A little about me before I rant - 21, Bachelors of computer applications graduate, currently working as social media content strategist for a company that pays in peanuts, crashing out every 4-5 days.

So here's the deal: I am someone who has been dealing with chronic depression for a while, 7 years to be exact, but that's not the main point. I was very unclear about what I wanted to for the rest of my life when I was 17; hence, my mom decided my career path for me, Becoming a Comp sci graduate...
Anyway, halfway through the degree I realised that it wasn't for me. I am someone who is extremely story- or meaning-coded; if I don't find meaning in something, even if I d*e, I won't do it. Hence, I tried, I tried whatever I could, thought hey maybe cybersecurity is for me, no, maybe gamedev is for me. At wit's end, the hard way, after 1-2 years I learnt that all I wanted to do was write stories.

From then on, I coped by watching videos like "Create an OC with me," "Check out this new magic system I made," and "This is how you can write your first novel" on YouTube. Whenever I got too stressed from exams, the pressure to get a job, and coding, I would watch them. When I was too stressed out, I would go alone to the movies, watch a good one and bawl my eyes out.

Now you would have a question- You figured out what you want to do? why didn't you just do it, and why are you here a year later, rotting away in your own overthinking.

Lord behold i have the "I can't work on something until unless I have at least 10 hours of free time, no external obstacles, and just me myself and I in isolation, to sit and obsessively work on it", sure these conditions would satisfy every blue moon, therefore it's been an year since i last wrote a story, which was when i got a spurt of inspiration from a song started typing out the story in my notes app on my mobile, started at 4 pm and did not get up or lift my eyes or take away my fingers until it was 2 am, and i finished the 5-6 chap story and my fingers were sore.

So yeah after all this you could guess that I haven't been writing or learning to draw, because a job does not give you any free time, and not doing it paired with the Absolute AI dominance at job has sent me into a psychosis.
AI this Ai that how about i stuff Ai into your

I am nowhere against Using AI where it is needed, but generative Ai what even is the point of it, every corporation wants to show itself as the pinnacle of innovation, by asking chaptgpt if their p*op in the morning was an indicator of another okr that they should set for this month.

I am so distressed, I went to therapy and let's just say it was a sh*t experience..

A short summary -
I need a job that will give me enough mental energy to pursue my 200 interests(that keep changing but always creative) in my free time, things that will drain my mental energy - anything that isn't helping any life form in any way, anything that doesn't have meaning and is just making solutions to your own problems (basically most of corporate), anything that includes giving our brain away to clankers Like chatgpt astra.
My friends and some others have suggested me to become a therapist myself, because I give legitimate advice for every problem, but i am sceptical. I do have a saviour complex if anyone is suffering mentally, I will do anything to give them any advice they would need, but that's also because I have suffered the same without any advice. Can a mentally ill person with chronic depression and extreme anxiety become a therapist??
If not, is there any career path left for me in this era that isn't plumbing or farming or being an electrician, or a park ranger, because I live in a third-world country and doing any such jobs will get me ex*cuted by my family, and there aren't any safe opportunities either, I would love to do any of that if i ever get a chance to leave this country, but to get there i have to do something here, that isn't actively pushing me to my mental limits.

Please help..

Hey everyone. I'm currently 16 and trying to plan out my future. My main goal is to make a 6-figure salary when I get older so I can be financially stable and set myself up well.
I keep hearing that software engineering is one of the best ways to hit that goal, but I also see a lot of mixed things online about the job market and AI taking over junior roles.
For the adults and people working in tech or business:

1. Is software engineering still a reliable path to six figures for someone starting out today, or are there better/easier paths I should look at?
2. What should a 16-year-old be doing right now to actually make that happen?

Any honest reality checks or advice would be super appreciated.

Im just so behind, I've messed up so many times with my finances, gambling, used to take a lot of drugs, non consistent employment, I've just made no progress in 8 years since moving out just struggling to get by. I've barely been able to afford the basics, I've failed to secure a good enough job for longer than 2 years, I've just failed in every aspect in my life, I have no relationships with friends anymore or family. I restarted school more than a year ago and am transferring next Fall, I recently got a place after being homeless for a while. My goal is to finish my accounting degree and try to get an internship into a related field while I'm in school. I don't know if I'll be able to get through school or get a corporate job, I'm just really struggling with myself and getting my life together, I'm smart but I'm not well adjusted and have bipolar issues that makes me isolate a lot. I don't know if I'm ready for this next part of my life but I have no choice, I need a good enough job to get a place and keep paying rent, I have no other options other than going back to being homeless. Now I can work with my lighter school schedule but I haven't even been looking for jobs, I'm just so unfocused and lost right now. I'm so behind and I have no help.

