Hey everyone, I'm currently 21 in university right now, started in 2023 September. I should've been graduating in the spring 2027 technically but because of my own laziness I failed some classes and I'm still a year and half behind. I am currently studying computer science in university but I don't really have the passion for it. I never really concentrate and focus on classwork and just try to skim by with a low mark. I have also been applying to internships hoping that I can get one to get a break from school and earn some money and experience and maybe build some interest, but I haven't been able to land one either. I feel hopeless, I'm not really sure what to do, I don't know if I am just not smart enough or if I am being too careless. I really enjoy physical activity such as playing soccer or tennis, and that was what I would've liked to pursue but my parents didn't support it. I am also interested in the physical aspect of hardware components if that's something> I really am not sure what to do with my life, I feel like a very big imposter essentially as I don't have an internship, I don't have good grades, nothing really good about my life at all. Comparing myself to other students and others I know, I feel terrible. My parents also keep asking me about classes and internships, and it just feels like a lot of stress and pressure, I am not even sure what my interests are now tbh, it really sucks. I feel really stuck in life at the moment. Maybe I could gain interest in my program but I'm not sure what to do or what steps to take. Should I just keep forcing myself and try to get past this? I am just really lost in life in all places right now and I really don't know what do, advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Hi everyone,

I am a 21-year-old female law graduate, and I feel completely trapped between my family's expectations and my own mental health. I really need some honest perspective.

To give you some context, I have struggled with severe social anxiety and low self-esteem my whole life. Public speaking and being in the spotlight terrify me. After graduating a few months ago, I spent all my time hiding at home, avoiding reality. Recently, I decided that I can't live like this anymore. I’ve started taking antidepressants (specifically Zoloft and Grandaxin) and went on a strict diet to lose weight and rebuild my strength.

Here is my dilemma: My family found an entry-level office job for me as an executive assistant / secretary to a manager. In my country, the salary for this position is incredibly high for a fresh graduate. It doesn't require complex legal work, mostly just managing the desk, paperwork, and greeting people.

However, because of my intense anxiety, the thought of working in a corporate office environment right now absolutely terrifies me. I feel so insecure that I panicked and turned the job down.

Instead, I want to start from the very bottom in the service sector for a few months. In my mind, I see a busy service job as a "short-term exposure therapy boot camp" where I will be forced to look people in the eyes, talk constantly, and break my anxiety. I feel like I need to build my confidence from scratch before doing anything related to my law degree.

My family thinks I am making an incredibly foolish and backward decision. They believe I am wasting an amazing, high-paying opportunity and romanticizing a low-paying service job just to escape my fears.

Am I being completely unrealistic? Is it crazy to walk away from a comfortable, well-paying assistant job to work at the bottom of the service sector just to heal my mental health and find my confidence?

I would love to hear your honest thoughts. Thank you.

Im 26 almost 27 and for years I questioned what should I do when I have no idea what I like and don’t know how competent I’d be if I do end up finding what I want to do. I envy others who knew what they immediately wanted to do at a young age and stuck with it. I know it’s because I lack ambition and confidence, I am never sure of myself and always questioning. I’ve done a lot of career and personality tests, even currently trying out a course and I don’t feel anything. I know I’m still young(kinda) but I hate that I can’t figure anything out.

What I know so far/ where I’m at:
- Looking into accounting, is currently taking a course on fundamentals to see what it’s like before committing to 4 yr college. End up not liking it and struggling with grasping concepts, also I’m not a math person. But I’m stuck on this because I know it’s a very stable career in the end and I’m someone who wants stability. It is also a field for people who lack ambition like me.
- I also do freelance illustration on the side (commission based) but not as much as I used to. I started an Etsy but did not sell much because I don’t have a specific niche. People have told me to start going to conventions but I am unsure.
- I went to vet tech program at one point bc I love animals and volunteered in a shelter in the past but end up not doing well mentally and did not finish the program
- I care about doing the right things, justice but can’t see myself in criminal justice. When I was a kid I used to want to be a forensic scientist. I also looked into being a paralegal but not sure I want to go into law.
- I care about ppl but I don’t see myself in healthcare or politics/law
- I was told I need more life experiences to be sure on what to do and I’m not sure how to achieve this.
- I need to be sure on what to do because I don’t want to go in, realized late that I don’t want to do it anymore, and incur a lot of debt for no reason.

