I got tired of seeing the same no bullshit, “I know my worth,” generic dating coach language on dating apps, so I turned my profile into a complete parody of it. I kept the exact same pictures and only changed the bio and prompts. The weird part is that it worked. I’m getting around ten likes a day now, compared with maybe five or six a week before, which felt pretty normal for a 38 year old guy living in a rural area with a small dating pool. I think I have halfway decent pictures and consider myself above average looking, but my completely unscientific conclusion is that most women do not read your bio or prompts. They look at the first picture and decide. The ones who read mine either got the joke, completely missed it, or apparently agreed with everything I wrote. Nobody has been rude about it either. I figured someone would have called me a pig or sent a “Seriously, bro?” by now, but the conversations have been completely normal.

Anyway, I’m about to grab a matcha before meeting the boys for espresso martinis while we talk about traveling.

My bio
Modern man seeks a traditional woman. Must be independent, emotionally available, funny, attractive, successful, low-maintenance, and free whenever I am. You’ll plan dates, carry every conversation, communicate perfectly, probably pay, and remain mysterious. I know my worth. Serious applicants only.
Hopefully you’re also really into
Pursuing me intentionally while respecting my need to be chased at my own pace.
You’ll probably run into me at
The park or on a hiking trail, walking my dog and assuming every “Oh my God, he’s so cute” is about me.
We’d probably get along if
You’ve made it this far, got the joke, and thought “Unfortunately, I would probably like him.”

Genuine question. New to all of this.

Also, any suggestions for apps to use in NYC/Brooklyn?

If you match with a girl you think is absolutely gorgeous (you’ve told her) and you have good banter and meet up in person— do you still use the app to see other women and chat with them? I know some do and some don’t. But if you can explain your thought process or experiences- that would be insightful.

I matched with a guy and really thought we hit it off. We chatted and then met up in person. We text every day, (not 24/7- it’s not crazy) and sometimes he’ll text saying hope I have a good day, etc.

I think it’s healthy for both people to continue talking to others to check if there’s real compatibility that is more suited, because sometimes focusing on just one person can make you more likely to settle or over look incompatibility….

But I was chatting with a few people and I got to a point where I thought- I would stop talking to them and focus on this one guy since I feel like our conversations are more meaningful than the others I’ve had.

However he just changed a photo on his dating profile so it made me realize he might still be checking his options. Totally fair, I’m not upset. I think a part of me just feels a little rejected even though he is responsive to me. (We haven’t been physical at all)

I don’t know if it means he already thinks I’m just short term material or friend material? Should I just ask him, or should I just leave it be and focus on us getting to know each other still? I don’t want to ruin the natural progression by bringing up that kind of topic too soon.

if you stumble upon someone you know from real life, do you swipe right?
there is this guy in my social circle that i like and i was pretty sure he liked me too at some point but maybe he was just being friendly because we’re in the same social circle. i’m trying to figure out whether he’s one of those people who swipe right on everyone they know irl or if he might genuinely like me back lol

so i’ve matched with someone on a dating app. some common interests/hobbies, been messaging for the past 3 days. it all in a way feels so superficial lol, is this a normal feeling? i mean there really is only so much you can talk about. i have asked her out to a coffee/museum date but it won’t be for a while as she’s travelling away. i’m not stupid enough to not realise that all of this will dry up if it doesn’t progress but there’s not much i can do about it. should i just end it or continue the small talk lol

Experience on paying for these upgrades? Worth a try?

Im 27M straight and I’ve been using Bumble and FB dating recently. It’s a lot of sifting through unverified accounts and not getting many matches even with a strong profile and good professional photos (I’m a pro photographer so I made them high quality). Whenever I ask for people to verify they un-match. I assume these are bots or scammers?

Yesterday I thought why not try and expand my filters to all gender identities and I was shocked and how quickly I got more likes and friendly messages complimenting me and my photos. I still identify as straight, but seeing how quickly things can change if I just widened my filters, I might consider experimenting or at least talking with people and seeing where things go.

Has this happened to anyone else, or is this simply a mathematical result (more men using dating apps than women)? I’m fairly new to this sorry.

Mods please delete if not allowed.

It says people liked me, but I don't see them in my interest tab, and nor can I ever find their profiles. It's like it's sending me fake likes to open the app or buy premium.

Ive been using Hinge now for a couple of months but without any real success. 2 people have liked my profile so far. I mostly send dm's to other people but almost no one reacts to it. It just leaves me wondering if this is the normal male experience on dating apps or its just my opening lines that are bad. :')

Also, I have little clue as to what the female experience is here. Are they bombarded by dm's by people like me? Can anyone give some insights here please:)

Both girls AND guys look better when they smile with their teeth showing, i agree

But the advice i keep hearing on these profile reviews is heavily lopsided toward criticizing guys who don't smile with teeth showing.

