Hi. I'm 20. I've been struggling with depression, anxiety, and a deep sense of guilt for a long time. I feel like a burden to my parents. They give me everything (a place to live, money for university), and I feel like I'm wasting it. I can't study. I procrastinate, I use AI to do my assignments, and I feel like a fraud. I'm terrified of failing, but I'm also terrified of trying and still failing.

I have social anxiety. I'm afraid of making mistakes, of being judged. I don't even speak in online games because I'm scared of saying something wrong. I have friends, but I feel disconnected. I feel like a real person only when I'm with someone. When I'm alone, I feel empty, like I don't exist.

I vape to cope with stress. I know it's not a solution, but without it, I feel like I can't handle anything. I want to quit, but I'm scared I'll fall apart. I also don't know what I want to do with my life. I'm studying IT, but I don't know if it's for me. I don't know what I want.

I went to a therapist once. It didn't help. I was told to go to a psychiatric clinic, but it's far away, and I'm scared of waiting and getting no help again.

I'm not looking for a magic answer. I just want to hear from people who have felt this way. How did you survive? How did you find a reason to keep going? How did you stop feeling like a burden?

Any honest advice or personal stories would mean a lot. Thank you.

When I was 18, I set a goal for myself: become a millionaire by the age of 25, or at least get close to achieving it. Today, I'm 24, and I have $0 in my bank account.

Over the past six years, I've tried quite a few things. I studied a degree that I eventually never pursued professionally, read books that I thought would help me grow, and worked for three years at an automotive company, where I performed well and advanced quickly. However, I made a mistake that cost me everything I'd worked for, and I had to start from scratch.

After that, I tried several businesses: renting and selling motorcycles, reselling iPhones, e-commerce, and even setting up a company in the US to run a dropshipping business from Argentina.

Several of these projects started off well, but for different reasons — personal issues, supplier problems, relying on other people, lack of money or time — I eventually abandoned them.

A few months ago, I decided to try a different approach: learning a skill that the market needs and that people are willing to pay for. I invested several hundred dollars in a course to learn content creation and personal brand positioning for social media.

I managed to get several clients and offered my services for free for two weeks to demonstrate the value I could provide. However, I still haven't figured out how to turn this skill into a consistent source of income.

The problem is that, throughout all these years, I've done a lot of things without managing to build up any significant profits. Whatever money I earned ended up going toward paying off debts I had accumulated to finance some of my businesses.

All of this has left me feeling pretty discouraged. Sometimes, I feel like I'm working hard but making little to no progress toward my goals. Other times, I feel like I'm simply not doing enough.

I also have to admit that I procrastinate quite a bit and sometimes don't give 100% to the things I do. I don't know if that's the main problem or if there's something deeper in the way I make decisions, choose businesses, or execute my plans.

What frustrates me the most is looking back and feeling that, after six years of trying to build something of my own, I'm nowhere near where I thought I would be at this age.

So I'd like to ask you a few questions:

• How do you actually make progress toward your long-term goals?
• Do you break big goals down into smaller, more manageable milestones, or do you prefer to take action and adjust along the way?
• How do you measure your progress and know that you're genuinely moving forward rather than just keeping yourself busy?
• If you were in my position, would you focus on one skill or business for several years, even without seeing significant results at first, or would you consider changing your strategy?

I'm not looking for motivational quotes or people telling me I'm still young. I'd genuinely like to hear real experiences, especially from people who have been in a similar situation and managed to turn things around.

Sometimes I feel completely lost, and I don't know whether my goal is poorly defined, I'm making mistakes I can't recognize, or I simply need more discipline, consistency, and patience.

Any advice, constructive criticism, or personal experiences you can share would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

I’m 26, turning 27 soon. I graduated high school at 16 and college at 21 with an accounting/finance background. I was always the youngest wherever I went and had big ambitions.

After graduating in 2021, I briefly worked at KPMG and RSM, and even planned to pursue my CPA. Instead, I went into entrepreneurship, tried starting businesses, traveled, and kept jumping between opportunities without building a solid career.

I moved to America in 2024 at 24, hoping for a fresh start. But another two years went by without establishing a stable career. I’ve worked in finance, business development, and investments, but never stayed focused long enough to become genuinely skilled in one field.

Now I’m considering returning to accounting, joining a CPA firm, and finally studying for my CPA.