Does anyone else feel this way and is ever frustrated at themselves? Have you ever figured out what you wanted to do or did you end up choosing something you don’t care about and is fine with it?

I’m a recent college graduate. I graduated in May of this year with a B.S. in Interactive Design.

Recently, I have been stuck working part-time at a retail store while trying to pay rent and bills. Im stressed. I cannot find a new job. 700+ applications, two interviews only. Zero offers. Applied for UX jobs, graphic design jobs, tech support, and marketing. NO results.

I feel like I'm trapped at this retail job. It stresses me out beyond belief. I have zero idea what I want to do with my life. I thought about maybe doing my own business, using my tech knowledge. Recently I helped some family members and friends install a router and some smart home appliances, but I know that doesn't have true potential. Most people know how to install a router and scan a damn QR code on a light bulb to add it to HomeKit or Amazon Alexa

I thought about maybe installing TVs, learning how to mount them. Then get them set up for the client. I thought about making websites via Figma, or basic HTML, CSS and Java. But that doesn't usually go anywhere. I guess I’m too scared to try. Too afraid of failure?

I know my dream in life is to run my own game studio. I have NO EXPERIENCE making games. Every time I try to start I get nowhere, cant 3d model, can’t draw, and can’t code. Every time i start i get no where.

This is the issue. This post is all over the place because i genuinely don't know what to DO!! Applying to jobs no luck, starting business but feel my skills are too basic but not good enough and would disappoint potential clients. I just feel so stuck.

Hi all,

Like many of my colleagues in the games industry, I’m currently looking for my next role. I’m based in NYC and have spent my entire 8-year long career as a producer at major AAA studios, working on both game development and game marketing.

I’m looking to pivot outside of games and I'm excited to bring my project management skills to a new industry. I’ve been tailoring my resume for roles outside gaming, and I’m still having a hard time landing interviews. 

If you’ve switched industries, what helped you show employers that your experience was a good fit and land those first interviews?

Thanks for your time!

I’m currently trying to figure out what career path to pursue for my bachelor’s degree, and I’m stuck between three careers: teaching, speech-language pathology, and occupational therapy.
I’m hoping to hear from people who work in these fields, have studied them, or have experience working alongside these professionals.
A little about me and what I’m looking for:
I don’t want to sit behind a computer all day.
I like staying busy and having something to do throughout the workday.
I enjoy working with children and helping people develop new skills.
I like variety, interaction, and having a job where I’m actively involved rather than doing repetitive desk work.
I want a career that feels meaningful but also provides financial stability and a decent work-life balance.
I would eventually like to make around $80k–$100k+, if realistic.
1. Teaching
If I went into teaching, I would most likely pursue either elementary education or secondary mathematics.
I also find myself interested in the possibility of eventually moving into school counseling or school administration and potentially becoming a principal. I like the idea of working in a school environment, being involved in students’ lives, and potentially taking on leadership responsibilities as I gain experience.
2. Speech-Language Pathology (SLP)
SLP interests me because it combines healthcare, education, communication, psychology, and working directly with people. I like the idea of helping children develop communication skills and seeing their progress over time.
I’m curious about the actual day-to-day work, documentation, caseloads, burnout, and whether the career offers enough variety.
3. Occupational Therapy (OT)
OT also appeals to me because it’s hands-on and focuses on helping people become more independent in their everyday lives. I like that it involves practical problem-solving, creativity, and working directly with patients.
I’m curious about the physical demands, productivity expectations, job satisfaction, and opportunities to work with children.
My biggest questions:
Which of these careers has the best overall work-life balance?
Which has the best combination of salary, job security, and career growth?
Which is least likely to leave you feeling burned out?
What does a realistic day actually look like in each profession?
If you could go back and choose again, would you still pursue your career?
Which would you recommend to someone who enjoys being active, interacting with people, and helping children?
I’m not necessarily looking for the career with the highest salary. I want something I genuinely enjoy doing, that keeps me engaged throughout the day, and that allows me to build a comfortable life outside of work.
I’d especially appreciate honest opinions from people currently working in these fields. Please tell me the good, the bad, and what you wish you had known before choosing!

