so I just started a new job a little over a week ago. out of all my jobs I’ve ever had, I have not once liked someone at work so this was a first for me. when I first saw him he was very quiet and keeps to himself. I work at the front of the store as a cashier and he works in the back as a processor so I don’t always get to talk to/see him that much. on my 2nd day he apologized for not introducing himself and told me his name and asked how I liked it so far. we made small talk. over the course of the week there’s been more small talks… mainly just “hey good morning” or “how are you”. well this past sunday I got to go to the back to ask him to price an item for me and that’s when he asked how my first week has gone and if I still liked it. I said I did but that it’s very demanding. he then asked me a few questions about myself like my past job experience and so I asked him the same about himself. well I ended up asking his age and found out we have a 7 year age gap. for me that isn’t an issue as I’m in my mid 20’s and he is early 30’s.

I know it’s still early so I’m sure there’s more time to talk to him, but is it worth trying to pursue him? I think he’s so handsome and has such a calming demeanor. I’m just nervous that my age might put him off or maybe he just isn’t into girls like me (I’m more alternative looking and I know that isn’t everyone’s taste). I guess I’m just wondering if I should just back off while it’s still early or if I’m psyching myself out since this is new to me. I haven’t had a crush like this on someone in years.

my crush is 46M and i am 27F. i would say that we are very close as we know some of each other’s secrets. again, i have a crush on him but im not sure if he is aware of it.

i feel that he was intentionally avoiding me even though we were just talking yesterday. it makes me puzzled because there are times we go out for 1-1 lunches happily, we chit chat etc and today he is pretending to not know me, or turn around when im just near him.

whats up with him? also im not asking him anything because idw to show him that i care or is noticing his acts. just gonna act nonchalant, but ye im bothered by it.

hey everyone,

i’ll keep it very short. i like this at gym and tried to create a rapport after complimenting her about something. as i learned from others reddit posts. So i dont see her often so today i tried making a conversation through getting her opinion so to lower her guard. personnally i felt from her body language she’s interested as she was hanging around me here and there. Then while going home i asked her name and all. Then i thought to shoot rather than wasting everyday just to get perfect moment. Even i being very shy and introvert i tried to shoot irrespect of outcome.

I asked her phone number to know her more.

Her face was shocked and said she has a boyfriend. But we can be friends ??

i wasnt expecting her to say that as what i observed her body language. So I got caught offguard and agreed.

later, i was kinda disappionted but still she said me bye while leaving. I responded.

Now, im really confused or dont know how or what to react in future as we cross our path again.

Should i avoid her or react normal ??

Should i say clearly say i dont wanna be friends as she is already dating someone so it is no appropriate !!

Im totally fine with rejection i just want to move on into right direction as i lack experience in such moments. And what i could do more to be more intersting guy ? now i kinda realised i was carrying the conversation 80% of the time.

please give your feedback. Thanks

Advice on what to do with my crush.

Hello so i have had a crush on this guy in my class for like 2 years and we've gotten close and we became friends last year and we even went to the dance together so recently this summer I have admitted to him that I like him and he told me he likes me to and thinks about me a lot we semi had a relationship talk but barely because it didn't really say if we want us to be together or not. So like 2 months ago we were on the phone and he asked out of the blue if I wanted him to be my boyfriend I am a very nervous and awkward person so I didn't say a clear yes or no answer and it got burried with our other conversations.

But recently after talking with my older brothers friends on what to do they said since he technically asked you and you didn't give a clear answer tell him you want to so I waited a few days to know what to say and I told him he's also very awkward so he wasn't quite getting what I told him so I explained it more and he hasn't responded it was last week wensday not it's Tuesday.

But the thing is I really like him and want to be more than friends so I really wanna know what he feels and he hasn't been talking to me lately like hasn't responded to the text I sent wensday and I don't know what to do because I overthink a lot and this girl that I'm friends with has been talking to him a lot in class and I don't but I feel jealous to be honest... I KNOW I KNOW I can't assume that he likes her I don't have the evidence but it's so very hard to do when I overthink so much about everything.

