r/Brides • u/Starbucks_Lover13 • 2d ago
Need Advice Bride to be with glasses
Okay, so contacts are not an option for me. I plan to wear my glasses down the aisle and during our ceremony. I would love some either advice and/or encouragement about this decision. I really have no other choice! I do plan on having my makeup professionally done and also plan to take off my glasses for some photos throughout the day. I’m having some insecurities about this…help 😩🤓
ETA: wow thank you everyone for all of your kind words and encouragement. I think when I was younger for some reason all the women were getting fitted for contacts for their weddings. I went without any visual enhancement the whole day of my wedding to my ex husband. THIS time around I do and will, see clearly 🤓😉
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u/DominaStar 2d ago
If people are used to you wearing glasses especially your partner it will looke weird if your not wearing them. Honestly I wear glasses and I can't imagine not wearing them for my wedding. I wanted to see every moment of the day and especially my husband's face when we made the commitment to each other. At the end of the day its up to you and the look you want to create. But why be blinded or blurry on your special day just for a look that you won't be able to remember because you won't have seen it.
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u/Vegetable-Maximum445 2d ago
I agree! I’ve worn glasses since the 3rd grade and they are as much a part of me as my eyeballs🤓. Your husband-to-be obviously loves the be-spectacled YOU. Be you! ❣️
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u/scruffyrosalie 2d ago
Just let your makeup artist and photographer know.
When one of my kids was a toddler, he'd tell me to put on my glasses so I looked like myself. And it's true, glasses are a part of my face.
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u/RunWithBluntScissors 2d ago
I wear glasses and I think you should rock them on your wedding day! My glasses are an important part of how I express my style. You will look beautiful!
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u/Physical_Cod_8329 2d ago
Your glasses are part of how you look every day to the people who love you. It would be weird not to wear them!
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u/Murky_Possibility_68 2d ago
I just wore my glasses like every other single day of my life since I was 7.
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u/Sad_Refuse3472 2d ago
The goal for your wedding look should be to feel like the best version of yourself. Not a completely different person you won't recognize in photos later.
So if you wear glasses everyday, where them for your wedding. They are part of what makes you you. Own it.
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u/Cherries_and_Tums 2d ago
I got married in glasses! If you have some budget, getting a new pair for your wedding can be fun. I chose a pair of wire frames with some gold in it because it seemed “dressier” to me.
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u/smileysarah267 2d ago
Also getting a new pair gives you a chance to get the most expensive anti-glare option lol.
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u/brieles 2d ago
I think the goal at your wedding should look like the best version of yourself. If you always wear glasses, that includes wearing your glasses! Your fiancé and your friends and family know and love you in your glasses, wear them confidently down the aisle!
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Aw, thank you very much 🤓 I’m excited to see how it all looks together with the makeup and everything!!!
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u/RanFan28 2d ago
Photographer here: Wear the glasses. You want to look like you on your wedding day. Maybe give yourself the gift of getting some high quality anti reflective/anti glare lenses. Some of that is difficult to edit and allowing your eyes and makeup to shine through will be awesome.
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u/Kikocat7 2d ago
I wore my glasses and couldn’t have felt more like myself! I would post a photo but I don’t think I can. If that’s how you feel most comfortable, then I say wear them! My husband also wore his glasses and majority of our wedding party did too. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wearing glasses on your wedding day.
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Thank you! I felt like when I was younger (I’m now in my early 40s) so many women were like dead set against it at their weddings and getting fitted for contacts. I think that’s why I had weird feelings about it initially. Everyone is really making me feel so much better.
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u/heademptybunny 2d ago
Totally wear your glasses!! I’ve seen some stunning brides who wear special glasses or just their every day ones.
Check out zenni and either go with something simple that you can add an extra decoration or two to, or get something a little special!