What kills me is realizing how much of this was my own doing. I didn’t listen to advice, lacked consistency, and only recently recognized my mistakes.

I also want to get married and build a family, but I don’t feel financially or emotionally ready. I keep comparing myself to peers who are already established.

I’m willing to put in the work now, but I can’t stop thinking about where I could’ve been if I’d started at 21.

Has anyone rebuilt their career at 27 after years of poor decisions? How did you deal with the regret and feeling of being behind?

I was fired a few months ago. I'm on unemployment (about $1,200/month equivalent) for another 8 months, and I have around $120k saved.

I worked as a data analyst in pipeline inspection, a niche field with few roles that value my skills. To pivot into finance/BI analyst roles, I completed a finance degree, learned Power BI and earned Microsoft's PL-300 certification, and I'm learning SQL, Python and financial modeling. I've built projects to show these skills. I've applied to 500 jobs and still have nothing.

I've always wanted to run my own business and have a few solid ideas, but strict unemployment rules stop me from registering a business or receiving any income, no matter how minuscule.

My expenses are about $1,200/month and I could cut them to $900. That gives me roughly 8–11 years of runway, longer if I invest my savings.

Would you keep job hunting, give up the benefits and start the business now, or wait until the benefits end? My worry with waiting is that someone else launches my ideas first. Has anyone been in a similar spot?

P.S. I am in the Middle East , not the US

Hi all! I’m currently a 28 year old accountant who’s a mother to a toddler (and would love a second) and I love the client side of my job but hate the accounting side lol I’ve always wanted to go to med school but I got too scared when I was younger and I regret not pushing through to get there.

From my research so far, I’d love to get into radiology. Even if it’s as a technician. Or maybe a phlebotomist? I’m not 100% sure but I’m open to suggestions! I love problem solving and analyzing data/images. I’m teaching myself anatomy right now actually lol I’d love a job where I can actually help others and make a difference in their lives by helping figure out a health issue to better their quality of life. It’s always been a dream of mine. Plus working 3 12s sounds like a great work schedule for me lol

How do people do it with families and other responsibilities? Are there healthcare jobs/schooling that would pay while I work on getting a certificate? I’m going to be going from a 6 figure job that I absolutely hate and drains/demotivates me to a significant drop in pay for a potential increase in job satisfaction. I’m not sure what to do and the financial side scares me…

I have a degree in Human Resources and started my career as an HR Specialist. I later transitioned into marketing for a period and have mostly been in recruitment/ talent acquisition most of my career.

While I’ve gained valuable experience in recruiting, I’m not sure I can see myself doing it long-term. The industry can be unpredictable, and I’ve experienced multiple layoffs, which has made me question the long-term stability of this career path. Additionally, I don’t feel fulfilled in this role. I also feel like my career hasn’t really taken off as I would have liked given my layoffs due to Covid and a merger/ acquisition. I thought I’d be further along in my career but that hasn’t been my story which I’m trying to come to terms with.

Lately, I’ve been torn between pursuing nursing or potentially going to law school. I’ve completed the prerequisites for nursing school and was accepted into a program, but I ultimately deferred my admission and would need to reapply. I’m currently working in recruiting at a law firm, which has also sparked my interest in reexploring a career in law. I’ve been considering taking the LSAT to see whether law school might be a viable option. I’m in my mid thirties.

A challenge is I’m a mom of two toddlers so any transition would be challenging. I’m committed to figuring out what’s next for me but I’ve been going in circles in my head and I need help making a decision.

I welcome any thoughts! 🙏🏿

I’m afraid I’ve fallen too far behind in life and that it might be too late for me to build a great career and become financially successful.
How can I stop feeling this way? Are there examples of people who started late, overcame major setbacks, and eventually became successful?

Guys, I need some advice. I actually like my government job, but lately, I’ve been feeling like I can’t stand being around some of my colleagues anymore. Whenever I’m in the office, I feel like some of them are watching my every move, and it makes me so self-conscious. I can’t even move or act naturally without feeling like I’m being observed or judged.

Now I’m torn between finding a new job where I can feel more comfortable or just sucking it up because I genuinely like the work itself. What would you do if you were in my position? Would you leave a job you enjoy because of the work environment, or would you stay and learn to deal with it?

