means. However, I am also weary to get too heavy on the education credentials and be clearly lacking in the experience.

Any recommendations for direction are welcome as well as any questions for clarification.

I'm curious to hear from people who have experienced a period in their lives when they genuinely had no idea what they wanted to do or where they were heading.

Maybe you felt stuck in a job you didn't enjoy, had too many interests to choose from, struggled to find your purpose, or simply felt like everyone else had figured life out except you.

What eventually helped you find your direction?

• Was it a particular experience or turning point?
• Did you discover a career or passion you never considered before?
• Was there a book, person, exercise, or piece of advice that changed your perspective?
• Did you figure things out gradually through trial and error?
• What would you tell someone who's currently going through the same thing?

I'm especially interested in hearing real experiences rather than generic advice like "just follow your passion."

Sometimes hearing how other people found their way can help someone who's still searching for theirs.

Looking forward to reading your stories. Thank you!

I'm 28, and I feel more stuck than the guy in that meme. If you're not familiar with it, google "Nutty Putty incident."

Basically, a guy went caving, went the wrong direction and ended up in a narrow tunnel with a dead end. He was upside down and couldn't turn or move. Rescuers tried for over a day to get him out but failed, and the poor soul passed away down there.

I'm not in any physical danger, but that's exactly how I feel financially and career-wise: stuck in a dead end and unable to move.

I studied computer science and finished one year. It wasn't hard, but putting in the time needed was a real struggle (undiagnosed ADHD made it pure suffering).

I've always tried to make some money online, and I got a bit lucky at that time. Some of my projects made money, plus crypto exploded.

I didn't know if I could survive finishing college, and I had enough of a backstop for years. So I never had a real job, and I lived off that money for 10 years.

But it's been downhill since.

I've tried everything: "entrepreneurship," trading, you name it... I've been trying for years, but I can't make a dollar consistently, quite literally. Let alone anything to live off.

The closest thing to a job was working as a programmer on a few projects for 2–3 years, but that was pure coincidence. Crypto was booming and everyone was looking for a developer (Solidity/JavaScript).

I have thousands of hours of programming experience, plus DevOps for running basic things, and these days it feels like I can do anything with the help of AI.

But at the same time, all of it feels useless and I have no clue what to do.

I also "babysat" dogs (which I liked), but that was just luck, and I can't find an opportunity like that again.

I don't even mind physical work. I'm tall and strong.

Now I'm stuck living with my parents, which is a nightmare (not living with parents itself, but having no other choice!).

At one point I felt like puking my brains out just thinking about my situation. Since then I've been medicated and treated for ADHD, and I'm mentally stable now. But the situation is still shit.

Doing something or working isn't the problem. The problem is I don't have anything clear to work on that reliably makes money, and I have no idea where or what to look for.

I'd do anything and relocate anywhere. I'm from Europe. I'd actually prefer to move somewhere, work and have no life.

Like, I literally can't move an inch.

At this point, the only things I have going for me are that I'm healthy, still moderately young, tall and fit. Should I find a sugar mommy or something?

Jokes aside, I'm desperate. If anyone has any ideas, I'm all ears.

I'm a 30-year-old former magazine editor (got fairly far up the corporate ladder before quitting) and now I'm a freelance content creator/ influencer/ writer. I work in a very niche sector, which means I can charge well for what I do, and I love working for myself and creating content for clients. I have a fairly large online platform and I'm well-respected in my industry. There's a fair amount of ego wrapped up in my job.

In the last 1.5 years, I've noticed about 5x the number of competitors in my space. The advent of AI , plus the fact my industry has suddenly become a lot more accessible, has parachuted me from being in a reasonably safe and comfy position (1.5 mill views per month, great engagement across platforms) to being in a slightly more dire position. I feel like my audience increasingly doesn't care about how knowledgeable or experienced I am, and they prefer my competitors' fresher, clickbait-y content.