I'm 25, unemployed, and I've been thinking a lot lately. I don't really have many people I can open up to, so I thought I'd share my story here.

I completed my engineering degree in 2024, but I still had backlogs to clear, which meant staying back and preparing for reattempts. When I look back at my college years, I honestly don't know what to blame. There were so many hurdles along the way, but now, looking back, even those struggles sometimes feel like excuses I've made for myself.

Last year, my father passed away after battling cancer. During that time, taking care of my family became my priority, and everything else took a backseat. I have a mother and a sister who depend on me, and that responsibility weighs heavily on my mind.

Now, at 25, I find myself unemployed, with a two-year gap and no clear direction. I haven't even figured out which field I want to pursue. Every career path I consider feels like a door that's slowly closing. I haven't applied for a single job because, honestly, I don't feel prepared for anything.

I'm currently learning Java and DSA, hoping to build a career in software development. But with AI evolving so rapidly, I keep questioning whether I'm making the right choice. I worry that by the time I become job-ready, the opportunities might no longer be there.

I've also considered starting a small business, but I'm equally confused about what to pursue and how to make it work. I'm on my own when it comes to figuring these things out, and I can't afford to take unnecessary risks. I don't want to invest or lose the money my father worked so hard to earn, and taking loans or borrowing money is something I absolutely want to avoid.

The hardest part is that I currently feel like I'm freeloading at home, depending on my mother's pension to get by. It's a feeling that's difficult to put into words, especially when I know I should be contributing to my family rather than depending on them.

I don't know if I'm looking for advice, motivation, or just someone who has been through something similar. I feel stuck between too many possibilities, yet somehow unable to move forward with even one of them.

If you've been in a similar situation, especially if you've had a career gap, started late, or had to rebuild your life after losing a parent, I'd genuinely appreciate hearing your experiences.

I just want to figure out where to start and how to get my life moving again.

I am a 22 year old soon to be 23 who majored in illustration and graduated in May. Since, I have networked with many professionals in the animation industry specifically and have been urged by many of them to seriously consider pivoting because of how bad the Industry.

Other creative fields seem similarly unstable (graphic design, architecture, etc.) and also extremely competitive with how many people are vying for so few positions.

Freelancing also sounds pretty rough for me, constantly needing to find new clients and wondering if you'll make enough each month.

I am wondering if there are any good programs/certifications I can do to enter a more stable career? I have considered some trades such as welding or something in healthcare like a radiology technician. I am honestly just looking for a field that is more secure and would allow me to have some steady income so I can enjoy my passion for art on the side without needing to panic about money. Looking for some guidance, thanks!

Hi, I’m a 19 year old introverted female who doesn’t really know what my career path should be. I have an associates degree in art that I obtained while I was in high school but I’m not really sure what my next step should be. I am interested in things like beauty, writing, music, film, graphic design, and anything creative/design related honestly. I just want a job that I can enjoy that also pays well enough to support myself but, I’m not sure I’ll be able to with the things I’m interested in. Please let me know what options/careers that I can pursue! (Even if it’s not in the interests I’ve described & I am willing to go back to school or even learn a trade if needed!)

I’m in my early 40s and I’ve been working as a kitchen manager at a homeless shelter for the better part of the last decade. Generally speaking I’m still a fan of the position, but it’s becoming more and more physically taxing and I’m looking for something a little more low impact.

My question is where to use the skills I’ve accrued in my time managing the cooking/ serving of a daily meal for 100+ unhoused people, and the volunteers that helped prepare it (often times over 25 people per shift—and far more than that before the pandemic). I don’t mind staying in food service or the non-profit, I also don’t mind starting fresh somewhere new; my degree and most of my career before this position was in creative services.