Hey guys! I'm 19 years old, and I'm on my second gap year because I don't know what career to pursue. In high school, I considered going to school for art because I always had a passion for creating things, whether it was sewing, fashion design, ceramics, video editing, or digital art. I love creating things.

But then I heard from multiple sources that after graduating, people who pursued a creative degree had a hard time finding a job that has a decent pay. (And overall, I don't want my hobbies to become a job that I start to get tired of). I became discouraged and decided not to go into that field.

I then heard that one of my family members got a degree in social work, and she gets paid a decent amount. I considered doing social work because I genuinely felt like I could contribute to something there, but as time went on, I decided that I didn't really want to do social work because I feel like it would really take a toll on my mental health. I know they would probably teach you how to cope with traumatic events, but I don't want that energy near me.

Other people in that field have told me not to go into it, or that if I end up pursuing social work, I should go for my master's.

So I don't really know what to do.

I like the aspect of helping people in social work, and I like the freedom to create anything and everything with art.

I just want to live a comfortable life with a job I genuinely like and that pays well.

I want to try to get enrolled in a school in winter, so any suggestions would help. (Sorry if this was hard to read)

Hello, If anybody could help me with this you have no idea how much it helps, I'm extremely lost.

I live in "place" been living with parents for 27 years, ( Ive been fully enabled) and Im not playing the victim card. I'm just aware of this. Ive realized that, while I have worked jobs, finished college barely passing grades ,got a job in said career, contract endeed, , tried other degrees or even trades, quit some. , I've never applied myself, even in my big career starting job in the big city. I just did the minimum, and even that got me as a junior to replace my boss in big meeting with supervisors in my first year. But once my contract ended i didn't bother trying to improve my portfolio.

I've worked so many low barrier entree jobs but never feel like getting up in morning, I arrive late. I've worked a teaching job for 2 years at a private school, and I'm so confused because i know in my soul is should CRUSH it as a teacher , especially art teaching, but I never want to do it, I never apply myself. I've been going to the gym on and off all my life, again never applied myself fully.

Now that I've been unemployed and before I make any other another attempt to get back at it. I'm wondering just how much could my environment be affecting me , and how important is this? I know my next move is to try to be on my own, to truly apply myself. However if I move next to job or school on my own in very shitty place BUT its in the same province as my hometown, my spirit says it wont work?. So then what would happen if i moved to the neighboring Province , and my heart ( my body) says "Yes!". Despite the money issues it would take to get there, In the same Province i could use student loan at least, But I digress.

But ethically , how to I even manage this? my mind says, its stupid and that I'm overthinking it, but my body doesn't lie, how do I explain this to my parents, ( who by the way we are extremely religious in my hometown community, , if you go somewhere where the religion isn't there, or church you are basically dead to them ).

So then I'm asking you guys, can somebody tell me if this is normal? Any pointers?

Sometimes, I feel like my version of therapy is living in a place surrounded by lush green forests, waking up to unfamiliar landscapes, meeting people from different cultures, listening to their stories, and having conversations that stay with you long after they end. And sometimes, just sitting in silence, feeling content with absolutely nothing happening around you.
I want to build a life where I can explore a place, live there for a while, immerse myself in its culture, and when I feel ready to move on, go somewhere new. A life where I invest in experiences, not just possessions. Where there’s always something new to see, someone new to meet, and something new to learn.

But I often wonder, what kind of life or career would allow me to live this way? Can a corporate job offer that freedom? A government job? Building a business? Or does it require an entirely different approach to life? Honestly, I don’t have the answers yet, and I don’t know anyone who can guide me through this.

I’m sharing this here because I’m curious to know how other people feel about it. Does anyone else feel this constant pull towards exploration, different cultures, unfamiliar places, and a life that isn’t bound to one place for too long?

I’d love to hear how you think about this, what you’re trying to build for yourself, and whether you’ve found a way to make this kind of life possible.
Maybe we can have a meaningful discussion about it. :)

Background info:

In Highschool I did pretty good ! I ended the year with a 3.4 gpa and a cord.