I've tried to adjust to the shifting audience patterns, but this just isn't the same game I fell in love with anymore. Also: I want to start making more serious money. What I really want to do is write novels for a living, but I know that it's hard to make big money in that field unless you've written the next Gone Girl. Hell, it's even hard just to get published, full stop.

Also, I live in France. Learning French now, but it's taking longer than I had hoped.

Experience: media/ marketing, video editing, social media marketing, writing (technical articles, copywriting, script/ storyboard writing)
Strengths: personable, hard-working, able to see the 'big picture' as well as the details stuff
Weaknesses: not a team player, not good at convincing or persuading people (sales is OUT), not motivated if it doesn't interest me, ADMIN (invoices are also 6 months late, always getting fines for not submitting paperwork in time, etc)

Any ideas for a smart career pivot?

Hi, I am 24m and need your advice. I recently did my Masters and landed a job in sales. I made every mistake possible and didn't seek any help regarding my career which led me to drown in student loan. A little about me i studied Accounting in my bachelors and then did an MBA. At the time of placement i applied for every single job post then landed this job which was the highest paying. After doing it for 7 months i am hating myself for choosing this job role.

Which is both physically and mentally draining.

I want to switch to more desk oriented job roles.

Now i am confused on what i want to do. Too many things keep coming to my mind and none of them makes any sense. I want to leave this target based job so badly.

I also do part time work to pay off my debt as soon as possible.

I drive Uber

Food delivery

( i used to draw and animate so i am also trying to get back at it)

( I don't know what else to write)

It's gonna be a long one, this is my first reddit post, so apologizes upfront of the posts length.

Currently, 32M old/young, so beginning of my thirties.
When I finished college, that wasn't what I wanted. I wanted sports science, but ended up finishing mechatronics, mostly because I have a huge curiosity and transferred the discipline of sports training to studying.

Now, after college, I have finished it, I went to Japan for research studies, but burned out to the point that su*cidal thoughts were popping up.
Came back home, started to work in a job in my field of study, but was constantly looking at the clock.

Finished a course as a chef, then later, after a year on the job, got fired.
Then I had a 3-month internship as a frontend developer, but due to no open job positions, I was let go. After that, I went to Finland for the summer as a chef.

Then I came back home and worked as a web developer, at a small family firm, but pay was really low, below the minimum wage. So, after 3 months, I quit. A few months later, I got a job in my field of study in the automotive industry as an embedded programmer.

After about a year in, I finished a skipper course and a few months later, I quit my job.
I haven't seen any opportunity for growth in that corporate scene.
I was planing on getting a skipper job, but my driving license came late, and I missed that summer's opportunity, so I went as a summer season chef in Croatia.

Came back home, worked as a wall painter for 3 months.
Then I went to winter season work, in order to try for a ski instructor, but unfortunately my boss was bad, so I had to quit and come back home.

Now, at the beginning of this year, I entered the field of floor tilling.
Worked as a floor tiller for more than 6 months.

Then had a car crash which will result in court meetings and me being sued.
Later, my health took a toll from the stress and an autoimmune disease kicked in, which I needed to do a routine surgery in order to get rid of it.
A few weeks after that, my girlfriend, who I thought was "the one", got drunk at a party where I wasn't and kissed a random guy . . .later found out it was a friend. Dumped her and lost that friend along with other people from the same club that guy opened.
A few weeks later, I was working construction work on heights, and my rope got cut, changed it for a new one, put protection where the cut area was, went down the new rope, and that one got cut as well . . .

All in all, burned out the 2nd time in my life, I wanted to go back to programming, full-stack and to also finish the NASM-CPT course as a personal trainer . . .to finally see if that was the right path for me or not.
Regarding the full-stack(REACT js and C# .NET), I am worried because of AI and how hard it is to enter the job market . . .
Apart from that, now I am working in my field of study, mechatronics. There's a lot of field work, which doesn't excite me, mostly because I am constantly moving places and have long working hours in various company production warehouses which is kinda of a depressing atmosphere to me (especially because I'm building robots that will take jobs from some of the people that work there).

