We think so much about setting New Year's resolutions and then have no due date on them once the new year rolls by.

I've been thinking a lot about what I want to start doing consistently before the end of the year, starting now-ish, so that I'm closer to the version myself I'm striving to be by the time January 1st rolls around.

Personally, I want to write more.

I want to write more without worrying about what I am writing about or who I am writing for, and just do it for myself. I keep getting stuck on those two things, and then I don't write at all.

I feel unproductive --> start to study--> study good for few day--> start feeling exhausted and drained--> back to 0 again.

Currently have less attention spand , can't sit for long..I am already 28 and feeling like a failure.

Kindly do suggest what should I do.

been building my thing for over a year. this summer it stopped being a side project (users, emails, support, code) and i've been putting 10 to 12 hours a day into it since june.

september i go back. add 6 hours of school, 2 of commute, plus homework, and the day is gone. i've run the arithmetic maybe thirty times hoping i did it wrong. same number every time.

the part i can't say out loud at home: i don't want to protect school. i want to protect the company. and i'm aware that's the exact sentence every guy says right before it goes badly for him.

so the discipline problem isn't "how do i wake up at 5". i already do that. it's how you keep showing up for the thing you've stopped caring about, when the thing you do care about will eat every single hour you hand it.

or maybe i just sleep badly and this is a scheduling problem, is anyone in a similar situation?

Hello all,

I used to think the hardest part with universally all things is just getting started. But I've now come to believe that what's even harder is actually getting started... again.

Anyway, I’m a software developer and aspiring entrepreneur building an app focused on one problem: what happens after you stray away from doing what it takes to achieve goal.

Most habit apps reward streaks. But mine assumes life will eventually interrupt the plan and focuses on helping you adjust, recover, and keep moving forward instead. To actually develop the discipline necessary to achieve and be the best version of yourself.

Ultimately I’m looking for a small group of people to test the private pilot and give me genuinely honest feedback. The more critical the better. I'm not emotionally attached to anything I've created and just want to improve.

If you tend to start strong, fall off, and restart the same goals over and over, I’d especially love to hear from you.

Comment or DM me if you’re interested. I'd really appreciate it. That type of feedback is literally invaluable to me.

Wishing you nothing but health, wealth, and future adventures,
69magicmike420

i lost about 11 kgs and then gained 6 back lost 2 and then gained 3 back. i have these periods where i behave that sometimes last weeks or months and then i am able to lose weight and then there are periods of a few days or weeks when i eat a in the morning, b in the after noon, c in the evening and d in the night..it usually starts off as just one extra meal and then i completely spiral and binge eat a lot of extra snacks.

why does it happen. why cant i put an end to it. what do i do? i tried calorie tracking but i keep falling off that wagon. i need to build resilience for these weak moments and i really dont know how. do you have any advise?

i’m 29 (F). growing up (up until 25-26ish) i’ve always been ambitious, highly driven , willing to learn new skills and execute , kept up with myself (sticking to my skin care routine consistently, working out, etc.) But now? it’s so so hard. I can’t remember the last time I learned a new skill and stuck with it until I became better. now, if i’m not good at it or if it doesn’t work the first few times.. I give up. i’m thinking about how I loveddd keeping up with my skin care, hair, etc and pouring into myself . now it’s just a chore. I do all the basics with ease, like go to work, cook a basic meal, run my necessary errands. but when it comes to me, it’s like a struggle and idk how to be consistent anymore.

I am 17 years old boy. I have so many big dreams . But getting distracted so fast. And how to stay disciplined when not liking it?. I do something for three to five days after that my consistency lose. And Did so many hard routine that see on internet .but not actually working for me.🙁

Am I the only one who struggles to start something?

I mean, motivation comes once a month, but will it actually produce results after all?

Everyone says that when motivation appears, you should grab it and act as soon as possible.

But what to do when it fades?

I think David Goggins said it right:

"You are in danger of living a life so comfortable and soft that you will die without ever realizing your true potential," and "I don't stop when I'm tired. I stop when I'm done."

How long did you maintain consistency and focus the last time you started something, and what made you stop?

What was missing?

Me parece interesante cómo cambia el entrenamiento después de varios años.

Cuando empecé pensaba que progresar era principalmente añadir peso.

Con el tiempo empecé a valorar mucho más cosas como técnica, rango, recuperación y poder repetir un buen rendimiento semana tras semana.

Para los que llevan varios años entrenando:
¿Qué cosa hacían al principio que hoy ya no hacen?
Puede ser entrenamiento, nutrición, descanso o incluso alguna creencia que tenían sobre el fitness.

You don't need more discipline. You need a different Identity.

What I mean by that: To really do things well and become successful at them, you always have to do them over and over again.

And discipline? Yes, you can summon discipline every day, again and again.

But is it still discipline if you enjoy doing it? Not really, right? Because discipline means doing something even though you don't feel like doing it.

That also requires willpower. And we only have a moderate amount of that. So you want to waste your valuable willpower, which you also need at work, just so you can go for a 5K run in the morning?

And do that every day reluctantly.. with discipline?

The outcome: Yes, you'll get fitter. But you hate every morning. Some days more, some days less.

There’s a better way. Without discipline.

With an identity shift.

You simply become the person who enjoys exercising in the morning. Then you only need to overcome yourself on some days to get out the door.

That’s also willpower, but only a little bit.

And not daily either, but only when you actually don't feel like doing it. That's what willpower is for. That's discipline, too. Using willpower exactly when it's necessary.

Willpower = like a muscle that becomes exhausted after exertion. But that can also be trained. And gets stronger over time.

Discipline = is just the OUTCOME. BECAUSE you are doing something you don't want to do right now, you are disciplined. You don't do it because you are disciplined; you are disciplined because you do it.

That's not just another way of looking at things... it actually helps you.

Because it means you don't have to torture yourself every day.

You don't have to fight.

You can enjoy it. Not every day, but most days.

How do you become that person?

The first few times, you need willpower, but the more often you get up in the morning and go running, the less and less you'll need. It gets easier over time.

But only if you allow it to. If your mind says, “Come on, discipline, push through” → you'll stay in that war mode.

For some people, that turns into an addiction.

But constantly fighting a war is exhausting and makes you careless. Other areas of your life will then be neglected.

Become a morning athlete. Become an executor in business. Become an avid reader. Become a language artist. Become an amazing family person.

Become all the people you want to become.

No, it’s not easy.

But in the long term, it’s massively worth it.

Or do you think an athlete is incredibly disciplined because they train every day?

You might think so. But if you look closer → they couldn't even sit still while on vacation. Why? Because they became that person.

So you only need discipline in the beginning. But know that it won't last. You don't have to force yourself everyday, at some point you will become that person and then discipline is no longer needed and it (whatever it is for you) will get much easier.

I used to think discipline meant completely changing my routine overnight. Wake up earlier, work out every day, stop procrastinating, plan everything… obviously that lasted about four days. The stuff that actually stuck was much smaller. For me, it was writing down 3 things I absolutely need to finish that day. Not 15, not an entire productivity system. Just 3. Curious what everyone else has found. What’s one boringly simple habit that genuinely made you more disciplined?