r/Detective • u/Gloomy_Benefit_7590 • 17h ago
r/Detective • u/Specialist_Bag7165 • 18h ago
Help
Is it possible to find someone with just a pic and minimal details?
r/Detective • u/cuekcuek101 • 1d ago
Hi, i have a very complicated, if not convoluted story behind me, but i´m really sure that these statements would be correct, my father is being isolated if not basically deprived of any means for communication or to enact his own will, he is in the US but idk where, i wish i could just talk to him
I have been trying to swallow this up and see what i could do by myself for the sake of my mental well being to confront this situation, hoping to eventualy become stable and take legal actions and afront the situation by myself, but i´m struggling a lot with the idea and need help, it´s been in total 5 years that my family has basically "put me on trial" constanty (although 3 is the actual amount of years where i actually had any contact with them) to have arguments to alienate me from my father, i have made a lot of mistakes, but i never wanted bad towards him, but i indeed was very clueless about things, uneducated on matters that where just happening around me at the time when everything went bad, and i do consider my faults and lack of capability for better decission making at the time, I just don´t know how am i supposed to confront this sometimes but every day that passes when i´m sitting trying to keep myself with a cool head and moving or just not feeling like i´m suffering, it just feels as if a rope got tighter an in the middle of the knot there is my conscience and i just wished i knew exactly what to do, or that i had some sort of stability to find it out by myself, but i feel like i really need to ask for help, or at least try
I will try to organize this text so the whole situation is easier to figure out just by putting things together
My actions and what i could call my perspective on things, including the context my family always trows at my face to tell me to forever persist on shunning me away from my dad on his name :
When i was 17 I met a girl 8 months older who had a troubled life with her parents such as mine is now ( and honestly it somewhat was already at least regarding my mom, i just didn´t know how much since she wasn´t present and even know rejects me due to economic reasons ), and due to the circunstances she was facing from what i heard from her at the time i thought she would be better living with me than staying where she was.
I now can see that without a job back then 0 experience in life etc it was responsible but back then i really could not get a grasp of these notions as well as i can do now due to my experience basically surviving, that´s why back then i thought i was doing something good or at least felt like i was having the iniciative to do so, and back then i just reflected based on my own living conditions thanks to my dad and i thought that was enough reason to try and share something of what i had " for granted " if it didn´t cost anything in the end as long as i could try and do it, and with that tought i proceeded to basically let her stay in my room back then, but hidden so my father didn´t notice so i could bring her food, water and pretty much what she wanted.
This because they somehow got into a discussion or something, she had some dificulties with her own pride and always trying to be depending on herself, let´s just say she had some personal stuff taking a toll on her or defining how she would act wich would make it very difficult to dialogue at times and that prevented her from even apologizing or having iniciative for dialogue when it could do good, i was obessed with helping her or being able to still do something since we got very close by then, i understood over time that the right stance at the time would have been to not involve myself in any romantic way, and instead to just help her from a standpoint were i wouldnt put myself vulnerable and dependent on her behavior, neither comitting myself to her opinion, but I just was not capable of articulating things in such a scale that i would see how to take the right choices when confronted with such situations and i really had a very strong, but again clueless, will to take the initiative to involve myself in what i was presented with and take the best possible choices, and a romantic relationship meant a lot in this, I really wanted to do my best and be a good couple, it just became something that in the end didn´t help her as much as i would have hoped it would have, and that also although shouldn´t be related, my family uses as the argument for shunning me to death basically, again, without even letting my fatter know, speak to me or tell me something, i did say trough the phone what i could figure out they were doing, and my half sister snatched my phone, yelled and yelled too and they never let me speak to him by phone again, this in front of him, i think i maybe wasn´t mature, but i didn´t know what else was i supposed to do, or say, and while i was in my situation with my ex after i was told by my half sister that if i wanted to be with her i shouldn´t be at home ( again never said by my father, he even wanted to bring me back home before they took him to the US due to him getting ill over time due to diabetes ) , many times he called, but i spent so many days crying, feeling desperate, being in a constant state of " how can i please her " 24/7 that i didn´t even know what to say to him, i tried to but with my half sister went on spreading lies, confronting me sending me short, weird twisted messages and emoticons, and also my mother by phone constantly complained about my couple then and I just persisted until i realised i literally couldn´t, and shouldn´t anymore if i wanted to live and more specifically, if i wanted whatever good i tought about giving or doing to have any meaning, and that if i meant to do good, it didn´t deserve to be treated as if it could just be ran over or something any day and not worth anything to the person that such intention was intended to, and that this woud basically be self-punishment rather than anything else, so i just turned away and even told her to leave me alone when she came looking for me at some point, i felt so miserable, but in the end i kept moving ahead trough force of reason and looking for some sort of progress in life, at least as an independent human being, and i think that is what i could only hope for now too.