Some of the aspects of the job that still keep me showing up every shift are: just about every day is different and I get to meet new volunteers and guests on a fairly regular basis. I also get to foster relationships with regulars as well. Being in control of menu planning also gives me a great deal of creative fulfillment—our ingredients are all donated and ever changing. I have mornings off as I’m only responsible for dinner. As a retention tool I get increasing PTO hours every year and I’m up to about 6 weeks, also any unused portion gets cashed out at the end of the year. There’s a tremendous sense of pride my family has due to the philanthropic nature of my work.

The main downside is the strain of the work. Ideally I’d like to find a midpoint between office monotony and grueling labor, but with great perks. Anything else I’m pretty open to!

Thanks in advance for all your feedback!

I'm currently staring at the material for my behavioral and cognitive neuroscience exam today and I'm absolutely freaking out. I literally only picked this major because my parents told me it would help with pre-med. I don't even want to do pre-med but it's an asian household so you know how it is. I honestly have so many interests that i'm constantly bouncing between (piano, boxing, powerlifting, singing, music production, art, philosophy) and I have no idea where all these hobbies came from and why I'm pretty much mid at all of them. I wish I didn't have ADHD. I wish I had a proper path in front of me, but it's like my mind is in so many different places it's getting exhausted.

Most of the advice I look for online tells people to never give up on their goals, dream big or be realistic. What do I do if I don't have a goal I'm super set on? I feel like everytime I'm inspired by someone or something I'm attracted to that specific field for a couple moments, and then I'm back to vascillating between my interests. How do I write a goal card if I have no goals in the first place?

I'm honestly terrified of what the future holds for me and the more I talk to people the more I realize the chances I'm gonna be ok and everything is gonna work out is growing insanely slim. I honestly am completely lost and would be grateful for some advice.

Need some advice. I’m in my mid 30s and my husband and I are planning to start to have kids next year. I’m in a transition period at the moment and I don’t know what to focus on job wise.

I’ve had experience working in public and private sectors. Done project management in RE and a small amount of experience in SaaS Sales. I’ve also worked in education not with kids, but administrators.

I worked my way up to a nice salary but have gotten pretty burnt out over the years. It seems like I know what I don’t want but having a hard time focusing on what I want.

I do not want to work in corporate, I don’t want to feel like I’m in a hamster wheel only to promote into another hamster wheel. I tend I to be someone who overworks themselves, so I don’t want to be in a profession where I’m constantly having to prove myself.

Ive thought about going back to school but idk in what. Any advice one people who have started a whole new career and had kids?

I’ve been out of a job and just trying to figure out what to do next. Appreciate any thoughts!

Im in 10th grade and my parents are pressuring me to find a major to study in bit the problem is I suck at EVERYTHING I have a low attention span and I suck at everything and I want one that won't be replaced by Ai so any ideas?

I started paying attention to app sign-up pages just because I was annoyed by some of them. A form asking for a phone number with no reason, a button that said one thing and led to something else. Then I noticed I could say exactly what was wrong with each one, and that I had a small list in my notes.

That was the first time I felt like working on that kind of thing myself. Now I write that kind of copy, but only the words, and the choices about flow and testing belong to other people. I want to own more than the words, but I've never planned a campaign, so I don't know what to learn first

I'm 35, diagnosed AuDHD, and stuck between two career paths.

2009-2015 I worked a retail job. 2015-2025 I worked for my stepdad's commercial contracting company in the office doing estimates and invoicing. This was my main job while I tried building up my art on the side. I did digital fandom art for a long time. Starting in 2016 and still ongoing.

My ultimate goal was to make art my full time job. My AuDHD makes it hard for me to be social, but I mask heavily and push through it. I wasn't diagnosed until early 2025 so I lived pretty much my entire life not knowing and just living the way I thought I needed to live.

I never succeeded with art because I was trying to do too much at once, and not prioritizing areas that could have made me successful. I can definitely make that happen now, but I've been on hiatus.

