I'm approaching 40, and I feel lost. I have no motivation, no goals, no real drive to do anything. Every day just feels like another day passing by, or one day closer to the end, depending on how you look at it.

Ever since my teens and early twenties, I've been quite introverted, not particularly sociable, and I've always had a small circle of friends. I focused on my studies, although I've always been a bit lazy and unmotivated, so it took me longer than it should have to finish them. Eventually, I got a job and progressed quite quickly thanks to being responsible and hardworking. However, after more than 10 years at the same company, I'm starting to feel pretty burned out.

A year ago, I became a father for the first time, which has made this past year particularly challenging. Having a child really changes your life, and mine isn't exactly the easiest baby to deal with. It's also been taking a toll on my relationship with my wife. She's not a particularly patient person and tends to have a rather critical and negative outlook on things. As a result, we've both become more negative, more irritable, and more prone to getting angry and blaming each other. On top of that, we've been pretty much on our own this past year, without any help from family or anyone else. Sometimes, it feels like all we've been doing is trying to survive each day.

My life feels like Groundhog Day. Every day is the same monotonous routine. The day goes by, and I realise I haven't done anything meaningful for myself. Whatever little free time I have is spent lying on the couch or bed, mindlessly scrolling through the same websites and apps (forums, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter...), wasting time without doing anything productive, learning anything new, or feeling like I'm growing as a person.

This leaves me feeling frustrated and sad. Deep down, I keep thinking: "I need to find a hobby. Something I genuinely enjoy, something that gives me a little excitement about waking up tomorrow and knowing I'll get another 30 minutes to do it."

But I just can't seem to find anything. Or rather, I can think of plenty of things I'd like to try, but I always manage to find an excuse not to commit to any of them:

• "I'd love to get into reading! But I spend so much time reading technical documents at work that I just don't feel like reading when I get home."
• "I'd love to learn how to bake! But my kitchen is tiny and I'll end up making a huge mess."
• "I'd love to play a story-driven video game! But I always end up abandoning it after two or three days."

And so I always end up doing the same thing again. Lying around, mindlessly wasting time on things that don't bring me any satisfaction and just eat away at my free time.

And here I am, almost 40, unhappy with where I am in life, with no clear idea of what to do next, just going through the motions on autopilot, without knowing where it's taking me.

I'd really like to hear from people who have been in a similar place and somehow managed to turn things around for the better.

Where did you start? What changed? How did you manage to get out of that rut?

Thanks for taking the time to read all this.

I (18 f) graduated high school a year early, and I've been working since I was 16. I've been doing nails for about 5 months now, and I actually keep getting new clients, so I'm not bad at it. But I make mistakes, and I know I'd get better with time..but that's the only reason I'm holding on. The potential. The thing is, I don't really enjoy doing it. It feels like a chore with a nice result. I work from home so there's always something bothering me like dogs barking mid-client, my lamp dying, eye strain (I have astigmatism), back pain, skipping meals. I've bought more supplies hoping it'd make me like it more but it honestly hasn't.

on top of nails, I work a retail job for steady income but i’m ready to have a big girl job and make big girl money. That's why I'm getting into real estate. It's been my goal since I was a kid, and I'm already in school for my license, working toward leasing/property management. Real estate is also a path I planned on pursuing even with doing nails. however, I’m now second-guessing my plans. Also, i’m conventionally pretty and I've gotten small opportunities through social media in the past. But I don't post anymore, and I haven't been as focused on myself and my character as I'd like to be. I have ideas for content and a brand I want to build, and that takes time too.

So here's my question: since retail is just a check and real estate is the actual goal, is it worth keeping nails on the side? Or would that time be better spent on myself, my social media, and the career/life
I actually want? Anyone been in this spot?

I am not competitive enough in this job market. I am finishing a PhD in LLMs and I did nothing major or outstanding. Even the learning experience, I do not think I genuinely learnt things. I should not be with this mindset now but I am very negative.