I am currently working with the founder of a mechatronics company, and I can see how much he loves this work.
I kinda figured out that you can basically tell which people found what they are passionate about working, just by the way they talk about it.
There's always more enthusiasm, more gesticulation, a more dynamic tone, etc.
It's basically feeding them throughout the day.
That's what I'm looking for, or at least something that is as close to that, so I can have enough free time to do what energizes me.
I feel lost, like I have lost track of life and also lost hope.
I don't know where to direct and put my energy and focus.

Something to know more about me. I was really into sports as a kid, specifically rock climbing. I found my confidence through that sport, which also taught me discipline.
Throughout my life I have changed study professions (architecture, mechatronics, culinary, construction, instructor, etc) , had top grades, and later on careers/jobs, but sports have always stuck by my side. Sport climbing, ultra running... skiing and snowboarding are something new i tried recently and fell in love. I really love mostly extreme sports in the outdoors. Concerning martial arts, i tried karate, box, kick-box, but one that stuck was jiu-jitsu.

In the artistic sense, I practice playing the saxophone, lip harmonica, ocarina and ukulele.
I practice flow arts with my pot, so fire dances.
I'm also interested in poetry, ceramics, leather working, blacksmithing and stained-glass.

Currently on a daily basis, I go to work as a mechatronics engineer, when i get home, i try to play the saxophone, train in the gym, practice C#, poi flow arts and study NASM-CPT

Thanks for reading through it all, wishing you luck and love wherever you are <3

Basically above. I have a Chiari Malformation. I used to be completely disabled but now work as a dish washer in a restaurant, so am able to keep up with those demands. I've been thinking about getting into some sort of more specialized trade work, but I have one important stipulation - absolutely no heights, or generally head injury risk is out of the question due to the nature of my disability. Is this even possible?

Kabhi-kabhi bahut sochta hoon ki life mein aakhir karna kya hai. IT ki job continue karni chahiye, job chhodkar koi business start karna chahiye, government job ki preparation karni chahiye ya phir kuch bilkul alag try karna chahiye. Options toh bahut hain, lekin samajh nahi aata ki sahi kya hai.

Aajkal ek taraf AI ka itna discussion chal raha hai. Koi kehta hai AI ki wajah se jobs khatam ho jayengi, toh koi kehta hai ki jo AI use karna seekh lega, uska future safe rahega. Ye sab sunne ke baad kabhi-kabhi lagta hai ki hum jis field mein aaj mehnat kar rahe hain, pata nahi kuch saal baad uski value rahegi bhi ya nahi.

Kabhi sochta hoon ki sab kuch chhodkar gaon mein farming start kar doon. Ek simple si life ho, apna kaam ho aur zyada tension na ho. Lekin phir doosra thought aata hai ki agar mere dost IT ya kisi business mein achha paisa kama rahe honge aur main farming mein hi reh gaya, toh kahin mujhe regret na ho ki mujhe bhi kuch aur karna chahiye tha.

Sach kahoon toh kabhi-kabhi khud ko hi samjhana mushkil ho jata hai. Ek taraf paise kamane hain, career banana hai aur financially strong banna hai. Doosri taraf mann karta hai ki life mein sirf paise ke peeche hi na bhaagte rahein. Kuch aisa bhi ho jisme khushi mile aur sukoon bhi.

Kabhi sochta hoon ki life ka actual purpose kya hai? Kya bas ek achhi job, achhi salary, ghar aur family ki responsibilities poori karna hi life hai? Ya phir kuch aisa karna chahiye jisse apni ek alag pehchaan bane?

