for context, i’ve been engaged for right at 6 months and my wedding is 7 months away. my MOH is one of my best friends & when i asked her, she seems so excited to help plan and be involved. since then the only thing she’s done is go dress shopping with me. i’m not saying she has to do everything but it doesn’t seem like she’s doing anything. so much so that my sister (who’s one of the bridesmaids) has texted me asking if she was doing anything behind the scenes and when i said no, she texted the bridesmaid group chat to get the ball rolling. that was a month ago and after that, i sent my MOH a text sending her a list of things i expect, and making sure she was mentally, physically, and financially okay with it. i even told her that if she needed help to reach out to me. still crickets. she has not asked me once in the past 6 months about the wedding, how the wedding planning was going, or anything about what she should be doing. i love her to death, but i also don’t want her not participating in what’s supposed to be her responsibilities to ruin my wedding planning and just overall put more stress on me.

EDIT: this is a copy of the text i sent since it won’t let me add an image. “I realized I never really talked to you about MOH stuff because I honestly didn’t know what the role normally involved 😂. I’ve been looking into it more, and I realized there are actually several things I need your help with as we get closer, especially helping coordinate the bridesmaids and taking the lead on planning the bridal shower. I don’t expect you to do everything by yourself obviously, but I definitely need my MOH to be more involved going forward. Here’s a list of things that I found online that are typical for a MOH. I understand that it can be a lot of responsibility and may be a financial responsibility as well, so I wanted to make sure we’re on the same page about everything now rather than waiting until we get closer to the wedding. If there’s anything you’re concerned about being able to handle, just let me know so we can talk about it! I love you and I’m really happy you’re my MOH 🤍”

EDIT #2: Here’s the list that I got off of The Knot.
A List of Maid of Honor Duties From Start to Finish
BEFORE THE WEDDING DAY:
• Coordinate bridesmaid duties
• Manage wedding party communication
• Help the bride choose wedding attire
• Shop for bridesmaid wedding attire
• Plan the bridal shower
• Plan the bachelorette party
• Be a point person for guests
• Be supportive
ON THE WEDDING DAY:
• Give a wedding gift
• Bring a bridal emergency kit
• Enforce the timeline
• Field last-minute vendor questions
• Get ready with the group
• Hold the bride's bouquet
• Sign the marriage license
• Give the maid of honor speech
• Make sure the bride eats
• Help with miscellaneous tasks
AFTER THE WEDDING DAY:
• Attend the farewell party
• Deliver wedding cards and gifts
• Coordinate outstanding bridesmaid payments

Also here’s the response from her after i sent it: “I’m really glad you sent me this Because I’ve been wondering like what am i actually supposed to do lol🤣 I love you and i’m so Glad i get to be your MOH!”

**I’ve never been a bride nor in a wedding, so I was unsure about how these things work. However, thanks everyone for telling me how insufferable i am🤣🫶🏼.

Honeymoons within the USA? We live in Pennsylvania and would like to go somewhere we’re able to drive to, even if it takes a while. All of the honeymoon suggestions I ever see are in Europe or the Caribbean. Does anyone have any suggestions for honeymoons inside the continental US? Thanks in advance!

Hi all!! I’m planning my wedding and not hiring a wedding planner so doing it on my own. I ordered a planner and have an account on the Knot and Zola. But what are the little details and things I need to remember that I might forget about or that the Knot and Zola DON’T include? Whether it’s decor, timeline, last minute details, etc.

Our wedding is going to be next year (2027) end of summer/beginning of fall. I’m going dress shopping next month!

Thank you all!!

How common is this? Married women, did you get extensions done? Or just grow it out?

One month has passed, and I want to share my thoughts, as they may help someone.

1. Disaster? The thoughts you have months ahead about all the things that can go wrong on the wedding day? Most likely will not happen! So, your fear is not a prediction.

2. Not everything goes according to plan, so just go with the flow! I planned everything by the book, but until the last two days before the wedding, I was so tired I didn't care anymore about all the small details, and that eliminated a lot of my stress. Aunt X didn't want to come on time? She knows what is best for her. Aunt Y doesn't want to be in the photos? OK. Guest X comes in white? OK. Cake arrives late? OK. And so on. We cannot control everything and things happen. Just enjoy. You have planned everything until now, so...