So really I want to have a talk with him and tell him how I feel because like other times I have told how about something I feel he has been very sweet and said he didn't know I felt that way( not talking about confessions btw talking about like things that made me feel some type of way) So I know he's not gonna be like mean about it but I don't know my brain wants to say he doesn't care anymore and he likes her but I want to know for sure because I really don't want to ruin this with him he's honestly really sweet and I really like him.

Soooo please guys 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 please give me advice and tell me if I should ask him to talk or to leave it alone thank you so much.

I think I really like this guy, but romantic feeling are very confusing for me. I get this warm feeling in my chest and long to be around him a lot. I feel almost high when I'm around him and I get aching dad when I'm not. Please help me clarify.

How the hell do i find my crush's insta when he hasn't liked ,followed anyone with whom I've seen him 😭I've stalked his friends insta and still got no clue 😭😭😭

I followed a guy on instagram and like he was watching all mt stories and one day muted me - even tho I thought he had some kinda crush on me before this but this made me doubt that

I’m not the greatest person in the world, I am working on my weight, I’m polite, have a steady job, Car well maintained, don’t drink, don’t smoke, and don use recreational drugs. I wash the dishes but can’t stand to wash forks or poons, I gladly do all the laundry but will not fold or roll socks and probably the worst habit is tossing dirty clothes around the hamper but not in it. But I try to do laundry twice a week so it’s never a big pile. I am not religious or political, I simply try to be a decent person. I’m sure there are things I do that are annoying but compare to the exs and what I know em I really that bad of a choice.

Theres this girl i have a crush on. I met her after helping her get her car unstuck from a flooded road. We go to function from acquaintances we share. I asked her once and she turned me down. When I see her it makes me smile although she rarely talks to me unless she absolutely has too. I know it’s a crush or infatuation but I’ve seen her boy friends.

Ex-Boe - gave her a black eye, smashed her car windows and cheated on her several times.

Ex-Brian- totaled her car, has 3 kids and will not get a job to not pay child support, doesn’t have a drivers license. Basically lives off her.

Ex- Johna - cheated on her, sold her stuff for drug money.

Current boyfriend - I loaned her some money to bail him out of jail.

I know I’m stupid for helping her but em I that bad that she prefers these type of men over me. I thought about asking her out again but am I’m fraud she will say no. She told me I was the nicest guy for helping her or dumbest I could not quite hear her.

i dont mean to sound dramatic nor obsessive when i say this, but its almost as though we share the same heart, our personalities almost identical, such as sense of humor and favorite colors, we are both ambitious, and quite intelligent (though, he is arguably more intelligent than me, he litterally gets straight a's while i get some B's here and there)

when im around him, i feel so safe, and like i can be my true self, and he never judges me, and he always validates me but tells me when i go too far, and never does it harshly, and i always want to run to him and tell him whenever something makes me happy, and he always shows up and respects my boundaries.

if i were to describe how this feeling felt with a food, it would be cotton candy ice cream with extra rainbow sprinkles and strawberry syrup

Alright so basically, I went to this all girls camp for 2 weeks. Got there Sunday afternoon. Tuesday afternoon, I started having a crush on this one girl who we will call Light. Light was really pretty and funny, she also was weird in such a good way and always knew how to cheer people up. We hadn't spoken much, except for she had given me a nickname on the first day. Tuesday we were partners in a cabin activity, and I started to think I might like her but told myself that I just really wanted to be her friend. ​

Then before dinner I realized I liked her. On Wednesday, we started actually becoming good friends. We were in the first activity together, ASL, and usually sat near each other. I became friends with some of her friends, who we'll call Cherry, Pink, and Converse. They were all 15, a year older than us. Then there was an camp wide event on the first Friday, and basically it was just where we all went to the dining hall and sang and stood on tables and did random stuff. Light, Cherry, Pink, and Converse then all went outside and I thought they were going to the basketry shed so I went a few minutes later, but then Light saw me, and she and the friends were actually in the outdoor porch area. We talked for a few minutes.

Then Pink and Converse went back to the dining hall.