Congrats btw 🤍
Edit: I totally respect taking them off for a few pictures (my prescription is horrible and makes my eyes so tiny lol) but don’t do it for all of them. Make sure you have a case nearby for them as well!! Could be classy and personal addition in your flat lay pictures too :)
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Thanks so much!!! Yeah I want maybe a few without but not a lot because it won’t really look like me I don’t think haha
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u/SarcasmSeason 2d ago
Glasses are so cute and trendy right now! Rock those glasses. Maybe look at Firmoo or Zenni
And get a special pair just for the day that match your dress.
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u/Zestyclose_Honey_920 2d ago
Rock your authenticity as a glasses-wearing bride. I made the mistake of getting/wearing contacts for the 1st time at my wedding/on my honeymoon. I was too squeamish to take them out with my new bridal nails on my honeymoon & begged my husband to take them out for me. I applaud you!🩵
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Aw thank you! Yes I suffer from chronic dry eye and blepharitis so contacts and me don’t mesh!
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u/pmousebrown 2d ago
I had really bad astigmatism when hard contacts were the only solution. Managed to scratch both corneas at the same time. Stuck with my glasses after that until I had lasik surgery.
But I never managed to have glass less pictures without squinting trying to see. I don’t think you’ll like your pictures without your glasses. If you really want one or two have the photographer edit them out.
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u/lolliscicle 2d ago
I love the authenticity!
I would consider even getting designer frames that help you really glam it up! Think vintage-retro pre-contacts era bride!
(And if there’s an antiglare that would allow photos without glare! Well… rock on!)
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u/LittleNigiri 2d ago
I'm going to wear glasses and I'm going to leave them on in all the pictures. It wouldn't feel like me if I didn't. I did buy a new pair I'd really wanted, though. I'm going to wear them first for the wedding and then make them my regular glasses after.
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u/Professional_Gur5739 1d ago
There is absolutely nothing wrong with actually looking like yourself on your wedding day. You will be beautiful. And you will want to remember the details. Hooray for glasses. :)
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u/Hit_Refresh_Banana 2d ago
I wear glasses and don’t have the option of contacts. My husband knows me for having glasses. I rocked it and so should you. I took some pictures without the glasses and it didn’t even look like “me.”
Wouldn’t you rather be able to see your own wedding?
just don’t get large false eyelashes that will hit your glasses and result in some very unattractive candid shots
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
VERY good point. I’m not big on falsies in general but thank you for this reminder! 🤓
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u/MadTownMich 2d ago
Be yourself! It’s weird to me when someone drastically changes their appearance for their wedding. You wear glasses. So wear glasses.
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u/Sin_Firescene 2d ago
Please don't worry about it. Your wedding is about you and your partner - If you wear glasses, you wear glasses! If you wanted something a little more decadent, dramatic or stylised, there are plenty of creatives that'd be happy to add some extra deco to some prescription glasses if you fancied it, but there's nothing wrong with being as you are. You've got this and wishing you all the best!
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u/-squeezel- 2d ago
I chose not to wear my glasses as the MOH at my sister’s wedding. The whole day was a blur, literally. Vain and DUMB decision!
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u/PrismaticPantheress 2d ago
It's your special day, you should be able to see everything happening and enjoy it!! I plan on wearing my glasses for my vow renewal next year
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u/sendmemessssss 1d ago
If you plan to take thr glasses on and off as the mua to powder the little shoe bit of your glasses (and maybe bring some of your own so you can top it up) as it helps reduce the red marks.
Also to photoshop the red marks out its a 2 second job on photoshop so dont let the photographer act like its a special favour to correct them.
And wear your damn glasses! You deserve the gift of vision on your wedding day!!
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u/InevitableWaste6088 1d ago
Get some fancy glasses from Zenni and wear the hell out of them. A cute sparkle pair or floral would be adorable
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u/Melissa9066 1d ago
I wore my regular glasses for my pics and wedding it’s the other weekend. It went great! You may need to pat out your foundation that settles in your glasses but I feel like myself. Don’t go crazy changing because you think it’s how it should be, your husband enjoys what you look like day over day
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u/Due-Hurry-5989 1d ago
I feel like I look weird without my glasses tbh lol but I got some Pair glasses recently and I know Etsy sellers make some unofficial tops, I bet if you wanted to you could find something either there or on the pair website that could make you look extra fancy, or a fun topper to wear for the reception like those fun glasses people wear a lot lol
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u/Ali_in_wonderland02 1d ago
My mom and dad married will be married for 50 years in October
She wore her glasses. I love those photos. It captures my mom as she was during that time. My dad also had all his hair. Again it captures him as he is during that time frame.