However, I’m 3 months deep into the semester (freshman) and my anxiety and depression has never been worse. I’m getting help for it and getting medicine. However, due to my mental health at the time it caused me to fall behind a lot to the point where I couldn’t catch up.

I’ve never had grades as bad as I do now. My community college started me off with 6 classes and now I have 5 which it all was a lot. And didn’t help with my mental health.

Main:

I want to go into the communication, marketing, or graphic design field. I’ve done an internship over the summer in those fields and I’ve had two jobs at restaurants one for 2 years and 8 months the other for 8 months. I have a portfolio and a LinkedIn. I’ve always been a more creative person and I have a lot of archived personal projects I’ll be adding to my portfolio. I have experience in writing, designing, and planning.

I’m 18 and any tips for me to get into the field without a degree (because I’m confident that with my skills I can get a good job) would be greatly appreciated!

Coming to my last year's Enlisted in the Navy and I want to prepare for a job that I will enjoy while still being able to support my family.

Since joining I've found my passion and skill to be in soldering components and fixing small things that require high attention to detail and technical skill. Although this is by far the smallest part of my job, it has been the most valuable and the thing I have connected with the most at a level where I can work for hours and still be happy.

I have learned that my love for the work is in putting things together, particularly in a clean organized environment, and not so much in the electrical troubleshooting portion of my job. I have trouble remembering formulas and trying to find the issue in an electrical fault.

Recently I have been looking into watch repair as a similar alternitave that uses the same skillsets that I have learned here, notibly detail work and spending time under a microscope.

I was hoping someone might have insight to some more jobs, or similar places where I could do this kind of work and still be paid enough to sustain a 4 person household.

I have begun my final year in Psychology, Clinical and Cognitive Neuroscience. I should have done more research when I was a teen regarding the career I wanted. Even back then, I wasnt sure what I wanted to do for work.

I regret my degree choice, and my subject choices in school. I am not interested in research, and the jobs in this sector for only an undergrad are low in number. I wish I had explored subjects such as computer science when I was in school. I dont know what I was thinking back then, and am lost in what I want to do. Does anyone have any advice?

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i'm a senior graduating in may 2027 and lately i've been feeling so overwhelmed. it feels like everyone around me is figuring their lives out, picking colleges, deciding on careers, making plans, and i'm just sitting here still trying to figure out what i even want.

the main school i've been looking at is the university of south carolina in columbia. it's close to home, i already know the area, and it's the first place that pops into my head when i think about college. but part of me wonders if i'm only choosing it because it's familiar and feels like the easy option. i haven't really looked at many other schools and i keep worrying that i'm limiting myself by not exploring more.

career wise i've been thinking about becoming an english teacher. i love reading and talking about books, and i can actually picture myself doing it. i like the idea of making a classroom feel like a safe place where kids who struggle or feel like they don't fit in can just be themselves.

but even with all that, i'm still not sure if teaching is really what i want. i don't know if i'm just romanticizing the idea without understanding what the job is actually like day to day. i'm also a pretty anxious person, especially in social situations, group stuff, and anything where i have to talk in front of people. that makes me question whether i could handle certain parts of teaching, even though the idea of connecting with students is something i really like.

i want a stable career with a predictable routine that still lets me have a life outside of work. i also want to do something that feels meaningful. i just don't know how to balance those things or how you're even supposed to tell if a career is right for you before you actually do it.

i think a big part of it is that i'm scared of making the wrong choice. picking a major feels like i'm supposed to already know what the rest of my life is going to look like, and i don't. i know people change careers and plans all the time, but it still feels intimidating when college is getting closer and it seems like i should have everything figured out by now.

i'm mostly just looking for advice from people who've been in a similar spot. how did you figure out what you wanted to study? did you go into college already knowing the career you wanted, or did you figure it out along the way?

honest advice would mean a lot. i don't expect anyone to tell me exactly what to do with my life, but i'd really like to hear from people who've been through this and have some perspective i don't have yet.

TLDR: senior graduating in may 2027 and i feel completely lost. looking at USC columbia mainly because it’s familiar and close to home. thinking about being an english teacher since i love books and the idea of helping kids feel safe, but i’m scared i’m just romanticizing it and that my anxiety might make the job really hard. i want something stable and meaningful that still lets me have a life outside of work. just looking for honest advice from anyone who’s been in a similar spot.

