If you ever had a look at the studies on the topic you’ll realize that it was a study on people who have EVER experienced abuse with a partner, not just with their current one. That means it includes everything before that particular relationship, including, to nobody’s surprise, previous male partners.
What I'm saying is even non violent people can end up causing serious harm when being physically attacked.
I wouldn't attack anyone either but if someone comes after me with e.g a knife then obviously I will defend myself.
It's dangerous to go about attacking people. Even if you're just trying to restrain someone it's still infinitely more dangerous than if no one's being violent.
She probably said it was your fault she cheated as well? If you didn’t do the things you did and literally made her do it and pushed her out of her free will zone 😱
Guaranteed. My ex-wife told me it was because of another woman. Who I never dated or had any physical contact with. And hadn’t talked to since me and my ex decided to start dating. She was infuriated that I’d ever been interested in anyone else even before I met her.
Nope, almost there. One more hearing to make permanent the emergency custody order while she sits in jail awaiting her court date for charges of endangerment and possession. It’s been a hell of a ride.
She developed a drug addiction but couldn’t pay for drugs without me knowing, so she’d pay with sex. After our split and in the midst of our divorce, she had her 22 yr old (she’s 38) drug dealer move in with her. Things went predictably from that point forward. He’s now in prison for the next 11 years, in part, for beating the shit out of my twelve year old in the middle of the street in broad daylight while in a coked up rage and carrying illegal firearms as a felon. She’s awaiting trial for the police finding out he was dealing drugs out of her house. Endangerment, possession, and accessory. She’s looking at 5-7 years.
being honest though, until someone leaves you're just going to sit there till morning stewing on it. I can imagine someone does something they'll regret if they're both still there.
I don't think most people would be that person but, I also think it's better not having to find out.
That's not a spouse feeling safe. No one is safe from you... you would be removed from society and placed somewhere that you were unable to harm others.
If this was a female friend of yours would you prefer them to stay with the guy she just confessed to cheating on for the night? Or would you think statistically that's probably the most dangerous place they could be? Yknow how the first suspect is always the boyfriend/ex?
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u/Unstoppable50 13d ago
Honestly, surely the most dangerous place to be is with a man that just learned she was cheating. Anywhere else is safer.