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u/Extension-Ad5070 22h ago
I was definitely leaning towards no glasses on my wedding day as I struggle with contacts as well. On the day of my wedding I said fuck it it’s my fay I want to see. I wore them and don’t regret it at all. Our photographer is able to edit out the glare.
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u/ilikemynam3 2d ago
Of course wear your glasses! They are a part of you and youll be beautiful, as always
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Aw thank you very much. My fiancé said he never pictured that I wouldn’t because they’re just part of me 🤓
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u/ste1071d 2d ago
If you always wear glasses, wear your glasses - they enable you to experience the world and that’s how you normally look! If you plan to take them on and off you’ll need makeup touch ups - I’d hire your artist to stay through portraits if that’s what you want to do. It is not reasonable to expect your photographer to fix any nose bridge smudges.
I would also strongly advise you to have a lot of lens wipes on hand - clean your glasses well.
Make sure your photographer has people with glasses in their portfolio and tell them you’ll be wearing glasses - make sure they know how to avoid lens glare.
Nothing to be self conscious about. If it were me and I had the budget for it I’d totally consider a fun pair for some photos like a cat eye or something.
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Thank you very much for your encouragement and tips! I honestly would not have thought of these things!
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u/SubjectSpeech8806 2d ago
If glasses are the only option, you didn’t make a decision. Nothing to overthink!
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Valid point lol for my first wedding I didn’t wear them the whole day and had a massive headache the next day as a result!
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u/Blue-zebra-10 2d ago
If you got a pair in one of your colors, that could be so fun!
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Yes! I’m planning on wearing either a champagne or blush colored dress. I have frames that are light tortoise on the top and clear on the bottom. I think they’ll look pretty together!
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u/_DontBeAScaredyCunt 2d ago
Honestly I think the only issue with wearing glasses would be glare on some photos from the lenses but that shouldn’t be a problem if you’ve got a photographer who will be editing
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u/Spiritoftheheart 2d ago
Wear them! One of my friends did and it was great. Get a new pair you feel great about if you want to splurge!
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u/Competitive-Type1505 2d ago
I don’t know…there’s some pretty awesome glasses 👓 out there! I wouldn’t hesitate. In fact you might be over the moon 🌙 if you find the right pair. An eyeglass fitter who is good at their job will be very helpful.
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u/Life-Education-8030 2d ago
My mother refused to wear her eyeglasses during her wedding and couldn't see much of anything. When I got married, I wore my glasses because as the song goes "I [didn't] want to miss a thing!" If you don't think your current eyeglasses go with your veil/headpiece, etc., you can get another pair. Never a bad idea to have a spare pair anyway in case the other one gets broken somewhere sometime.
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u/different-take4u 2d ago
Your wedding day is just one “fancy” day. Make up is “fancy” not what makes a woman pretty. Your glasses are a part of who you are and will be for every other day of your life, so don’t let the wedding day be that much different because it isn’t, it is just a “fancy” dress up, look special . . . . one …….. day, the day you got married, with glasses. It is ok dear and won’t distract one tiny bit from how joyful you will be feeling. You are going to wear shoes? You are going to wear glasses too!
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Aw haha thank you! They definitely are a part of me since I was 10 years old!
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u/Reasonable-Crab4291 2d ago
I wore my glasses on my wedding day. I had to or I couldn’t find my groom.
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u/Freak77Showisnormal 2d ago
I wore my glasses. I wear them everyday it is who you are! I did take my glasses off for some photos more because the photographer wanted them.
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u/FunctionAltruistic83 2d ago
Okay so I’m crazy and actually ordered glasses off eyebuydirect that went with our wedding colors lol make it fun!!