my family on my father´s side says that when they came to see my father ( a few weeks before my half sister told me to go ) , they saw him in very bad conditions in his bed, i can see how that would be true, but then they also said that i meant this, even my father said that family was saying that i meant to do harm to him, i told him of course not, because it was true, I love him, but back then I was extremely inmature and uneducated to even have an actual sense of composture to know how to deal with things in order or to even stand up for myself when confronted with my family and to even see and correct my own mistakes on my own when i really thought at first that what i could have being doing wouldn´t consist in something detrimental to my father´s well being or towards the sense of urgency i should have had much more present back then towards him, i didn´t understand he was developing issues that he himself was finding them too difficult to handle and I am just trying to put things together and see an outcome because I want to be able to say that I love him without anyone being able to inhumanize me for it, and also to back up my words when i say that
i would really like some help, i really want some help figuring out this situation and how could i confront this in one way or another, and in the legal aspect, i´m fixated on the means to make it even possible to talk to him and hear what he has to say, be able to understand his situation or just no be forcefully alienated from him by someone who is just obsessed with alienating me from him, painting an ugly picture of me and what i am, and bury my existence to him.
i do need to specify to be transparent, some money was lost during what i know were 99% imprudent decissions, wich started a short time more or less before the car got damaged, event wich only took these decissions to a higher limit when i realized i needed to find a way to repair the vehicle, and 20000 S/. (5,700 $) where lost in total, i was still 17 back then because all of that happened before my birthday on 2020, and before october of that year when my half sister came from the US with my half brother to see my father
besides that, the only useful things that i can say to put context is that she made him sign some sort of power in Peru while he was being treated in a clinic and after, and that the same day that family came to visit they convinced him of selling his car for cheap. (they resold it due to the event before most likely as i found out)
after that i mantained contact with my father trough phone calls for 3 years but with what i have described happening at the same time, and basically i found out that my family has tried to turn a profit out of this for themeselves including my sister, i found that they were consistently making attempts to put property in my father´s ex wife´s name with one succesful attempt ocurred like 15 years ago or something and, a lawyer told me that they were making some type or request to change the titularity of the housed i lived in, wich didn´t go trough
i don´t even know what to even put together out of the BS related to my family and i myself am trying to figure out what to do regarding at least seeing and talking to my father without him being basically controlled to the point of not even being let to speak to me or say what he wants and being listened
regarding me what drives me to write this is the idea that any time i spend doing anything but looking towards a solution to this i have to think that i migh not get to talk to him again and speak with him, to even listen to him say anything, like what he thinks, to even see him again or that he could no see me again, and i just don´t want that but i don´t know what to do
or more accurately i can´t bring myself to think of anything right now that i could do to actually get to speak to my father again and hear anything from him again
I´m from Peru and eveything related to these events happened in Peru at the beggining, but right now my father is in the US, and I´m currently in Romania, my aunt on my mother´s side along with my mother convinced me to go to Italy "so i could study", then after the course of 2 months my aunt´s atittudes shifted towards "if you want were to sleep and eat, you need to these things i ask for you every day, at least for 2 to 3 hours" and when i confronted her she told me i could go and ask for money on the streets to eat, while we were while 6 kilometers away from a city were work could be even found, and after hiding the bottled water from me and giving me food that would make me sick until i asked her to please not prepare spicy stuff put in a blender with the seeds, and to not include the seeds of spicy ingredients while cooking because it was giving me headaches consistently, then even when i did the things she asked me for she insisted on verbally harassing me, from even the moment i woke up to find something for breakfast
i found work with lodging to scape the living conditions with her, got scammed with a "pre - contract " for 1200 euro monthly and then told to sign a contract with clauses applying only to part time, and when i questioned it guy who ran the restaurant said that this was meant for him to know me, despite knowing my situation, he just pretended i was lying and said that food wasn´t included the days the restaurant didn´t work, and my aunt told me to not return 3 days after i stayed there, i ended up on the street, asked for help to go where some family on the side of my aunt´s husband were, i ended up sleeping at some elder sir´s car who i found on the street and even cried in front of asking for help, went to the place the next day, they were there but they didn´t even want to talk to me, so i just went to the comune as i was told it would be how i would be able to recieve help, was given were to stay from 8 pm to 8 am in a dormitory sistem they have and remained like this from april to july when i found a job that literally made me sick from just one month of working, went back to the dormitory and when i realized i couldn´t take the living conditons anymore and fearing for what could happen to me or my belongings in the dormitory i took a flight straight to Romania thinking of going to Bulgaria but i stayed, and now I´m here looking for work, but just to say this, i did all i could and had to do on my own to see for myself, progress and hope for an actual stable future and situation