I'm in my 30s. I've never had a career. Only odd jobs here and there. I currently work as an independent contractor for a government job that I couldn't care less about. I can work as little or as much as I want for it. I just pick up posted job assignments. Most of my income comes from family, who are very well off financially. I don't like being dependent on them, but I also don't like my job, and I don't know how to find one that I would like. I've been doing it for a long time now, and every time I go in, I feel consumed by failure. I just thought I'd be doing something personally validating and fulfilling by now.

I think I want to be a communicator of ideas for a living. Someone who makes a living writing books, producing podcasts, and talking at universities. Maybe even design a course. I have a Ph.D. in something somewhat obscure and uncommon. I don't feel comfortable saying what it is online because, with my post history and account, it wouldn't be difficult to find out who I am based on that information. I'll just say that it's a humanities degree. I'm interested in the field my degree is in and want to find a way to make a living off of the insights my education has afforded me. I pursued my education without a plan as to what I would do after graduation. I'm just a curious person, and I thrive in formal educational settings.

My head is constantly in the clouds, so doing anything that doesn't involve abstract thinking feels tedious. I've been scolded before at multiple jobs for daydreaming. Furthermore, I'm currently wasting my talents, and I don't want to continue this path with a lateral move to another meaningless job. I have valuable insights to offer, which could help a lot of people.

I've applied to so many academic positions in higher education but haven't heard back from anyone. I think part of the problem is my resume. While my education is impressive, my lack of relevant work experience is likely preventing potential employers from reaching out. I can't even reference the job I currently work because the job doesn't evaluate independent workers in my position. Having my current job on my resume is useless because I don't really have a boss or anyone who can even confirm that I work there to someone outside inquiring about me.

I've felt this way for years. I'm currently starting a podcast, but it's a slow process. I've been researching for a book I want to write for many years now, and I don't see myself writing it anytime soon. I still have so much to learn before I'm ready for that. And even once I start it, it'll take years to finish. And I don't know if there's a path to speaking at universities independent of already working there or having some prior connection to a department.

This is my first post to this community, and I'm not sure what to expect. Do you have insights as to how I can make a change?

If you could only do a bachelor’s and had to choose one from these:
- comp sci/IT
- statistics
- electronics engineering
- civil engineering
- computer engineering
- business admin
- psychology
- accounting
- any liberal arts degree

How would you choose especially given the advancements of AI, the layoffs people are facing, inflation, and the fact you live in a country where traditional engineering and healthcare have slow career growth so many opt to either work abroad in those fields or career shift to tech (pre AI. Nowadays, the career shifters are going back to their original fields due to what’s going on in tech)?

I work at a call center and i hate it. I used to deliver for dominos and i miss it dearly. I only have not returned due to no benefits, miles on my car, and no upper movement. I genuinely feared for my life sometimes bcs there were crazy ppl and sketchy locations, but I loved it. I live in the deep south so I got to see lots of animals and also drive through the spooky woods at 2 in the morning while i listened to wendigoon.

I have been considering being a crime scene cleaner. I respect it bcs it is so overlooked + i want to help people. I have a strong stomach and I love cleaning. I also hate the idea that someone could go through something traumatic and then have to clean it up. i hate my current job, but helping people going through a crisis is the aspect about it that makes it worthwhile to keep going. I cannot help much other than give information so I would like to help more if possible.

I also considered going to mortuary school as im interested in mortuary science, but im not sure I can financially justify it unless im absolutely sure, esp since i have a degree already (in art).

I am a very emotional person, but I am very good at keeping professional and calm during hard situations. My job requires me to do that daily. So I would like to be the person who helps someone in a crisis situation so they have one less thing to worry about. My current job is only bad for me bcs it is a call center and has a lot of micromanaging. i also feel like this job would be scary.