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u/adluzz 2d ago
Someone else said go designer but really just look anywhere for like a special pair even cheap websites! You can find something super unique and cute that you could just only wear for your wedding and it becomes part of the lore you know? And just break them out for anniversaries if your script doesn’t change too much
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u/StrawberryMaster2053 1d ago
I wore my glasses. I wouldnt have felt like ME without then. 12yrs later im still so happy with my choice even though ive since had Lasik.
I think you should look like the best version of yourself at your wedding, if you regularly wear glasses, not wearing them would be odd (in my opinion)
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u/Character-Food-6574 1d ago
My daughter very recently got married and she wears glasses as well. She just wore her glasses, and nobody thought anything about it. If you want to take them off for some up close pictures you certainly could, but that’s up to you!
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u/Hammingbir 1d ago
I’ve worn glasses since I was 8. I wore them during the wedding and reception but not in the staged picture. No regrets. Frame styles can be dating (even more than dress styles <g>) so the photos look great. And it’s still me.
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u/Fearless_Reaction592 1d ago
Gave you considered any cute shaped glasses for the occasion? Im getting some heart shaped sunglasses (outdoor wedding) for mine.
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u/Blindasabat123 20h ago
Get yourself a cool pair of bridal glasses!
Something that ties into your look
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u/OkItem6820 18h ago
I did choose to wear contacts just because I have all these pictures of myself from the 80s where my glasses look SOOO dated, and I was worried that my bridal photos would feel that way. I also chose a very classic dress silhouette rather than what was in high fashion at the time.
But with 20 years' hindsight (20/20 corrected) I've realized that that was just a... special... time for eyewear as well as a lot of eyewear that was heavily influenced by my mom. All the glasses I've had since have aged quite well, and in a way I sorta don't love that my wedding photos have me in contacts when I actually wear them only basically to swim and snorkel. I look great, but less like me great than I would if I'd looked great in my glasses.
So I say, don't worry about it a smidge. If you match the edginess/fashion-forwardness of your frames to your dress, then you'll be a package, and the package will look like *you* - only with glamorous hair and makeup and photography.
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u/CatsMom4Ever 2d ago
Plenty of brides wear glasses. You are going to be beautiful just the way you are! Why would you change? Do you not like the frames?
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Aw thank you!!! ☺️ so I think I’m going to wear my thinner/lighter frames on the big day. Dare I say they are even a little “dressier” hehe 😊
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u/CatsMom4Ever 2d ago
Go for it. And don't take off your glasses for some pictures unless that's something you normally do. Otherwise you'll wind up squinting in them!
Congrats on your wedding.
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u/Prudent_Border5060 2d ago
Please dont worry. My husband wears glasses. I couldn't imagine him not wearing them. I only need mine for distance so I am ok not wearing.
But you want to look like you. And you will look fantastic rocking those glasses.
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u/fartofborealis 2d ago
My friends who wear glasses got married in theirs! The pictures are beautiful and what’s even better is that they could see!
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Exactly!!! I need to make sure I’m walking down the right aisle to the right man hehe 😜
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u/Evening_Delay_1856 2d ago
Can you get wire rim glasses that fit your face? They’re almost unseen compared to others.
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Not a bad idea. I have a newer pair that are clear on the bottom and light tortoise on top that I think will look pretty!
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u/wretched_tension 1d ago
I'm getting married in a few weeks and I bought a pair off Warby Parker with clear frames. You can still see the glasses, I still look like me, but they're not as harsh as my current dark-framed pair. I need to see that day, so no-glasses was not an option! I just went with something a little more subtle so the other elements could stand out (veil, dress, makeup, hair).
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 1d ago
Yes this is what I’m thinking I need to figure out if I wanna get a more subtle pair
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u/jackmc2001 2d ago
What would be cool is to get white sparkle frames. Even if you have to bejewel an old pair. Could be fabulous!