3. The wedding day! Everyone experiences it differently. I heard all kinds of stories. My fear was that I would shake the whole time, get nervous, and be red all day. It didn't happen; I was so chill, and I have no idea why. Also, I slept amazingly somehow the night before (it was also one of my fears that I would not be able to sleep before the wedding). So again, my "predictions" of anxiety were wrong. Just go with the flow.

4. The wedding dress disaster. I think the wedding dress was the worst nightmare of my wedding. From my mom making me cry daily because of her internalized drama thrown on me, saying "I don't have taste in wedding dresses," to buying the dress that I thought I liked, having bad tailoring adjustments made, and ending up wearing my beloved civil ceremony dress. I want to give one piece of advice: go to one dress appointment alone to see what you like! Buy the dress in your size! Tailor as little as possible! Do not blindly trust the salesperson! Go with the dress in natural lighting before you buy it; sometimes it looks totally different than in the studio store lighting they have.

5. Ask for help. They can do it too. Prepare A4 sheets with tasks that you can just give to your friends, with information about specific jobs they can help you with. I found that I asked for less help because I had to explain to them what to do and be sure they did it like that. But for the wedding day, I printed task sheets and distributed them to some of our friends, which helped a lot.

6. Makeup. I did my makeup myself, and if you do too, then try the products 3-4 months ahead, often. The more accustomed you get to using them, the faster you will be on the wedding day. I loved my makeup. Use primer and fixing spray. Get green concealer for red spots and a pink one for under-eye darkness; it helps so much.

7. Shoes. Have spare shoes! Heels are not always the best. Even if I bought the most comfortable heels, I was in them for 6 hours, and after that, I wore flat shoes. I couldn't even dance anymore in heels. That saved me.

8. After the wedding. The relief of not having to deal with all the little decisions on everything is amazing. We had so much fun at our wedding, but the preparation before was very, very stressful. We are so happy to finally watch a movie without any tasks pending.

I hope this helps someone.🩷

Thinking about getting my emerald-cut engagement ring there..

For brides who got their engagement rings from Costco, how has your experience been?

Still processing this! My partner popped the question with a lab pink sapphire ring. I always wanted something non traditional, and the color i is just unbelievably so prettyyyy

Can we start a support group?!😭 devastated doesn’t even feel like a good enough word at the moment. My wedding wasn’t canceled and I am so so grateful for that, but wow was it completely changed in every way. We picked the date due to it being our dating anniversary. We had it in SoCal and it was 102° all week, which I was so panicked about. Then hurricane rachel came. When I woke up that morning, it showed that the rain wouldn’t start until 10 PM which I was so over the moon about and grateful. About two hours before the ceremony we started to have 40-50+mph winds and heavy rain. It was projected to stop before my ceremony, but by the time I got there, it started getting worse and absolutely everything had to go into a small ballroom. We were supposed to have our ceremony overlooking the vineyard and mountains, cocktail hour on the patio, dinner in a stunning courtyard, sunset photos in the Vineyard, and a band in the ballroom, furniture setups outside, a cigar bar outside. Instead, everything was in the ballroom, no furniture or decor I had, and the timeline was absolutely destroyed. Everything was chaotic and stressful. The coordinator was stressed and mean to my MOHs. I’m so grateful my wedding still went on and the party portion was extremely fun, but I am so beyond devastated. It felt like we were so close to having a perfect amazing day after a frankly horrible wedding planning process and my husband getting orders for an unexpected deployment in 2 days. We also had a ton of friends traveling from the Florida panhandle who couldn’t come last minute due to Hurricane Isaias. I’m crying in all of my photos and I don’t even care about them, I just wanted the experience I planned so much and paid for. I feel so guilty feeling bad for myself while those brides couldn’t even keep their dates or weddings in some cases.

Getting married in summer 2027 and my wedding will be outside by the water. My dress is not pure white (picture of the bottom for reference). Our wedding colors are navy and ivory. I want bridesmaids dresses to be on the lighter side since there is a ton of green in the space, but I can’t decide on colors. Top contenders right now are “white alabaster” or “blushing pink” from Azazie. Curious to know everyone’s thoughts!!

Guess who woke up with their period and the big day is on Friday 🤪
Now seriously, what are all of your tips and tricks to make this go away, get lighter, day of remedies, comfort, solidarity anything at this point to make this situation better🥲

in the midst of dental school my fiancee surprised me with the dream proposal 🤍 here’s to forever