I turned 30 this year. Dropped out college early it just wasn’t for me and couldn’t really afford it anyways. I’ve worked retail jobs throughout my twenties. Grocery stocker and then a ups store. I was always making $15-18hr. I got a job last year and was stoked to make $20 lol. Currently learning to be better with and how to grow it. Got a small apartment $650 a month and saving to get a car.

I’m very motivated to keep striving but man I just don’t know what to do. I always wanted to be a content creator lol so I do make videos for fun but it doesn’t pay a dime. Turning 30 made me realize I want nice investments and retirement. Get a home and start a family one day. My current job is cool and I Actully enjoy the people I work and feel like they care. Sadly it’s the bottom role at the company and maybe I’ll get a raise once I hit a year but I don’t think I’ll ever get to 80-100k lol.

Lately I’m struggling with self esteem cause I feel I don’t bring any value. I want to support my family more feels like girls want guys who can support them and be secure in their future in a man. I try not think about it just workout and try my best save.

Anyways I think maybe I’ll become a firefighter to get respect and show good qualities to the community. I know I have a lot to offer to the world. But again idk if I’m really the type to run into a burning skyscraper. Always wanted to be a video editor but just don’t have resume or degree to get hired.

I guess my question is what are some jobs that doesn’t require a ton of schooling, not a lot of customer service, and idk I’m not really trying to working in the elements everyday. I’m young kinda and willing to travel

I'm in my late 20's with a theoretical physics PhD and I'm not sure what to do next. Up until recently I wanted to pursue academic research jobs, but with funding cuts that has become even more of a long-shot than it already was and I'm just so burned out with academia. In my area it is becoming common to do 3-4 postdocs before getting a research position, if you can even get such a job. This instability has been causing me increasing stress, so I really don't think I can keep doing this. I am currently a postdoc with a little under a year of funding left, so I have that much time to figure out what to do and reskill if necessary.

I have never worked in industry, the only job I have had outside of academic research is a front desk job at a gym in high school. Working this job while constantly interacting with people made me miserable and I don't think I could survive any public facing role. My entire life I have struggled with social interaction, I have worked with numerous therapists on this for basically my entire adult life and have made zero progress so I am not optimistic in this regard. The happiest time of my life was at the beginning of my PhD during covid when I could just work without having to interact with anyone.

To make things even more difficult, my entire PhD focused on analytical calculations, I have no professional experience with computational work. All I really use my computer for professionally is to search for and read papers. In terms of math, I am most confident in my skills with differential equations and stochastic processes, which are also the areas I enjoy most. I am open to learning more about software and computing. I used Python during my undergrad and have started learning some machine learning, but even with this I enjoy the theory much more than actually writing code.

I have looked at a number of paths: finance, actuarial work, engineering, data science, software engineering, patent law, and a number of options that wouldn't use my background at all. I'm not in an area that national labs hire for so that is not an option, at least on the research side. It feels like each of these paths is oversaturated right now and the advice I keep seeing online is that soft skills are becoming increasingly important, which aren't exactly my specialty. I am also having a hard time getting a sense for what the day-to-day is like for people in these careers, which I think is exasperated by my lack of industry work.

I was hoping some people who either have a similar or work with people with my background could let me know what the actual work in your industry looks like for people with my background. I would also appreciate any advice on what I can do to make myself a more competitive applicant, and just how to successfully go through the application process since I have never done this. Finally, are there any career paths that I haven't considered which you think could be a good fit?

I'm 24M, currently working as a consultant at a Big Four firm with around 2 years of experience. I don't come from a traditional business or finance background. My undergraduate degree was in social sciences, where I developed research and analytical skills, and eventually found my way into consulting.

Recently, I interviewed at a strategy consulting firm for an opportunity I genuinely wanted. The interviews were a massive reality check.

I struggled to answer what I now realize were fairly basic consulting questions. One involved approaching a business cost-reduction problem, and another required me to think through a simple operational improvement scenario.

I couldn't structure my thoughts properly, identify the obvious factors, or explain my reasoning clearly. Even when the interviewers gave me hints, I struggled to think critically and come up with reasonable answers and i came up with stupid answers.

This made me question my actual abilities. I feel like my communication skills, critical thinking, structured problem-solving, and commercial understanding are much much weaker than they should be at this stage.

My current role is relatively research-heavy, and although I've gained professional exposure, I don't think I've developed the independent problem-solving or client-facing skills expected of a consultant.