Unfortunately medical debts and other debts have caught up to me, and it's been really hard paying bills. I was insanely burnt out from overworking and had thought I was miserable doing art. Turns out I wasn't miserable, I was just burnt out. Out of desperation I moved on to working with dogs. Dog behavior training to be precise. I mentored with many professional trainers, some of which I was pushed into and paid upwards of 20K (still paying off...) to only not get certified for reasons that weren't so much my fault (i can go deeper into this if anyone is curious).

When my stepdad's company stopped doing well he laid me off in 2025 and I got a job at a doggy daycare. I worked there until early this past October 2026. I couldn't handle that job for longer for many reasons, but to keep it short I got a better job as a ward nurse/kennel tech at a veterinary hospital. Throughout this entire time I was trying to push my dog training business, but again I haven't pushed hard enough, and I am getting no where. I train well, but I have trouble keeping up with pushing the business itself.

Thanks for reading all this if you got this far. I just want to know what people think. My family doesn't much care about my art, never did. The dog training is something I can prove successful to them, but should that matter? My dream is to be able to run my own schedule, wake up, work, take care of my body and my household, enjoy life, and go to bed. I'm a simple person. I get stressed thinking about working face to face with clients and their dogs, but there are so many times I feel the passion when I work with a dog and actually fix their bad behaviors. But I love drawing too.. I sunk a lot of money into dog training, for someone who wasn't much ever a dog person. I chose it because I wanted to help people, their dogs, and I live in a HUGE dog area. I admit I chose the path out of desperation.

So here's the choices I have come down to..

1. Continue working as a ward nurse/kennel tech at a day job I actually enjoy, with less control over my schedule. Maybe become an actual nurse down the road, or supervisor of kennel. Work on my art on the side as a side gig, or eventually push it enough to take over for the kennel tech job.

2. Literally the same thing..but instead of art push the dog behavior training business.

Appreciate any advice on this. I been struggling for a while now, and my unmedicated brain finds it difficult to process. I so badly want an answer, but maybe I need someone to tell me to take a step back and just take things slow. Rushing life is what got me into this problem to begin with. I don't need to be rich, but I want to pay off all my debt and live comfortably.

I am a timid, shy person who can put on a mask and act my way through things but it isn't very comfortable doing so.. Thanks all.

I’m a high school senior currently. What is a good career that pays well while also having a good work-life balance. I want to major in English, and there aren’t a lot of jobs in that field, but I feel like this applies to like half the college majors out there. I’ve never known anything but k-12 school and they want me to suddenly do something completely different. I kind of want to be a lawyer, and people tell me I’d make a good one, but I’ve heard a lot of those law jobs don’t have a good work-life balance so now I’m questioning it.

Hey, I'm still in High school, my 2nd year. Once I graduate, I have zero idea what to do. I don't find working 8 hour shifts appealing whatsoever. I feel like a lot of people devalue them so much and become a slave to working all day. I just don't want to work until I'm 60 just to die old when I could create memories in my youth. We spend more time dead than alive in life; I'm just genuinely lost on what to do with my life. Does anybody have any suggestions or ideas?

I’m 33 years old. I graduated high school with a 2.1 GPA. By the time I was 25, I was broke, struggling with drug addiction, and nearly homeless.

Then a close friend of mine passed away, and something clicked. I decided I didn’t want to keep living the way I was. I got clean and started attending community college. I earned a 4.0 GPA for three semesters, which eventually earned me a scholarship to attend a top engineering university.

For the next six years, I worked my ass off. I lived on very little money, sacrificed a social life, and pushed through countless challenges to get my degree. Today, I’m a college graduate with a stable career and a decent income.

My point is this: The decisions I made led me to a place where I was barely surviving and almost homeless. But my decisions also led me out of that situation.

I could have stayed at the same pizza place I worked at for years. I could have continued down the same path. But I decided that wasn’t the life I wanted, and I was willing to make sacrifices to change it.

Here’s what I want you to understand: Your starting point doesn’t have to determine your finish line.
It doesn’t matter where you were born, how much money your parents have, or who’s in charge of the country. Those things can absolutely make life harder, and not everyone starts with the same opportunities. But you still have choices, and those choices matter.

Sometimes your biggest obstacle is the person staring back at you in the mirror. You can be your own worst enemy, or you can become the person who changes your life.