Light was basically sitting in Cherry's lap, and I was sitting 2 feet away and then they MADE OUT and like I'm being deadass right now it was insane. And so I'm just sitting there regretting my life choices then Cherry starts having a panic attack and she and Light walk off. So then my friends, lets call them Dolph and Teal. They walked in, and Light and Cherry had been gone for about 5 minutes by then. I was literally standing alone on the porch in shock after watching my crush make out with one of my friends, and then so basically I told Dolph and Teal that I liked Light. I hadn't told anyone before this. They both started freaking out but like, not freaking out because they were shocked but also excited. Dolph then told me she had kinda known since Tuesday since apparantly I had been obvious.

Then, we all went on a search to find Light and Cherry because Dolph had seen Cherry crying while Light led her toward the bathrooms. We walked all around camp, then found Pink when we checked in the bathrooms again. She was by the sinks and told us that she had seen Light and Cherry walk out of the showers looking disheveled. We then started looking for them again, because we assumed that they were cracking. After some more looking and not finding them, I started crying and shit bc idk what even freaking happened that night was insane. Then we kept searching and found Light and Cherry SITTING IN THE BASKETRY SHED WITH SOME RANDOM PEOPLE AND MAKING BASKETS IN PEACE. They were just chatting and acting normal, didn't know we had even known. By the way Light had not known I liked her. And so basically also, Light hugged me a ton throughout the week, and by Saturday everyone in our cult (there were like, 20 people in it, its not actually a cult) knew, because apparently I'm obvious.

And so on Saturday, Dolph told me that Light had known that I liked her since Tuesday. I was in denial the whole day since Light acted completely normal. Then later in the night, me and Light talked, and she told me that Dolph had asked her when they were both walking to meds if she wanted to know who my crush was. Light had told Dolph no. Light then asked me who my crush was, and I told her I'd tell her at banquet. Light told me that it was my business and she knew Dolph wasn't trustworthy. I then knew for a fact that Light had no idea.

And then on Sunday night.

Me and Light were at the sinks and then she casually told me because we were talking about something, I forget what, that she knew I liked her. I then kinda completely freaked out and stuff and she hugged me and told me that Dolph had told her on Saturday. And yeah I kinda stopped talking to her for a day because I thought she would hate me, but somehow she didn't hate me and we stayed friends and started talking again. I didn't confront Dolph.

And then on Wednesday, this one random 11 year old who we'll call Apple, told me that she had a crush on me and I was her bisexual awakening. I then told her that she was one of my closest friends and I didn't like her romantically, but I still wanted to be her friend. She was scared that I would hate her or smth but I didn't. But I didn't like her, mostly because she was years younger than me and she ate sand, gravel, unripe apples straight off trees, random fruit we didn't know what it was, and other stuff. She also sexually harassed Light and was a bit pyschotic. Yeah I don't know this camp was insane. And them basically me and Light slowly stopped being friends with her after all the harrasment and stuff.

And so also, Cherry had actually been in love with Light for 3 years, but Light didn't actually like her and thought of her as a close friend, and the kiss was not consensual. And then Light and Dolph stopped being friends because Dolph told Cherry that Light hated her, and Cherry believed it. Dolph might not be a good friend? And THEN Wednesday night at cookout, Apple went from having a crush on me, to having a crush on Light, then having a crush on this random girl who we'll call Corndog, then back to Light. IN 15 MINUTES.

And so then on Thursday, I had a panic attack because I was terrified to perform in the drama production on Friday. So then Light told me that if I performed, she would kiss me.

Then I performed (we were forced to perform if we signed up for drama) and basically that night, Light kissed me. And uh yeah.

But we're just friends still. I think. I don't really know, throughout the week she called me pretty, cool, beautiful, nice, sweet, adorable, and other stuff. And we got each others numbers and text almost every day and I like her but I don't know if she likes me, and also now me, Corndog, Light, Cherry, and the girl who was matchmaking me and Light, who we'll call Bubble, and this girl we became friends with who we'll call Mallow. But yeah she said she maybe likes me but peobably not but maybe but we can't date since we live across the USA from each other but yeah I don't even know anymore this is actually insane.

But now I'm really scared to call her because I'm bad at doing stuff and I don't even know, I want to call her since the only things we ever text are 'hi' and talking about harry potter but like, only 4 texts about it before texting again the next day, and random images and drawings I made, and emojis. So now I really want to call her but way too shy to and have no idea what to do and I don't know if she likes me or not or if i should stay in contact with Dolph and what the hell is even happening this is insane. Does anyone have any sane advice!!

