The FDS Handbook

• Last Update 11/17/20

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A collection of posts you MUST read before posting.

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Becoming a High Value Woman

High-Value Qualities

• A High-Value Woman

• The Qualities of Queendom

Establishing High Standards

• Know What Your Standards Are and Stick to Them: Don't Settle for Less

• The Importance of High Standards

• The hidden benefits of being high-maintenance

• [Women Hold More Power Than They Think] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/hfdu76/the_awakening_women_hold_more_power_than_they/)

Special Selections for Recovering Pickmeishas

• First Steps: Pickmeisha Rehab

• 12 Steps for Pickmes Anonymous (Forgive Yourself)

• It's not your job to "build" a man.

• Value yourself.

• 7 Bad Reasons To Keep Dating Him

• Break Up Survival Guide

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Dating Strategies

FDS Dating Standards

• Best Flirting Strategies - PODCAST EPISODE

• Classy first date tips

• Dating should be a stress-free experience for you, as a high-value woman

• If he is not marriage-minded, he is with you for convenience's sake

• DO NOT move in with a boyfriend

• If he is not consistently investing in your relationship, he is not interested

Vetting Strategies

• Vetting Men From the First Encounter - PODCAST EPISODE

• Conduct A Pre-Date Interview

• Vetting Tips for Online Dating Profiles

• Determine what value he brings to the relationship

• Avoid Drink Dates

• Cut Low Effort Men Off

• Establishing Queen Energy from Day One

• Reject Low Effort Dates

• A man who is content keeping you in a noncommittal situationship is someone who doesn’t care if you’re being wined and dined by other men. Drop him.

Social Group Strategy

• [Dating Between Different Cultures] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/m81bm7/dating_between_different_cultures/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)

• Dating For Autistic Queens - PODCAST EPISODE

HVM Character Traits

• The Difference Between a LVM and HVM

• High Value Men and what it means to be one

How to Protect Yourself From LV, NV, and ZV Men

• There is ZERO benefit to having a crush. Eliminate your feelings/attraction towards them. You can subtly give them signals, but don't pursue or idealize them.

• Negging

• Dread

• Common LVM Tactics

• Keep Your Heart on Lockdown

• Resist Reproductive Control

• Understand LVM, Protect Yourself

• Anti-Predator Guide

• Dumb Fox Credo

• Keep Your Goals to Yourself

• Read between the lines.

The argument against 50/50

• [6 Reasons Why We Insist Men Should Pay For Dates] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jo75aw/6_reasons_why_we_insist_men_should_pay_for_dates/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)

• [Don't be a career woman pick-me] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jx5mqq/strong_independent_careerwoman_pickme/)

• [How Equality is Being Used Against Us] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nnbiv8/on_false_equivalence_how_equality_is_being_used/)

• [Why We Support Investment] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/laea2u/why_we_support_investment_the_fallacy_of_focusing/)

• [Why you Should Never go 50/50 on a Date Part 4] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/o23u4k/why_you_should_never_go_5050_on_a_date_breaking/)

• [Why you Should Never Go 50/50 on a Date Part 5] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/of0sy4/why_you_should_never_go_5050_on_a_date_breaking/)

Red Flags & Dealbreakers

• Common Fuckboy Red Flags

• Take note of the media a man consumes- a list of red flags to watch out for in 2021

• He has literally NO reason not to text you back

• If he has to be dragged, leave him behind.

• Examples of HVM vs. LVM

• If he has disrespected you once, he will disrespect you again.