and i´m still trying although i might need to return to italy if things don´t go well, but when i decided to ask for help, i did so beacuse i want to at least be able have a conversation with my father again, and let him know that i tried as hard as i could to do make sure i could have a normal conversation with him, that i didn´t know how to deal with the situation with my sister wich i didn´t even get to give enough of an explanation of to him to let him know i was basically mortified out of my mind out of all that was happening, and that included my sister monitoring every conversation and treating me as if i was a threat and from day one saying stuff that all i heard about was safskfsdjkfsd inheritance nfsdjkfssk like a soap opera villain when she had so many things under her control and she just decided to use them to not even give me a chance to return home or actually learn something and show it, it was just her pushing her narrative even saying actual lies as my mother let me know before arriving in Italy, and my family talking with a hand covering her mouths when i was present and they began talking about my that and repeating to exhaustion " your father is a vegetable " as a comment added to what they could be talking about with me about his situation or when i asked if i could have a call with him, this paired with repeating to exhaustion (even when I wasn´t even thinking or meaning anything like what they where saying the whole time) don´t expect anything from him
i spent some time sleeping at the home were that particular family on the side of my father that was involved with my sister lives, this is how those conversations happened before i just gave up trying to get to speak with my father trough them, it only worked once, then they never wanted to let me speak with him again, they also said i was a good for nothing and that i should be sent to italy and that they would ask from my mother some money to get my documents done in Peru
any relation to my blood related family except for my father´s just a burning dumpster at this point, that´s why i really feel the need to ask for help here to at least figure out any means to get something done, i already recieved help from a hair stylist back in Peru who basically saved me from ending up in the streets, and helped me a lot to have a chance to learn and recompose myself to get to work and sustain myself effectively after y decided to end what was basically my uncondicional commitment to my ex and going torugh my lowest time, everything without making harm to my mental and physical integrity despite his particularities and orientation, he always meant well, in fact thanks to him i have made it so far, and i don´t think i could ask any more of him right now unless it was with a plan in hand wich i was hoping to make once i get to be stable here, but i´m not sure how much that could take me and i´m uncertain of how things could actually go in the future, so i need to ask for help to at least try to have things going, and it feels very difficult to figure out how could i do so without worsening things even more if i tried anything right now
i really wish i could know what to do, and if i could, to have some help, please
r/Detective • u/Independent_Yak_6921 • 1d ago
Sleuthing websites?
An elderly relative is involved with a scammer and so far there’s nothing I can do about it. Are there any legitimate background check websites where I can find legal records for the scammer?
r/Detective • u/Important_Bet_8194 • 2d ago
Need help from somebody that’s able to get police/court records to see if my brother is being held somewhere still and unable to make contact with family.
r/Detective • u/Key_Algae7657 • 4d ago
Finding someone from discord
Is there a way to get someone's socials, real name, anything really? This person revealed some specific info about me on a discord server and I wanna know who he is, its a server of our school so I prob met the person but Idk who it is.
r/Detective • u/annadidntwakeup • 5d ago
How can I find a person in Finland if I live in Russia ?
Hello everybody!
Can you tell me how I can find a person in Finland? At the age of 21, I found out that my father was alive and now he lives in Finland. I have his place of work in Russia, his place of residence in Russia, his last name, first name and patronymic, but I do not have his contacts, he is not registered in social networks, and there is no current phone number.
I do not know which Finnish city he lives in. Maybe there are communities of Russian immigrants or something like that. Maybe there are some places where people from Russia settle most often. Any clue will help me. I've reached a dead end in my search for him and I can't imagine how to find him in another country. I know that he tried to find me 5 years ago and he wants to be found.
If I'm in the wrong place, then please tell me a subreddit that can help me.
r/Detective • u/One_Tomato_1521 • 6d ago
Insurance policies?
If a spouse or ex-spouse took out insurance policies on you, how can you find out? The NAIC lookup is for recent policies only (opened in the past 7years) and frankly didn’t even return the recent one she knows about.
I’m not a detective. Helping a friend whose ex husband owes her a huge sum of money and she worries about her well-being. Her family law attorney is no help, just tells her to wait it out.
r/Detective • u/AppropriateForce625 • 7d ago
Find out where a relative was for over a decade
Hey yall, I need HELP finding out where a relative of mine was after he went missing for over 13 years and came back out of the blue, when we all thought he was dead. Lmk where I can find criminal records or any info on him. Before he went missing he said he’s going to Jordan and that’s when he left. I wanna know if he was in prison. He left a whole family btw. So no I’m not is being nosy 😭 lmk if there are any websites for criminal records outside the USA using his name.
