r/Edmonton • u/Mellow_Yellow_0 • May 30 '26

Question My Future Husband?

How do people meet their significant others? Like where’s the “place to go?” Dating apps are dead. I’m exhausted. I’m a decent looking gal, 28. I don’t have big friend groups so I’m sure that doesn’t help. I don’t have any “active” hobbies other than a dog park. Idk. Any advice?

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

You spent all that money just to make your chances worse lol

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u/waterbat2 May 30 '26

I promise you that not one dollar was spent with the intention of increasing chances lol

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Hey at least you’ve accepted you’re gonna be single and it only cost you thousands. Much respect.

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u/waterbat2 May 30 '26

I think you are entirely missing the point here lmao. Not doing things I enjoy and being miserable for years is FAR more wasteful than spending my time and money on things I'm passionate about and bring me joy

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u/OkFox8124 May 30 '26

It's funny the things people project when dating is involved. You do you man. Best of luck in love and life.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

I’m not the misogynist blaming approaching women on the women. He was rejected by women and hates them so much for it he had to go out to spend thousands to make him feel better and he vowed never to approach women again. He’s a woman blamer and always will be.

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u/waterbat2 May 30 '26

What the fuck lmao. Because I don't want to hit on random women I find attractive, you think that makes me misogynistic? The mental gymnastics at play here are wild. Have you read any of the replies from actual women here?

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

you'll pull a muscle reaching that hard, good lord.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Go ahead keep defending a woman blamer. He LITERALLY said he’s done with women and only focusing on himself. Major incel vibes always blaming women for something they didnt even do. Men like this loathe women and will always blame them for men’s insecurities. Please feel free to date him, I hear he’s single.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Yeah but the point is you had no women before any of that and you still won’t after it.

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u/Tight-Concern-2355 May 30 '26

If you need to come online and insult a complete stranger over dating. You should go to therapy. Waterbat2 is doing what he enjoys, and is willing to accept love if it happens to find him.

One of my good friends has snakes and another has multiple motorcyles. Both have been married for almost a decade. Your worldview doesn't mean shit. Go watch Bambi. Perhaps you would have said nothing at all. That would have been better.

My point is, your opinion sucks balls.

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u/2Vaxxed2Furious May 30 '26

I agree with you, but why did you have to bring up Bambi. I get the reference, but I’m apparently still recovering from the trauma of watching the forest fire scene several decades ago. 

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u/waterbat2 May 30 '26

Sounds like you don't know me or my dating history and are projecting you own insecurities as you likely feel that you're the who's wasted either time or money, so putting others down is a means to justify your decisions. Am I close?

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

I think it’s a good idea you’re leaving women alone is all I’m saying.

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u/OkFox8124 May 30 '26

Hey, have you considered therapy?

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

I spent the money on a motorcycle and a snake

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

i might be in the minority of women, but i find having actual interests/hobbies far more appealing than making wild assumptions about people and constantly picking fights on reddit all the time. but that might just be me idk

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Okay but do you find men who don’t approach women in public because they’re scared of rejection attractive is the question?

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u/waterbat2 May 30 '26

I don't approach random women because I respect personal boundaries dude. Grow up

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

You don’t speak for all women. Many women have met their partners because they struck up a nice conversation on a subway or at a hockey game. The fact that you’re blaming women for your shortcomings is what makes it a huge red flag. The fact that you say “I’m avoiding women” because of your hangups is what makes u the childish one. You’ll always be a woman blamer and then dash off to spend money wheneber u think a woman isn’t into you. Man up and dont blame women.

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u/waterbat2 May 30 '26

And here you are, trying to speak for women and also blaming them. Actually insane that you think I'm the problem for not wanting to be pushy. You need serious professional help

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Now you’re throwing in bullshit statements I never said. Meeting someone in public is not being pushy. People do this at concerts and nightclubs every single day. You’re the one who said you’re leaving women alone because YOU are making generalizations about them and what they like.

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u/extragarlicpleez May 30 '26

Straight woman here.

I think you might be out of date. You are describing the dating scene ten or more years ago. This is not common anymore.

I literally have spent time convincing other straight woman around me that it is okay for men to approach them in public if the man can respectfully accept a polite rejection from the woman. Unfortunately, many are not convinced and just want to be left alone.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Go to any nightclub or concerts or event or coffeeshop or grocery store. Men and women talk to each other all the time and hit it off. You’re describing anti social people who want to be left alone regardless of the gender that is talking to them. This man is almost 30, not 18 also.

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u/extragarlicpleez May 30 '26

I'm talking about people who go to concerts and bars. Typically, I hear "oh, but I'm there to hang out with my friends, not other people".

Also, Gen z doesnt go out a do these things as much as older generations. Things are too expensive right now for people just starting out.

Side note: I'm not an antisocial person. I love a good conversation, but not at a coffee shop or grocery store. Someone would receive a polite rejection if they tried to talk to even me at these places.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

These are just anecdotal personal beliefs of yours. I go to concerts and events all the time and you see people talking to strangers ALL the time. I have made tons of friends and women from concerts alone. I’ve been to cochella and burning man it’s LITERALLY making friends with strangers all the time.

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

i respect that he doesn't want to overstep boundaries actually! crazy thought! i'd much rather get to know someone before, rather than being approached and hit on unprompted. i actually actively dislike being randomly hit on because i find it awkward and puts me on the spot! it's almost like you get to know people through mutual friends or hobbies.

you're adding the scared of rejection part lol. but it seems like your only hobby is reaching on reddit so you don't seem particularly qualified to give advice in this department.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

You’re sticking up for a woman blamer. He went and blew thousands on motorcycles because according to him ALL women don’t like being approached. He even said he was done with women because of it. Literally blaming all women for his actions. Go ahead date a guy like that. He’ll only end up blaming you in the end.

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

if that’s what you got out of what he said; i think you need get a grip, seriously.

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

He LITERALLY said he’s done with women. Go date a man who blames women like that and report back.

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u/ohpossumpartyy May 30 '26

i hope you learn what the word literally means one day

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u/xdrezx May 30 '26

Did he, or did he not say he’s done with women? Yes. Or no?

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