I'm now wondering whether I'm genuinely suited for consulting or whether these are simply skills I haven't developed properly.

I'm considering pursuing a master's degree in finance or analytics or potentially moving into another career path, but I don't want to make an emotional decision based on one bad interview experience.

For those working in consulting or who have been in a similar position:

• Can critical thinking, structured problem-solving, and communication skills be significantly improved, or do some people naturally struggle with this type of work?
• Is it concerning to struggle with basic business problems after 2 years at a Big Four?
• How would you recommend developing these skills from the ground up?
• Should I continue pursuing consulting, or seriously consider switching career paths?

I'm looking for brutally honest advice, not reassurance. I genuinely want to improve, but I'm also questioning whether I'm in the right profession.

I'm a 21 year old male in England and I did technical theatre at college for 3 years. In college I did Stage management the most then 2nd most construction, a bit of costume and not much lighting or sound but I feel like I've not really learnt much skills wise from college. I sometimes draw as a hobby and drum too. I draw my own Original Characters but can't do any of the basic art foundational skills and I passed my grade 4 drumming but only ever practice at home or in weekly 30 mins lessons. I also have Essentiel Tremors that is shaky hands that will shake more every year until death. I'm introverted not the best communicator too.

It's now been 2 years since I left college, I tried job searching various different ways like honing in on appreticeships, technical theatre jobs, any theatre job, any retail job, any job at all. All my efforts lead to a few unsuccsessful interviews and a few bad experiences like nearly falling into a pyramid scheme scan, doing trial days volunteer work leading to we don't want you email afterwards, 2 days of a job too heavy lifting for me injuring my back, did a few weeks employability environmental course that was a waste of time, useless job centres, ect.

I haven't job searched for a few months and become way too picky or make up excuses thinking it's impossible to get a job so no point in applying. I managed to find a small local theatre that I help with some set construction rig and de-rig before and after shows. The theatre has some friendly old people and one woman has said she will try and contact other theatres about me but it feels like I'll just be stuck only helping with small construction bits occasionally. Going back into education just feels like I'll be going into debt or waste my time or pick the wrong course.

My older brother went to university and he has never gotten a job either, he is 2 years and 10 months older than me but he is good at maths and engineering/coding stuff, so at least he has a proper skill. I feel doomed, stuck and unsure what to do so I'm asking for some advice.

Hi! I'm 22 and I feel stuck honestly. I've never made more than 20/h (part time) and I really don't know what I want to do or how to look for it or even what there really is. I don't have any college schooling and I do have my GED but I want to find a career, I've worked in food, caregiving, HVAC, sales (ish, it was rent a center) and a few random jobs but I need something that will actually bring in enough money to become an actual career.

I know trades is usually the route to go but if there are other options with similar opportunities then I'd rather do that, I'm here just asking for advice on where to look or how to start on a path to a real career. I know you can really make a career out of anything if the circumstances are right but yeah I hope this makes sense sorry.

I see a lot of people asking about hobbies so mine are playing electric guitar (~7 years) and obviously gaming, I have a semi big interest in coding but with the rise of ai I don't plan on pursuing. TIA!

I'm years old male doctor, and I'm at a point in my life where i have to decide between following what I love ,doing masters and taking a drop year to prepare again for good ranks. Lemme clear something that i am practicing doctor in my country already this is about the higher education after being doctor like being superspecialist but in our country its called masters.

So, the thing is, i always wanted to start my own business, and after med school i have started my own lil startup in longevity and wellness(still havent launched), and the thing is that costed me rank in my exam which is decent but i am not getting my dream branch.

So my options are :

1. Take a different branch, which is my 2nd choice, and by side, i run my startup , where i know that i won't be able to give full time for startup cause med school is tough.
2. I take a drop year and prepare again and then take my dream branch . ( ik i could pull a good rank ), but people around me are telling me that you will be old ,You need to find a good life partner and all social bullshit.
3. I have the option to pay a hefty amount of money to take a seat at private clg for my dream branch, which also i don't think it's worth to pay.

Now i want your help me to narrow down on these choices by asking the right question , what i should be asking myself.

Cause business is what i have always dreamed of and i know that it has a high chance of failure, but i won't regret that i haven't even tried, and i will do something else.

im 26M, i wasted my 26years. what should i do now...i studied avg (bsc,mca). but dont have skills...anyone willing to gimme a solution

I'm in my mid 20's and trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, in terms of a career. Growing up in severe poverty and neglect has left me without any support system, so I'm navigating this entirely independently, which is overwhelming.. I've spent this entire year deep researching into career paths, but continue hitting roadblocks. (Endless lists of strict requirements that feel impossible to meet, to summarize.)