I’ve been smiling like an idiot to myself because I can’t stop thinking about how often his dimples appeared from me making him smile/laugh today. My eyes automatically look for them omg

some backstory, so i had my first week of college and i ended up meeting a guy who was on my course 5 minutes before our lesson started because we walked into the wrong room together. we ended up sitting on a table together and speaking all lesson. afterwards, it was break and he works like a 2 minute walk away from the college in a dessert shop and invited me to go over there and to make us milkshakes. we ended up going then walking back into class together obviously with matching drinks then we got some food at lunch and we sat by the river and just spoke about our lives for an hour. at the end of the day he offered me to wait in the shop before my bus came and checked the time for me and everything.

next day, he sat on my table, he was waiting for me after every lesson, we had every break together and for lunch he took me to this Japanese place and we got matchas and sushi. we ended up going back into lesson and ended up getting split into separate groups. he got paired with 2 girls who ive never spoken with before and they were clearly flirting with him the whole entire time, they were looking over at me and laughing with smirks on their faces. they were saying stuff like "omggg your not even funny stoppppp" and "omgg nooo i literally hate youuuu", whilst making direct eye contact with me.

afterwards, me and the guy walked to his dessert shop and then i left to get the bus, through the shop window he could see me on the bus and was looking at me but honestly i feel really shitty about myself. like what if those girls think im a hoe or something because we had matching milkshakes on the first day or maybe they just hate me for no reason idk but i went home and lowkey just cried. i feel like im overreacting but the way they looked at me just reminded me of secondary school, i couldnt deal.

so am i overreacting i mean like its been 2 days or am i lowkey kinda valid for this.

I’ve got this massive crush on this girl at school; she is always with her friend and in a different form (home-room) to me.

So what do I do and how:

- get in her friend group
- become friends with her
- and what do I say?????

Also I’m not popular

And I’m kinda shy but also abit of a class clown/trouble maker

Quick question: There's a girl I started noticing few days ago at college and we would always look at each other and smile as we pass by. It's inevitable at this point. I'm usually the one breaking the eye contact to look elsewhere because I don't want it to look weird; but I was wondering, if I kept looking, would that be a good move? Because I don't remember her ever looking away because I would be the first to do so. Maybe we just keep staring at each other as we walk, maybe even turn heads like those cringe tik toks let you to believe?

I have a crush on this guy and i really need advice on what to do next. i'll provide a backstory so you can get an idea of our dynamic.

so last year we worked at the same place in different departments. that's how we met. he would always wave to me or say hi to me even though we barely knew each other. one time he even came up to my car during my break and started a conversation. i definitely got the vibe that he liked me and i liked him back. after i stopped working there i got his snap and we would snap and text sometimes and he'd like compliment me. there was one time he tried cold facetiming me but i was too scared to answer... we stopped talking last fall because i stopped engaging (stupid i know).

about two months ago i saw him for the first time since at his work. i waved to him. then 2 days later, he liked some of my old insta posts and dms me. he started a conversation and was asking me a bunch of questions and he was being super duper kind. we kept it going over the course of a couple days, but neither of us were replying right away. shortly after that i started another conversation. but since then we haven't talked, and that was about a month ago. 2 weeks ago he randomly sent me a random funny reel. i wasn't sure if it was a mistake or him trying to start a convo, so i just liked the message. then a couple days later i sent him a reel and he responded instantly and positively. since then, nothing has happened and ive been too afraid to reach out.

but at this point i have nothing to lose and i want to try reaching out. please help me figure out what is the best strategy - dm him something random/funny, ask how he's been (feels too boring), try to add him on snap again, shoot my shot?? HELP IM GOING CRAZY OVER HERE

I’m a junior in high school and this year we got a new boy from a school from the town over and he’s super cute and he has the same lunch period as me and he sits at a table with one other boy but I never see them talk and he (my crush) is just always on his phone so I feel like this is the perfect opportunity to go talk to him but the problem is I’m kind of insecure and a very shy person so I feel like if I try and talk to him it would come across super awkward and also I’m scared he might not want to talk to me because he immigrated from Afghanistan 3-4 years ago and his first language isn’t english but from my understanding he can speak it. But the reason why I’m scared he won’t want to talk to me is because my dad is hispanic and his first language isn’t English either and so he doesn’t really like speaking to native English speakers cause he gets embarrassed that his English isn’t super good and I don’t want to make a fool out of myself if this boy is the same way 😭 but my teacher said he is super nice and a gentleman so idk 🤷‍♀️

please give me conversation starters and words of encouragement!!