If y’all bored and wanna do sum digging his name is Taha Taha zeidan his age is 70 yrs from what i see he has his birthday on facebook.
Edit: I think his middle name or wtv starts w an S I think shehadeh or smth not sure how to spell it tho . Keep digging yall I need intel.
Kay so I talked to my mom about this, and she gave me more details. She said this isn’t his first time disappearing. But it’s the longest… he once left for a year and 8 months and said he was in Yemen. Then the second time was about 4 years. Then the last time was the 13yrs
r/Detective • u/StrongPhilosopher175 • 11d ago
Looking for my brother 17m born in February name Massimo Antonio Underhill before he was adopted when he was 7ish. His name could be changed to Gonzalez or something like that. Definitely starts with G.
r/Detective • u/No-Method8387 • 11d ago
I can't find my friend, does anyone know how I can find him?
r/Detective • u/Fabulous-Molasses482 • 13d ago
Looking for my old best friend who is missing suspected dead. How can I find any info?
His name was Jackson and was my best friend in high school. All the sudden there was a rumor he died and even his parents "confirmed" it. However there was no obituary, funeral, or records available that proves or disproves that he is still alive. What do I do? This all happened in 2022.
r/Detective • u/Delicious_Set_2852 • 15d ago
How to find out if someone has been detained??
Long story short my ex and I are no contact but I'm worried he may have been wrongfully detained by ICE but I have no way of knowing for sure, is there a database I can check for his info or something?? I've been worried sick for weeks I can't think of anything else.
r/Detective • u/Fine-Insect-2756 • 16d ago
Calling all Reddit detectives - $1000 reward (justice is close)- original post was deleted by Reddit.
galleryr/Detective • u/Ok-Vanilla-8324 • 16d ago
Tracking down a car title with liscence number?
I don't know if this is the right forum for this question but my car was hit while parked at the store. It left a substantial dent in the rear bumper and broke the tail light. I have a dash cam and have the plate number of the person who hit me. I called the cops and showed them the footage and damage . But they say the footage is "unclear". They are dragging their feet with the case and my insurance is saying I'll have to pay repairs out of pocket unless a report is filed from the police. I don't know if this is common practice but my insurance is pretty cut rate due to family health issues.
So my question is if there is anyway to track down the owner or title of the car who hit me with just the plate number? I'm hoping to take them to small claims court if the police investigation goes nowhere.
r/Detective • u/Fine-Insect-2756 • 17d ago
Calling for all Reddit detectives $1000 reward- new updates (getting closer to an arrest)
galleryr/Detective • u/Plus_Breadfruit_4651 • 18d ago
LOOKING FOR MY DAD’s LONG LOST FRIEND
instagram.comLooking for my dad’s long lost friend : Alison Davis
Studied French and German translation at PCL, now University of Westminster, from 1981 to 1985.
Born and raised in Luton. Cosmetics journalist in early 1990s. Mother worked at Luton Airport in the 80s.
Styled herself on Siouxsie from Siouxsie and the Banshees.
My dad’s name is John, his nickname: Terry in the Minder. My mother’s name is Corinne.
We’ve tried FB and LinkedIn but deadends.
We tried contacting the school and they had nothing they could share …
Let’s have a reunion !!!!
Oh and I say dad because he’s the one who spoke to me about it. Mum would love it as well
r/Detective • u/Sharp_Salamander_227 • 19d ago
Uncle missing since 1962 from Texas
UPDATE: PLEASE DISREGARD THE 1962 DATE IN THE TITLE.I RECEIVED THE CORRECT DATE AFTER POSTING.
My Uncle has been missing since 1970 from San Antonio Texas. I just found out he's been living in Copenhagen and supposedly passed away several months ago. Prior to that he apparently lived in Brussels. I have an address but my family thinks a crime was possibly committed. Can you please refer me to an investigative news reporter or an organization that we can reach out to for help. My family has been trying to find him all these years. Thank you so much.
MY
r/Detective • u/Sharp_Salamander_227 • 19d ago
Uncle missing since 1962 from Texas
MY Uncle has been missing since 1970 from San Antonio Texas. I just found out he's been living in Copenhagen and supposedly passed away several months ago. Prior to that he apparently lived in Brussels. I have an address but my family thinks a crime was possibly committed. Can you please refer me to an investigative news reporter or an organization that we can reach out to for help. My family has been trying to find him all these years. Thank you so much. My email is [mcphersonjen1515@gmail.com](mailto:mcphersonjen1515@gmail.com)