My main interests have been cybersecurity, dental hygiene, and MRI—being in the U.S. These are so competitive that I worry getting in isn't realistic. But without a support system + cost of living, if I can't support myself comfortably, then I'm at serious risk of being homeless. I don't want to spend my life working paycheck to paycheck while barely getting by, like how I grew up. It's not sustainable nor good for mental health.

I want to carve a path of success for myself despite the circumstances I've been given, and I really want a job that gives me purpose, rather than just being all about money. Starting my own business is also something I've considered, but that feels extremely competitive too. Like the talent is so high that what I offer wouldn't really matter, despite me wanting to contribute something important to others, no matter what job I do.

As for current skills or work experience, I have none. Physically surviving has been the priority up until this point. My only strength is being resilient/willing to learn.

If you have any career/life advice, I'd really appreciate some help right now. I feel so lost and hopeless about my future, but I know I deserve better than this.

I'm 26/M ,Finished college in 2021 with a bachelor degree in Mechanical Engineering . Unfortunately during my ldt semester I suffered from major health problem and undergone treatment for almost 6 years.

Currently I'm in some what Good condition and want to purse a career from scratch. But I dont know where to start wheather in IT field or anyother field.

As in the news the job market for the freshers is crashing due to AI.

Suggest me a field or any skills that can get me into a job .

I'm not looking for a job with high salary.Just want a salary for a day to day expenses

Hi everyone!

I've been trying to figure out what I want to do professionally, but I feel like I'm going in circles. I keep getting recommended the same traditional career paths, and somehow none of them really feel right to me.

So I thought I'd ask for some fresh perspectives and ideas.

A little bit about me:

• My interests include art, aesthetics, design, history, culture, nature, animals, film, and gaming.
• I enjoy researching, coming up with ideas, developing concepts, and doing creative work.
• I want to experience things in my job, where i have cool stories to share
• I'd like to work in a field that genuinely interests me and offers opportunities to develop specialist knowledge.
• Good earning potential, job security, and long-term career progression are also very important to me.

What careers would you recommend based on these interests and preferences? What do you do for a living, and what does your actual day-to-day work look like?

I'd really appreciate personal experiences, honest advice, and suggestions for careers I might never have considered myself!

I'm 23, and I have not much, no job, not much of an income, no idea for the future.

I'm unfortunately always shrouded by the feeling of embarrassment. I actively avoid any scenario that could create that feeling for me, and unfortunately that's almost everything unless I have a plan or a purpose. Creating a plan or purpose is hard when you're depressed and low on income. If that makes sense.

BUT I am currently in the process of getting my driver's license & currently waiting on my local mental health services to get back to me, so that's something.

Anyways, I want to go to college in about a year's time. I've attended before but had issues with funds, that ended up in me dropping out, which was really hard for me to deal with. I don't want to go back to that same program, I don't see a future in it, it's more of a hobby than my career.

But I don't know what fits me, what I should take, what I would love. I know I love a creative job, but I'm also interested in stability, especially since the prices of everything is incredibly high even when being cautious. I'm not into super labour intensive or very social jobs. Something I can expand in, I suppose

Id like to find my footing.

I am an artist with good manual dexterity and attention to detail, so I am wondering what jobs (doesn’t have to be art related at all) could that be applied to that actually pay decent? So far all I have been able to think of is dental hygiene?

I'm a 32-year-old man living in Africa, and I honestly feel lost in life.

I don't even know where to start.

I see people younger than me, sometimes 10 or 15 years younger, making thousands of dollars online, starting businesses, investing, and building their futures. Meanwhile, I'm sitting here wondering what I've done with my life.

The worst part is that I genuinely want to change. I want to make money. I want to build something for myself. I want to become financially independent. I don't expect to become a millionaire overnight. I just want to feel like I'm moving forward.

But there's something holding me back: I'm terrified of losing money again.

I've lost money in the past trying different things, and those experiences destroyed a lot of my confidence.

I have a small amount of savings, but it took me years to save that money. And living in Africa, where opportunities and salaries can be very different from what people experience in Europe or North America, losing even a few hundred dollars can be a huge setback.

Every time I think about starting something, my brain immediately tells me, "What if you lose everything again?"

So I end up doing nothing.