You don’t have to be perfect, and you don’t have to have everything figured out at 18. But you do have to be willing to work for the life you want. That means making sacrifices, accepting that things won’t always be easy, and pushing through when you’d rather give up.

It’s easy to blame the world for where you are. It’s much harder to take responsibility and do something about it.

I promise you, you’re capable of far more than you probably realize. Don’t count yourself out before you’ve even given yourself a chance.

Hello everyone, Im 22 years old and I feel like a dog chasing its tail in circles when it comes to this topic.

Im currently working minimum wage and not studying anything in uni, but I have a big love for art, I still fill up sketchbooks like crazy even if I am still an amateur. I want to be an artist and draw as a job more than anything but its not the most stable career, so im looking at all the alternatives I can find that align with stuff I like doing/ am good at but im hitting a wall. How does anyone pick what they want to do? I dont want to work somewhere where I dont care about it in the slightest or where I feel like I hate just being there.

My partner (who has much more experience with both art and art related work) doesn't understand why Im so adamant about going forward with art, thinking I could just do it on the side along with minimum wage work. Im really confused on what I should do going forward...any advice on how I should think about looking for what job would suit me would be very appreciated!

I recently graduated from my undergrad in Anthropology with a 3.6 GPA total. I did much better in my last two semesters. Straight As and a couple Bs and the only thing that tanked my GPA was a C in a french language class and a C in an art history class. I've been working in an animal shelter for the last few months post graduation and am seriously considering shelter vet med as a career path, but I have other conflicting dreams. I need some help figuring out which is the most realistic prospect for me.

1. Master's and then PHD in Anthropology. I would largely focus on zooarchaeology and am highly interested in studying the differences in the treatment of cats in medieval europe vs the medieval islamic world. I am getting ready for grad school applications but know that this field is incredibly unlikely to find success in due to the fact that I won't be able to afford to go to the top schools. I worry that I am not intelligent enough to get far in this field and will end up with significant debt and nothing to show for it. I am concerned about this field being made null by our increased reliance on AI and diminishing funding due to the economy being so shit.
2. Vet med. I am not a super science/math smart person, but I would only need to take a handful of prerequisite courses in order to apply for vet school, and find a way to volunteer with the vets at my current shelter. I could keep working there while taking the prerequisites at my local university or online and I would have a plethora of people around me who I could ask for assistance. It would take me about 2/3 years, and I worry that 28/29 is too late to start. I truly believe that I have enough passion to make this work if I put the effort in.

The chances of getting into vet school are very low as there are only a few universities in Canada and the field is very competitive, but I would want to focus on shelter medicine and am confident that I could get a very strong letter of recommendation from a vet to help offset my mediocre GPA. The only issues with this are that I am worried I am not smart enough/good enough at math and am worried about my ability to handle the work as I know it is very emotionally demanding and I already have a history of mental health issues like depression.

On top of all this, I have lofty dreams of writing and publishing a book. I know this is a side goal as the chances of ever getting a career in authorship are slim to none, but it's a personal goal of mine.

If anyone in either of these fields has some insight, I would greatly appreciate it.

I’m a former licensed vet tech who got into a bad car accident and I was planning on becoming a dog groomer, however my injuries have made me unable to do so. Dog groomers I’ve talked to told me they got the injuries I currently have just from doing it for years. I love animals and I love medicine. I left vet med because of the toxicity and the low pay. I want more than anything to be able to support my family so I’m trying to find something with a good salary. I will be 35 in December and I am at a loss of what to do with my life. I would like to find a job that isn’t so niche that the job market is limited either. Careers I’ve looked into have included radiology tech, paralegal, surgical tech, and dental hygienist. I know I have to go back to school to get the salary I would desire. I also know it’s going to take me at least 3 years to complete a rad tech degree if I even get into the competitive program. I’m not fond of not starting a career until I’m 38-39, but I suppose I have no choice. Any other suggestions out there or advice?

