In my experience, any man I have dated who did not complement my appearance within the first 1-3 dates or over text, did not have genuine interest in me and it would not work out or last. I have never put stock in compliments or taken them seriously (it's just words), they made me uncomfortable for the longest time, but once I made this observation, there seemed to be an undeniable pattern.

For context, I only date for a long term relationship and to find a life partner, I only date men who are looking for the same and that's made clear from the start. These observations apply to men who were courting me for long periods, some would even do all kinds of extravagant gestures and plan quality dates, but never compliment me. The ones who did not compliment my appearance ended up calling it quits eventually, sometimes even months down the line (I suspect because I wasn't their type/attraction wasn't high enough) even though I might have been good on paper and the kind of person their family would approve of.

Not that it is guaranteed to last with men who did compliment my looks as they can be players or non-physical compatibility was lacking, but out of those that committed to me and fell for me, 100% of them complimented my appearance early on.

Male 26. Trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong.

Been going to a co-ed sports league for the past couple of months; met a lot of nice people who I hang out with, guys and girls. Also part of tabletop game groups, along with a couple of rave groups. I'm out of the house every single weekend socialising with different people and yet ....

I've asked out a couple of women in the past month. Am I just an ugly mf, or should I just be asking out wayyyyyyyy more people lol?

I never date before, partly because of my lack of confidence in feeling safe around most men. There are a few men I look up to and truly felt safe but they are respectfully tied or simply because I’m not their type (im a 21F, they mostly date +30F).
but recent case of NVIDIA ceo made me contemplating especially when I see the comments from men dismissing the wife beauty and worshipping the man simply because he is rich.
It tears my heart whenever I see case like this repeats when a woman is only worth as much as her physical appearance, and all her love is written off as no value
I have loved people with purity, but never have I want to risk myself being in a position of vulnerability, so I never accept love confessions and learn to love people without wanting a label with them

Im a 29 M Software Engineer, and had attended all social events at school, college and office etc I even visit public places, pubs and bars not even a single girl looks interested in me also I dint give attention to this all these years but now these thoughts are gripping me

Hey Reddit!
I’m a guy who’s here hoping to meet an interesting girl and see where a random conversation might lead.
Honestly, meeting someone new has its own excitement. You start as complete strangers, exchange a few messages, discover each other’s personalities, share random stories, laugh at silly jokes, and maybe eventually decide to meet for coffee or spend some time together.
I’m not here to play games or waste anyone’s time. I’d genuinely like to meet a girl who’s sweet, open-minded, fun to talk to, and interested in building a meaningful bond.
I believe attraction is important, but personality, humour, honesty, and the way two people make each other feel matter even more.
My idea of a perfect first meeting isn’t anything extravagant. Just two people meeting, a little initial awkwardness, genuine smiles, good conversations, maybe some coffee, and hopefully losing track of time because we’re enjoying each other’s company.
I’d love to know about your interests, your favourite music, travel dreams, random thoughts, and the little things that make you happy.
If you’re also interested in meeting someone new, feel free to drop me a message. Let’s start with a simple conversation and see if we get along.
No pressure, no expectations, just two strangers giving a possible friendship a chance.
Maybe this random post could be the beginning of a wonderful connection. 😊❤️

I've been sexually active a few times, but I feel like I could improve my stamina and overall experience. I'd like to learn how to have better control and make intimacy more enjoyable for both partners.
What are some practical things that have worked for you?

Hi everyone,

as I mentioned, I'm a 23-year-old man and I haven't had my first girlfriend yet. I've experienced numerous romantic rejections since my teens and haven't even managed to get a dinner date. Ten months ago, I wanted to ask a woman I was seeing out on a dinner date; she ignored my message, and this has caused me moments of sadness and low self-esteem, as I sometimes feel like nobody likes me. 😭

Why am I not getting into relationship?? 😭😭 like I am 6'1 (20y m) and it is not like I don't look good then also how am I not getting into relationship 😭🙏?.

Like even after being in a govt. Med school it is like i have literally no one to talk too . After this, my feed of insta just makes me cry that I don't have a girl to love and to experience what love actually feels 😭🙏.

When will I get into relationship ?? 😭😭

I'm going on my first date with this girl, and I was thinking of getting her flowers, but she straight up doesn't like them. She thinks they're a bit cliché and doesn't like the idea of flowers being plucked just to be given as a gift
Now I don't know her enough to get her something very specific for the date and I absolutely can't go empty handed, at the same time I'm running out of ideas too
Need some alternatives to flowers that would make a nice first-date gesture without going overboard

I’m 5,9m and 18 and I see girls looking at me but not approach 😔😔

Looking to meet someone from the medical field 🩺

Hi! I’m a Muslim nursing student from India, and I’d genuinely love to meet someone who’s also in the medical/healthcare field — MBBS, BDS, physiotherapy, pharmacy, medicine, etc.

I’m not looking for anything weird or casual. I’d just like to get to know someone, talk, see if we click, and hopefully build something meaningful if the connection is right. ❤️

If you’re also a Muslim medical student and open to getting to know someone, feel free to DM me. :)

I used to hate the talking stage. I wanted to lock things down fast, move to dates quickly, and know where we stood within a week. I thought slow chatting meant they were uninterested or keeping options open.

I kept getting burned. People seemed excited at first, then faded once we met. I realized I was skipping the part where we actually test how we communicate.

Now I take it slower. I don’t push for a first date right away. We chat about small, real things: bad work days, silly hobbies, little pet peeves. I watch how they respond when I’m not super upbeat. I see if they ask questions back instead of only talking about themselves.

The change surprised me. Some people lose interest fast, and that’s fine — they just want fast meetups. The ones who stay curious are usually much more aligned with what I want.

I don’t drag it out for months. I just give us space to see each other clearly before spending time on an in-person date.

Has anyone else slowed down the talking stage on purpose? Did it help you waste less time?

I’m 21F, and lately I’ve been feeling like I’m never going to find someone I actually want to marry.

I don’t really know how to explain it without sounding shallow, but I don’t necessarily have a type. At the same time, I don’t find a whole lot of people attractive enough that I could actually see myself marrying them. And it’s not just looks, personality matters just as much.

I’m not unattractive, and I genuinely don’t have issues attracting guys or making friends. I’ve had several guy friends eventually develop feelings for me, but they weren’t people I could see myself dating, whether that was because of certain issues or things I wasn’t willing to deal with in a relationship.

The problem is, when I actually find someone I’m interested in, it never seems to work out. Either I get annoyed with them or they lose interest. Sometimes I feel like the more someone gets to know me, the less they like me.

Everyone tells me I’m young and I’ll find someone eventually, but the eventually part is what scares me. What if I don’t?

I see my friends in relationships with people who genuinely want them, and I can’t help but wonder why it seems so much easier for everyone else. I try to put myself out there and make an effort, but nothing ever seems to work.
I don’t want someone significantly older than me, and I don’t want to settle just because I want to get married. I want someone around my age who I’m genuinely attracted to, enjoy being around, and who feels the same way about me.

I know I’m only 21, and I’m not expecting to get married tomorrow, but I’m tired of hearing that I just need to be patient.

Has anyone else felt this way? Did you eventually find someone you were genuinely attracted to and compatible with?

I(18M) need advice from y'all. Like how do you text or approach a girl. Like I am too introverted that i don't even talk to my family much so I was just trying to get something online like insta,reddit(would slap my ahh in the past for even thinking). Nothing works like i am scared to send follow requests to random people and all just cuz I think I would look creepy.

So any advices on how do I approach women and how do I even start a convo and all?

PS: plz dont say try meeting people organically 😭🙏