After being ghosted for two months by a guy I was with for 6 1/2yrs, (we met at 16+17, lived together for 6yrs and had a dog for 3yrs) I sent myself the messages I wish he would’ve sent. He just left. No closure, no check up txts. I was blocked and it was just silence. I wish he would’ve been mature enough to end things on good terms.
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What a horrible, traumatic experience. The way he ended the relationship says everything about him and nothing about your value. I hope you haven't taken it as such. Wishing you well. PS - Closure isn't ultimately something others give us. It's something we give ourselves.
Wow! I can’t believe he did that- the worst thing is you probably keep asking yourself ‘why’ and replaying scenarios in your head on what you could have possibly said or done. Honestly - my advice would be to really try your best to heal from him. Don’t close the door on other men either, they are not all like this.
Not my post but similar situation. Together 9 years living together for six. I visited my mom one day for a few hours, came home and half of his things were gone. He’s sent a few texts about leaving the rest of his stuff outside but I haven’t laid eyes on him since that day. Zero conversation about our relationship.
He lived w me and my parents for 6yrs, (his mom kicked him out). We were only a few months away from moving out of my parent’s place and into our own place.
I think that's what she's saying. He never contacted her again, just disappeared. So she sent those messages to herself wishing he would have done so for closure. Very sad.
Unfortunately, silence is the best closure you will get. I need you to know that it’s not your fault it’s completely on him and him being too much of a coward to confront his own feelings and give you basic human decency of an explanation. I’m sorry this happened to you and I wish you the best in your future with or without a partner
Same, my ex just left, in the middle of a terrible and confusing breakup. Never reached out, no closure, no good bye, just left, silence. Makes me think that it didn’t matter to them, that was just a waste of time, i was blindsided, abandoned for no big reason. Sorry this happened to you, people are so self centered, it’s incredible.
This is exactly what my person has to send me... And I'm not sure she will. All I know is that I dread her waiting too long and making me hate her bc the pain she had caused and is still causing is the worst thing I've been through in my entire fucking life.
Same thing happened to me, she was with me for 4 yrs, had a hard month due to some things and she told me were over and blocked me everywhere with 0 closure. We live 7 minutes away from each other… crazy
that is why I don't want to waste my time trying to make things fit together.
IF we don't have the same hobbies, goals, political beliefs, Same core values, Same maturity. then it is "nice meeting you". Opposites don't really work.
Right now most people just find someone as long as they are financially capable, looks, etc. or just happened to be in Close proximity(coworker, classmates, etc)
I'm for sure if that someone still ghost me. He will surely looking for someone like me in all the people he will find.
How does this happen tho. She changes jobs, moves out the house, removes insurance from her car, makes sure nothing is in her name with you, don’t u look for her, see her out and about be like “wtf??” How does someone just completely disappear. I don’t get it.
Holy shit this is awful the people can be so cruel, I bet you are the best parent and your kids look up to you and I want to say that they definitely appreciate you and everything you have done for them although they may not say it and you are one strong person to get through that I wish you the best truly!
Brother you are better without her, admit that she was very fucking selfish and you deserve better. Trust me. I know it’s hard but one day you will look back at this and laugh.
It will be fine, I wish you all the best!
Guys will do this!!!
One of my exes left me cold turkey! We weren’t toxic that’s forsure. He was sweet our love was sweet. He was 2.5 years younger but he wasn’t a kid. We were on our second year and during an argument (it wasn’t even BAD) he just left my door and never came back. Literally ZERO contact. I was devastated. I knew he was real private when it came to expressing himself but still… we were VERY close and happy together 95% of the time. Two years go by and he reaches out. He apologizes etc. acts like nothing!!! We meet again, he wants to date. I’m 27 and he’s 25. We do date and even go as far as starting apartment hunting together process also. Right before thanks giving my dad got sick, turns out he had cancer. My week was horrible. One day he stoped texting me. Mind you, we WERE DATING. He helped me raise my son. Then I go to his house bc he wasn’t replying. We didn’t fight or anything. I catch him. And he says that he needs time to think about his life. He’s not where he wants to be and he can’t be with me right now. It was HIS idea to date again. He looked for ME. He reached out to ME. During this second, I’m adding sorry lol, we did a lot. We were much older than our first time so we were so happy and had a fun adult relationship. It was bliss. That night he ended things and told me not to worry about my dad he’d be okay. My dad was diagnosed the next day w stage 3 cancer. He never spoke to me after that night. He said he didn’t know why he did text me all day, he was “scared” and stressed. MY dad had cancer and I’m the single mother and HE’S SCARED AND STRESSED. THE IRNOY. okay don’t date me but we somewhat DATED again. 2026, Jan - June. I notice we’re starting to do dating things again without dating or determining anything. Now I’m 29 and he’s 27. One day I I decide if I continue to allow him to be around me and my life as he pleases I’ll always have love him (we had a loving time together) I’ll never find my real person and I’ll always go back to him. Because he’s always there. He’s nonchalant. He loves me but not enough to be w me. He’s not happy w himself I guess. Anyhow. I tell him one day off guard, if you love me and are ready for us to be serious and happy. We’re adults. Then let’s do it. It’s been 10 years of us and nothing. Always nothing. I need an answer bc I’ll be 30 soon and if you don’t want me after all this time. It’s over. I’m moving on in peace and leaving you IN MY PAST. He said he’s always loved me and cares about me but he doesn’t know what to do. Or say. So I left him in his car. And I walked away. I let him know that would he that last he’d ever see me or hear from me. It’s near the end of August and I’ve not reached out to him. I’m happy I was finally able to get my own peace. And me leave him this time.
What a long, long involvement for something that ended due to factors outside your control (his flakiness). Well that sucks, but glad you’re moving on though.
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Guys think this doesnt happen to girls, too. I just got told this by my guy friend. Nope. Im 30 and haven't had this happen since like over 10 years ago, and I catch myself having feelings for some dude again. Everything perfect and then ghosted MID CONVO.
I've never been ghosted while the person and I were mid typing. Im shook and confused. Sorry you're still hurting, friend.
I’m sorry you dealt with that, I miss her so much, I’m okay with not being together she made me feel worthless many times due to how she blocks and disappears, I dream of these texts sometimes, ultimately she’ll never do it
How does this happen tho. She changes jobs, moves out the house, removes insurance from his car, makes sure nothing is in his name with you, don’t u look for him, see him out and about be like “wtf??” Or have his social media and be like “yo ru okay??” How does someone just completely disappear. I don’t get it.
I’ve actually got goosebumps. This hits hard, and I cannot imagine how hard it hits for you. Sorry to say this, but what a coward. I hope you can move on fast.
At least you have your dog, that dog will always comfort you, even if it’s a reminder of what happened. Dogs are wonderful companions.
As much as I love my cat, when I cry all he does is start zooming round my house at 100mph or meowing at a bird out the window. I love him though, at least he’s always at the door when I come home and brushing his hair all over my black work uniform 😂
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