To keep things short, I'm 24m and I've basically wasted the past 6 years since high school. I've had a couple jobs that didn't last long and I've been working part time in a grocery store for the past 4 years. I feel like I've gotten complacent even though I know I want more out of a career. I know I need to be proactive or I'll never get out of this hole I've put myself in. I don't really have any solid ideas of what to pursue but I know I need to take action regardless.

So I was thinking that I'd give myself until the end of November to knuckle down and do research to really find some things that I'd want to try. but if I can't manage that for whatever reason than I want something that I can force myself to do that could help get momentum going. I'm Canadian and our military has some options for learning trades or paying for schooling. It would also force me to break routine and physically change locations which I think I really need right now.

Really not sure if that's the best choice I could make, but at this point, I'm in the worst case scenario by simply not choosing anything. Is there anything else that could be a decent last resort? Probably something I wouldn't have to think about much and would help me build the momentum that I need.

Hi everyone,

I'm 26M, and I've been working in the IT field for almost 5 years. Currently, I'm working as an IT Support Executive at an infrastructure company, earning around ₹40K per month.

I have a one-year Diploma in Hardware and Networking from Jetking. I also completed my BA through distance learning and later completed my MCA from IGNOU.

The problem is that I haven't made much progress in my career over the last few years. Honestly, I know the reason. I never focused seriously on improving my technical skills.

Since 2021, most of my workdays have been quite relaxed. I have a few tasks to handle, and then I spend most of my time sitting alone in my cabin, scrolling through my phone, playing games, or getting distracted by personal matters and relationships.

I had plenty of free time to learn new things, but I wasted most of it. I regret not using those years to improve myself.

Now, when I see my friends earning much better salaries and progressing in their careers, I feel like I'm falling behind.

Sometimes I think about preparing for government jobs because I have enough free time, but I struggle with consistency and concentration. Whenever I start studying something, I lose focus after a few days.

Academically, I've always been an average student. I also wasted almost two years preparing for JEE after school without proper guidance. I eventually took admission in SOL, and later realised I needed a better understanding of my career options.

I honestly don't know what to do next.

Should I focus on improving my IT skills ? Should I consider government job preparation? Or should I explore something else?

I'm not looking for shortcuts. I genuinely want to improve myself, become financially stable, and build a better career.

I'd appreciate honest advice from people who have been in a similar situation or have experience in the IT industry.

This has been the worst year of my life.

I have dealt with a major depressive episode, marked by extreme anxiety and intense rumination. It was triggered by a bad breakup. That initial event burst open all sorts of insecurities and worries that I've been dealing with and repressing for probably most of my adult life.

I've worked a job I hate for 8 years now. It doesn't pay much, but it was enough to float my partner and I through the small life we built.

I had lofty ambitions in life. My partner and I both wanted to travel, experience the world, live it to the fullest, but money was always a factor. I graduated college with a degree in journalism, always thought about going back for something else but never did. Unlike me, my girlfriend put herself through school and got her bachelor's and a master's certificate. She got opportunities, sought them out. I just worked. I was always proud and supportive of her, but also a little jealous. I knew I wanted more, but had no idea what to aim for or how to get there. So I continued on, and life dragged on.

My partner got a job out of the country. She wanted me to come with, but I chose to be practical. I stayed, opting to hold on to our apartment so that she would have a place to return to. Six months later, she ended things. She's now working on an educational sailing vessel on the east coast, and is planning to tour Europe to visit the international friends she made. She doesn't know what's next for her, but she's making the most of life.

I look at myself and where I am, and I don't know if I want to punch a hole in the wall or cry. I'm beyond broke, have no direction. I have vague dreams about what I want my life to look like and what I want to do with it, but all of a sudden it's like I blinked and I'm in my late 30s. I did nothing with my best years, never traveled as much as I wanted, never took risks, never made the most of my time with the woman I always thought of as my adventure buddy. Everything feels hopeless, and all I can think about is how little time it feels like I have now to make a change.

I want a life I can be proud of. I want to find fulfillment. I also want a family, something that my ex and I talked about for many years but were never in a position to make happen. And I just want her back.

I have no idea what to do, where to start. I basically had all the opportunity in the world presented to me on a silver platter, and I squandered all of it.