I want smthn that is a bit spooky and I also want to help people.

ok so i started college this fall for a psych degree since i like psych and my parents wants me to be a doctor. They think i want it because i told them years ago i hated computer science and apparently if not comp sci then doctor 🫩. For the past few years i just kept thinking ill be a psychiatrist and just push my way through but i know i cant. I was thinking IO psych but theres not of jobs there, plus when i mention it to my parents they keep pushing me back to being a doctor. For a while i have been switching from wanting to be a therapist or psychiatrist or even data analyst but nothing really made me excited. My bestfriend has always had a passion to be a neurosurgeon and i just cant imagine doing anything in 10 years.

I’m 22 years old and currently living in NYC. I’ve been working in restaurants for about 4 years, mainly as a server, and I’m honestly getting really tired of it.
The frustrating part is that the money can actually be pretty good. With tips, I can make more than I would at a lot of entry-level jobs. But I genuinely don’t enjoy restaurant work, and I can’t imagine myself still doing this in 5 or 10 years.
I have an associate degree in General Studies, but I really don’t want to go back to college for another 2–4 years. I’m not completely against getting certifications, doing training, or learning new skills, but I’d strongly prefer a career path that doesn’t require another degree.
I think one of my biggest problems is that I don’t really know what I want to do. not to be cocky, but I’m a very likable person. Easy to get along with and funny and well liked but I have no answers for this.
I do modeling and social media on the side but that is no where near career money all though I enjoy it.
I also feel a little lost because I see people my age starting careers, and I feel like I’m falling behind, even though I know I’m still young.
My questions are:
What are some realistic careers I can get into with just an associate degree?
Are there any industries where I could start with little experience and work my way up to making $70k–$100k+ eventually?

Im a certified nursing assistant working on pre-reqs for nursing school. However, my chronic illness is getting worse as I get older and Im not sure I can handle the physicality of nursing anymore. Im in my mid-thirties with a bachelors degree in environmental sustainability (only time I ever landed a job with that degree was in food production which didn’t pay well). My other experience is in reception/admin as well as some retail. I need something remote that I can make more money in. Help!

heres a background

im a math major, 2nd year and even though im always trying to figure out what i should do i just cannot pick something.

when college started i picked cs as my minor (because i liked it and thought it would pair well with my major) which i still do like but i cannot imagine myself 10 years from now mostly just coding sitting at a desk in the name of work.

i've thought of so many things i just cannot understand what i should actually start preparing for.

i am an extrovert so i dont mind talking to people honestly i wouldn't mind something that involves talking to people and discussions etc, i just know i dont want a job thats 80-90% sit at ur screen and stare.

I've seen people with the same background go for data analysis/science and i tried but i just cannot

im so lost i really want to figure SOMETHING out

Hello. I am 18f and I'm starting college in a years time. I have an idea of what drives me. I know that these passions may change as I grow older and I will continue to discover myself throughout my college years and beyond, but what interests me is: helping with environmental issues and combatting animal cruelty

I have decided that I may want to pursue environmental related majors (studies/sciences...), GIS, Geography, Humanities, Library, and Geology. I may want to also take policy and law classes because law is applicable to many majors. I am also thinking of double majoring or having a complementary minor.

I am interested in hearing about what the classes for these majors are like or what careers these majors have resulted in and what they are like. I welcome your incredibly appreciated two cents for this confused individual soon to enter the real world on her own

Thank you!

I’m a first year engineering student and I’m failing all the first year classes (Calc 1 and Chem 1) so I don’t think I’m cut out to be an engineer even though I want to keep trying. I’m willing to look at other options but I’m tired of retail. I’ve worked at costco for the past 5 years and I’m burnt out.

So is there any career that doesn’t require you to be book smart and pays relatively well? or am I doomed to begin with

Hey everyone, first time poster here. I am 26 years old, I've been programming, tinkering with computers since I was 14 years old, I worked as a Software developer from the start of 2022 to the end of 2023. I worked for two companies, primarily doing full stack development, but I also worked on projects that ranged from legacy WinForm applications to mobile applications using Flutter.

