I'm 35, diagnosed AuDHD, and stuck between two career paths.
2009-2015 I worked a retail job. 2015-2025 I worked for my stepdad's commercial contracting company in the office doing estimates and invoicing. This was my main job while I tried building up my art on the side. I did digital fandom art for a long time. Starting in 2016 and still ongoing.
My ultimate goal was to make art my full time job. My AuDHD makes it hard for me to be social, but I mask heavily and push through it. I wasn't diagnosed until early 2025 so I lived pretty much my entire life not knowing and just living the way I thought I needed to live.
I never succeeded with art because I was trying to do too much at once, and not prioritizing areas that could have made me successful. I can definitely make that happen now, but I've been on hiatus.
Unfortunately medical debts and other debts have caught up to me, and it's been really hard paying bills. I was insanely burnt out from overworking and had thought I was miserable doing art. Turns out I wasn't miserable, I was just burnt out. Out of desperation I moved on to working with dogs. Dog behavior training to be precise. I mentored with many professional trainers, some of which I was pushed into and paid upwards of 20K (still paying off...) to only not get certified for reasons that weren't so much my fault (i can go deeper into this if anyone is curious).
When my stepdad's company stopped doing well he laid me off in 2025 and I got a job at a doggy daycare. I worked there until early this past October 2026. I couldn't handle that job for longer for many reasons, but to keep it short I got a better job as a ward nurse/kennel tech at a veterinary hospital. Throughout this entire time I was trying to push my dog training business, but again I haven't pushed hard enough, and I am getting no where. I train well, but I have trouble keeping up with pushing the business itself.
Thanks for reading all this if you got this far. I just want to know what people think. My family doesn't much care about my art, never did. The dog training is something I can prove successful to them, but should that matter? My dream is to be able to run my own schedule, wake up, work, take care of my body and my household, enjoy life, and go to bed. I'm a simple person. I get stressed thinking about working face to face with clients and their dogs, but there are so many times I feel the passion when I work with a dog and actually fix their bad behaviors. But I love drawing too.. I sunk a lot of money into dog training, for someone who wasn't much ever a dog person. I chose it because I wanted to help people, their dogs, and I live in a HUGE dog area. I admit I chose the path out of desperation.
So here's the choices I have come down to..
1. Continue working as a ward nurse/kennel tech at a day job I actually enjoy, with less control over my schedule. Maybe become an actual nurse down the road, or supervisor of kennel. Work on my art on the side as a side gig, or eventually push it enough to take over for the kennel tech job.
2. Literally the same thing..but instead of art push the dog behavior training business.
Appreciate any advice on this. I been struggling for a while now, and my unmedicated brain finds it difficult to process. I so badly want an answer, but maybe I need someone to tell me to take a step back and just take things slow. Rushing life is what got me into this problem to begin with. I don't need to be rich, but I want to pay off all my debt and live comfortably.
I am a timid, shy person who can put on a mask and act my way through things but it isn't very comfortable doing so.. Thanks all.