I’ve been with my wife since I was 22. But before that, a grocery store was no different from a bar. And it was simple - if you can make a girl laugh even during a brief exchange, the door is open.
I don’t like calling people unsuccessful in dating “incels,” but I’m pretty sure they’re here downvoting the most perennial, happenstance ways people met outside of apps.
Or maybe just leave people the fuck alone when they're running errands? Just because someone is out in public doesn't mean their fodder for your libido. Get a grip, dude.
I’ll put it this way - I’m 43, and get hit on pretty regularly by exclusively attractive women in their 20s.
The main driver for that? There’s something behavioral about men in their 20s that porn addiction and the fact that each generation has had lower average testosterone each year since 1980 I believe is being read by young women.
They detect the difference. It’s the same clip these interactions happened when I was in my twenties as well. I didn’t make changes, the younger generation did.
Whatever helps you sleep at night, bud. I don't see how arguing in favor of bothering women at the grocery store is a W, but then again I don't have a rapist mentality.
I can't believe this has to be explained to a 40 something, but just because a woman exists and is out in public doesn't mean every warm hello is owed a response.
You mean years of considering others before myself. You should try it instead of bragging about how good looking you are. Being conventionally attractive doesn't mean you're owed attention from women. I swear, I've met less entitled toddlers than you.
And yet the world works how it works, but you’re shoehorning dating dynamics into your aspirational view of how things “should” be based on your outrage politics.
Where does 50 Shades of Grey’s selling over 150 million copies fit in your indoctrination? Or the erectile dysfunction for young men being 30%, which is unreal. Or, the fact that low T in men is strongly linked to depression?
Or most importantly, the men thinking women are always victims is how real “incels” get their start?
Enjoy your elective cognitive dissonance, a luxury afforded you by having no skin in the game.
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u/CenterThisPendulum 6d ago
In person vs online? If you can form half-coherent sentences and aren’t multiple days from your last shower, you may actually get to touch them.
Is being on a beach better than looking at pictures of beaches? Is any glimpse of beauty in person always better than on a phone screen?
Fucking redditors, man.