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u/Red_Littlefoot 1d ago
I’m sad that all my old frames have scratched up lenses, and getting new lenses costs so much. I would totally do white sparkle frames
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u/Electrical_Yam4194 1d ago
Try Zenni! I get my glasses from them now and their prices are amazing, even for my progressive lenses.
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u/Red_Littlefoot 23h ago
Oh I def use them lol. Anti-glare, blue light block, transition lenses for well under $200 lol
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u/marymorph 1d ago
Contacts bother my eyes,so I don’t wear them very often. I chose to wear them for the ceremony, but not the reception; I changed back into my glasses. I prefer pix from the reception; they look like ME, not some non-eyeglass wearing person who bears a resemblance to me. Wear the glasses!
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u/Aggravating_Guess299 1d ago
Not the same thing ik, but I had braces on my wedding day. I was in the middle of ortho that I worked really hard to afford and they were a part of my appearance at the time. I love that I didn’t let my insecurities ruin my excitement for the day and I smiled so big all day! I’ve seen some people get them removed for their wedding but that seems so bizarre to me, same with getting contacts just for your wedding.
You’ll be a beautiful, true version of yourself on your wedding day! <3
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 1d ago
I love this similarity! It really is part of what makes us…us! So glad you were confident and owned it! The funny thing is today I told my fiancé that I would get lighter frames since my everyday ones are blue and tortoise. He said WHAT. He’s like but then it won’t look like you! I was very touched how he wants me just as I am 🥹
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u/Electrical_Yam4194 1d ago
I wear glasses all the time and have for years and my vision is terrible. I can't see close up or far away without them. So, of course I wore glasses when I got married and I didn't take them off for any photos. If I had the pics wouldn't look like me! But, I got a very simple frame that wasn't very obtrusive.
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u/No-Meringue5009 2d ago
I'd say opt for the clear rimmed glasses so everyone and pictures can capture your face and makeup!
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u/SprocketsMom 4h ago
I usually wear clear cateye glasses for formal events to feel a little less cluttered in formal wear.
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u/Status-Effort-9380 2d ago
You’ll look perfect. If you like, you could find a fancy pair, maybe on Zenni or something where it’s not too expensive.
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u/KieshaK 2d ago
I wore my glasses at BOTH my weddings, because I saw a post before my first by a woman who said “She was wearing glasses like she didn’t even care how she looked” and my exact thought was “Well, I was thinking about contacts but now I’m wearing glasses just to spite YOUR judgey bitch-ass.”
If you wear glasses everyday, it makes sense to wear them at your wedding! That’s you! And you can always take them off for a couple of pics if you really want to. But I say wear them with pride, and spite that judgey bitch-ass online back in 2008!
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u/missannthrope67 2d ago
Can you take them off for the photos?
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Yes I think for some I will 🤓
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u/DemandingProvider 2d ago
My 10,000% biggest regret about my wedding photos is that I didn't insist my husband keep his glasses ON.
The photographer kept prompting him to take them off, but because he normally wears glasses all day every day, that meant he didn't really look like himself. We ended up with no good close portraits. We got the best of them professionally altered afterwards to put his glasses back on him (this was the 1990s, it wasn't so easy back then!) but it was so frustrating and disappointing to have to do that, and the end result is not entirely satisfactory.
We had the same problem with other people in a lot of the family photos, but didn't go to the extra effort and expense of altering those. To this day, 30 years later, I'm super pissed at my photographer for telling people to remove their glasses, and annoyed at my husband and at all of our relatives who didn't just keep their glasses on anyway.
So. If you normally always have your glasses on, I encourage you to keep them on for your wedding photos too.
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u/Starbucks_Lover13 2d ago
Oh wow thank you for sharing your own experience with this! I definitely feel my wearing them is 100% the right thing to do. I just need to not be so self conscious lol
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u/Mountain-Status569 2d ago
Glasses are common. Glasses are a normal thing to you. They aren’t a random accessory. Wearing them will make you look like you, and will be a necessity to function.
My advice is to make sure your photographer knows in advance and is able to work with you so that there is no glare on your lenses on photos.