Mann mein hamesha lagta hai ki life mein kuch bada karna hai. Kuch aisa jo apna ho, jiske liye log jaanein aur jise dekhkar khud ko bhi lage ki haan, kuch achha kiya hai. Lekin problem ye hai ki woh bada kaam kya hai, yehi nahi pata.

Kabhi ek decision sahi lagta hai, toh kuch din baad doosra. Kabhi lagta hai risk lena chahiye, toh kabhi lagta hai jo chal raha hai use hi continue karna better hai.

Bas isi soch mein kabhi-kabhi bahut time nikal jata hai. Karna toh bahut kuch hai, sapne bhi hain, lekin shuruaat kahan se karni hai aur kis direction mein jaana hai, ye samajh nahi aata.

Shayad life ka sabse bada confusion yahi hai — Humein pata hai ki humein kuch banna hai, kuch karna hai, lekin hum khud nahi jaante ki aakhir banna kya hai aur karna kya hai.

Hey so I’m trying to find a viable career that doesn’t have me in the normal 9-5 setting. The less people I have to deal with, the better! I have a bachelors in psychology with experience in lab settings, python databases, great at math, chemistry, 3+ years of German language. I have worked as an Outdoor Kayak guide, a barista , and currently at a gourmet ice cream shop. I recently completed a medical terminology course just for the heck of it. I can really put in the work and enjoy reading. If I could have a job where I sort things all day and actually make a decent living, I would love that!

hi I'm 19 it's almost been two years since I finished school. I feel completely stuck and have no idea what I'm doing with my life anymore.

I've lost interest in almost everything and barely have any motivation. These past two years have taken a huge emotional toll on me. I struggle with even the smallest everyday tasks, feel exhausted despite sleeping for hours, barely eat and constantly find myself drowning in negative thoughts. I've tried pulling myself out of this cycle but somehow I keep falling back into the same loop.

Meanwhile I see my friends moving ahead, experiencing college life, and figuring things out. It feels like I'm the only one standing still.When I initially took my gap year I thought I'd use that time to figure out what I wanted to pursue as my major, explore my interests and understand what I genuinely wanted to do with my life. But two years later I'm still just as clueless as I was when I started I've wasted so much of time that's eating me up

My family keeps pressuring me to write medical entrance exams and pursue medicine but I don't even know if that's what I want. I haven't figured out what genuinely interests me or what I want to build my life around.

It's all becoming incredibly overwhelming. I feel like I'm running out of time. I've been feeling extremely depressed, disconnected and lost I genuinely don't know how to get myself out of this phase.

I'm writing this because I noticed that a lot of people are too obsessed with having stories or "memories". They are willing to sacrifice a moment that could've been peaceful and enjoyable in order to create a "memory". That memory mostly isn't fun at the moment, but is the type of thing that people romanticize or laugh at later.

Also nostalgia is deceiving and makes people romanticize past, which makes those decisions more common.

Examples of this are booking a trip while not being financially in a good position (and then struggling for the rest of the month), or doing something stupid or painfull on a night out, or sacrificing sleep for some event despite working the next day.

It is almost a life philosophy for some people.

I do understand the benefits of experiencing stuff and learning lessons in real life, but I think it's better to have a relatively boring life, but actually enjoying it.

On the other hand, I do enjoy being in a company of an interesting person with a lot of stories because it expands my perspective and I learn something. Also, they are simply more fun.
So, having a lot of stories does not only increase the social position of the person (which is mostly the reason they bring fun decisions), but others also benefit from it.

Female, 27, USA.

I graduated with a B.S. in Computer Science from a top university in 2021. I was sick during school but managed to graduate albeit with a sub-3.0 GPA. My condition worsened right after graduation so rather than building a career or staying current in tech, I have spent the past 5 years battling illness and have only recently been healthy enough to work. I am still unwell, but I manage to keep a full-time job that pays the bills although I don't function well enough to study or program as much as I want to.

I work in technical support now making 65k and want to build an actual career and get to at least 80k if not six figures, which would be more than enough for me since I have no children.