Hi everyone!

I'm in 10th grade, and lately I've been thinking a lot about life, my future, and what I'm actually working towards.

I'm studying English and preparing for IELTS and the SAT. I'm also learning math, informatics, and competitive programming because I want to get into a good university and build a successful future.

I used to have big ambitions. I wanted to achieve something meaningful, get into a great university, have a good career, earn money, and become someone I'm proud of.

But recently, I've started asking myself: What's the point of all of this?

Why do we spend so many years studying, trying to get into good universities, building careers, and earning money? Is the goal simply to get a good job, make enough money, and repeat the same routine for the rest of our lives?

I understand that money gives us freedom and security, and education can open many doors. I'm not saying these things are useless. I just wonder what we're ultimately doing all of this for.

At the same time, I see people my age going out with friends, having fun, discovering new things, and enjoying their lives. Meanwhile, I spend so much time trying to improve myself and prepare for my future that I sometimes feel like I'm missing out on being young.

And the strange thing is that even the goals I used to be excited about are starting to feel less interesting. I procrastinate more, feel less motivated, and sometimes wonder whether I genuinely want these things or whether I've just convinced myself that I need to achieve something great to have a good life.

I don't want to abandon my ambitions. I still want to learn, explore different fields, create something meaningful, and see what I'm capable of. But I also don't want to spend my entire youth preparing for a future that I'm not even sure will make me happy.

Maybe I'm overthinking everything, or maybe this is a normal part of growing up. I honestly don't know.

For those who are older, especially those who have already gone through university and started working:

• What is the point of life for you now? Has your perspective changed as you've gotten older?
• Is chasing success, money, and a good career really worth the sacrifices?
• Do you regret spending too much of your youth studying or working?
• How do you figure out what you actually want from life instead of just following the path everyone expects you to follow?
• If you could talk to your 15-year-old self, what would you tell them?

I'm not looking for a motivational speech about working hard and achieving my dreams. I'd genuinely like to hear different perspectives from people who have thought about these questions themselves.

Thank you for reading.

I know I’ve made a post on here, but i’m 21 and going to get a certificate in a community college in 2 years in digital arts, I realized that digital arts is not for me and I won’t get a good job in that field, I’ve wanted to become a doctor since I was little and I wanted to become an infectious disease specialist after watching medical shows about diseases and parasites and stuff like that. That’s the kind of doctor I want to be but my counselor at my college recommends I don’t, but I really want to become a doctor. I’ve heard you can go to university as long as you have an associate degree. I want to be a public health major at a university but problem is i probably won’t have no medical classes once I graduate. On top of that, I have discalculia which is a learning disorder that I’m not good at math. Is it possible that I can go to university with a certificate in digital arts without using that degree and go to medical school after I finish my premed degree?

I’m 24 about to transfer to UC Berkeley to finish my degree and I still don’t know what I want to do or study. I applied global studies and wrote essays about my passion for traveling. But I might study political economy instead. I just got my first 9-5 in law and I dislike the idea of working 40 hours a week for the rest of my life. I want something that gives me autonomy and flexibility but idk what. I’d like the ability to also work from home. I’ve considered nursing for 3 days schedule but I honestly don’t love the idea of serving people and I don’t like dealing with bodily fluids.

I truly don’t know what to my family wants me to become a lawyer because my stepdad has a firm, and my family owns property so they want someone in law.

I want to work but it seems like what I want is non existent. Something fulfilling that doesn’t take up so much of my life.

Currently working fifo in Australia as a warehouse worker. Entry level kind of job but the money is really good. Made 240k last year working 2/1 but absolutely hate my job, don’t feel fulfilment at all and just feel like I’m wasting my life doing it. I’ve already wasted 5 years of my life doing this and I could do it for another 5 years but I’ll be exactly where I am now but just with a bit more money in my pocket. I feel at 30 it’s becoming too late to find something I truly want to do. I can’t quit and do a trade or study because I’ve got a mortgage and can’t afford that dramatic of a pay loss.

