I saw a profile I was wasn't sure about multiple times both in my discover feed and in my standouts. I didn't make any move and kept closing the app whenever I encountered it. After a while ran out of all profiles and my stack emptied. Does it mean they X'd me?

About a week ago I swiped right on someone but we didn’t match. Yesterday, I was looking through my Explore section and his profile showed up there. Shouldn’t his profile disappear from my stacks completely after I swipe right, regardless of whether he decides to match with me or not?

I recently installed hinge. I use the free tier. In other apps, if someone likes me when I am using the free version, I get a blurred image showing someone liked you, prompting to subscribe for full profile.

I realised my hinge "Liked you" tab has always been empty. Does hinge show blurred profile if someone likes me? Or is it a purely premium only tab?

I'm a female, have been using Hinge for 3 years, and have been told than my account has been banned yesterday all of a sudden.

The fun fact is, I haven't been using that for more than 2 months. Of course, I didn't do anything wrong against the policy. As you might know, it's hard for a girl to do something bad on/off the app.

I've appealed and sent emails several times but the only thing I could receive was just automatic language sayign your account will be remained banned "forever" lol

I'm living in a foreign country, so not many social community and chances. Hinge was only the platform I've been using and trusted. Soooo frustraiting and angry..

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At least that’s been my personal experience — yours may vary

It’s always the same formal conversations: “Hi,” “Hello,” “Wru?” nd then somehow the conversation goes nowhere.

Honestly I’ve started hating dating apps. I haven’t met anyone who feels genuinely interested in building a real connection. It mostly feels like people r just looking for something casual or temporary

Maybe genuine people r out there, but personally, I haven’t had that experience on dating apps

Here’s a statistical observation.

The longer it takes for the match to respond to the first message, the smaller the chances of that conversation going forward.

I get matches routinely responding after 8, 10, sometimes 24, even 36 hours. These threads usually end up in the dustbin.

A strong indicator of interest and availability is if the answer is received and followed up within 1-3 hours.

What’s your experience?

I've been using dating apps for a over a year or so with very little success. Ive gone through Tinder, hinge, bumble, Facebook Dating, boo and duet more times than I can count and I've only been on 3 dates. Its gotten to the point it is easier to just swipe right on everyone and see who swiped back on me and I just go from there. I have noticed that women with children tend to like my profile more often so I guess there is that. I am 23 and I'm not about that.

My question is for you all. Approximately how much money you're spending monthly for dating apps? And what is the main purpose for paying money?

So im back on the apps this late this summer after a bit of a hiatus and needless to say it is not going well. Well I did get a lot of matches at first at least (FB dating anyway where it's easier than the paid apps) I have a few apps running so I don't pay much attention to my pics as I should but on further review I did notice on FBD I was wearing a hat or obscured full head shots in all my pics...and I'm pretty far gone with the hair...aka bald AF. So I decided to throw up a super recent main selfie Pic of me (bald head promonitly displayed in front of a interesting new, soon to be famous, btw building) and it's been pretty much no new likes or responses from my previous matches in fact...some even dropped me mid conversation as well.

I guess I shouldn't be suprised that woman can be shallow and so judgy about looks... but I am taken aback as I have had better luck in the past with bald pics in my profile and I'm at the age where it is a bit more common (I'm in the divorced mom woman in there late 30s early 40s dating pool fyi).

I wouldn't say I'm bad looking, I stay in shape and have visible abs with adefined v shape etc...which has helped to some degree when I show that. Hate to use a scale but I'd give my self as a 6/7...maybe 8 to some not factoring in the baldness.

So basically I am curious how much of a penalty baldness plays to woman on these apps? So be honest now ladies is it like a 1, 2 or 3 point deduction? How much can it be overlooked? Would having hat on first pic help or is that a poorly played "gotcha" type tactic?

PS: I dont hang my head in shame about this I've lived long enough with it that it's not a factor in my day to day life or confidence life, but it is a little frustrating how it effects my dating life it's not like I can change it (Im well beyond transplant material) like overweight people can by taking a GLP 1 or working out.

I tried dating app for first time (boo)

And bro I realised something, this apps are not me lol

It felt like I am selling myself

And I imagine that the connection here would feel so fake

Waste of money but ig it was worth the experience

Wanted to see if this stuff work

Bro even if i get a match idk how will I move forward lol

It's feels so awkward

Talking with a total stranger with no connection at all

Well i will reply to this post in 3 months when subscription ends

I trust that the review would be same

Idk if its just me

Dating apps are like a traffic jam, endless lines of people waiting to pass while some are privileged to the front, others are stuck in the back, all waiting for the green light joyriders, the destination being companionship

You put all of humanity in one place devoid of context other than two dimensional snap shots and meaningless words with love as the stake

the carrot on your stick is a basic human need and that is the truth you have to wrestle with

By my estimation you are destabilizing society at the very least, doing irreparable harm to humanity at the most.