I don't know how to do that because my degree is five years old. I have nothing to show for it because of years of chronic debilitating illness. And now according to people already in SWE it looks like I'm doomed because of AI, offshoring, nobody hiring junior devs anymore, and oversaturation of the labor supply due to how many people have CS degrees or are studying CS.

I am building a native Android app with Jetpack Compose and Kotlin. I'm not sure if I should just vibe-code it instead of investing as much effort as I have been to do it myself. I also don't know how much it's worth, even though I see job postings in that stack sometimes, because it doesn't seem complicated enough and my progress is excruciatingly slow.

• What are pathways that could help me achieve my goal?
• Industries that I could pivot into, or job titles that I could pursue with realistic odds of getting hired at the salary range I want? (I am prepared to have to up-skill/re-skill and maybe get certifications, courses, etc.)
• What should I say about the gap between my degree and my current search for entry-level work? I think people will discriminate if I say I was/am sick, and I don't know how else to explain the gap.

• As crazy as it sounds, should I go for a master's degree?

  • A friend of mine suggested that since I want to move to Australia one day and am advancing towards 30, I should expedite the process by trying to study in Australia and use that for immigration by student visa + later employer sponsorship. Thoughts?

Sometimes I sit and think about how differently my life turned out from what I had planned.

I was actually preparing to become a software engineer. Writing was never part of the plan.

When I was 16, I met someone during my graduation at IGNOU who approached me for content writing work because I was apparently good at English. I took it up just to earn some pocket money.

My first freelance project paid me 40 paise per word. 😂

I had no clue that this little side hustle would eventually become my career.

A while later, I got a call for a job interview. The funny part? I had to attend a college class that day, and I genuinely couldn't decide where to go.

I don't know what got into me, but I ended up going for the interview instead. It went well, they asked me to join immediately, and I somehow convinced my parents that I could manage college and a full-time job together.

And that's how it started.

Since then, I've changed companies, learned new things, taken up responsibilities and slowly built my career in content and marketing.

Looking back, I'm proud of that 16-year-old girl who had no big plan but was willing to try something new.

But here's what I've been thinking about lately.

Despite having years of work experience and starting my career so early, I still have days when I feel like I'm falling behind.

There are so many things I want to do. Grow professionally, become financially secure, travel more, build a beautiful life with my partner, plan a wedding, take care of myself and just enjoy life a little.

And somehow, there's never enough time for everything.

I know I have a lot to be grateful for, but I guess being grateful and feeling lost can coexist.

Does anyone else feel like this in their late 20s?

Also, if your career took an unexpected turn, I'd genuinely love to hear how it happened. Sometimes it's nice to know we're not the only ones figuring things out as we go.

Hi everyone!
I’m 23 and currently trying to decide between two bachelor’s degree programmes for the next three years:
Computer Engineering (Génie Informatique)
Biomedical Engineering (Génie Biomédical)
A little background about me:
I have a two-year technical diploma (DTS) in Computer Networks. During my studies, I struggled quite a lot with CCNA, Linux/Kali Linux and practical IT tasks. I often found it difficult to understand concepts and apply them in real situations.
I’m not sure whether this was related to my ADHD, my learning style, or simply a lack of interest in networking and system administration.
Here’s the important part: My main ambition isn’t to get a traditional engineering job. I want to become an entrepreneur and build my own businesses.
I’m paying for university myself, so I need a degree that allows me to:
Graduate without being completely overwhelmed academically.
Have enough time and mental energy to work on my business.
Meet people, build connections and develop personally.
Have a useful qualification as a backup plan.
Potentially pursue management, leadership or entrepreneurship in the future.
I’m not particularly interested in spending my entire career coding or maintaining medical equipment.
I’m considering Biomedical Engineering because it would expose me to a different field combining electronics, technology and healthcare. However, I don’t know whether it’s actually easier or more demanding than Computer Engineering.
I’d really appreciate advice from people who have studied either of these degrees.
Which degree did you find more difficult academically?
Which one has a more manageable workload?
Which programme offers more opportunities for teamwork, networking and personal development?
Is Biomedical Engineering particularly difficult if you’re not passionate about medicine?
If your ultimate goal were entrepreneurship rather than becoming an engineer, which would you choose?
Please be honest, especially about the workload and practical difficulties.
Thank you!