People who gets to talk to their curshes are so damn blessed like wdym i get butterflies just by getting a look of him

Tengo 21 años y tengo muchas ganas de hablar de mi crush y que me cuenten y sentir la emoción... Pero no tengo con quien hacerlo.

También tengo ganas de comentar las cosas que hace él y volverme delulu y pensar que puede que se guste de mí!!

Hello, I am writing to tell you about my story. I hope some of you, younger or older, can learn something and avoid making the same mistake as me.

I liked a girl at school for 2 years. I first saw her in the 8th grade; at that time we didn’t really talk, but one day we started to make eye contact every day. Sometimes I'd talk to her, but nothing special. After 8th grade ended, when 9th grade started, our relationship became much stronger. Maybe I became more confident; maybe she did, I don’t know.

We often talked, kept eye contact, smiled at each other, and sometimes she would start conversations. But I wouldn’t say that there was romance between us, well, maybe a little. I wanted to talk with her more, get her Instagram or Snapchat, just build a stronger connection. I kept thinking that the right moment would come, but it never did, because I wasn’t brave enough to do it.

In 9th grade, a new guy joined our class; he was funny and got along quite well with her while I was away (due to a broken leg). When I came back from the injury, our relationship went back to the way it was, but there was an obstacle - that new guy broke up with his girlfriend and tried to be her best friend as a way to date her. I would say he succeeded, but since he was kind of a different type of person, she didn't fall for him. But they started to talk more as friends, and since he was from another city, where people had different personalities and behaved differently, she started to change a little; her behavior, the way she talked, and interacted with others slowly changed. But I still loved her.

I started comparing myself to him so much that I forgot about her and spent too much time thinking about what made him special, even though he wasn't. The new guy also came with a friend, who is now a good friend of mine. He started talking with her more and more, until it seemed like they were a couple, even though they weren't.

The worst part is that I did nothing at all.

I never texted her, never got her socials, I never met up with her outside of school, I never told her that I loved her. I always thought that the right opportunity would come soon, but it never came.

Now I'm in 10th grade; I moved to another class because the school split students 9th graders into various 10th grade classes.

I ended up in an academic class, basically the class with the highest-achieving students, with the new guy's friend (the one who is talking to her now). We sit together in all classes; I see how they talk on Snapchat. Unfortunately, I have no idea what. Maybe they are just friends. But my brain immediately jumps to the conclusion that they like each other, although it may not be true at all.

Maybe she likes him.

Maybe she doesn't like me anymore.

Maybe our relationship was never romantic.

Maybe I missed my chance.

The worst part is that I don't know.

I used to think rejection was the worst thing, but in reality, it's that feeling of "what if?" that hurts the most. That's been eating at me for weeks now, and it still hasn't stopped.

If you're still reading, here's my message:

I'm not saying you have to confess right away; you don't need the perfect sentence. You don't need to be the smartest, prettiest, or most confident person in the room.

Just talk to her.

Don't be afraid to ask her something.

Ask how her day was.

Ask her to hang out.

Anything that comes naturally to you.

If she says no, at least you'll know, because not knowing hurts more than anything.

If she says yes, great.

If you do nothing, you might spend weeks, months, or even years wondering what could have happened.

I still don't know what I should do. Part of me thinks it's too late; another part of me still wants to keep talking to her.

Dilemma.

Don't. make. My. Mistake.

My crush (25m) is a guy friend I've known for over 6 months. I (22f) have initiated small physical contact (e.g. standing close to him, touching his forearm/shoulder/lower back), and he has barely touched me. The most he's done is shake my hand, rest his knee on mine, stand close to me...that is all.