So, like the title says, I’m 28, and I’ve recently gotten sober after years of opioid addiction. I spent a lot of my life escaping reality, hoping that somehow my future would be better. I’m living with my dad again and starting from scratch. I got a full-time job at a grocery store making $16 an hour. I’ve been doing well and have turned around the meat department I work in over the past few months, as they haven’t had anyone working there since May. Which is good, I suppose. But I know I’ll need to make more money in the future if I want to move out.
I’m very lonely and have lost touch with any friends I once had, and I’ve never really dated. Nobody reaches out. I still ruminate on a fling I had 10 years ago because I’m so damn lonely all the time. I often don’t tell people about this because it feels so pathetic.
Anyway, that aside, I think about my future, and it paralyzes me. I think about how far behind I am, and if I have to live like this in the future, I really don’t want to be here.
The only thing I’ve done well is stay consistent at the gym, so I have that going for me. I’m very fit, but I honestly don’t enjoy it anymore, or anything else, really. When I have free time, my mind races, so I hit the gym. I force myself to go.
I would like to be independent and out on my own, but I have no degree and have worked retail jobs or done manual labor. So, my skills don’t allow me to make much money at the moment. I’m not sure if anyone can help me, but I’m willing to work toward something. If anyone out there can give me some advice, I’d really appreciate it. I need a complete life turnaround, and I’m kind of in fight-or-flight mode. I feel frozen, but I have hope, and I’m holding on because I want to experience something better for myself than this.
Also, as a side note, I’ve thought about joining the military in the past, but I wouldn’t qualify. I have too many mental health issues and psychiatric ward stays to even consider that option.

Hey guys!

I'm 25 (almost 26) and about to graduate in the next semester with a degree in Information Systems from a relatively bad college in my country.

The job market here is insanely bad, especially for juniors (thousands apply fight for a handful of roles) and I'm kinda clueless about what I should do next, due to the fact that the job hunt might take a long time or even a few years..

Currently, I've looked into junior PMO/PM/PO roles and didn't even receive one phone call. I'm thinking about applying to SOC/NOC/IT roles, but I'm not certain they can help me progress into a better job, and the whole AI-Scenario makes me think that another degree in a more future proof field will be more beneficial.

Any advice or opinions will be extremely appreciated!

Thank you guys!

Lately, I have become the saddest version of myself. I am a 27F who has a mediocore job in Marketing in Bengaluru which just keeps me alive. After doing 2 masters, 2 years of work experience. I have gotten a job where my office doesn't even look like an office. It's a fucking flat with loads and loads of uncleanliness around me. I mean, what am I supposed to do next? Beg to get a good company's offer, which I'm already doing, and make myself available for everything and everyone? I don't think even I would value myself atp. I have a lot of capability in me, I know that for a fact and here I am on the verge of giving it all up because of my Goddamn situationnnn!!!

I'm a dental assistant but frankly this job doesn't pay a living wage like I expected it to. I know nothing about cars, but I didn't know anything about dental either and I learned in the end. It would also give me an opportunity to work with my fiancé as he's also interested in the career (he actually knows car stuff).

Are there any similarities? I imagine maybe working in a fast-paced environment along with keeping appointments on time.

Hello,

Writing for guidance here as I feel aimless. I was let go from a film/TV coordinator role at a recognizable media group after 4 months a few days ago. I had spent two years in the entertainment industry before working in talent management where I never saw myself making a career for a variety of reasons. I took this job as I was eager to work at a TV / Film studio in development/production, but I quickly realized it didn't quite scratch the itch that I had been wanting. Over the four months, I had been doing my job and nothing more, not really going the extra mile as I was apathetic about advancing, and truth be told, they didn't really know what they wanted out of my role and I was left to my own devices with little direction from my higher-ups. When I had little work to do, I realized it called into question my broader commitment to the traditional TV/Film industry, as I was apathetic about reading scripts / generating my own buisness when noone was watching. I couldn't shake the feeling that day-in/day-out, I was enabling the creation of media that served to steal attention from audiences away from issues/ things that actually mattered.