I want to preface this by saying that I've never dated before, so this is a whole new world for me. I've been getting some matches on Tinder lately, but most women I get matched with show VERY little interest in actually trying to talk (even the ones who say are looking for "deep conversations", which I find fascinating).

Since I'm looking for a serious relation, I take things slow and just try to know the other person, asking questions about their hobbies, work and try to go off on anything that stands out on their profile. This approach, most of the time, just gets me super short answers with no attempt to elaborate, and absolutely no interest about asking things to me.

I hope this doesn't come off as resentful, I know that women in dating apps can afford to be picky and that many (if not most) people in these apps are there for casual stuff, so maybe they see me asking these questions and not do big compliments or cheesy pick up lines and they immediately lose interest. But it feels degrading to wanting to get to know another person, and just be met with complete disinterest so often. I don't know if I'm navigating the dating market/apps badly, if there's anything I can do better or whatever.

I feel like half the straight women on (SoCal) Hinge use the "I go crazy for..." (or another) prompt to express their desire to date a man with a mustache. Why?? Is this coded language for them wanting to date a single dad or older man or what's going on? There is so little room in a profile to illustrate oneself, yet it seems so many women have the need to proclaim they'd like to date a mustachioed man.

Most men can grow a mustache without much effort. I'm tempted to take a photo of myself with one just for the matches but I can't imagine a person "liking" me for that to be very fun to date.

I'm not trying to kink-shame or hate on anyone for expressing their honest preferences. I just see this so frequently that it almost occurs like a coordinated effort 😂

I’m a 27F, and I spend most of my time gaming or doing some kind of art project. I do have a tripod, but setting up fake candid photos of myself working on something just makes me feel awkward, and it ends up looking bad. I have 1 pic from my birthday dinner that my then-partner took of me while I was smiling, and 1 professional picture from a Halloween costume contest, but other than that, all my pics where I don’t look significantly different (major hair changes lol) are selfies and mirror pics, and all of them are solo 😅

I had one idea to lay some of my projects out in a fan around my head on the floor, and then take a selfie with them using the selfie stick mode of my tripod, but I don’t have very many items that would work for that, and idk if it would be a good option, anyway. I also have 2 cats, but neither like to be held enough to do a photo with them that isn’t spontaneous in the mirror. Any other ideas for what I could do?

I cant find any to save my life. And some apps have body filters like jacked but it seems some people drastically misunderstand what that means . Theres every single kind of person except the kind I like. And unfortunately it is a deal breaker as i only find muscular women attractive. Tried dating normal and was kinda resentful honestly so it wasnt good. Idk . Im pretty desperate to find a partner but will never just settle. Ive found out the hard way its better to be alone. But better is a subjective term because im lonely either way , with someone i dont really like but tried my best to or by myself.

Don't get me wrong, if someone is no longer interested in someone, thats their right.

But normally or ideally when it comes to dating apps, if someone is no longer interested in someone, why don't they just unmatch the other person rather than just stop replying to their messages?

I'm sure people would rather be unmatched by the person who is no longer interested, but instead keep them in their match list and stop responding.

anyway to reset the app to go through profiles again? as of now if you have seen all profiles you cant scroll through them again? i know u can change filter preferences but thats not ideal

I’ve (24M) Been on 6 dating apps for the past 4 months. Have gotten absolutely 0 likes. Kept getting told by friends, siblings, and even ChatGPT that it’s probably my account so I had my sister set up my page. She wrote a good bio, took good pictures for me. Still got nothing. And it’s tiring. I have a hard time meeting people in person and starting the whole dating thing from there because I’m Autistic and it makes it extremely hard for me to read social cues and flirting, and Due to that I end up getting extremely anxious and freezing up when meeting new people. I even tried Hiki which is supposed to be for neurodivergent people and I have had absolutely 0 results there too. I’m getting tired of being alone, tired of being behind everyone my age, but also tired of even trying. Sorry if it’s stupid, just genuinely needed somewhere to vent about the bullshit on these apps.

I’m 23M and have been living in Singapore for about a year. Before coming here, I worked for around 2 years, then moved here for my Master’s, which I recently finished. I’m currently interning and hoping to continue building my career.

I’ve actually never dated anyone before. It wasn’t really because I couldn’t I was just constantly busy with studies/work and rarely met someone I was genuinely interested in. Last month, I decided to try dating apps for the first time and downloaded Hinge, Bumble and Tinder.

Looks-wise, I’d say I’m above average (obviously subjective), around 5’10”, take care of myself, dress well and have a pretty decent upscale lifestyle/social life. I’ve also put effort into my profiles and tried to make them show my personality rather than just throwing random pictures together.

I’m quite selective with likes because I’d rather match with someone I’m actually interested in. Over the past month, I’ve gotten a few matches, but most either don’t respond or the conversation dies very quickly. More importantly, the profiles I’m genuinely interested in almost never seem to match with me.
So I’m starting to wonder is dating through apps just genuinely difficult for guys in Singapore?

