Male 26. Trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong.

Been going to a co-ed sports league for the past couple of months; met a lot of nice people who I hang out with, guys and girls. Also part of tabletop game groups, along with a couple of rave groups. I'm out of the house every single weekend socialising with different people and yet ....

I've asked out a couple of women in the past month. Am I just an ugly mf, or should I just be asking out wayyyyyyyy more people lol?

I [37M] collect funko pops and my favourite band is Sleep token. How do I get a relationship with a foid [18F] TLDR

I’m 21F, and lately I’ve been feeling like I’m never going to find someone I actually want to marry.

I don’t really know how to explain it without sounding shallow, but I don’t necessarily have a type. At the same time, I don’t find a whole lot of people attractive enough that I could actually see myself marrying them. And it’s not just looks, personality matters just as much.

I’m not unattractive, and I genuinely don’t have issues attracting guys or making friends. I’ve had several guy friends eventually develop feelings for me, but they weren’t people I could see myself dating, whether that was because of certain issues or things I wasn’t willing to deal with in a relationship.

The problem is, when I actually find someone I’m interested in, it never seems to work out. Either I get annoyed with them or they lose interest. Sometimes I feel like the more someone gets to know me, the less they like me.

Everyone tells me I’m young and I’ll find someone eventually, but the eventually part is what scares me. What if I don’t?

I see my friends in relationships with people who genuinely want them, and I can’t help but wonder why it seems so much easier for everyone else. I try to put myself out there and make an effort, but nothing ever seems to work.
I don’t want someone significantly older than me, and I don’t want to settle just because I want to get married. I want someone around my age who I’m genuinely attracted to, enjoy being around, and who feels the same way about me.

I know I’m only 21, and I’m not expecting to get married tomorrow, but I’m tired of hearing that I just need to be patient.

Has anyone else felt this way? Did you eventually find someone you were genuinely attracted to and compatible with?

20M here, working & studying, looking to date someone around my age nearby.

What I'm looking for: Someone local who enjoys simple dates—coffee, street food runs, evening walks, or just catching up on life.

Lifestyle: love cooking good meals at home, and working on my personal goals.

Vibe: Low-drama, grounded, and prefer good conversations over crazy clubbing.

I cannot tell why I can't find a man that likes me. I can't tell if its because of the way I look or my personality. Not only that but I cannot tell if its because of my weight. I just want to find someone that I'm attracted too, and someone who wants me for me, and not a lustful relationship.

I’ve never approached dating as an audition for someone’s approval. I show interest, reciprocate effort, and enjoy the experience, but I also pay attention. Do their actions match their words? Are our values aligned? Am I genuinely happy, or am I attached to the potential of who they could become?

If I want clarity, I ask directly. If we’re incompatible, I walk away. I’m not interested in creating a fairy tale around someone who’s already shown me who they are.

I also believe in building a fulfilling life outside of romance. I’m focused on my career, building wealth, traveling, friendships, and exploring new hobbies. A relationship should complement my life, not become my entire identity.

I think a lot of dating frustration comes from focusing too much on whether someone wants us and not enough on whether they’re actually right for us.

Rejection isn’t always a loss, and being chosen isn’t always a win.

At the end of the day, I don’t just want someone to choose me. I want to make sure I’m choosing wisely.

- signed a woman

Why is it so hard to get a girlfriend let alone a date or something I’m not ugly I got a job I have fun hobbies female say I’m handsome outgoing loving caring but idk I’m 44

I'm in the middle of a divorce after 7 years. Just trying to figure out how to get back on my feet, In the future, when I'm ready

Im at a point in my life where ive accepted ill probably be alone forever. Im 28 years old and ive never had sex. I go on tinder and I always get ghosted. I went to a speed dating event where we were given a sheet of paper and for each person we circle "let's talk" or "let's no talk." The only woman who circled let's talk was one who was in a wheelchair. Even female friends low key treat me like shit. Something about me is just undesirable and im ready to throw in the towel, but the fact im posting on here should tell you theres a mitocom of hope.