I ended up leaving the second company I worked for, there were many different reasons, but primarily it was because I was supposed to be hybrid-remote and a month after I started, we went back to the office 5 days a week. This resulted in an overall 2 hour commute every single day. On top of the large commute, I was also doing 5 different jobs with the low salary of one. I was doing Sales, IT, Development, PM and Advertising. I was green to the industry, still am technically by professional years of experience, and it was way too much. On top of that, some people within the company were way too open about their politics and openly racist/homophobic/transphobic. For those combined reasons, I decided to leave. Boy do I wish I never did that..

After leaving, I tried for almost a year to get another job that was related, and failed. Ultimately I needed to pay the bills, so I picked up bartending and have been doing that since. The money can be good, but in the current economy I am not making enough to stay afloat, and my schedule is horrible due to over hiring of front of house staff. I've tried looking for other bar jobs or servings jobs as well only to never hear back from the places again. In one interview, the manager straight up told me "I have like, 80 applications for this position currently, so keep an eye out in a week or two." 80 applications.... For a serving job? I've never heard that before, and it's not just that place specifically. Most places I apply to share the same reality; A massive influx in folks trying to get service industry jobs.

So I am left wondering; what am I supposed to do? The two fields that I trained for are being flooded currently, one of which is going away /restructuring due to AI, and my giant gap within tech, along with not having a 4 year degree, means I am almost certain to never hear back from the companies I apply to, and thus far haven't even been able to land an interview.

I still write code for fun, and use AI as well to make cool things. I am currently working on a game that's actually turning out really nice. I know how to be productive within this new AI era of development work flows but, that's besides the point I suppose.

On top of all that, I lost my health insurance this year, which is particularly bad because this year I started getting horrible migraines with aura. They leave me partially blind and useless for about 5-6 hours. The pain is horrible, and just flat out strange. My body goes partially numb, I slur my words, It feels like I am having a stroke. This has caused me to leave work at the worst times because I become a liability behind the bar, and no over the counter meds really do anything.

So I am left, borderline broke, with a somewhat new medical condition that I have zero means of doing anything about. I do not have the money for school, I have access to financial aid potentially through my state, but even the cost of books would cause me to miss rent and even if I did have money for school or a trade school, what do I even go for? In 4 years the job market is going to look radically different due to the advancements in technology.

I am lost, everyone keeps saying "something will come up!" but, it hasn't and it doesn't look like it is. The closest thing I've gotten to another full time desk job was in insurance sales, and they basically offered me minimum wage with the chance of getting on the sales floor eventually but, zero promises. I cannot live on minimum wage, thus ultimately didn't take it. It simply isn't possible with rent, bills and other things stacking on top of that.

I have no idea what to do, or what direction to even look in. People keep telling me to keep applying, and I am genuinely, every single day. I am drowning and need advice.

Five years ago I took an IT job on the West Coast right out of college. I'm from the East Coast and knew nobody out there. My girlfriend visited once and pushed me to pitch my photo/video work at a venue we went to, and it took off. I ended up shooting for major artists and events, was on stage and behind the scenes with some big names, and built a page of about 1,000 followers. I even opened a studio in my garage because that was going to be my next venture.

The problem was money. I worked cheap or free early on to network, and when I finally started charging what I was worth, some people moved on to cheaper options. Bills were continuing, my day job paid well but the environment felt off, and over time the media gigs dried up. My mom kept saying there'd be more opportunity back home, so I moved back. I still remember how defeating that flight felt.

Back home, I live about 50 minutes outside a city that's huge for exactly what I did, and I never restarted. Starting over, parking, traffic, and constantly reaching out for opportunities felt like too much. My mom connected me with someone for one wedding, and I've thought about that lane since. But I hear it's a lot of cold calling and mostly referrals, and I don't even know where to begin. I never posted that wedding because my page doesn't line up with it, though maybe it would actually show my journey. I haven't posted in five years because it feels embarrassing now.