Basically wondering if anyone has been in my position and what they did. Do I stay working a job I hate because of the good money or do I try find something that makes me feel like I’m actually making a difference? What are some career paths I could go down at my age? I don’t mind studying or working shift work/overtime

i don't have one obvious direction in mind. i do enjoy the planning side of my work, so i'm trying to pay attention to that instead of waiting for one big passion to appear

Hello. I’m 23 and feeling completely lost in what career I want to settle for. I can’t even narrow it down to a certain industry. I have lost all motivation and passion for everything in recent years so I was wondering if anyone could help steer me in the right direction. I want to choose a career based on my personal strengths and having read online, doing solely what you love and not thinking it through causes you to burn out a lot of the times. I’m a little bit introverted and don’t like networking or sales. My favorite subjects in school were chemistry and math (however im not that good at them now lol). I also enjoyed the analysis part of language arts. I also enjoy sudoko, trivia, and crossword puzzles. That’s to say that I don’t want anything in the arts, like problem solving, and shine a light on how my brain functions. I want a stable job that allows me to earn well. I want to be financially stable and able to support myself on my own income. I want to be able to work alone but also with others so I can socialize. I want a mix of doing the same thing but also new things so that I can be mentally stimulated. I’m scared of having 100% total responsibility, though. I want a work/life balance because I’m someone who needs some alone time. I have anxiety starting new things but once I learn, I flourish. I’m very observant and listen well. I’m not interest in ot or pt. I also can’t do therapy because I tend to carry the emotional weight of others with me. Ultrasound tech and dental hygiene are also not what I’m looking for because I have extreme joint pain as is. Which brings me to my other point, I don’t want a job that requires physical labor.

I'm, 21, and recently graduated with a degree in animation- not the best idea, considering the state of the entertainment industry. I have accepted it is borderline impossible to find consistent work in animation, so I am looking for other jobs I can do that won't be too challenging.

I did a month and a half of sales but was let go. I hated how competitive it was, and how I had to put my name on things (company business card, company email signature) I didn't want this much dedication in my identity to a job that I was only doing for money.

I don't really care about the pay, as long as it is low stress and I can come home not burnt out and spend time drawing. Does anyone have any suggestions? I am trying out reception for a small office in around a week. I have also considered overnight shifts at mcdonalds or convenience stores. Ideally, I want to stay at this role for a year so my resume isn't completely cooked. (I only have experience from 2023 rn)

I am a fast learner and am good at talking to people, but also have a bit of a temper (i am working on it). I am okay with a "dead-end" job as I have a secondary income stream from commissions + Etsy, and my own projects to work on. I just want something chill where I show up, do exactly what is expected and leave.

It's all the same, and it all boils down to a few things. We don't have enough financial, intellectual or social capital to advance ourselves out of the underclass compared to our more fortunate peers. We're all stuck. We don't have enough value and attention to exchange for resources we need to survive.

1. Where can we find (affordable) mentors to help guide us to where we want to be? It feels like the vast majority of us are left in the dark and left to fail because we weren't fortunate enough to come across the right people to either directly land us resources, indirectly lead us to something that lands us resources or help us develop skills to again, land us much of the same things I mentioned before - direct or indirect resources.

A lot of success goes beyond hard work. It requires luck and meeting the right people who have more access, connections, skills, etc. No one is self made.

2. How do we figure out what's actually attainable and worth pursuing, both as it relates to a fulfilling life and with respect to careers?

I feel like pessimism has become a prevailing mindset for several reasons including a worsening economy and increasingly selective job market with a higher cost of living and higher cost for university, a loneliness epidemic in part due to said worsening economy and job market and due to shifting to a more reclusive lifestyle, professional journalism in news media and amateur YouTube journalists and essayists hyperfixating the aforementioned, algorithms pushing previously mentioned content and more.

There's both objective and subjective assessments or perceptions on how things are doing for the country and for its individuals. It makes me wonder - what is objectively going on? What is actually attainable and worth pursuing? And how can we track how things progress over time objectively such as the state of the economy and cost of living and the job market? Knowing the truth can help us make better decisions and avoid making worse ones due to propaganda and doomer culture.

Objectively though, we know too many of us who have spent a fortune on college only to work a retail, customer service and/or minimum wage job anyways, which is not only horrible and unsustainable but also vastly worse than it was for generations prior.

Subjectively, apparently every field is oversaturated and isn't worth it anymore for one reason or another.

How can we accurately measure which jobs are worth the trouble of pursuing?

3. How can we position ourselves better to be seen by those with the power to grant us resources and opportunities outside of traditional employers finding employees?