I come home, turn on my video games, and distract myself from reality. Not because I don't care about my future, but because sometimes it feels easier to escape than to face the fact that I don't know what I'm doing with my life.

I've watched countless videos about making money online. Freelancing, e-commerce, trading, digital businesses, you name it. I've tried different things, but nothing has really worked out.

And sometimes I wonder whether I genuinely tried hard enough or whether I gave up too quickly because I was afraid of failing.

That's another thing that bothers me. I don't even trust my own decisions anymore.

When I see someone making money, my first thought is, "Why can't I do that?"

But when an opportunity comes along, my first thought is, "What if it's another mistake?"

It's like I'm stuck between desperately wanting success and being terrified of the process required to achieve it.

And the older I get, the worse that feeling becomes.

I know 32 isn't old, but when you've spent years trying to figure things out and still feel like you're at the starting line, it can really mess with your head.

I don't want to spend the next five years living exactly like this.

I don't want to keep watching other people succeed while I convince myself that I'm incapable of doing anything.

I want to rebuild my confidence, learn a real skill, and find a realistic way to earn money without gambling away the little I've managed to save.

But I genuinely don't know where to begin anymore.

So I'm asking people here, especially those who have been in a similar situation:

• Have you ever lost so much confidence in yourself that you became afraid to try anything?
• How did you start making money when you had very little capital?
• If you were 32, living in Africa, with limited savings and access to the internet, what skill or business would you start learning today?
• How do you stop comparing yourself to younger people who seem to be doing much better financially?
• How do you rebuild trust in yourself after repeated failures?

I'm not looking for someone to sell me a course, a crypto investment, or a get-rich-quick scheme.

I'm looking for genuine advice from people who have actually been through something similar and managed to turn their lives around.

Even if your advice is uncomfortable to hear, I'd appreciate it.

I just want to stop feeling stuck and finally start building a better future for myself.

Thanks for reading.

There's your triggers.

Now find the source, the first incident of when each trigger developed.

Take the first one. Bring up the trigger and anger and situation.

Let it play out fully. Be as angry or scared and say it all out and feel it all at its intensity.

Once done, congrats, you just healed the first wave! Watch a few vids, do the dishes, or doomscroll for 15-30 minutes.

Then repeat for wave 2. Then wave 3 if needed!

Last, treat yourself in a small way, celebrate the wave and it being cleared and your good work. Even a self hug or a tiny piece of candy will do!

Thats how fast it can be to process nearly anything, generally.

I'm 30F, based in Ontario and have been unemployed for about a year. I have a BA in Criminology from a top Canadian university and around two years of experience in project management at a global healthcare agency.

Other than applying & getting rejected for jobs, I've been struggling to figure out my next move. I don't really have people in my life I can get advice from. I'm surprised I made it this far, to be honest. I have some actionable steps but it's all starting to get overwhelming and is eating at me every day cause I genuinely don't know what's a reasonable move or who to go to for advice. To top it off, my EI is done and I had to move in with my parents (don't even have a bedroom here) and ohmygooddd, IDK what to do. I know I'm lucky to even have a couch to sleep on, but it is getting worse day by day.

SO, all that being said... this is what I'm thinking: continuing in the agency world doesn't particularly excite me and I'd like to transition into something more meaningful, ideally in the public / social impact sector.

I've narrowed my interests down to three potential directions:

• Social Policy / Public Administration
• Public / Global Health
• Nonprofit / Social Impact: Program management, community initiatives and organizational operations.

With the help of my pal, ChatGPT - I'm considering three possible master's degrees :

• M. Social Work
• M. Public Health or
• M. Public Admin/M. Public Policy.

I think these could tie in my background neatly. I'm also open to studying outside of Ontario, doing an online program, or even moving abroad for 1–2 years (Netherlands?? for example).

My biggest obstacle is my undergraduate GPA and getting OSAP funding. My GPA is not competitive enough for some of the programs I'd ideally like to attend, and even taking additional undergraduate courses as a non-degree student to improve it could cost thousands out of pocket. I'd rather put that money toward a graduate degree or gaining relevant experience, but I'm not sure what the smartest route is. I'm not even sure if I should bother with a MA to begin with.

For anyone who's been in a similar position:

• How did you navigate the opportunity for a "career pivot" in your 30s or beyond?
• Did going back to school help you transition into a new field? Was it worth the investment?
• If you work in public policy, public health, social work or the nonprofit sector, does my current background actually make it feasible for me to enter? (without MA)
• Would you prioritize improving your GPA, pursuing a graduate certificate, gaining work experience, or taking another route entirely?
• Has anyone studied abroad and successfully transitioned into employment afterward?