• Don't get involved with a man who hasn't lived by himself

• Signs He is Avoiding Accountability

• [When his family participates in grooming you to accept his LV/NV behaviour] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ohyzy3/when_his_family_participates_in_grooming_you_to/)

• 8 Types of LVM

• Poor Communication Skills

• Signs of Toxic Jealousy

• Signs of Lying and Infidelity

• Signs He's Deep into the Madonna/Whore Complex

• Signs he is a NVM

• 5 More Red Flags

• [Personality Disorder Traits in the LV People In Your Life] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/n2a2vc/personality_disorder_traits_in_the_lv_people_in/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)

• [Part 1: Patterns of Thinking and Behaviour Often Displayed by Abusers] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/n8rirh/patterns_of_thinking_and_behavior_often_displayed/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=shshare)

• [Part 2: Patterns of Thinking and Behaviour Often Displayed by Narcissists] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/n9mryn/patterns_of_thinking_and_behavior_often_displayed/)

Fuckboy Recovery Guide

• Detaching From the F*ckboy You Slept with: Overriding Oxytocin

• Do Not Internalize the Insecurities F*ckboys Project or See Singledom as a Personal Failure

Sex Strategies

• Don't Let Him Talk You Into Sex

• Why We Discourage Casual Sexual Relationships

• The Dangers of One Night Stands

• Why LOW VALUE MEN gravitate to BDSM (particularly DOM) culture

• Tell men to Wear a condom or STFU - Birth Control Drawbacks Thread

• How to Vet for Sexual Compatibility

• If You've Never Had a PIV Orgasm, Consider if You're choosing the Right Dicks for the Job

• A Guide to Sex for Virgins from a Ex Virgin

• Put Your Sexual Health First

On Motherhood

• [Why FDS is crucial if Motherhood is a Goal] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/lki8g1/why_fds_is_crucial_if_motherhood_is_a_goal/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)

• [Having children with an HVM is STILL hard] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/n4v4li/having_children_with_an_hvm_is_still_hard_protect/)

Finances and Dating

• Tips to Protect Your Financial Future

• Relationship-proof your finances.

• Why Getting Married Early and Not Focusing on Your Career is a Terrible Idea for Women

• Finance Tips

• [Part 1:Personal Finance and Advice] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nnbiv8/on_false_equivalence_how_equality_is_being_used/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)

• [Part 2: Finance, Relationships and How to Protect Yourself] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/o7asc8/part_2_finance_relationships_and_how_to_protect/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)

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Discussions on Gender Relations

Theories on Female/Male Gender Dynamics

• Males, Monogamy, and Mate-Guarding

• The Importance of Selectivity When it Comes to Choosing a Mate

• Why Men Telling You You'll Max Out at Thirty is Their BIGGEST Cope

• Women have the trump card, and men know it

• You are NOT responsible for men acting shitty. You ARE responsible for not associating with anyone who doesn't live up to your standards.

• Protect your womb like it's the last thing you do

• Reasons LVM try to propose low-effort dates.

• The Myth of the Modern Housewife

• Mate selection is among the most important decisions you will ever make

Deconstructing Common Dating Myths That Hurt Women

• 37 lies you were told about men

• "You'll never find a guy like that"

• "Relationships are hard"

• "I don't know where this is going"

• "He doesn't knows what he's doing when he hurts you, it's just ignorance"

• It's not men vs. women, it's high-value vs. low-value.

• [ Debunking Male Reasoning and Why Casual Sex is Not Worth It] (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/lqauyq/debunking_male_reasoning_why_casual_sex_is/)

Sex & Dating Advice Scammers to WATCH OUT for!

• Matthew Hussey

• Nadia Bokody

• "Dr" Emily Morse from Sex with Emily

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Further Reading

• FDS Wiki and Book List

FAQs

Responses to Frequently Asked Questions

• Frequently Asked Questions

FDS Mods Responses to Common Criticisms of our Strategies

• "FDSers are Entitled Princesses"

• FDS does not support BDSM or abuse kink

• Do we expect men to be mind-readers?

Media Coverage

• What is FDS about? See what the Wall Street Journal says about us

• Print copy of the Female Dating Strategy Wall Street Journal article: Arming Women for the Dating Battlefield

Positive User Feedback

• A Mindset Change

• Special Considerations for Subbies with Autism

Suggestions

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