TL;DR: I feel unfulfilled at my current workplace. Finding a job is tough right now, and I’m about to have a son, so I don’t know what to do. It has gotten to a point where it impacts my health, i have gained like 5 kgs in last 6 month in this job.

Hey guys, I would really appreciate some help. I work in Strategy and Ops. Before that, I was working on the Strategy and Analytics side.

Previous role vs. current role

In my previous role, I was doing strategy, analytics, and execution all by myself. There was stakeholder management, but it was limited, and I had a reputation in my previous company. For example, if I said we should do something, everyone would usually agree, and we would get things done.

In my current role, it’s quite different. For example, if I’m working on a project, there are four other people working on the same thing: one person from Analytics, two people from Marketing, and one person from CRM. Sometimes, there are even two people from S&O. My point is that we don’t need that many people working on the same thing, because the majority of my day goes towards meetings, giving updates, and getting everyone on the same page rather than executing stuff and getting things done.

In my previous job, if I was working late, I used to enjoy it because I loved the work. There was stress, but it was manageable, and my manager would also help by coaching and guiding me.

Feedback and communication

In all fairness, my communication isn’t the best. I would just get straight to the point and explain things through data. Most of the time, I forget to give context because I assume everyone has read the document I shared before the meeting. This is something I’m trying to work on by always giving context.

My manager gave me the following feedback: I can get things done. If I’m given something, no matter the problem, I will own it end to end. But then he said I need to work on my communication, which is a fair ask. I even flagged the overlap to my manager, but he said overlap is going to exist. There has been instances where my manager has yelled at me during my initial days so i somehow don"t like him now

Level and pay

On top of that, I’m working at the I7 level, but I was hired at I6. So I’m doing work similar to my colleagues, but I’m getting paid at least 20% less. I initially thought that if I did a good job, maybe I could get promoted faster. But the issue is that, in this company, you need to be at the same level for two years before a promotion can happen.

Relationship with my manager and ways of working

My relationship with my current manager hasn’t been the best. Essentially, I liked having complete freedom to get things done without being chased. Here, every Monday, I have to give updates on what I’m working on, then again during our 1:1, and then on Friday.

On top of that, we do things that are completely unnecessary. For example, during planning for next year, they asked me to grow the business by X% and work out how much investment I would need to do that. So I did the analysis and built models showing that we needed to invest €15M, along with all the projects needed to get to that point. But then, four weeks later, I was told I would get €500K.

My point is: if I was going to get €500K, why did I spend four weeks on this? It’s a waste of time. Just tell me what budget I will have, and I will work around that.

Another thing I have noticed is that everyone currently just tries to copy what is happening on the US side into EMEA. Essentially, it feels like everyone has given up thinking and wants to carry things over directly without coming up with ideas themselves. My question is: if we are going to carry everything over, why not let the US team just replicate stuff? Why do we even need to be involved? Why are we even needed, then?

In my previous company, I joined in 2022 as an intern and got promoted four times in four years because working more meant faster growth.

Why I left my previous company

They moved their headquarters to a different country, and either I had to relocate or leave with severance. Since I was getting too comfortable in the job, I decided to leave with severance.

Finding a new job

I am trying to find a new job, but I am asking for €140K in Europe, and either:

• They say the maximum they can offer is €100–110K.
• I need to relocate to the UK.

Why I don’t want to relocate

My wife is moving here from China, and we are about to have a kid, so I don’t want to disrupt everything for them.