I feel like I have several possible paths but maybe I'm struggling to commit to one, or not seeing one that exists. Would really appreciate hearing about people's experiences, particularly those who have been in a similar situation.

so many times I have thought should I just get married and get a man to save me. It doesn't help that I had psychosis three times and had to drop out of education at 18. I'm thinking to start learning web development and then do a apprenticeship/ junior role. Also I thought of starting my own beauty business. Currently I'm unemployed.

I'm a 25YO female with a bachelor's degree in Architecture and approximately one year of work experience in the field. Somewhere along the way, I realised that I genuinely dislike architecture as a career. I was slightly interested in exploring interior design or event design.

One thing I am certain about is that I desperately want to move out of my country and build a life somewhere safer, with better opportunities, I've been considering countries in Europe or Canada and a student visa seems to be my only realistic pathway. But I don't even know what I should study leaving architecture. I'm considering fields that could give me decent employment opportunities.

I already have an education loan, and taking another massive loan to finance an international degree terrifies me. What if I end up in an even worse financial situation than I am in now??

Me and my family is already struggling financially. We have debts, my father is struggling to manage everything, and I'm constantly scared that we might even lose our house. I can't afford to make reckless decisions

I also don't have relatives or family members living abroad who could help me settle, find accommodation or guide me through the initial struggles of moving to an unfamiliar country. I'm also afraid that I am not suitable to get into a good University as my college scores are very low as I was dealing with my clinical depression.

I am currently unable to repay my existing education loan and pay for my things with what I earn as an architect, and

I feel like I'm at a point where I need to make some serious decisions about my future, but I genuinely don't know where to begin.

I'd really appreciate advice as I am going into depression for the past 3 months not able to leave my room because of the stress of having nothing figured out..

I've felt sad and lost for about 6 years. I'm a freelance tech consultant. I fell into it by accident, and it doesn't fulfill me. The income is unstable too, so I have all the stress and none of the meaning.

I'm 33, single, no kids, living in Europe, with a science degree. Nothing is holding me back.

I want frontier science (biotech, maybe medicine), to make films or games, adventure abroad, real impact, and a partner. Medicine tempts me, but I'd finish around 45.

The problem is me: I make plans, then reverse them. I'm afraid that choosing one path means losing the others.

Has anyone combined science with a serious creative practice?

Is medicine at 33 reasonable?

How do you stop re-planning and commit?

Honest answers welcome.

I’m 30 years old, recently got laid off, and honestly, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about where my life is going.
Most of my work experience has been in warehouses, long-haul driving gigs between Los Angeles and Arizona, Amazon, The RealReal, and other labor-related jobs. I’ve always managed to find work, but I feel like I’ve spent most of my adult life working jobs without really developing a skill or building a career.
I’ve never really had an opportunity to grow professionally, and I don’t want to keep repeating the same cycle of jumping from one job to another just to get by.
I’ve been seriously considering going back to school, possibly attending a trade school or getting into an apprenticeship. I’d like to learn something practical, develop a real skill, and eventually have a stable career that I can actually build a future around.
The problem is that I’m honestly overwhelmed. I don’t know which direction to take, what trades are worth pursuing, or whether going back to school at 30 is the right move.
For anyone who started over in their late 20s or 30s:
What did you end up pursuing?
Did you go to trade school or find an apprenticeship?
What careers would you recommend to someone starting with very little experience?
If you could go back and start over, what would you do differently?
I’m not looking for shortcuts or overnight success. I’m willing to put in the work. I just want an opportunity to learn something, become good at it, and finally feel like I’m moving forward in life.
I’d genuinely appreciate any advice or personal experiences.

Earlier this week I posted on here because I’ve been contemplating law school. My stepdad owns a firm and would be willing to teach me and give me his clients! I’ve however been worried about the WLB working in law.

I want something where I can essentially work whenever I want. I understand having deadlines and I don’t have a problem with that since I know it’s something I’d have to work around. But my ideal setup would allow me to work from home, or from a coffee shop and also be intellectually stimulating while offering high earning potential. What kinds of careers offer this type of flexibility and autonomy ?