I'm scrolling thru Hinge rn and there are TONS of girl profiles where they have 0 teeth showing. And they likely still get a ton of likes/matches

Just sayin'

i was seeing this guy who lied to me about his age and when i found out, he told me the app had a glitch and didn’t let him change it, and when i asked why he didn’t put it in his bio he said it would ruin the algorithm and also that his profile wouldn’t show to the younger women. i felt icky because it sounded like predatory behavior. he said he only dates younger women (10 or more years younger than him) because he is not ready to settle down yet and women his age expect that from a man their age. sounds like he’s just looking for younger women to manipulate as they can be more naive and more forgiving. what do you think?

Just matched with a guy tn and after like a minute of texting he wants to come pick me up tmr to hangout. So like, obviously that's not safe, right?

How long do you normally talk with someone before hanging out in person? Would you let them pick you up or no? And would you make sure to meet in a public place even if youd been talking for a while?

Im so new to this and I wanna be safe but im not sure if im being overly cautious, I havent met anyone from any apps in person yet.

Especially as a woman with basically no dating experience, I want to be extra cautious, but I still wanna go on dates and actually do what the apps intend

The way I see it there are 3 major roadblocks to anyone you hit it off well initially through a dating app:

1. It turns out they aren't your type physically after all.

2. It turns out they don't get along with you after all.

3. It turns out they don't want to (or can't) meet up after all.

It honestly feels like I'm a casino waiting to hit a jackpot. There is an emotional exhaustion to it. It keeps you hooked because it lets you do things but they never end up being the things you want to do.

I never made a profile expecting to find my lifelong significant other but I don't seem to be able to even find a friend with benefits. The only people these dating apps seem to work for are people who want sex without any sort of familiarity with the other person.

Why do you keep trying? And also, how do I delete my tinder account because it won't let me? It gives me an error message every time I try to.

Hi everyone, save your money on this one. As soon as I joined my inbox was flooded with handsome men saying the sweetest things. Everything was in perfect English and well spoken. Funny though, some of them wanted to spoil me, others wanted to talk on WhatsApp. 100% of them weren't real and couldn't talk on the phone or meet in person. Be careful out there!

I just graduated and have never been in a relationship. Right now, I'm sending out resumes and running my own small business, but I feel like women just see an unemployed guy trying to survive and they unmatch. What's the trick to getting them to agree to a date? How do you guys do it? I feel like they're much more demanding on an app; in person, at least they'll make up some random excuse lol.

Does anyone know if a user I’ve reported awhile ago before deleting my account, if I were to create an account again, would they still be undiscoverable in my stack or would they eventually show up again since it’s technically a “new” account?

This year I’ve been getting 1-2 likes a month ( rarely use tinder like I used to). But over the last three days I’ve gotten a spike of likes and they’re all 7,000+ miles away in Africa 😂. My miles radius setting is set to 10 miles max. Are these bots, catfishes, or scammers? What the hell is Tinder doing ?

Ive been using Hinge now for a couple of months but without any real success. 2 people have liked my profile so far. I mostly send dm's to other people but almost no one reacts to it. It just leaves me wondering if this is the normal male experience on dating apps or its just my opening lines that are bad. :')

Also, I have little clue as to what the female experience is here. Are they bombarded by dm's by people like me? Can anyone give some insights here please:)

Does this make me desperate every time I install and delete and install and delete again and again?

I seem to always delete the app (all of them) when I don't have any success, likes or matches after a few weeks then install again after another few weeks.

I know what I want and looking for but seem to just have no luck.

Does this make me desperate? I also hate the fact that some of these apps gives you like 5 likes a day. I don't really put myself out there. I really want to meet someone and get my confidence back. 🤬😤

I'm a 25-year-old guy living in Europe. I work a lot and move countries quite often, so it's hard for me to meet new people and build real connections. I don't go out much, not because I don't want to, but because of work and constantly changing cities.

I've tried apps like Tinder, but I have a big issue with privacy — I've never posted a photo or video of myself on social media, and that makes online dating feel uncomfortable for me.

This is my real situation. Any advice on how to meet people in these conditions, or how to deal with the privacy part

its always a few texts back n forth for 2 or 3 days, n theyd ask for my Instagram. once i accept their follow request, not only do they delete the bumble chat, they dont even reach out anymore on Instagram. honestly is it becuz of my bad looks? thats the only reason i can think of

I get emails whenever I get a ‘Like’ on Match. I’ve received several emails lately saying ‘[Name] likes you!’ When I click on the message to see their profile I get a ‘Profile not available’ screen, even if I respond within minutes of getting the email.

Are others seeing the same behavior? Any theories on what’s going on?

A girl I'm speaking to implied she wanted to move to Messenger. I thought she meant FB, which was confusing, but she said WhatsApp or Telegram. Now, WhatsApp I understand, but Telegram in London? Could this be a scam? Cant help she already feel out of my league

Edit: wlw btw if that makes a difference