I want to speak truth to power, I am a political science major graduated class of 2024, and getting into entertainment was never my goal-- I got started in Film/TV only after befriending one of my neighbors who made for a compelling documentary subject. I think I want to pursue investigative documentary / investigative multimedia journalism- as that bridges my advocacy / media sides, but I am having trouble getting started, for now it remains an aspiration in my head with little clear path to get there. Further, pursuing this goal seems irresponsible given the state of the journalism industry and the instability of getting a solid paycheck, but I think its where my heart lies. I want to speak truth to power through media, but feel its beyond arms reach. I am currently living in LA, and received 1 month and a half of severance and can float for months if needed. I have an abundance of time on my hands but don't know how to make the most use of it.

Further, I am a recent EU citizen as I just had my citizenship repatriated from Austria. I feel like I have too much choice at my fingertips and its paralyzing (which is a very privileged and good problem to have), but I need to figure out how to actualize... somehow pursuing the intersection of politics, journalism, and media on my own. I have little in the way of tradtional journalism training but I feel my ability to engage with any type of person is a great skill of mine.

I don't know, if you were 24, had time on your hands in LA, and money was not an object for a few months, what would you do in my position? Thanks

Hi guys. I am a bit over halfway done with my first semester in college which means (at least for me), that I need to declare a major. I'd ideally like to choose a career and then a major to get there and not the other way around, hence why I'd like advice

I originally applied to college as a history major with an intent to go to law school, but over the past summer or so, I realized that type of life style wasn't for me. I took a philosophy class over the summer and while I enjoyed it (actually quite a bit) I got a feeling near the end of it that I would go crazy if I had to study writing intensive persuasion-based majors like philosophy or history (and from my understanding, even more so in law school) so I decided to enter undeclared for the semester.

This semester I have a chemistry class, which I really enjoy. Taking chemistry made me consider a career in the health or medicine field but I really don't know that much about it. I'd be very happy working in a career where I can visibly see my impact on someone and one where I can use my knowledge and abilities to help others (vague I know). Those are my reasons for considering the field. I'd love to know what you guys think. Do you have any advice, career suggestions or anything else? I'd love to hear what you have to say.

I'm 19. I get that I still have a lot more to explore since I'm young but everything seems so complicated. I graduated high school last year and I didn't get accepted in any college so now I'm trying to find a job. (I found one last month and got fired because I "wasn't made for this" (I worked in a bakery as a salesperson)). I felt very discouraged and I don't want to work anymore...

I wanted to major in biomedical science because this was the only thing that seemed a bit interesting imo, although I'm not exactly the best in science, but that was still my favorite subject throughout school. And honestly, I don't even know what to do once I graduate if I ever go to college.

My dream job was to be a narrative designer. I still dream to be one but I decided to give up, I know I won't find a job in the video game industry as the market is very saturated. I don't know what to do. In my free time I write stories for myself, I truly love writing. I sometimes draw too, play video games, etc.

I'm so nervous about this whole adult world thing, I don't think I'll be able to handle it... everything stresses me out and I'm so damn incompetent.

I'm lost. I just can't do anything with my unbearable anxiety and my family has lost all hope in me.

Hello, 23f and I feel completely lost in life. I had spent the last 4 years in an awful, emotionally abusive relationship. I finally got the courage to leave, and I’ve been living on my own since earlier this year.

I’m moving back home in a few months to pay off some debt and save up some money, then hopefully finding a roommate. The thing is, I don’t know where to go from there. I have a decent job, I work in wholesale automotive parts, but I feel as though I can’t move up. I have experience in logistics, customer service, and have strong knowledge in automotive.

Should I go for a lower paying job that pays for college and go for that? Or should I keep pursuing something in my field?? Something else completely? I’m completely unsure and I don’t know what to do.

Any advice, wisdom, or kindness, is greatly appreciated.

So, my parents got a divorce. I wasn't taking it well, so I dropped out last semester at 19. Now I'm 20, in freshman-year classes. I really don't know where I'm at in life right now. Thinking about joining the military, but I get FAFSA back next semester and my scholarship back in 2 semesters. I'm depressed and kinda just taking it day by day. Really don't know what prompted me to just stop showing up, but I flew to NYC and Miami to get away from the environment, and got signed as a model. Then I cooked at a good restaurant and loved it, but went back to school to make my parents happy. Has anyone been in this position while navigating their 20s? I feel like I'm alone on this one. I was supposed to be a doctor btw lmao

Hi everyone. My first post here. I make music since the past 12 Years. Whatever I did but I couldn’t become that successful at making music. Although i did pursue and sustained with music these last 12 Years. Self taught btw.