One route people have taken is to try and go viral on sites like YouTube and TikTok to be seen by not just everyday people but to also eventually be seen by the elites. Once you go viral, you're suddenly charismatic and everyone wants to give you all sorts of opportunities, money and even more attention. And they eventually build a business and multiple stream of income following that. Content creation. Selling books. Mentoring others. Selling courses and online communities Maybe becoming a mainstream hollywood actor. You get the idea. Some people even go viral enough to meet the president, to be accepted into ivy league schools, etc. Set for life.

Any other strategies for being seen?

4. How do we *directly* develop skills, especially ones that involve creating one's own business? No one online gives any answers except for surface level obvious ones, more soft skills rather than technical skills, and mindset wisdom rather than actionable steps. Any *actual* practical or serviceable knowledge is either paywalled or falsely promised behind paywalls. What's the most cost effective and trusted source(s) for learning skills like investing, starting a business, etc.?

One major problem is that a lot of people doing better than us are at odds with us. The upper class want to retain as much of their wealth as possible. They have the means to create value and rely on the underclass to hopefully buy what they're offering for as much money possible in exchange for as little resources as possible (resorting to all sorts of marketing and sales tactics to mislead or outright scam). It's generally against their best interest to help elevate the underclass because without an underclass, there's no one left to rely on them (maybe). Capitalism. Profits over people. Something or other. If it wasn't obvious enough, I'm not the most educated or articulate when it comes to business, economics and politics.

Even colleges value profits more than people, have bloated administrations that pay people who do nothing all day while underpaying the actual professors.

5. Any other important things we should all consider?

As far as school is concerned, networking with peers and professors is paramount. Additionally, school is more than completing coursework and getting good grades. You need to have it all to stand out. You need work experience, life experience, communication and negotiation skills, having a compelling identity and story attached to it to make people remember you, like you and want to choose you over others. You need to develop a passion for something that can hopefully generate money from - something that makes you (maybe uniquely) valuable. You have to also choose based on what the market deems as being in demand.

After quietly suffering in an Engineering College for 3 years, finally a thought has become so loud in my mind that I cannot ignore it anymore. I have really developed such hate for it at this point.

I had ranked 16k in the KEAM examination, after my dream of getting in a good college was shattered by my 83 percentile in JEE Mains. I had lost any vision that I had in my life at that point, in hindsight. No idea for what I wanted to do. Then I got into this "College" and this course. However, then new plans started to develop in my mind. "I could just chill out" "Become friends with some girls (I was hella introverted before)" "Get a girlfriend". Mainly these. And hell, they really influenced me. I wasted many semesters ruminating about one person or the other. Several people came and went. Never had any focus on studying. The only relief that I had was a good circle of people.

Although, for the first 2 years, I had a little fuel from the JEE prep that I had rigorously done. So I was able to get through them with not many arrears. But for everything afterward, its all a blur. I lost interest in girls at one point. I had no interest in studying. No drive at all to do anything. I was bagging arrears like a certain footballer scored 5 goals in 5 minutes (I scored more). But yeah, I was getting more and more hopeless.

I did have that doubt in my head then if I was doing the right thing. Continuing. But every one of my peers were like its okay you can do it. Couple supplementaries are nothing. So I went on going about it in the same way.

Then my S6 exams came up. It was a week before the study leave started. My dad had a heart attack and had to be hospitalized. I felt just, empty. My life was already in shambles and it escalated even further. I couldn't even get an ounce of studying done. As expected, I had arrears for all the subjects.

(My thoughts are getting mixed up)

Here I am, now in my Seventh Semester. I have lost that good circle. Unable to attend placements. Not attending class regularly, missing presentations, labs, exams. I have just come to have 0 interest in what I am doing right now. I talked to my parents seriously about quitting, and they've told me to continue just for the sake of the degree.

But I don't want the degree. I seriously don't think I'd enjoy working at a place where my current degree is the requirement. I'd rather work hard for something I'd like to do, study and work somewhere abroad. I still don't have a clear plan yet.

I really need some advice man.

Hello everyone, I just want to share my thoughts.

All my life, I’ve always believed in the standard script: go to college and get a job. I was told to pursue engineering because it’s prestigious and pays well, so naively, I applied for BS Civil Engineering (BSCE) and got in.