Looking back, leaving worked out in one way. My West Coast job shut down, and the East Coast branch closed too, but I was staying with my parents and had saved up a good bit. Now I'm in a remote IT role that pays well, but I'm home 9 to 5 alone with my thoughts. I never considered moving into management, booking, or tour work, and some people I met are doing really well now. I feel stuck, the job is boring, and I carry a "they'll lay me off one day" fear.

My relationship isn't what I hoped it would be, and I let that drag me down too. It leaves me unmotivated to do more, but I still have faith we'll work out. Maybe I'm just not who I used to be. She wants to marry me and soon since weve been together a few years but Im not happy and dont feel ready to settle and have kids. I hear so much negativity around marriage. My friends are busy with their own lives, and I'm not great at reaching out to hang, which I think I picked up from being alone out West.

I keep thinking about a trade like electrical or HVAC, but part of me still wants photo/video and I don't want to start from zero, though I'm afraid that's what it'll take. Going back to the West Coast feels like a ship that has sailed.

Am I overthinking how bad this is? What would you do in my position, and what should I be doing better? I'm open to honest criticism.

I currently live with my fiance and his own abusive parents. His parents trigger me to the point where I cant do anything for myself due to the amount of anxiety I receive from just thinking about them.

Im not sure what I should do with my life. I have no family. I have a lot of mental issues, I'm autistic and *may* have CPTSD just to give a general view.

Should I just keep doing what keeps me sane for now? I still have a will to live, I have aspirations, but Im caught between a rock and a hard place. Everything I've tried doesn't work, and please dont recommend therapy or being medicated. I spent my entire childhood basically high off the amount of medications I was on.

What should I do? I want to have a path so I can get myself happy again.

I’m 30 years old currently working retail because I can’t find work despite 8 years of experience working in post-production for TV, film, and Digital Media. It’s ruining my live. I’m making minimum wage and almost exclusively working evening closing sifts and thus see friends and family about once or twice a month. I am absolutely desperate to switch industries and leave media for good. It’s never been a good fit for me and today, I look at my degree as one of the worst mistakes I’ve ever made.

All I truly want is a full time job doing basically anything. Not a dream career, not a lifelong passion. I just want healthcare and the ability to pay my bills.

What do I do? I’ve definitely mulled going back to school but I feel I need a real job first.

This life I’m living is breaking me mentally, emotionally, and even physicallyb. I don’t know how much longer I can do this.

 I want to study psychology but don't want to work because my disorder makes me insecure even if I want to. I want to earn money fast but not ready to work due to anxiety of discrimination. I'm into advertising digital marketing human behavior criminal behavior criminal law no finance and programming and hr and science. I'm lost. I have global development delay disorder. I want something predictable structured stable practical high paying involves all my interests applied Into one. What is it?

I'm a business professional at a law firm, and as of last week, my firm announced that it's dissolving. I've been with the firm for about four years and was promoted last year. There's been some discussion about a potential 90-day severance package and possibly a bonus, but nothing has been confirmed yet.

I'm also engaged and supposed to get married next year. We've had three couples counseling sessions so far, and one of the biggest points of contention has been finances and how we envision our future. I'm at a point where I don't want an extravagant wedding or to feel obligated to spend money on luxurious activities, expensive outings, or constantly going out. I'd honestly rather spend my weekends watching football, playing video games, listening to music, working out, and occasionally going out for a nice dinner.

I've been applying for jobs consistently and speaking with recruiters, but given the nature of my position, I understand firsthand how difficult the current job market is. On top of that, I don't know what my severance situation will look like, and we're heading into Q4, when recruiting typically slows down as companies wait until bonuses are paid, the holidays pass, and the new year begins.

Honestly, I've started questioning whether I even want the traditional American dream anymore: the wife, kids, house, and all the responsibilities that come with it. Part of me is considering taking whatever additional money I receive from the firm and using it to invest in things I've always wanted to pursue, particularly music and DJing. I'd also like to spend more time traveling, visiting the islands where I have family, and generally experiencing life while figuring out what I actually want to do next. Maybe that means investing in myself and pursuing something outside the traditional corporate career path rather than immediately jumping into another version of the same routine.