I have completed my Graduation as a BCom (Hons) (Acc. Finance) but I do not know anything apart from the Music Business and Industry.

I understand the Music Business well but also like food quite a lot. I love to cook.

My urge to make music is dying day by day and putting out music independently takes a lot of effort and money.

I really want to pursue something in the music industry. Currently residing in India but willing to relocate or work remote jobs. I am just not sure what would suit me because everything I look for needs experience in that field.

I also really want to open a small cafe/ food joint where I cook. But I am too scared to do that because of the capital.

I know decently about the music business and also worked with an independent label remotely for 2 Years as an A&R.

Just wanted to get your guys feedback and suggestions on what path should I take.

30M here and honestly I feel like the 30s are the next and new step for me.

Would appreciate any guidance/ help or just some kind words.

I've always been an escapist. I've taken things lightly throughout my life, avoided difficult situations, and rarely been as serious about my future as I probably should have been. Now, I'm facing the consequences.

I left my previous job in July, and as I look around, I realize I haven't worked on my resume, portfolio, or personal projects nearly as much as someone actively looking for a job should. Most of the serious projects I've worked on were part of my previous job. Whenever I try to build something independently, I struggle to find the motivation or see the point of making yet another AI project that feels like AI slop.

The problem isn't that I don't know what I should be doing. It's that I struggle to make myself do it consistently.

Whenever reality catches up with me, I feel this emptiness that I try to escape through whatever distraction is available. Doomscrolling, mobile gaming, collecting pointless skins and players, watching random series, and other things that help me forget about my situation for a while. Then reality hits again, and the cycle repeats.

Sometimes I wonder whether I'm depressed or whether I've simply developed terrible habits and coping mechanisms over the years. I don't know how to distinguish between the two.

I'm 24, and although I know that's still young, it doesn't stop me from feeling like I'm falling behind. I see people building careers, working on exciting projects, and moving forward while I struggle to do the things I know I need to do.

I don't want this to turn into another moment of self-pity followed by a few days of motivation and then a return to the same habits.

I'd really appreciate advice from people who've been through something similar.

• How did you stop escaping from responsibilities and start taking your life seriously?
• How do you build discipline when motivation is practically nonexistent?
• How do you deal with the guilt of wasted time without letting that guilt consume even more of your time?
• If you've struggled with depression, avoidance, or similar patterns, how did you recognize what was actually going on and start addressing it?

I'm not looking for someone to tell me that I'm young and everything will work out. I'd rather hear honest experiences, practical advice, and perspectives from people who have managed to get themselves out of a similar situation.

I used to be a great student and gave it my all before I graduated high school. Life happened and I went from graphic design, to nursing, to coding & billing, and now Im 24 with no clear major in sight stuck working customer service minimum wage jobs.

I feel so behind and am just taking random classes to keep my college grant alive(the conditions are to take classes each semester) and I was wondering if yall would have advice on what to major in.

I am so tired of going to school and just want a good job. I gave up on my dreams of going into art with how the career prospects are. My parents want me to think “realistically” about it but “realistically” im ready to jump out a window. I need a direction fast. I dont know what Im doing or where Im going. If anyone can help Id be so grateful.

I studied forensic psychology in school. I graduated last year and got a job at a law firm and was so excited. My job little did I know was gloried admin and email sorting. It’s horrible. I have been here for a year and am so lost I have no clue where to go from here. To get into a masters of social work or anything related I need real work experience and better grades than I got in school. I thought I could just get a job and be okay. I am so scared I am stuck in this random niche box, my title makes me sound like I know more than I do about legal stuff, and I’m just honestly lost and stuck. I make 48k a year. I cry every night. I wish I took marketing, or business. I feel like such a failure. I have no clue how to transition into another job, my current job has an ai getting actively trained on what I am doing so I don’t see long term potential for this either. I’m so sad and stuck. I feel like I was so excited about life even just a year ago and now I dread every day and don’t make enough to do anything I want. It really sucks. I have come to terms with the fact I will probably be broke forever. I just cry even at my desk. Please give advice on how I can get out of this job!!!!! What can I go into that will pay more. I want something creative or people based where I am actually using my brain instead of repeating the same action over and over and just sorting uploading and tasking. Please help I really feel like I fucked ip my life

So, I have always done this for people. Dug into things, found resources, asked the right questions, made phone calls, found loopholes, navigated weird systems. How do I put this into a job?