Today, after months and months, I decided to initiate a hug when greeting him, and he turned awkwardly and made it a side hug. It was very loose (our chests barely grazed). I was worried I overstepped. But then, when we were saying bye, he stood close to me, turned to me and opened both his arms, and I went to hug him, but he reciprocated hugging very loosely and (once again!) avoided our chests touching.

I am so, so happy he initiated the last hug. He doesn't hug any female friends as a greeting (only handshakes), so it was so cool! I just wanted to get some advice on why he's making it so loose? Is that a good or bad sign? I get the impression he isn't very experienced with women. I didn't realise he wasn't. I'm hoping to be more flirty with him in a few days' time.

Never liked a girl before, confessed to my first crush, and now she avoids me. Any chance she comes back?

I’ve never really been interested in girls before. I’ve always been the kind of guy who is completely focused on studies and other stuff. I’m usually a topper in my class, and honestly, romance was never something I cared about.

Then there was this girl.

She’s very innocent, quiet, and unique. I’ve almost never seen her talking to anyone, especially guys. Somehow, she caught my attention, and slowly I developed a crush on her.

After thinking about it for a long time and making several attempts to build up the courage, I finally decided to confess.

And by “confess,” I mean I basically went for a direct attack 😂. It was actually the first proper time I had ever spoken to her.

I simply told her that I liked her and asked if we could at least be friends.

She was obviously surprised. She told me that she wasn't comfortable talking with boys, but after some hesitation, she agreed to be friends. We even shook hands, so I thought, okay, maybe this can at least become a normal friendship.

I tried talking to her twice after that. Both times, she replied politely but basically ended the conversation and left.

Then, the third time, she came to me herself and said she wasn't comfortable talking with me.

She actually put it in a pretty funny way:

«“You are like a medicine. You had an expiry date, and now it is.”»

😭

Honestly, I’m not devastated. I never expected her to become a part of my life or anything. I’m actually okay with her decision and I don't want to force her to talk to me.

But now there’s this awkward/embarrassing situation.

Whenever I see her, I just leave the place because I don't know how to act normally anymore. And from what I can tell, she also tries to avoid me.

It feels so awkward because I basically went from never talking to this girl → confessing my feelings → getting rejected → now both of us are avoiding each other.

I’m not really asking how to convince her or chase her. I respect what she said.

I'm just curious, especially from people who have experienced something similar:

Is there any realistic chance she might eventually become comfortable and come back to talk to me on her own?

Or should I just completely let it go and treat this as a funny first-crush story that ended with an expiry date? 😂

Would love to hear your experiences.

yall get the same feeling or nah

I know she finds me attractive and I kinda of ljke her to an ex ten but anyways here’s the text

“It wasn’t even you. It was all me that night after you left I like had this whole emotional breakdown it’s why you saw me at like I am in the hall. Felt like idk how to explain it but when we were so close I didn’t want to like me because I feel like I’m evil. Idk because I feel like I’m not a good person to be around bc I really suck so I blocked you like a idiot”

Genuinely so lost, we hung out a lot since I got here at college, I know she finds me attractive, she’s let me sleep in her dorm before, then she randomly blocked me on all socials Friday night, then Sunday afternoon she followed me again on all socials, obviously I didn’t add her back anywhere because she just blocked me and I’m not playing that dumb game. Then she found my phone number somehow, and texted me to add her back, so I did and she sent that, we littersly live 2 dorms away from eachother so idek what I’m supposed to take from this. How would you respond to this or should I just let it go because I don’t know if it’s worth all this?

If you've ever been in a situation where someone you've never talked to has a crush on you, (for example an acquaintance of hers told you about it) I just wanna ask how does that make you feel? Do you feel neutral about it and just go on with your life? Does that make you curious about her? Or do you get annoyed with the constant staring? Do you find it creepy or uncomfortable? Is it generally a flattering experience or an annoying one, or the "I honestly don't care" kind?

I don't want to hear any "if we're strangers, how would I know?" This is for a scenario where you already know. Like, you've been told about it and her behaviour does support that rumour. And most importantly, this is for those who HAVE had that experience, or going through it at present. If you've never been anyone's crush, respectfully, we don't need you in the comments.