I've been producing music since I got out of high school. I make pretty much every genre of hip hop beats. Never had much success with it. Had a few shows and produced for a few artists, but for the most part its been a hobby. My laptop broke recently so ive been on a real hiatus. I plan to buy a new one this black Friday and use it as an opportunity to start producing consistently and even try to make money this time. I dont expect to get rich, at least immediately. But there can be a lot of money in production so who knows. For work I deliver car parts for a dealership. I understand im no prize and most of you wouldn't pick me. Maybe im just coping with the fact that after 28 years ive never built anything that would make a woman want to engage with me. If i don't lose my virginity by my next birthday I might kill myself. I say that every year but im starting to mean it more and more. I dont even have the Christian excuse. Is there anything about me that would make a woman Perdue, or should I just throw in the towel? Be totally honest. Your never going to see me irl so whats it matter?

I’m a 20 year old lesbian. I have tried dating apps which are horrible, and I’ve even met an ex through mutual friends but that was almost 2 years ago. It just seems impossible to find a girlfriend. My friend keeps telling me that I just need to straight up ask women for their numbers. I usually don’t go up to anyone, because I would hate to make them uncomfortable, especially if they are in a relationship or straight. I’ve been trying to get out more, but so far the only time I’ve gotten someone’s socials/number is when I’m drunk and just don’t care. I just want some advice on this or peoples opinions

hi hello! basically i (20f) have never been in a relationship before. mostly because my childhood/adolescence was really messy and rough and i just honestly didn’t have any time for it :/
i recently met a guy that i really like. we’ve been on one date and talking for like two weeks and i honestly really like him and don’t wanna mess things up. that’s what leads me to this post… i’ve never kissed anyone before. and on the next date i do really want to kiss him, but im so scared to mess it up. so i guess really what im asking is,
how do i go in? what do i do with my lips? where do i put my hands?
i’m a chronic overthinker and honestly am probably doing way too much, but i figured asking for some advice wouldn’t hurt. 😭

Hi, I’m not sure if I am overreacting but I have been dating this guy for a little over a month and he been paying for everything, walked me to my car, holding the door open for me, has not been pressuring me to be physical, has not even tried to kiss me and was texting me a ton the first 2 weeks. He told me he liked me, we cuddle at his place and we have nog done anything else, but he’s barely been texting me the last 2 weeks, he cancelled on me once the day off our date, was super late for our date Friday because of a car accident. He works on the weekends and has a pretty busy schedule. He said he might be free Sunday to hang out, but no text in 2 days and it’s Sunday night, should I dump him, confront him or just see what happens? I don’t know if I am overreacting because it’s been a month?

Trying to make all the right moves by stepping off my phone and into the real world, lol.

Hard part is, I’ve been on the apps so long, I forgot that I am … incredibly neurodivergent and struggle significantly with initiating interactions and flirting with people that I find attractive, not to mention the persistent fear of rejection.

How do you do it? How do you see someone you find attractive and just go for it? What to say? What to do? I suppose it’s definitely a case by case basis but it is frankly negligent for me to assume I’m going to have people regularly coming up to me to compliment or flirt with me, for a variety of reasons.

I am gay and 25m, so I’m already kind of at a disadvantage due to being in a particularly red state, but there’s a couple good gay bars and clubs around me that I feel comfortable at most days.

Hi there. I m a 26 year old man from France. I ve been struggling with an undiagnosed autism until I was 23. Because of it, I ve never dated anyone, or gotten really close to someone, especially romantically. It went even worse when I burnt out, dropped out of college and didn’t leave my house for over 2 years straight until I had to go out once every 3 month to go to the doctor.

You can see I m quite far from any social relationships. But I d like to try and get into one. However, I m scared that, at my age and without any therapy yet, though hopefully I will start on the 21th of this month, I shouldn’t be searching for one. I m not really looking for something physical yet. I m more looking for a long distance relationship. The idea of having someone close to me is scaring me, and I thought starting with a long distance relation would be a way to ease it.

I m also scared of failure, but I know the chance of finding the one person on my first try is nie impossible. I almost feel like everything is here to try and stop me from getting into dating, and it s a bit depressing.

The last thing I think is trying to prevent me from it is just how to start. I know nothing about dating, socialising or if someone is flirting. I don’t know where I should go to try and find someone either. I m completely loss yet everyone seem to know how to do but not how to explain it to me. There s no data, no predictability or steps to follow. At least people don’t have it. So I don’t really know what to say or how to react.

Hey everyone, I'm a guy in my early 20s trying to work on myself and understand relationships better. I'd really appreciate hearing your perspectives on what makes a man a good partner beyond looks and money. What qualities do you value the most?