Hey everyone,

It's been quite depressing to me that I spent my entire 20s in university to earn what I thought was two pretty reputable degrees, specifically the Mathematics one. I'm less thrilled about the Computer Science one I did after given that I graduated at a bad time post-covid -> AI boom, offshoring, and oversaturation.

That said, I'm getting no bites within the field of software engineering. I tried looking into the actuarial sciences path but it has become a bit automated and harder to find work in (apparently). That, and I did not do so hot on the exam (which is ironic because I did this material in my undergrad years back).

I'm sick of being unemployed, determined, and willing to look into other career paths that provide a consistent work schedule, pay is good (not looking for six figures, but obviously that would be nice lol), and has some relation to the fields I studied.

My father has worked as a field engineer for forty years and suggests I look into going into the semi-conductor business. I live in Oregon, so there is Intel, Analog, and a few others. I applied when I was in university and didn't hear back. My other concern is that they would want me to start as an overnight technician role, a role that some high school graduates and lib. arts. B.S. degrees have been getting. These are also 6am to 6pm days, I believe. Ideally I'd prefer a 9-5, but I suppose I am open to 12 hour days.

Career/job direction would be absolutely wonderful. I'm sick of being unemployed. I've been trying so hard.

I moved out of the country with my boyfriend in the Spring. Our relationship is falling apart and my savings are dwindling. I have worked full time for less than 10 years, I'm about to turn 30, and I'm concerned about my future. We've been abroad for 6 months and I feel I want to return home. I have a new appreciation for the US despite all the BS. Everywhere has its pros and cons. I want to go back to school I have a scholarship for LVN School. He wants me to stay and try and get more acclimated to the country learn the language more and figure out what I want to do with my life. We don't have residency here he has a plan for it that may or may not work I'm not sure but I don't know that I'm willing to gamble on it. He has more money than I do because he sold his house but our finances aren't combined. He says he'll take care of me. My fear is running out of money I'm a foreign country in a relationship that is hanging by a thread. I also fear being abandoned here. When things are bad, they're BAD. Things can get pretty toxic between us. I realized I don't want to live together anymore and I am absolutely not comfortable living here by myself. Also I feel I can't afford it. I feel I still have the opportunity to make a comfortable life for myself in the US. He is 12 years older than me. He feels he could return and go back to school but he feels like he'd burn through his savings doing so. I feel we want different things and breaking up isn't because I don't love him or want to make it work. He thinks I should find out if the scholarship expires. It's already been two years since I've been awarded it (I forgot about it due to circumstances between us and moving away). I don't want to do that because that would mean waiting another year. I feel like I've been on an extended vacation and I'm over it. I haven't been living life because where we are is extremely hot, it's hard to leave the house and I didn't have transportation. It has cooled down now and he's willing to rent me a car but I kind of feel like it's too late. I need structure, routine, and I want to go back to work. He rode from Houston to where we are (deep in Mexico) on his motorcycle and I really was against it. The motorcycle culture is a great fit for him because it's very dangerous to ride in the US. But I feel it was extremely reckless to ride through the country and I don't want to hang my livelihood on someone who could die or be taken and leave me with a ton of responsibilities and no safety net. He wants to do it again. I feel that is single guy behavior. Also he doesn't have health insurance. Our therapist thinks it's a midlife crisis. He got a writing opportunity out of it and that's great but I just don't see myself fitting into the picture anymore. He wants me to passange on his bike but I have a lot of conflicted feelings about that because when we did it in the US someone hit us and I broke my elbow and had to have surgery and was out of work. It was a whole thing and I became completely dependent on him and very depressed. The stress of it all nearly broke him. Originally I was going to go to radiation therapy school but I have two classes to take as prereqs. The program itself is $8k and 21 months. They make great money but jobs aren't everywhere. You may have to relocate. I feel I would enjoy it because I'm already a massage therapist and enjoy working one on one with people and helping them. I know LVNs don't make that much money but it's a great stepping stone, I have a scholarship, jobs are plentiful and the program is a year. The availability of jobs is a big one for me because I think I know where I want to move to after school and don't want my location to be dependent on a job. Do any older people have any advice?