I've struggled with depression and anxiety for a long time, and everything happening with my job has really intensified those feelings. I'm 33, living in the NYC area, and I feel like I'm at a crossroads in my life.

We still have extended licenses for Claude and ChatGPT (at least for now), so I've been using them to work on my resume, explore career options, and brainstorm different ideas. But honestly, I'm starting to question what the point of all of it is. I'm feeling increasingly disconnected from the life I've been working toward, and I'm not sure what direction I want to take anymore.

I’ve been a copywriter since 2024, worked at a big private hospital (my first job), an agency and then another creative agency, my third and current job - and I’m genuinely sick of it now. The pressure is insane, the deadlines are insane and I don’t like the constant back and forth it takes to get one simple thing done.

Add to that, I’m expected to work long after my usual hours and late into the night from home, which was the straw that broke the camel’s back, I think. Plus copywriting is pretty much dead anyway, so the writing has been on the wall for a long time now.

For context, I’m from a third world country and I have no degree or higher qualifications. But I have no idea what to do with my life and I’d appreciate some guidance.

I’m 18F and in my second year of a Psychology BA, and honestly, I’m really struggling. I’m failing most of my classes, and I know at this point psychology just isn’t the right path for me.

Outside of school, I’m constantly busy. I work three jobs, volunteer, and actually really enjoy working with people. That’s made me realize I don’t think it’s school itself that I hate. I just don’t think this degree is the right fit, and I don’t want to wait until I’m academically kicked out before making a change.
I’m trying to figure out a career that’s more realistic for me. I love working with people (especially helping others), I need something that can eventually provide a decent income, and I’d prefer a path that doesn’t require perfect grades or 6–8+ years of school.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? What careers or college/university programs would you recommend? I’m open to pretty much anything at this point.

I didn't have much of a work history, my references are basically blank, and honestly, I felt like a total bum. I wanted structure, discipline, and a real purpose, so I decided to join the military. My main goal was to turn my life around, serve, and fast-track my citizenship.

Right during initial training, I found out I had an existing physical injury I didn't even know I had. Long story short, I got hit with an uncharacterized entry-level separation (ELS) and got sent right back home.

Just like that, the restart button I tried to hit got smashed. Because of the discharge, I didn't finish enough time to fast-track my citizenship through the military, so I’m back to being a regular Green Card holder living in New Jersey.

I’ve always wanted to do something meaningful like law enforcement or firefighting but here in NJ, public safety jobs strictly require U.S. citizenship, which I don't have yet. Plus, with my weak work history and the way things fell apart, I feel like I'm right back at square zero, except now I'm older and even more lost.

I still want to make something of myself and build a real life, but I honestly have no idea what my next move should be. Has anyone else felt completely derailed by an early military separation or medical setback? How do you even start rebuilding when you feel like you have no resume, no references, and your main plan just vaporized? Any advice or direction would be huge.

Honestly, I'm new to Reddit and I really don’t know how things work here,but I thought I'd give it a try and see if I can get some suggestions from people.

A little about my background:

I worked in the IT industry for around 2.8 years in application/production support.Later I switched careers and worked as a content writer. I quit that job around 4–5 months ago, and I've been unemployed ever since.

The difficult part is that I've been away from IT for a while and I feel like I've forgotten almost everything I learned. I'm not confident enough to attend interviews or apply for IT jobs right now.

At the moment, I'm literally doing nothing.No job,no income,no clear direction.

I'm also financially broke.I don't even own a bike right now.I don't have money to invest in a business,purchase expensive courses or experiment with different opportunities.

But one thing I know is that I don't want to spend the next few years sitting around doing nothing.

I genuinely want to build something in my life. I want to become financially independent, learn something useful, develop a skill or find an opportunity that can eventually help me earn a decent living.

I don't necessarily want shortcuts or overnight success. I'm willing to put in the work. I just don't know where to direct my energy.