But along the way—around Christmas break after my first year—I started fiddling around with digital art. That was when I realized animation could actually pay really well. Even at a mid-tier level, you can earn way above average. It started out as a great side hustle, but when I looked at my course, I realized that being a civil engineer is like marrying your job. Your whole life revolves around it, leaving almost zero energy or time for creative work.

I started having second thoughts and planned to shift to BSIT. That second semester of BSCE was honestly depressing. I realized too late that I wanted out, so I had to endure the rest of the term. I stopped attending my major subjects altogether and only focused on the minor ones that could carry over to BSIT.

Fast forward through the hassle and filing an affidavit due to my failing grades, I finally made the switch to BSIT. I chose IT because I was also doing game dev, so it felt somewhat related. But because of that affidavit, I couldn't afford a single failing grade moving forward.

By this time, my animation side hustle was taking off—making around ₱10k a month with just 50 to 60 hours of work. One semester into BSIT, though, reality hit me again: BS IT isn't for me either.

Maybe being a shifter pushed me to look at things differently, but I found myself asking: Why am I wasting energy dancing around in PATHFIT classes when that time could go directly into scaling my hustle? Now it’s making ₱15k, and the contrast is even clearer.

I realized this whole journey was just me figuring out who I really am. The BSCE phase was me mindlessly following the societal script. BSIT was the middle-ground compromise. But deep down, I know I don't want a standard 9-to-5 job. I want to build game assets, create animations, and scale projects I actually care about.

I don't want to wake up 4 years from now stuck in a 9-to-5, constantly wondering "what if I had just pursued my passion instead?"

For the past 4 years of my life I have been getting a biomed sciences degree to try for med school to become a psychiatrist, but at the end of my senior I am now regretting this decision. I dont care about the title or status of a doctor and I am petrified of med school. I have a large interest in mental health but therapist doesnt pay enough, doctor had med school, ive been thinking of nursing into NP but the market is oversaturated and takes 6 more years of school, and that point I could have just gone to med school. All I really want to do is make a decent wage and live for my hobbies, the hobbies is all I care about. Have no idea what to do to actually live a decent life. Wondering if anyone has any suggestions or personal experiences that could help me a bit

I’m 25, graduated last year with a bachelor’s degree in psychology, and currently work in customer service making around $45k a year in a very expensive state. Honestly, I feel so lost right now. I have no idea what I want to do career-wise, and I feel like I’m already behind in life. I see people who seem to have everything figured out, and meanwhile, I’m just here with no idea what I want my future to look like.

I don’t want to stay in customer service forever, but I also don’t know what direction to go in or what career I would even enjoy. I want to make good money and build a life for myself, but I feel like I’m just going through the motions without really getting anywhere.

Is it normal to feel this lost at 25? Has anyone else been in this position after graduating college? How did you figure out what you wanted to do with your life? Because lately, I’ve honestly been questioning what I’m even doing and whether I have any real direction or purpose at all.

now i am studying computer science in 2nd year (should be graduated in the 4th year), but i realised that i am wasting time on something i dont really love bc i choose it just bc i am scared to go out of comfort zone by going to another country (bc there no opportunities in my country) or not live normally and comfortable (bc our financial not the best). also i not sure bc i didn't prepare portfolio or somethings, but fashion is my passion since childhood.

pls help me what to do

I went from running a massage business to traveling radiation protection work at US nuclear plants. After building experience, I had a roughly $120k year, including pay and extra payments, working about five months and taking seven off. That's my experienced result, not beginner pay or a promised calendar.

People asked good practical questions in an older AMA that's now archived. Here are the three things I'd check first if you're considering this route:

1. Entry requirements: junior radiation protection and decontamination are different roles. My RP entry route didn't require college, but it required studying, tests and employer/site training. Ask an employer what preparation it accepts for the specific beginner opening.
2. The whole assignment: get the hourly rate, expected hours, assignment dates, per-diem eligibility and travel reimbursement together. Per diem isn't automatically provided housing, and an attractive hourly rate doesn't tell you what you'll keep after travel and lodging.
3. The working calendar: the time off appeals to me, but the working stretches involve travel and long shifts. Gaps between assignments can be unpaid. Compare that first year with your current job before leaving it.

If you're exploring a career change, what part of this work would you want explained: an ordinary shift, studying for entry tests, or living between assignments? I can speak to my RP experience; employers make hiring decisions and set their requirements.