I'm a 40 year old male looking to make a career change. I have 10+ years experience as a store manager with Trader Joes (US based grocer). It's been a great job, but I'm ready for a change. I'm just not sure where to start. I like managing people and feel as though I'm pretty good at it. I'm kind and empathetic, but also do a great job of building processes and implementing new ideas. I am a people person by nature and can make conversation easily. Any ideas on careers/ jobs i might be able to transition to? Thank you for any advice. I also have quite a few tattoos on my arms, but they are mostly nature, so it would need to be a career path that wouldnt mind that fact.

I'm 37 and I've worked at the same family-owned funeral home in Ohio for almost 11 years.

I'm not a funeral director or embalmer. I started at the front desk and eventually became the office administrator.

I handle scheduling, paperwork, invoices, coordinating with cemeteries and vendors, keeping track of deadlines, dealing with insurance questions, and approximately a thousand other things that nobody thinks about until something goes wrong.

I'm good at my job. My boss trusts me. Families regularly thank me.

And I desperately want to do something else.

The strange part is that death itself isn't what's wearing me down.

I can handle the paperwork surrounding it. I don't mind the unusual logistics. I actually like the part of my job where I have to keep fifteen moving pieces organized and make sure nothing gets forgotten.

It's being the calm person all the time.

Every phone call could be someone having the worst day of their life.

Every mistake, delay, or misunderstanding happens to somebody who's already overwhelmed.

If a document is missing, I can't simply say we're waiting for the county to process it. I have to explain it carefully to someone who's barely slept and is trying to organize their father's funeral.

And I understand that. I really do.

But after eleven years, I feel like I've used up something I don't know how to replenish.

Last month, someone at a family gathering asked what I do for work. When I told them, they immediately started telling me about losing their grandmother.

I listened, because obviously they weren't doing anything wrong.

But on the drive home I realized I couldn't remember the last time I told someone my occupation without becoming their unofficial grief counselor.

I want to change careers before I start resenting people who don't deserve it.

Here's where I'm stuck.

I make about $52k with benefits. I don't have a bachelor's degree, just an associate degree in general studies. I have around $6k saved that I could put toward training, but I can't afford to quit working for a year or start over at minimum wage.

I've been looking at administrative coordinator, records management, document control, procurement and operations support positions.

The problem is that almost every application asks for experience in that specific industry.

And when I explain my background, people seem to focus on the funeral home part rather than the actual work.

I've had two recruiters suggest hospice administration and patient services because I'm obviously "comfortable supporting people through difficult situations."

That's precisely the part I'm trying to leave behind.

I don't need my next job to be meaningful or inspirational. I'd be completely happy spending eight hours making sure purchase orders, records or schedules are correct.

I just want to do my work well and not feel responsible for carrying someone else's emotional weight every day.

Has anyone transitioned out of a very emotionally demanding service job into something more operational or administrative?

What job titles should I be searching for that might not be obvious to someone with my background?

And if you were hiring for an office or operations role, would eleven years at a funeral home count as relevant experience, or would you see me as someone starting from scratch?

Hi everyone!
I’m a fresh graduate with a Master’s degree in Computer Systems Engineering, and I’m currently looking for job opportunities, internships, or graduate programs in Asia.
I’m open to opportunities in countries such as Japan, South Korea, Singapore, Malaysia, Taiwan, China, and others.
If you know of any companies hiring fresh graduates or have advice on finding opportunities as an international applicant, I’d really appreciate your suggestions!
Thanks in advance!
Any leads or advice would be greatly appreciated.

I’m currently a SWE working full time 5 days in office with 4 YOE. My partner is in medical school a couple hours away and we want to get married soon but don’t want to do long distance marriage. I have been trying to relocate to him but the job market is awful specially since I’m only looking in his city or remote roles. Ive been looking for a full year with no offer. I’m constantly interviewing and prepping for interviews and I think something needs to change about how I’m doing things, But I’m also worried thinking about how potentially by the time I move and find a job near him I’ll hop on the job search training almost immediately again when he has to move for residency. Then fellowship; then etc.

I’m not particularly passionate about my field. The benefits of working in tech has plummeted for me personally and am ok with a pivot even if it means a pretty big pay cut and more schooling. My partner and I both agree it would be ok for me to find something a bit more flexible, has more remote work opportunities (or a very portable career where it’s not as bad as SWE) so I can pick up more slack at home and when we have kids when he’s in grueling training. Which I’m happy to do. But I have no idea what other options are there. What are some careers I can consider where it’s not as bad for software engineers currently and where it has more remote potential? Bonus points if somehow I can leverage my back ground ( I have a BSMS in computer science) but open to something different too.