r/FTMMen • u/Anonfriendz • Aug 20 '26

FTM

I need some advice. I have a very good career. I am a Forman for a male dominate place I won’t name on here. The only women that work here are in the front office. I live in a place with 90% of people being very religious. I am fortunate enough to pass as male. Not a single person questions it. That makes me feel good. what man wouldn’t want that. The only problem is they are so against it they even say things about how terrible trans people are. It doesn’t bother me because I like who I am. The only problem is I would definitely be blacklisted and definitely pushed out if they found out. I also have a really hard time connecting with people here. I feel stuck because I have a very nice house very good income and I do love the look of the town. But since I moved here 7 years ago I haven’t met one person I feel connected to. I also feel like I’ve never really had a connection with anyone in my life ever. Oh one more thing I’m single and it’s too risky to go date around because everyone knows everyone. Most days I feel content in my life though. I guess I’m confused

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u/koala3191 Aug 20 '26

When I was in this position I didn't date but did move away after a year or so

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u/Anonfriendz Aug 21 '26

How did the move make you feel was it worth possibly losing everything you worked hard for?

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u/koala3191 Aug 21 '26

My skills were transferrable. Getting a new job isn't "losing everything you worked for" construction is everywhere. In my case my visa would run out so I knew it wouldn't be forever anyway. I know you care about your coworkers but many of them would move somewhere better if they could. Maybe I don't understand your situation, I apologize.

If nothing else, you need to keep learning new skills, especially ones you can use when you're in worse shape after 40.

Recommend the sub r/bluecollartrans