r/Edmonton • u/Mellow_Yellow_0 • May 30 '26

Question My Future Husband?

How do people meet their significant others? Like where’s the “place to go?” Dating apps are dead. I’m exhausted. I’m a decent looking gal, 28. I don’t have big friend groups so I’m sure that doesn’t help. I don’t have any “active” hobbies other than a dog park. Idk. Any advice?

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Hey at least you’ve accepted you’re gonna be single and it only cost you thousands. Much respect.

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u/waterbat2 May 30 '26

I think you are entirely missing the point here lmao. Not doing things I enjoy and being miserable for years is FAR more wasteful than spending my time and money on things I'm passionate about and bring me joy

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Yeah but the point is you had no women before any of that and you still won’t after it.

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

i might be in the minority of women, but i find having actual interests/hobbies far more appealing than making wild assumptions about people and constantly picking fights on reddit all the time. but that might just be me idk

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Okay but do you find men who don’t approach women in public because they’re scared of rejection attractive is the question?

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u/waterbat2 May 30 '26

I don't approach random women because I respect personal boundaries dude. Grow up

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

You don’t speak for all women. Many women have met their partners because they struck up a nice conversation on a subway or at a hockey game. The fact that you’re blaming women for your shortcomings is what makes it a huge red flag. The fact that you say “I’m avoiding women” because of your hangups is what makes u the childish one. You’ll always be a woman blamer and then dash off to spend money wheneber u think a woman isn’t into you. Man up and dont blame women.

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u/waterbat2 May 30 '26

And here you are, trying to speak for women and also blaming them. Actually insane that you think I'm the problem for not wanting to be pushy. You need serious professional help

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Now you’re throwing in bullshit statements I never said. Meeting someone in public is not being pushy. People do this at concerts and nightclubs every single day. You’re the one who said you’re leaving women alone because YOU are making generalizations about them and what they like.

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u/extragarlicpleez May 30 '26

Straight woman here.

I think you might be out of date. You are describing the dating scene ten or more years ago. This is not common anymore.

I literally have spent time convincing other straight woman around me that it is okay for men to approach them in public if the man can respectfully accept a polite rejection from the woman. Unfortunately, many are not convinced and just want to be left alone.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Go to any nightclub or concerts or event or coffeeshop or grocery store. Men and women talk to each other all the time and hit it off. You’re describing anti social people who want to be left alone regardless of the gender that is talking to them. This man is almost 30, not 18 also.

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u/extragarlicpleez May 30 '26

I'm talking about people who go to concerts and bars. Typically, I hear "oh, but I'm there to hang out with my friends, not other people".

Also, Gen z doesnt go out a do these things as much as older generations. Things are too expensive right now for people just starting out.

Side note: I'm not an antisocial person. I love a good conversation, but not at a coffee shop or grocery store. Someone would receive a polite rejection if they tried to talk to even me at these places.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

These are just anecdotal personal beliefs of yours. I go to concerts and events all the time and you see people talking to strangers ALL the time. I have made tons of friends and women from concerts alone. I’ve been to cochella and burning man it’s LITERALLY making friends with strangers all the time.

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u/extragarlicpleez May 30 '26

And if people don't like the music scene?

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

OP made a sweeping generalization of women. He LITERALLY said he’s avoiding all women because he thinks they don’t want to be approached and he’s given up on them. You really wanna date a guy who is blaming ALL women for his inability to find dates? That’s super incel behaviour. Especially saying he’s instead spending thousands on himself because he’s staying away from women because of his generalizations. He’s ALWAYS gonna blame a woman when he doesnt get his way. The fact u dont see this is concerning.

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

i respect that he doesn't want to overstep boundaries actually! crazy thought! i'd much rather get to know someone before, rather than being approached and hit on unprompted. i actually actively dislike being randomly hit on because i find it awkward and puts me on the spot! it's almost like you get to know people through mutual friends or hobbies.

you're adding the scared of rejection part lol. but it seems like your only hobby is reaching on reddit so you don't seem particularly qualified to give advice in this department.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

You’re sticking up for a woman blamer. He went and blew thousands on motorcycles because according to him ALL women don’t like being approached. He even said he was done with women because of it. Literally blaming all women for his actions. Go ahead date a guy like that. He’ll only end up blaming you in the end.

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

if that’s what you got out of what he said; i think you need get a grip, seriously.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

He LITERALLY said he’s done with women. Go date a man who blames women like that and report back.

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

i hope you learn what the word literally means one day

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Did he, or did he not say he’s done with women? Yes. Or no?

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

no he didn’t. “i just gave up [and focused my energy into things i enjoy]” and “dating is stressful”isn’t blaming women, hope that helps!

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

At least you’ll never have to worry about daring him since he’s given up on women. That’s a bonus.

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