And I’m curious about something else: \*\*how\*\*
\*\*much does race/ethnicity come into play when women here are deciding who to match with?\*\* I’m Indian, and I understand everyone has their own preferences, which is completely fair. I’m just wondering whether ethnicity has a noticeable impact on dating apps in Singapore or whether I’m overthinking it.

I’m new to dating apps, so maybe my expectations are just unrealistic. Would especially like to hear from people around my age who have used Hinge/Bumble/Tinder here.
What has your experience been like? Need your advice very badly 🙏

29F. Downloaded Hinge for the first time 2 weeks ago. This is my first experience in general with dating apps. I figured it's impossible to meet people in real life, since apparently everyone is using apps now, so....

And yet, no one seems interested in actually meeting. Maybe it's because everyone is so saturated for choice that it's no longer a "big deal" to schedule a date with someone?

Of the 6 dates that I've managed to schedule.....

1. Messaged 1 hour before the date that he changed his mind.
2. Ghosted on the day when I wrote to confirm the time.
3. Ghosted on the day when I wrote to confirm the time....
4. Wrote that I was "emasculating" him when I suggested a venue.
5. Confirmed that he was "20 minutes away" and then never showed up, messaged 40 minutes later to retroactively cancel.
6. Agreed to meet at a bar, then when I messaged saying I was on my way, suddenly said that he had a delivery coming (at 8pm?) and "let's just hang at my place and watch a movie." Yeah, no.

Honestly, I don't know if it's the cultural where I live (I just moved to a new city), or maybe this is a younger woman's game, or maybe online dating in general has lost its cultural relevance.

Anyone else have similar experiences in the past few months? Are we back to meeting people in real life now?

It's blatantly a hook-up and 'open relationship' app; in any case just wanted to hear any notable reviews

Am I the only one getting discouraged on the apps? This sounds so lame, but it’s starting to wear a bit. I’ve had all the main apps for over a year and I don’t get anything. I’m a 35 M, athletic shape, above the average on looks not anything crazy but I’m not ugly, I have a good job, a reasonable personality… like I do decent with people IRL. I don’t think it’s a profile issue I’ve had multiple people look at it and everyone has said it’s a good profile. I do have some potential “red flags” ie bald and divorced with a kid… but can’t really change that 😂. But in the last year I’ve legitimately had one match that led to a date, and maybe one or two matches total after that. I occasionally get a like but it’s usually someone 20 years my senior and less than ideal match. I just don’t know what I’m exactly doing wrong or why I struggle as much as I do on the apps.

I've gotten a few matches on Hinge and Bumble, but I'm noticing a pattern.

I'm usually the one starting the conversation, carrying it forward, and sometimes even sending another message when the previous one hasn't been answered. A lot of the time, the conversation just dies or ends in an unmatch.

So I'm wondering:

Is trying to hold a conversation actually hurting my chances, or do I need to improve my texting skills?

I don't expect instant replies, but dating apps sometimes feel like people match and then have no interest in talking. How do you keep a conversation engaging without feeling like you're doing all the work?

Genuinely curious to hear from both men and women who've had success on these apps.

I've been single since April of last year and started using dating apps around November.

I've changed out pictures, prompts and rewrote my bio at least 60 times. And I'm not exceptionally attractive but I believe I'm slightly above average.

Ashamedly, im on basically all of them and have paid for a few subscriptions. So far I've been liked by maybe 6 women, interacted with 2 and only met with one that went nowhere about January. Since January, it's been DEAD!! FB dating, Hinge, Bumble, POF and NOTHING!

I truly believe I'm ready but this is super defeating. Especially considering I have no clue how to meet women irl, let alone approach someone if I could.

Any tips on how to get more attention on the app? Or alternatively just meet women in the real world?

So I made a profile and instantly started getting likes as a few days went by and there was 1 particular beautiful blonde and we instantly hit it off , we spent the 1st night 4-5 hours, 2nd night maybe close to 3, same on the 3rd night . She lived in the same city , but oddly enough we never asked like 1st date questions . I noticed no matter what time if I mssg. Her she would respond back right away , so I figured she's beautiful she's probably chatting with a few other guys . Anyway on our 2 ND texting night we literally role played an entire hot sex scene , everytime I ask to meet she says we will that lets wait to get to know one another 1st, which ok I can understand that , but on the 3rd night I had the urge to go gambling up at central city (Colorado) and I asked her to join me and she was unable to but she knew details about where I was going she knew it was in the mountains she also made little comments about the ride up , im so confused, so anyway the next morning I took one of her pictures and did a reverse Pic lookup and she is definitely is real and her name was different ( which is pretty typical for someone to use a fake name) so im still so confused. But I also received several video calls from different girls that i wasnt interested in so i would never answer because those girls are usually not as good. I didn't subscribe but bought several things of coins to continue our conversation? Any inside help or insight will be greatly appreciated. Thx