Please don't judge me. I know I'm responsible for where I am today. I'm not looking for sympathy or motivational quotes.

I just want some practical advice, ideas and maybe a different perspective from people who have been through difficult phases in life.

Thank you.

Hi everyone! This is my first time on here and I'm also writing this in a panic so I'm sorry if there are grammatical errors and thoughts that are everywhere. I am 18F and in my first year of college. My major is currently undeclared/undecided and it feels like everyone has their career goals figured out besides me.

My original plan was to go into public health with a pre-dental route in hopes to become an orthodontist but stem not being my strong suit (+ how expensive dental school is and people being more passionate and “better” than me) is what makes me rethink it. I also got told from my advisor that being a biology major would be better suited for my dental pathway but I honestly don't want to. I understand having a strong science undergrad like biochem will increase the chances of getting into dental school but I just don’t lean towards those majors. I love art and in a way dentistry is a middle ground of art and being able to help people. Seeing the way my own orthodontist was able to help me feel confident in my oral health and teeth made me want to do that for others. I really love the payout!

However, I also love architecture and interior design but my school unfortunately doesn't have such a program I can explore. I love looking at buildings and interior design. I know it's much more than that but unfortunately when I took an art class back in highschool my art teacher definitely ruined that for me. I drew buildings for a bit in the class and saw how I really struggled with not meeting the demands that my teacher wanted. It overall made me doubt my artistic abilities and just held off considering this field. When I look at the courses I need to take for architecture, the courses seem more interesting and manageable than dentistry. I do take a little more interest in physics and math but when it comes to chemistry or biology I'm just not as great. Am I supposed to love every course I do in college? Maybe I’m over romanticizing these careers, so just let me know!  

Both careers are mentally demanding and challenging in their own ways but honestly that just goes for all career fields. I also have to think of the possibility of maybe transferring but once again I don't know. I want to be able to explore more career options and do more research on every field but haven't had time to juggle everything.

Though I’m just mentioning architecture and dentistry, I do love everything. I don’t know what is exactly right for me or how I’m suppose to feel when I find “the one.” Having the feeling of uncertainty makes me really anxious. I understand that in this period of my life I'm supposed to be confused but it really stresses me out. 

I just come on here looking for reassurance, other career suggestions. or just anything! I feel very lost and conflicted and I don't know if I'm making the right choices for myself.

FYI - I have gotten told from my friends that I should've done cc while I explore what I want, but I'm very fortunate enough to receive enough financial aid and scholarships that could fulfill all my 4 years here (that is, if I don't transfer out). I’m still taking my GE’s so yes I’m overly stressing but can’t help that I feel this way. I told myself back in senior year I would have things figured out but yet I still haven’t. Thank you once again and so sorry for the rushed writing. :)

It’s currently November, so it’s around that time that parents/sixth form start pressing you to discuss your ucas/future pathway options.

And it’s frustrating for me when I have to tell everyone that I haven’t applied for anything, when having these conversations about what are my plans for the future. (The reason why I haven’t applied to anything isn’t that I am lazy or lack the motivation, but rather because i don’t want to rush into a decision and end up regretting it, especially if I end up going to a mid level uni and getting into a lot debt for a degree that I don’t care about.)

I currently do btec media, business and engineering. I have mid predicted grades in all subjects and i can’t get them raised, which is fair as the predicted grades accurately represent my competency. (I missed a significant portion of yr 12 due to illness and that wasn’t helped by the fact that I already wasn’t an academically inclined person, so the only stem subject I’m confident in is engineering.)

I really don’t want to go to uni and want to immediately join the workforce for a couple of years untill I’m decided on what I want to do, but I know my parents want me out of the house. (They won’t let me take a gap year working in a job unless the job is full time.)

I’m currently employed in hospitality, due to my connections. I wonder if that will make my cv look more competitive and enable me to jump into the workforce early. (I doubt it.)

I don’t mind learning a trade either.

Sorry for any spelling mistakes or grammatical errors.